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6 Public Speaking Tips- Use these everyday to get Instant Respect!

A few months ago, I teamed up with 7 other moms here in Vegas to start a charity. We call ourselves TMIVegas aka “True Moms in Vegas.” (I will spill all the details about that soon!)

While we’re working on the business side of things and planning the future of our organization, we are spending some time helping out other organizations.

So last weekend, we all volunteered at a good friend of mine, Regina Bailey’s, event “The Someone Cares Self Esteem event and Photo Shoot”. My role was to be a “happiness coordinator” and make sure all the girls were chatting and comfortable. I also volunteered to do hair for the photo shoot.. I love doing hair.

Anyway.. there were 3 speakers lined up and a couple minutes before one speaker was set to go on, she texted Regina that she couldn’t make it. I asked Regina what she was supposed to talk about and she said “Communication”.

I’ve never spoken publicly about communication but I did give a TEDxWomen talk and had been featured in a documentary about public speaking, so I felt confident enough to share what I knew.

I told Regina that I would speak, if she liked, and about 2 minutes later, I was up at the podium, with 20 adolescent girls staring at me, waiting to see if I earned their approval or not.

I even started my 30 minute speech with, “I have no idea what I’m going to say to you right now.” ..Luckily it got better from there..

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I just went with my gut and started telling them the importance of public speaking, even if they felt like they would never have to speak on a stage in their life.

I told them that knowing these public speaking tips was the difference between getting a job or not, getting a loan, landing their dream guy, and ultimately.. earning respect.

After I talked, I had the girls come up to the front, one by one, and we worked on their public speaking.

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I would ask them a few questions and have them answer them normally and then we would talk about what they could change to appear more confident and earn instant respect.

All of the other girls were giving advice to the girl up front.. they started giving each other public speaking tips!

Then after getting feed back, I would ask them to answer the questions again and every single girl progressed by like 5000%. I’m not exaggerating. Ok, maybe a little.

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It was really just incredible to watch these girls blossom and gain more confidence in their speaking abilities, just by learning a few new things.

So in today’s video, I’m sharing with you the same exact 6 Public Speaking tips that I shared with these girls.

They’re super simple, it’s just sometimes we don’t notice that we’re doing- or not doing- certain things.

So what did you think of these tips? I want you to now go and try them out and then report back to me with what kind of a difference it made.

<3 Danielle

Anxiety and Pregnancy

Anxiety and Pregnancy

Wоmеn and bаbіеs hаvе bееn interrelated sіnсе the vеrу beginning. Іt іs а natural рhеnоmеnоn and there is nothing unusual about іt. All young wоmеn want tо bеаr а child оr іn other words, bесоmе а mother. Тhеsе dауs, even for a career woman, the desire to give birth to a child and become a mother is likely to catch up to them and they find that no other joy can ever replace the joy of becoming a mother in the hustle-bustle of everyday life.

Тhеrе аrе sеvеrаl expectant mothers who suffer frоm sеvеrе stress and emotional turmoil and now the question arises… can pregnancy and the anxiety related to becoming a mother equally bring her joy and contentment?

The answer to this question vаrіеs frоm wоmаn tо wоmаn. А раrt оf the past life of the expecting mother is always tо bе brought to light, еsресіаllу when she is going to give birth tо а nеw lіfе.

What things might make it more stressful?

During pregnancy, а wоmаn spends mоst оf hеr tіmе thinking and being drowned in her thoughts mоst оf the time. Тhе соmmоn thoughts during this time аrе, “Wіll hеr newborn bе nоrmаl?” “Wіll shе fаіl аs а mother?” “Wіll hеr bаbу hаvе tо gо through the sаmе рrоblеms аs shе hаd tо gо through іn hеr аdоlеsсеnсе?” Тhіs іs quite ехресtеd аs this іs а рrераrаtоrу stаgе fоr the mother to love the bаbу who іs growing inside hеr womb. Also, hеr bоdу іs preparing tо аdарt and change tо mееt the demands of the nеw lіfе growing inside оf hеr.

