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The Morning Routine of THIS Woman Leader

I consider myself a woman leader, so when I saw Forbes’ article about 12 Woman Leaders’ morning routines, it intrigued me.

…(Still waiting on that email, Forbes!)

 

Here are some examples included in the article, of what woman leaders do to start their day:

“4:45 am Wake up and have a bowl of quinoa cereal. I do an hour or so of 3rd or 4th series ashtanga yoga.”

-Wait a minute– there’s a 4:45 AM?! I only know of 4:45 PM and then 4:45 really, really late at night.

 

“6:00 am My little ladies wake up and I make their breakfast—green milk (almond milk with coconut water, banana and steamed baby spinach)”

-WTF is “green milk’? oh..

 

“7:15 am Wake the kids and give/get lots of kisses.”

-Are my kids the only ones with terrible morning breath?

You can read the full article at Forbes.com but since my letter from Forbes apparently got lost in the mail, I decided to post my routine right here…

 

6:45 am Alarm goes off. I wonder to myself why the f*** I’m awake before 7, why the kids’ school can’t start at 9 like everyone else’s, and then fall back asleep because I have a 2nd alarm already set for 6:55 am.

 

6:55 am Second alarm goes off. I remove my sleep mask and pull my dog in close. I hold her in the fetal position while telling her how much I love her and improvising parodies of pop songs, switching the lyrics for her name. Today’s was “I’m bringing Rosie backkkk.. Them other puppies don’t know how to actttt..”

 

7:00 am Carry dog into 1st sleeping child’s bedroom and throw dog on sleeping child while pointing and shouting “Rosie attack!” Dog proceeds to jump, lick and nibble at sleeping child’s face while I engage in “comforter tug-of-war” with sleeping child.

 

7:05 am Repeat this process with sleeping child #2.

 

7:10 Look at makeup bag. Consider putting makeup on. Laugh. Look at curling iron. Consider curling hair. Laugh. But hair in messy bun. Get dressed into my workout clothes, knowing that wearing my workout clothes the entire day is the only way I’ll actually make it to a workout around noon.

 

7:15-7:30 Shout things at children upstairs like, “Get dressed! Teeth brushed! Leave your sister alone!” from downstairs while I sit on my couch checking Facebook and email and texting my boyfriend in detail about the vivid dreams I had where he died. Then I tell him that he better not actually die, or I’ll kill him.

 

7:30 Start to leave the house and remember that kids need to eat, so I make them something like cereal or peanut butter and jelly toast and tell them to eat it quicker than they’ve ever eaten anything in their life.

 

7:40 We actually leave the house.

 

7:45 Drop the kids off at school.

 

7:50 Back at home. Play with dog. Gather everything I will need that day.. computer, notebooks, headphones, etc.

 

8:00 Head off to my coffee shop of choice for the day and proceed to ignore all people and work on my tasks.

So there is my woman leader morning routine. I know, it’s pretty impressive. Forbes, if you need to know my nightly routine, as well, I can make that happen…

 

Think you’re Not Good Enough to go after Your Dreams? Think again!

We’ve covered a lot of topics about how to go after your dreams in these Figure it out Friday videos.

not good enoughWe’ve talked about things like goal setting, visualizing, getting over your fear, etc..

But sometimes what stops people from going after their big dreams is the feeling that they’re just not good enough.

Do you ever feel like that? Do you ever feel like you’re too dumb? Or too scared? You’re not a leader? You don’t have very much experience?

Do you ever feel like you’re just not good enough to go after your dreams?

To tell you the truth, I’ve felt like that many times.

In today’s video, I’m spilling the things that I absolutely SUCK at. (Brace yourself, there are a lot of them) And I’m going to tell you why I don’t let that stop me… and neither should you!

“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole live believing it is stupid.” -Click to Tweet!

albert einstein genius quote

Now I wanna know about you! What’s your big dream? When did you feel not good enough in the past? What are you gonna do now? Let’s chat about it in the comments. <3 Danielle

dealing with emotions

Dealing with Negative Emotions: Proof that Anger, Sadness, Jealousy & Fear aren’t Bad..

Do you have a hard time dealing with negative emotions?

Do people ever tell you that you’re too emotional?

Do you feel like you need to hide your anger, sadness, jealousy, fear, etc?

dealing with negaive emotionsWell, today’s video explains why those emotions are actually GOOD and why you should not be ashamed of them.

 

Side note: I am a pretty emotional person. I feel things really strongly and when I was younger, before I got good at dealing with negative emotions, there would always be chaos.

