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The Spotlight is on: Sabina Lynne Waldrop

This is one strong mama! Read about how Sabina overcame so many obstacles as a young mom. She is such an inspiration!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hi! My name is Sabina I am 18 years old. I started my family when I was 17. Aubrie, my daughter, is 17 months old and it’s just me and her. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

So let me just start this off my saying that because me and Aubrie’s biological father are not on good terms, I do not want to focus on the negative but I also know that everything he did to me and everything I’ve been through has made me the person I am today. So here it goes, this is my story.

I first met Adam Jackson through a friend in high school. Of course he was Mr. Prince Charming. I was a cheerleader and he was a football player. How perfect, right? It was the end of my sophomore year and the end of his senior year of high school. We really hit it off. You all know how that goes we were young, dumb, and in love. Our relationship was great. Or so I thought. Here I am, an insecure 16 year old girl that was so shy and naive, who was trying to find herself. He was hilarious and we always had a great time together. He stood up for me and I felt so safe with him.

Sabina Spotlight Young Mom 3He became very jealous of me. He was graduated from high school and I was a junior. He had his friends watch every move I made in high school and text him if I did anything like talk to a guy and I had a lot of guy friends. He would wait outside in the parking lot almost every day when I got out of school. At first I was like “how sweet” but I later realized it was his way to make sure every guy at that school knew I was his. So time went on and became even more outrageously jealous. He found out that I said I liked a guy. You know how that high school girl talk goes “He’s so cute”, “I like him”, or “He’s so sweet”. And he instantly changed. He threw all my stuff on the floor while he was screaming at me calling me everything under the sun. He made me feel so low, like dirt. I said to myself that night that I would do whatever it took to stay with him. He made me feel not good enough and that I was so lucky to have him. I continued to be in a terrible relationship that began to get emotionally and physically abusive, all the while thinking it was my fault he acted the way he was. Wrong!

When we found out I was pregnant I took the test at his house. He held me in complete silence as I cried. I was terrified at first but became happy as the time went on. He promised me and this baby the world. I believed him. I was raised in a Christian home, so this really caused a lot of chaos in my family. My dad pretty much disowned me.

Months went on and our relationship grew toxic. He said things the hinted the fact that he didn’t want to be with me anymore and I was crazy and just made me feel so unwanted. He said I was the one that was tearing us apart. I was pregnant and in high school! Can you say hormone over load? I couldn’t help it. Being pregnant is supposed to be such a wonderful experience while you anxiously await the arrival of your baby. I didn’t know what to do. I later found out he was cheating on me the entire time. I felt so stupid and hurt. And he got mad at me because I said I liked a guy to my friends? Hello! Red flag!!Sabina Spotlight Young Mom 2

My water broke at 6:30 in the morning and I was in labor for 11 hours. Aubrie Nicole Waldrop was born October 14th at 5:50 p.m. weighing 8 lb and 14 oz and 21 inches tall. She was so beautiful. I didn’t want to put her down.

I went on home school for 6 weeks while i was trying to get use to being a new mom. My parents tried to be Aubrie’s parents. They would scream at me every time she cried “What did you do to her?”, “Why is she crying?” as they would try to take her away from me. I became depressed and had bad anxiety. Every time Aubrie cried i would freak out waiting for someone to try to take her from me. I felt like a terrible mother. I lost a bunch of weight and began to get sever acne from all the stress I was under. After those 6 I went back to school. It was so hard to leave her at the babysitters every morning but I had to look at the bigger picture and set an example for my daughter. I was so lucky to still be able to go to Homecoming, prom, and graduate with my class. My parents continued to act the same way, making me feel not good enough for my own child.

After I had Aubrie I completely changed. I stopped putting up with people and things that brought me down or got in my way. I was so blind and oblivious to the way that Adam treated me but I saw the way he was with Aubrie crystal clear. I told him I was not going to chase him around and make sure he did what he was supposed to because it was so exhausting. And of course after I stopped doing that he stopped seeing her or getting anything for her. He blamed it on me because I didn’t tell him to come see her, to get her diapers, ect. I felt like he should have asked me and if he was around her the way he should have been he would have known when she was almost out of something. I felt like I was a single mom. I was buying everything for her out of my graduation money. I was the only one putting any effort in raising and taking care of her. So I made it official, I broke up with him. And I haven’t heard from him since.

Now I am currently living in NC. I moved away from everyone in high hopes to start a great life for the both of us. I am going to school to become an RN, I work at Sally Beauty Supply and Aubrie is enrolled in a great daycare. Even though things aren’t 100% perfect still, I truly am happy. I am glad that I’ve been through everything that I have because I wouldn’t be where I am today. I am no longer depressed like I used to be my face has cleared up and I’m back to a normal, healthy weight. Me and my parents have a better realationship now. This change was good on the both of us. I think we have a closer mother daughter relationship because I don’t have all my focus on the negative stuff anymore. We are just taking life one day at a time and enjoying the ride and each other.Sabina and Aubrie Spotlight Young Mom

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

I knew that Aubrie’s biological father was not a great person. Not even that he wasn’t a great person but not even a decent person at that. You have all these expectations that you want for your children and if your anything like me everything HAS to be perfect. So you could only imagine all the worries and concerns I had. I was so frustrated because he would always say “We have 9 months to get everything ready, Sabina. That is more than enough time.” He never helped me get things ready. I was still living with my parents at the time and I painted and set up her nursery all by myself with some help from my mom.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I am such on a busy schedule right now I don’t have time to relax. But when I do have a little extra time I like to catch up on my favorite shows while I get things ready for the next day. I bought some nail polish, foot soak, foot scrub, and some lotion to help treat myself for always being on the go and always being on my feet. I hope to use it real soon!