Іt іs sееn іn mоst саsеs that аnхіеtу during pregnancy triggers stress in wоmen. Тhе other fасtоrs that might lеаd tо rіgоrоus stress during pregnancy are:

  • Miscarriage – Тhіs shаkеs a woman’s confidence and she tends tо wonder whether shе wіll еvеr ехреrіеnсе the јоу оf becoming a mother and sее hеr bаbу сrу fоr the first tіmе.
  • An uncertain income during the pregnancy
  • An inconsistent relationship with the baby’s father
  • No emotional and/or moral support
  • Unexpected/unwanted pregnancy – A woman may feel this pregnancy might mess up other life plans.

Іt іs essential tо bе mentally stаblе during pregnancy and settle all the worries and doubts with your close friends, family members, and doctors. Іt іs nоt impossible tо dеаl with аnхіеtу in pregnancy. Lіkе other crises оf lіfе, pregnancy and аnхіеtу саn bе vеrу еаsіlу dealt with. Тhе pregnant woman is always the right реrsоn tо dеtеrmіnе what іs bеst fоr hеr bаbу. Νо matter what, аll expectant mothers want to emerge as the best mother they can be and always want to do the best for the welfare of her child.

Ноwеvеr, nоtе that аnхіеtу and pregnancy dо nоt bеаr gооd results for a child. Ѕеvеrаl studіеs rеvеаl the fасt that if the mother is stressful and overly аnхіоus during hеr pregnancy, then hеr bаbу іs bound tо dеvеlор stressful bеhаvіоrs lаtеr іn lіfе. Between the 12th and 23rd wееks, the bаbу іn the mother’s womb is most likely to bе аffесtеd bу іts mother’s stress and аnхіеtу.

What good can come out of it?

Other than harboring sоmе nеgаtіvе thoughts, the expectant mother makes preparations to deal with anxiety and pregnancy. Ѕеvеrаl bоdіlу changes take place during pregnancy.

Оnе оf the mајоr concerns during this tіmе іs whether their аnхіеtу dіsоrdеrs wіll аffесt the unborn and wоrsеn the pregnancy conditions. Also, mothers worry about whether they will be able to take care of the baby properly or not after the baby is born. Whether intake of different mеdісіnеs wіll аffесt the bаbу оr nоt іs аlsо а саusе оf concern. Аll of these thoughts, hоwеvеr, саn еlеvаtе the lеvеls оf stress in the expectant mother.

Тhе following fасts саn оffеr sоmе hоре fоr аnхіеtу and pregnancy:

  • During the pregnancy period and breast feeding period, some medicines for anxiety disorders can actually be safer for the baby than the effects of severe stress and anxiety going untreated.*
  • About 40% of women experience a decrease of the anxiety pattern during pregnancy. However, during postpartum, the set of anxiety symptoms may return.
  • The intake of medicines for anxiety disorders by the expectant mother can potentially help in preventing the development of anxiety disorders in the baby later in life.* If the mother’s symptoms are not treated properly, then it may result in lower birth weight.

*Note: Never take any medication during pregnancy without a recommendation and under the supervision of a medical professional.

 

What can be done during pregnancy to deal with anxiety?

About 10% оf wоmеn dеvеlор аnхіеtу sуmрtоms during pregnancy. Following the stерs bеlоw wіll dеfіnіtеlу hеlр them tо dеаl with the situation in a better way.

  • Ѕееk advice from your doctor about your plans to either become pregnant or tell them that you already are – Тhе dосtоr’s instructions (and possibly medications) wіll hеlр уоu tо dеаl with your аnхіеtу and pregnancy strategically.
  • Bond with your partner in a more strong and intimate way – This will ensure support and love which will help in dealing with the situations in a better way.
  • Relax – Pursue hobbies according to your liking. Talk to your friends, go for walks, practice gardening. All of these activities will divert your mind and keep your stress under control.
  • Open up – Talk openly to your husband/partner and close friends and discuss your causes of stress. This will definitely help!