Thankfully, I grew up a little and realized that my negative emotions, weren’t “Bad”.  They weren’t something to hide, having them didn’t mean that something was wrong with me. They were basically just sensors in my brain, telling me when something was wrong, much like when your car makes a funny noise.

 

I’ll explain the whole “car analogy” in the video…

 

 

Now before you go, let me know if this helped…

Are you dealing with negative emotions right now?? What do you think they mean?

Let’s chat about it in the comments.  <3 Danielle

You’re Magical (just like Harry Potter!)

Here’s a not-so-secret secret… I am a huge Harry Potter nerd.

magical harry potter pic(People make fun of me all the time.. whatever. I don’t care.)

That’s why I got super excited when I realized that Halloween fell on a Friday and I was able to relate a topic to it that allowed me to wear my Harry Potter costume.

Score!

So in today’s video, I’m going to tell you something that me, you and everyone else in the world has in common with Harry Potter.

(as silly as it sounds, this is one of the most important topics we’ve ever covered so make sure to watch)

 

So to recap: Your magic power is: Intuition.

..Those times when you just know that something is right or wrong..

..When you can tell someone is either lying or telling the truth..

..When you instantly jump when you see a spider..

That’s your intuition, love.

There are many times when I didn’t follow my intuition and I lived to regret it. Don’t let the same happen to you.

 

Have an amazing Friday and a Happy Halloween with your family!  <3 Danielle

P.S. If you’re as interested in intuition as I am, you’ll want to check out the book “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell. It dives way deeper into exactly how the brain works and has lots of fascinating case studies. Here’s the book–> Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

 

make people like you

Make People like You with 1 Simple Trick!

Wanna know the 1 thing you can do to make people like you instantly??

danielle ford malchi dog It has nothing to do with what you look like, what you wear, who people think you are.. or any of that nonsense.

It’s actually really super easy and it’s just that not a lot of people do it.

You know when you meet a person and you just know right away whether you like them or not? You probably don’t actually realize what it is they’re doing that makes you want to get to know them better and be their friend.

In today’s video, I’ll tell you the one simple trick you can do to be that person that people instantly like.

After you watch be sure to participate in the challenge I give you at the end and report back!

 


Ready.. set… Make people like you! 🙂

<3 Danielle

TIOT: Home Remedies for Kids

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Do you have any home remedies for when your kids are sick?”

I know there is nothing in the world worse than having sick kiddos. It’s especially horrible when they’re so little that they can’t even tell you what’s wrong. There are tons of doctor appointments, medications, tissues, tears, and snuggles when our babies aren’t feeling well. But what else can we do? Here are some home remedies that YMC followers shared with us:

Instagram User sabaah96

 

IG User @sabaah96 says…

Nothing like a hot honey and lemon water to soothe a cold/sore throat!

 

 

 

Instagram User ambertheal

IG User @ambertheal says…

I steep ginger with lemons in hot water. Then let cool to lukewarm and add a touch of honey  and get my son to drink it. Works so well for sore throats and for upset tummies. For stuffed up noses and chest congestion, I run the hot water in the shower and sit with him in the bathroom. The hot steam helps loosen everything up.

 

 

FB User Holly Udy Patino

 

FB User Holly Udy Patiño says…

I use garlic/mullein oil for ear infections and it seriously works! I’d say it is just as effective as antibiotics without ruining your child’s gut health. I also use oregano essential oil (mixed with coconut oil) since it’s a natural antibiotic and it’s also antiviral. It’s great for just about any illness! I just mix it with coconut oil and put it at the bottom of my daughter’s feet (this way it quickly gets absorbed into the body) and then put socks on. I am amazed at how effective it is! (if my daughter has an ear infection, I use this in addition to the garlic/mullein oil in the ears)

 

Instagram User lindsayloowoo3

IG User @lindsayloowoo3 says…

Vicks VapoRub on the bottom of their feet with socks. Clears the nose every time!

 

 

Instagram User bronobell

 

IG User @bronobell says…

I use Echinaforce. It works like a charm for colds & flu. A couple of drops in their drinks for a day or two and they’re sorted.

 

 

Instagram User boob.e.life

 

IG User @boob.e.life says…
Eucalyptus oil and sitting in a steaming bathroom with baby works wonders!

 

 

Thanks mommies! You girls had some awesome ideas and I’m sure we all learned new ways to help our little loves to feel better the next time they’re sick! If you have a home remedy that you swear by that wasn’t mentioned here, make sure to leave it in the comments below!

Don’t forget to share this post AND if you’re a young mom or a teen mom with mama drama in your life… TALK IT OUT! Submit your question or problem anonymously HERE and we’ll feature it on an upcoming Talk it out Tuesday.

getting things done

Getting Things Done (How to do it ALL!)

Do you ever wonder how other moms seem to always be getting things done?

People ask me all the time “How do you do it all?” or “Do you ever sleep?

danielle ford getting things doneBesides having Young Moms Club and SocialLights Video, I also am a Cub Scout Leader, I’m on the school PTO, I have a long distance boyfriend, I’m starting a charity with 7 other moms called TMIVegas, I have a weekly mastermind group, my kids have soccer and gymnastics, my dog has obedience school. And on top of all that, there’s no dad around to help. I’m the only person who takes the kids to and from school and all their activities.

OK after typing it all out, it does seem like a lot.

But when I really think about it, I do have time for it all. Besides a few scheduling conflicts here and there, I make it all work. And I do sleep. I sleep like a baby at night and take naps when I feel like it.

So what’s my secret to getting things done? I’ll tell you all about it in today’s video.

After watching be sure to let me know what you can change to start getting things done 🙂

<3 Danielle

TIOT: How To Tell Your Parents You Need Space

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you let your parents know you can handle being a mom and need space to learn and figure things out on your own?”

Becoming a young mom isn’t easy and at first your parents want to help you A LOT! But after a few months you finally have the ropes figured out and it can be really hard to tell your parents that it’s time for them to back off and give you some breathing room! We don’t want to hurt their feelings, but at the same time we want to have the room to parent our own kids. Here’s some advice from other young moms who have been there:

IG USER azaleas_momma

 

IG User @azaleas_momma says…

Talk to your parents. Let them know how you feel and your point of view. You are a parent now yourself. We all make mistakes but have to learn from them. Be an adult and talk to them in a respectful way, that they won’t get offended. Good luck momma!

 

IG USER mommyofkyree

 

 

IG User @mommyofkyree says…

My boyfriend’s mother is the epitome of this. We have tried so many times to respectfully ask her to let us learn but she takes it to heart and gets offended then walks around like she has an attitude. We still haven’t found a solution to this problem.

 

IG USER eli_jade

 

 

IG User @eli_jade says…

There is no way! LMAO. My boyfriend’s mom thinks I’m back talking & have attitude and threatens to kick us out. You just have to ignore it or walk away.

 

 

So, it seems like this is a very common issue AND apparently not an easy one to find a solution to! I, personally, remember dealing with this when my first daughter was younger and time did help. I think my mom just had to realize that I was capable over time.

Do you have any advice for all these young moms and the teen mom who originally asked this question? If you do, leave us a comment! I’m sure we would all LOVE to hear any other comments or expert guidance on dealing with our parents.

Also, if you need help with something or just want to get some advice with a problem in your life, make sure you fill out our form so we can post your question for next week’s Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and don’t forget… comment below!

fathers last name

Should you always use the Father’s Last Name?

In today’s Figure it Out Friday video, I’m answering a question that a viewer named Sarah asked.

She asked if I thought she should give her son the father’s last name or hers?

danielle ford video picShe was married but she’s divorcing and she didn’t want to have to deal with her ex the rest of her life.

So in the video I tell my own thoughts on the matter. I give my personal opinion, as well as some definite rules to follow regardless of personal opinion.

I also talk about what it was like growing up with 2 different last names. (My mom and my dad BOTH insisted on me having their last name and I didn’t have a very strong identity because of it).

You can imagine how easy it was for me to drop both of them when I got married and take his last name, FORD. Only 4 letters. Perfect.

Watch the video and then let me know what you think.. should it always be the father’s last name? What are the exceptions?

<3 Danielle

 

 

Paying it Forward

Pay it Forward

We have another awesome post from our guest blogger, Melissa Monk! This out really spoke to me because I am a huge believer in karma and I love to take advantage of paying it forward as often as possible. Read on to find out more ways you can help others (and yes, there are ways that don’t involve money)!

So I know you’ve all heard of that saying “pay it forward” meaning just doing nice things for people for no reason. Kindness sparks kindness… it’s a chain reaction. Another way to look at it is, KARMA. I’m such a strong believer in karma!!