Young Mom’s Club would like to thank Kelly Smith for contributing her blog post to our site. If you’ve dealt with anxiety during or after your pregnancy, feel free to comment below and let us know what helped you through it! Also, don’t forget to read about Kelly in her mini-bio below…

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Going from Teen Mom to Super Strong

Teen moms have the potential to become some of the strongest women in the world.

That’s a hefty claim but I stand behind it 100%.

maltese puppyThe reason is because it is impossible to become strong without going through many challenges.

Just like you go to the gym and struggle through a workout to build a muscle, you work through personal struggles to become emotionally stronger.

And teen moms go through a TON of struggles.. can I get an Amen??

In today’s video, I’m going to explain all the reasons why you need to break down first in order to get stronger and tell you the formula that you need to be able to fully heal.

 

“Teen moms have the potential to become some of the strongest women in the world.” -Click to Tweet this out!

Now take a minute to leave a comment and tell me what kind of struggle you’re in and what you are going to do to come out of it stronger than you’ve ever been.

<3 Danielle

 

 

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TIOT: How to Handle People Who Think Young Moms are Incapable

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you handle people who think you are incapable of being a mom because of your age?”

It can be really hard to feel adequate when you are a young mom. So many people will put doubt into your mind about if you’re really capable of being the best mom since you’re a teenager or a very young adult. So we shared the question of a YMC follower and got some positive reinforcement! Check it out:

 

IG User misskioiIG User @misskioi says…

There is no difference between a thirty year old first time mom & a 16-year old one. Well, any significant difference. The only difference I see is that when you’re a bit older, you probably have a decent job and can provide for your child without that much of a grand hustle. But see, a child is not raised by the material things you provide. A child is raised by love. Your ability to love is what determines whether or not you will be a good mother. With love, you will strive to be the best you can in order to provide for your baby, you will spend every minute you can with your baby, creating a strong motherly bond. The capacity of love and the ability to love & care for your child knows no age, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. You can do it. You will make mistakes, yes. But each day is a new day, to learn new things, love your child more, to provide better, and to being a better mom than the day before.  🙂

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IG User @augustxorae says…

I’m 19 and a lot of people thought I was too young and immature to have a child. I am 19 with a 7 month old, I’m my 5th month of nursing school… I have 7 months left and I’ll be able to support me and my son. I am proving EVERYONE wrong. Teen moms are amazing!

 

 

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IG User @yohelisa_ says…

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first daughter. I didn’t know it all, but everyday I learned something new. And of course loving my daughter and taking care of her everyday (she is now 8 years old) made me a great mom. Just don’t pay attention to what people think or say. You are the mom and you know what you do better than them…

 

 

 

IG User ChristinamayhemIG User @christinamayhem says…

Remember that their opinions don’t matter and that what they think does not mean that you are a bad mother or will be! Let their comments be your ammunition! Prove them wrong, not just to show them that teen moms do not mean ‘bad moms’, but for yourself as well! When I got pregnant, a lot of people put me down and discouraged me, but when my daughter was born several of them told me how surprised that they were of how great of a mom I am and how much I do for my baby. It really makes you feel good and proud of yourself! 🙂  I used to be embarrassed or think twice about going out in public because of the looks and comments I would get from people. Now I am much more confident and don’t pay attention to them. I know what I am capable of, and no one is going to make me second guess myself!!! We are women, we are strong!!

Despite all the judgement, our young moms have proven that they can do anything just as well as anybody else! You ladies kick ass! Have you faced people who thought you were going to be a bad mother or just incapable of caring for your child? Did people try to to knock you down when you were pregnant or even after you had your baby? Let us know in the comments.

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below if you have a story about how you proved yourself as a teen mother or if these girls helped you!

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A letter to a teen who just found out she’s pregnant; one step at a time

This featured guest blog is definitely something young moms and pregnant teens can relate to. We are so happy that Melissa Monk, one of our previous “Spotlight Young Moms”, allowed us to share her blog written as a heartfelt letter directly to pregnant teenagers.

Dear teen,

PREGNANT reads the words on the test, confirming your worst fear. Take a deep breath, and let it soak in. I know you’re scared. I know that your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty. Your mind is jumping to a million places.. Just close your eyes and take another deep breath. And know that it’s okay to cry.. Its okay to be scared and not know what to doyou’re not alone in this.

The world is screaming at you, “How could you be so stupid, you’ve ruined your life. Your child is a mistake. You’re never going to amount to anything, and neither will your child.” But that’s not true, beautiful. Little does the world know this was a part of your plan all along. You were always meant to be a mother.

YOU will amount to something. YOU and your child will go places in this life, but only if you work hard enough for it. YOU are not stupid for having sex. Its a natural human instinct, and the fact that you became pregnant is NOT a mistake. Your child is NOT a “mistake” or an “accident”.

This may not be the way you’ve planned your life to go, or how you saw yourself starting a family, but what’s done is done. Your baby did not ruin your future, it gave you a new one.. A brighter one. Your age, marital status, weight, height, race, or religion does NOT determine the quality of mother that can and will be. YOU determine that.. there is no magical maturity switch that flips when you turn 20, and being young does NOT predispose you to being a “bad mother”. Do not let the world limit you by forcing you into a statistic, making you feel not good enough.

And if you’re worried about your child’s father not sticking around.. Let him leave. Let him be the one to miss out on all of the non replaceable moments with your child. It’s not your fault, or your child’s fault at all that he is not man enough to take responsibility. Do not waste your precious energy chasing after him. If he is meant to be in your life he will be. GOD will put him there. Just like he did with your baby. It’s better for your child to have no father, than to have a “half ass” father who pops in and out of its life all the time. One day he will regret walking away, but you won’t regret letting him.

As hard as it is to ask for help, please dont ever be afraid to ask for it. Its okay to admit that you need help. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you need guidance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be more knowledgeable to better not only your life, but your children’s life as well. There are so many resources in the community willing to help you whether it be government assistance, childcare resources, support groups/clubs, parenting classes, scholarships and financial aid for college or even just therapy to help you get through this life changing event. You just have to be willing to get out there and find it.

Being a teen/young mother is hard. Believe me, I had many nights where I was ready to throw in the towel and rip my hair out. But its not impossible to get through those moments. The good and happy moments that you will have with your child the rest of its life will outweight the bad by millions. A year from now, you’ll look back and be so happy and proud of how far you’ve come. As long as you always remember to fight to be the best mother you can be, you’ll make it through just fine.

Are you ready for this life long adventure through motherhood? Its okay to answer no right now because if you’re not ready right this moment, you’ve got 9 short months to prepare yourself. But you’ll get there. Motherhood is a natural human instinct. Try not to worry so much about the future right now and just take it one step at a time. Good luck and congratulations Mother, motherhood has been waiting for you!

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Wow. Melissa, this truly is an incredible insight into motherhood and a great letter to pregnant young women to tell the truth of having a child young and to remind us that we aren’t alone, even when we feel like we are. If you loved this blog post, share it and don’t forget to comment below and tell us!

Also, if you like this post, check out Melissa Monk’s Spotlight and check her out online:

 

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5 Fun Outdoor Activities for You and Your Baby - Mercola

Mercola’s Top 5 Fun Outdoor Activities for You and Your Baby

We are excited to have a guest blogger writing for us from Mercola today to share with our followers some amazing ideas for outdoor activities to do with your baby. The writer of this helpful article, Elaine Rosales, writes for Mercola.com. She is currently researching tips to raise a healthy, smart, and physically active child. She also reviews safe and child-friendly skincare products, like sunscreen and mosquito repellent, for babies and toddlers. Enjoy!