Because I’m a young mother and I’m not able to necessarily donate to “pay it forward” I have come up with my own way of helping others. You see, I have hundreds of young women, moms or not, come to me asking for advice, asking for a shoulder to lean on, asking for someone to just listen while they pour their heart out. I love being that person for someone… I was put on this planet for a purpose and I truly believe that reason was to help people. Eventually I want to go back to school so I can become a victims’ advocate for abused women and children, as well as an advocate for teen mothers. I want people to be inspired by me to do good with their lives.

I think my favorite part about helping people is because I’ve been through so much hurt myself, sharing my stories and my journey and listening to other people has helped me heal. It’s helped me grow a lot. I found myself through helping other people. Ultimately, I want Mackenzee to look back and be proud of me and know that I have a huge heart for people in need.

Honestly, I am one of the nicest, most loving people you will meet or ever talk to. I am willing to help anyone who comes to me in any way I can. And nothing angers me more than when someone tries to make me out to be someone that I’m not. I’m not a mean person, but nor am I perfect. We all have days when we say things we don’t mean. Or we do something intentionally to hurt someone for our own selfish purposes, but I have been trying so hard this past 6 months not to be that way. It’s a learning process though because again, no one is perfect or “nice” 100% of the time. But a few months ago, someone “payed it forward” to me and I kid you not it changed my life. 

I was at Stater Brothers with Mackenzee trying to pick up her prescription and there was a problem with her insurance. They weren’t covering her medicine and they wanted me to pay like $60 for her prescription. She was really sick so it was necessary for me to get it that day. Well, it just so happened that I just paid bills that morning and I had maybe $20 to my name until 2 days later (when I would get paid). At the time, I couldn’t ask Kyle for money because he would barely even speak to me and my parents don’t give me money so I literally had no way to pay and I didn’t know what to do. I was standing in the corner of the pharmacy, on the phone with insurance basically being told that all insurance was being cut off, trying my hardest not to break down into tears, holding my sick baby who at that moment had a 102 degree fever and was clearly miserable. Once I got off the phone I literally couldn’t fight back the tears. I just held Mackenzee in one hand and my head in the other. I took a second to breathe and try to think of what I was going to do and when I finally looked up like 5 seconds later, I felt a woman’s arm wrap around me and she whispered in my ear, “Don’t worry sweetie, it’s on me”. Apparently this older woman had overheard what was going on and she had paid for Mackenzee’s prescription. Literally, my heart melted. I couldn’t have been more moved by this woman and her kindness. She then explained to me how she was also a single mother and that she understood that pain I felt when I hung up the phone. She explained to me that her son passed away when he was 6 years old from a rare type of cancer and that her insurance hassled her for months before they would approve her son’s treatment and that a kind man who she had met at the hospital actually helped her pay off most of her son’s medical bills after he had passed. I literally can not even begin to explain to you the way it felt to hear her story. She then told me one day that she hopes I will be able to help pay it forward as well… every heart has a story to tell.

So do you want to pay it forward?? Here are some tips and tricks and ways to pay forward!!! They don’t always have to invoke literally “paying” money out of your pocket. Honestly, try a few of these out one day. I promise the reaction is amazing!

  • When you’re in the drive through at Starbucks, pay for the persons behind you
  • Smile at a random stranger
  • Help someone who needs it carry their bags to their car from the grocery store
  • Make friendly conversation with a stranger while in line at the store and compliment them
  • Go to a car wash fundraiser and donate, even if you don’t need your car washed
  • Clean out your closet and donate all your old clothes and shoes to family in need or a shelter
  • Take cookies or baked goods to a police station, fire station, or church
  • Add money to someone’s parking meter as it’s about to expire
  • Say thank you to your cashier and mean it
  • Hold the door for someone walking behind you
  • Thank a solider for his/her sacrifice and service in the military
  • Bring your co-workers coffee or smoothies
  • Run/walk in a charity race or event
  • Rake or mow your neighbor’s yard
  • Share store coupons with the person standing behind you in line
  • Let someone take your seat on the bus or subway
  • Send flowers to a random person who’s sick in the hospital
  • Take crafts for the children who are in the hospital
  • Leave a quarter in the vending machine for the next person
  • Donate to someone in need… (i.e. Canned goods, clothing, household products, etc.)
  • Make a holiday plate with leftovers for a homeless person
  • Leave an encouraging note for someone in a public place

And the list literally just goes on..There are so many ways to pay it forward!!

Thank you, Melissa! I am definitely going to add some of these to my list of ways to “pay it forward”. Do you do things, big or small, to brighten peoples’ days? Tell us in the comments how you do your part in “paying it forward”. We would love to hear your ideas and let’s share stories below about how people have reacted to your random acts of kindness!

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