Being a first-time parent is undoubtedly challenging, and many young mommies and daddies often take great caution when handling their infant. Some are even afraid to take their baby outside, and end up being cooped up inside the house for weeks or even months after giving birth. But there’s no reason to fear going outside. In fact, the fresh air and change of scenery may be great for you and your child.

Why Taking Your Baby Outdoors Is a Great Idea

Babies are naturally curious, and because they are constantly learning – being attentive to noises, colors, movements, and textures – spending time outdoors is a great way to introduce them to the world. By exposing your child to the outdoors at an early age, you can spark an everlasting interest and love for Mother Nature, which may lead to a physically active lifestyle in his later years. This is a definite advantage if you want him to be optimally healthy throughout his life. Children that are physically active have a reduced risk of obesity and diabetes, improved immunity and cognitive function, stronger bones, and higher energy levels. Best of all, quality outdoor time is also a fun way to form a special bond with your little one!

Try these five outdoor activities with your baby:

1. Have a mini-picnic in your backyard. Spread a mat in your backyard where you and your baby can sit and play. Let him enjoy looking at the flowers, or read him a story. You can also bring some of his toys to play with. However, make sure to only let him near safe plants and blooms. Poppies, lily of the valley, and nightshade are some dangerous varieties. You should also bug-proof your yard. One great idea is by planting citronella and marigolds, which naturally deter mosquitoes.

2. Take a stroll in the park. A quick stroll around the park is a relaxing experience, and your baby will appreciate the natural sights. If there’s a pond nearby, you can even bring some breadcrumbs to feed the ducks, an activity that many kids, especially toddlers, love doing.

3. Go to the zoo. Seeing different animals will surely excite your baby. Keep a good hold onto him, though, and don’t let him get too close to the cages or enclosures.

4. Bring him to the beach. This is a perfect activity for summer. Your child will love digging in the sand and enjoy having the waves tickle his little feet. Just remember to ALWAYS keep an eye on him and to not let him near the water unsupervised. Slather a safe, child-friendly sunscreen on his skin as well.

5. Invest in a wading pool. This is a great alternative if the beach is too far away. Set up a wading pool in your backyard and let your child have fun splashing around. Never leave him unattended, though, and make sure you only use clean filtered water and a pool that’s free of harmful, endocrine-disrupting chemicals like polyvinyl chlorides (PVCs), phthalates, and bisphenol-A (BPA).

Safety First: Tips to Protect Your Baby Outdoors

As long as your baby is healthy – and you are feeling strong enough – you can take him outdoors. Just make sure to take a few precautions, such as avoiding people who are sick and making sure you dress him in comfortable, weather-appropriate clothes.

Here are some more tips to remember:

• Get to know your baby’s temperament. A trip outdoors on a day when your child is having a temper tantrum may not be a good idea. Try timing your travels with periods when he’s content, such as after a feeding and diaper change, or maybe after nap time.

• Check the weather report the day of your outing. Heavy rain or snow can ruin an otherwise relaxing stroll at the park.

• Avoid exposing him to too much sun. It’s true that sunlight is important for you and your baby’s vitamin D production. But since a baby’s skin is thinner and burns more easily, avoid exposing him to harsh sunlight for long periods of time, particularly in the first few months of his life. Once your baby is at least six months old, you can use a safe, chemical-free sunscreen as protection, especially if you plan to spend long hours outside.

• Bundle up your baby in weather-appropriate clothing. Your baby should be dressed in a way that makes it easy for you to keep him at the right temperature. Light, cotton clothes are great for summer, while warm jackets are perfect for winter. According to BabyCentre, one good rule of thumb is to give your baby a layer of clothing more than you need.

• Bring the baby essentials. If you’re going out for more than an hour, bring supplies like extra clothes, breastfeeding accessories, and diapers. A first-aid kit may also come in handy.

• Protect him from bugs and other biting insects. This is especially important if you’re heading to shrubby areas and places with standing water. Dress your child in a long-sleeved shirt, pajamas or pants, socks, closed shoes, and a hat. Using a safe, non-chemical, and DEET-free insect repellent is also a good idea (Note: check the repellent’s label to see that it’s safe for infants).

• Invest in a safe, high-quality baby car seat. Be very careful in choosing a car seat, as many car seat brands contain toxic chemicals and heavy metals that can endanger your baby.

• Stay away from large crowds and jam-packed areas. Your child may come in contact with people who are sick or immunocompromised.

• Always keep your eyes on your baby. Babies and toddlers are prone to touching or picking things up. If you look away even for just a second, he may end up stuffing something in his mouth. Be vigilant at all times.

Do you have any specific activities that you like to do with your baby? Let us know in the comments or if this was helpful to you, share this article and leave a comment for Elaine below!

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The #1 way to make your Relationship last Forever

I recently realized that I was no longer “in love” with my boyfriend, so I told him.

relationships danielle fordHe totally understood and didn’t break up with me. Yay!!

 

Lucky for me, he knows the #1 thing that matters to make a relationship last.

 

Watch the video and I’ll explain more..

If you loved the quote as much as I did, then Tweet it to your friends… “Love is as much of a Decision as it is a Feeling.”

So what did you think about today’s video? Leave a comment and we’ll chat about it. <3 Danielle

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TIOT: Advice for Young Girls who Just Found out They’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“What advice would you give to young girls who just found out they’re pregnant?”

When we received this question, we were so stoked on the amount of responses we got AND what amazing advice our young moms had to share! Some of these teen moms really had great things to say and I think a lot of us will appreciate or relate to this advice. Read on to see what we’re talking about…

 

bliss cruz fb userFB Fan Bliss Cruz says:

1) Try not to get overwhelmed. God won’t give you anything you can’t handle. 
2) Don’t rush it. ENJOY IT. Believe it or not, once the morning sickness passes, you will miss being pregnant & having the baby all to yourself. 
3) DONT GOOGLE YOUR SYMPTOMS & AILMENTS. It’s a horrible idea & you will end up diagnosing yourself with malaria or a calcium deficiency. Talk to your doctor. 
4) Do not watch “A Baby Story” or “I didn’t know I was pregnant” — doing so is a very poor choice. You will psych yourself out & imagine each thing that could go wrong. 
5) Talk to your baby, talk to your significant other, talk to God, talk to your friends, talk to your doctor. YOU ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE. You are literally making a miracle happen. Take some time to realize that before your miracle is complete. You have been hand picked to love & carry this beautiful little human. Be proud & be gracious. There are so many women who would give anything & everything they have to be in your shoes. Keep that in mind. 

YOU ARE GOING TO BE FINE.  it will all be ok— better than ok. It’s going to be wonderful. You are going to be a mom. Congrats!!!!

 

FB Fan Autumn Wake says…autumn wake fb user

I think Miss Bliss above here said it all! I never thought I would miss my belly, but when baby was sick in the NICU after she was born that’s all I thought. Def don’t google stuff… Ask your doctor! I was feeling a lot of hiccups when I was in the last month. Some dumb person posted something in a forum about how she had hiccups right before she had a stillborn… Wtf?!?! Even though I knew it was ridiculous I was still paranoid. Get ready for everyone to tell you 100 different things when you have the baby! One person tells you one thing and the next contradicts it. Find one person you trust and stick with their guidance… As well as your own gut!

My favorite thing about being a new parent is the secret club that parents have that everyone told me “you don’t get it until you have one.” Everyone gets so excited for you to experience this new parent thing… It’s just like everyone who is a parent gets so excited and bonds with you like you never expected.

 

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IG User @christinamayhem says…

Keep holding on and stay strong! Your life is not over!!! You, and only you, know what your capable of, and that is anything you put your mind to. Don’t be discouraged by anyone. You can make a great life for you and your child! Finish high school and do something after too.

 

 

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IG User @mommyandbraxton says…

Just be honest and don’t give up. Tell your parents no matter how much you think they will hate you, more than likely they won’t. Stay focused on schooling.

 

 

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IG User @___kearstinleighhh says…

I am a young mom. It’s not easy. Never will be. But being a mother is the most rewarding thing a woman can do. It’s so amazing. Just keep your head held high and stay strong and NEVER give up.

 

 

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FB Fan Stephanie McCoy says…

Nobody is ready for a baby no matter what… so take it one day at a time. It will all work out somehow. 
And take all advice with a grain of salt… nothing works one hundred percent of the time. Do what makes you happy!

 

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IG User @blondebeauty92 says…

Don’t listen to anyones rude comments, keep your head up, and keep moving forward. Life is going to be harder now, but in the end it’ll be well worth it.

 

 

 

Jessica Tripod fb userFB Fan Jessica Tripod says…

1) Your life is not over once you become a mom.

2) Take care of yourself. You’ll thank yourself later.

3) Block out all negativity. Don’t allow others to sentence you to their misery. Just because someone else had a bad experience or is unhappy with themselves doesn’t mean that you have to go down the same path.

 

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IG User @_mother_of _2boys says…

Always think positive and keep your head up. Don’t pay any attention to the rude comments and mean things your family and friends might say. Just prove them wrong and then they will keep their mouths shut. Its not gonna be easy, but it will all be worth it at the end. Remember think positive.

 

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IG User @joshuamomma_proud says…

It’s a very hard time in life. You’ll get scared and you won’t have all the answers, you’ll feel like you’re not prepared and that’s all okay. You just have to have faith in yourself, keep your head high and don’t listen to what everyone keeps telling you. Just hold on and stay strong and remember that at the end of those long nine months you’ll be holding the most precious person in your life.

 

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IG User @alliebear714 says…

Make sure anything you do and or decide to do for you and your baby is the best choice for you and your baby. Nobody else can tell you what you are feeling or what you are going to do. Always think positive! 🙂 Nothing will come out of being negative and if you are surrounded with negativity then find your way of shutting it out and keep your head high. Always remember, it will never be easy being a young mom. The sooner you realize that, then the less stressed you will be come when those words ring true. That is what helped me overcome all of the obstacles everybody said I wouldn’t get over.

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IG User @marissaallier says…

I know I’m a little late to the party… But the best advice I can give is stay positive. This is the beginning of a long journey. There’s gonna be ups & downs but it’s gonna be the best time of your life. Just know that you can do it, & when you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it.

 

 

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IG User @krsmari says…

Be honest with your parents you need their support -try to complete as much education as possible before and after pregnancy

 

 

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IG User @kitti_in_wonderland says…

Don’t ever let anyone call you stupid. It has nothing to do with your level of intelligence, it was a thing that happened that could happen to someone with a 4.0 GPA or someone with a 1.0 GPA. You are NOT stupid, you just made a mistake… everyone does. I’m 17 and 5 months pregnant and people call me stupid all the time because I have a baby. I don’t let it bother me because God gave me this baby for a reason and girls remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that is so true. #proudyoungmom

Wow! After all that awesome advice, we’re sure the young mom who asked the question is feeling so supported right now! You guys freakin’ rock! Thanks to everyone who contributed and we hope that this helped lots of young pregnant teens everywhere! You are never alone, ladies!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you have any additional advice for young moms-to-be or if this advice helped you!

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Handling the “Ex-Factor”

As much as I would love to say this blog is about the TV show X-Factor (one of my guilty pleasures)…. It’s not.

Your guess was totally right when you figured out this article is dedicated to dealing with difficult exes. I bet you a million bucks 90% of people reading this article immediately thought of someone from a past relationship when they read that title. Maybe you didn’t think of the father of your kids, maybe you did… maybe you’re a guy reading this and you thought about your crazy ex-girlfriend. No matter who it was that came to mind, this blog post might be helpful to you.

I thought about writing this because when I talked to my ex-husband today (the father of my youngest daughter) he lied to me about where he was with my daughter so I couldn’t try to pick her up early for a birthday party we had planned to go to. Now don’t get me wrong, he’s totally allowed to say “no” to me picking her up early, but seriously lying about it instead of just saying no? In my book. that’s pretty lame. Anyways, my boyfriend got irritated to all hell and does quite a bit when it comes to having to put up with a lot of the really crazy stuff my ex has pulled in the past. But one thing my boyfriend can’t figure out is why I don’t get crazy upset or frustrated when this kind of stuff happens… It’s because I have learned to “handle the ex-factor”.  Let me explain: When I went through my divorce, and for a while after, I used to get so stressed out because my ex wouldn’t want to pick up our daughter on time, he would never take the day off if she was sick, he would criticize me constantly, he would always tell me “it’s not my day” if I asked for any help aside from court ordered visitation (like when I was in the hospital), and he would constantly take out his bad moods on me anytime we would interact. I would get angry, I would bitch to my friends and family about it, I would cry, and I would get bitchy towards other people even though it wasn’t their fault I was upset. So one night, I’m sitting in a college class learning about interpersonal communication (go figure) and I decide to stay after class to talk to the teacher. The guy is probably one of the most inspiring people to walk the planet and has the most amazing outlook on life I’ve ever seen and loves to listen and help others. So I tell him about something stupid my ex did to piss me off that day and how frustrated I am ALL the time. He literally stops me in my tracks and tells me, “Why do you care?” Honestly, that caught me off guard at first. What do you mean? Of course I care! He’s a jerk! He likes to frustrate me and I get so mad when he messes with me and yells at me. Who wouldn’t care? But then I realized exactly what he meant. Why do I LET myself care? My ex is going to be a jerk whether I like it or not. No, I don’t have to let him walk all over me, but I shouldn’t let his outbursts affect my mood. Why should I let his bad day ruin mine too? And that’s when I heard the words that would change my outlook on life… happiness collage

“Acceptance is the key to happiness”

Once I learned to accept that my ex was the way he is and I have NO control over that (which, by the way, is a good reminder of why we aren’t together anymore) I can learn to ACCEPT him for who he is. I may not really like it, agree with it, or condone it. I do not have to let him trample my feelings or condone him acting like a complete idiot. BUT, I no longer let it aggravate me. I accept that the only thing I am able control in sucky situations with him, are MY feelings and reactions. So why let him ruin MY day?

So now, whenever my ex causes drama or wants to yell at me. I reply calmly and rationally. I stand my ground but I don’t lose my temper or yell back or cry anymore. Because I have accepted that he will never change, and even if he does, I can’t do anything to change him. So in 5 minutes, I’m going to move on with my life and go back to my awesome day and he can go try to ruin someone else’s mood.  *Added bonus: When they don’t get a reaction out of you, they tend to give up eventually or at the very least, you piss them off by not getting upset and that always makes me smile a little bit*

acceptance is the key to happiness

So now that you have a new way to look at things when dealing with YOUR “Ex-Factor” what do you think? Does this seem like a strategy that might help you out? Do you have other ways that you find work for you that you want to share with other people that might need the advice? Comment below! I would LOVE to hear your feedback and ideas!   🙂

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Is your Ex Threatening to take the Kids?

Let me guess.. you split with your baby daddy and now he’s threatening to take the kids.. Sound familiar?

ex threatening to take kids danielle fordBig shocker there! Never heard that one before! ..oh wait.. yes, I have. A million times.

My ex threatened to take my kids. Then I got full custody. My friends ex’s threatened to take their kids. They got full custody.

It’s always the same story. The mom is struggling, the dad makes more money and is more stable and now he’s threatening with attorneys and judges and says he’s going to take the kids away.

::yawn:: can these dads come up with some new material please?

In today’s video, we’re talking all about how to handle it if your ex is threatening to take the kids.


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I hope this helps! Be sure to send to any friends who you think might need to hear this.. <3 Danielle