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I like dressing her up and putting bows in her hair. I like taking her outside and just seeing that sweet smile she gets when she’s exploring something new. Her laugh is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard. I love watching her grow and see the beautiful little girl she is becoming. I absolutely love hearing that sweet little voice that I created call me momma. All my troubles melt away.Sabina Spotlight Young Mom 1

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself working as an RN in a hospital somewhere. I would love to be a traveling nurse and just take my baby to see the world with me. And then when we find the perfect place just settle down and start our lives. I want to give her the life I’ve never had. I want her life to be filled with adventure, love and happiness. I want to teach her to be independent and confident in herself that she could do anything she wants to. I will be her biggest fan.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would just say hang in there. I strongly believe Aubrie was my miracle. I believe she was put in my life to become a stronger person and stop putting up with people walking all over me. I needed her to be where I am now. And I think that goes for anyone. They were put in our lives for a reason. I dont know where I’d be with out her. I know for a fact I wouldn’t be where I am right now. God wouldn’t give you more than you could handle. This is just part of a bigger, better plan he has in store. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Always know you are good enough no matter what. You are only one person and you will make mistakes. But just keep moving forward and don’t let this break you.

We love how Sabina was able to overcome so many obstacles. We are so proud of you for sharing your story with other young moms.

Leave a comment for this awesome young mom or tell us how you can relate to her story.

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The Spotlight is on: Julie Langridge

Meet our brand new young mom Julie! She is such a positive teen mom with a great support system, you’ll love reading her story.

Tell us about yourself and your family

I am 17 years old and about to graduate high school. My daughter Andie was born on March 10th and is now just over 2 months old. She makes me smile every day and even though her father and I were nowhere near ready to raise a baby, we are doing the best we can and have no problems loving her!!

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What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

I found out I was pregnant just after Christmas. I was already 22 weeks in and had no idea! It was a huge shock to my entire family and I cried for a very long time, but with my boyfriend firmly by my side I went back to school with my head held high. It was difficult to be the talk of the school, but all of the staring and rude comments died down after a while. Only two months later my little girl came into the world (two months premature) and all of a sudden what seemed like the end of the world was the beginning of a whole new adventure.

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What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

My parents have been great helpers with Andie. When my boyfriend and I need a break or just a night to ourselves they have no problem helping us out. He and I go for walks and talk about whatever is going on in our lives. We have date nights to ourselves and it really helps us keep our sanity and makes our love grow stronger.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My favorite things about being a mom are just beginning as she is still so little. Right now just knowing that she needs me and cares about me puts a huge smile on my face. Also putting her in little outfits is lots of fun! 🙂

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Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years I see myself remodeling houses and making people proud of where they live. I hope to go to school for interior design! Also I see my little family living in our own house and feeling great. Andie will be 5 years old and be having a blast at school!!

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Try not to focus so much on the negative aspects of being a young mom. Think about all of the beautiful things you and your child are going to do together. Also you will have a lot more time to spend with them as oppose to everybody else. Changing your attitude and getting excited about your new baby will make a huge difference in your life, trust me!

What kind of support have you gotten since becoming a teen mom? Is the dad around to help support you and your child? Do your parents help out at all? Tell us all about it below in the comments.

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TIOT: Gender Reveal Party Ideas!

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“I need some original ideas for a gender reveal party… help!”

Read to see what our YMC followers suggested for the young mom that sent in this week’s question…

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FB user @Missy Whitlock-Ghormley says…

I decorated my house in pink and blue, had everyone who thought it was a girl eat off of pink plates drink out of pink cups use pink forks etc and blue for those who thought it was a boy. Then after dinner I handed out cupcakes with pink filling on the inside. It was a lot of fun especially since I have 2 boys. I’ll definitely do a gender reveal with future children!

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IG user @kelseybri93 says…

I did balloons in a box and the color of the balloons revealed the gender!

 

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IG user @mommy2014x2 says…

You could put the frosting color in the middle of the cake. That way when you cut the cake it reveals the gender.

 

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IG user @ashbertone says…

We did two separate boxes one decorated in girl and one boy. My boyfriend opened the girl and I did the boy…. Well, it was a GIRL! We had pink and blue candy everywhere, big pitchers filled with blue Gatorade and pink Gatorade, we had a girl and boy cake, and we told everyone to wear either pink or blue for voting! 🙂

 

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IG user @vegaslove89 says…

Do a balloon drop… that’s what I did for mine. It turned out really well! 🙂 Just another variation of the balloon box, I guess. The video is on my (IG) page.

We LOVED all of these ideas and hope that this helps out the Mom-To-Be with her gender reveal party!

What did YOU do for your gender reveal party? Didn’t have one? What ideas have you seen that you thought were adorable? Comment below and let us know!

…and don’t forget to submit YOUR Talk it out Tuesday questions so you can be featured next and get feedback and advice from young moms just like you!

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The Spotlight is on: Tyteana Milton

Tell us about yourself and your family

I’m 15 years old. I had my baby September 2013. She weighed 8 lbs 9 oz and that was the best day of my life. My baby girl is now 8 months. She can crawl and is on her way to walking. She knows how to sit up by herself, she can say ma-ma and da-da, and she’s growing two teeth at the bottom.tyteana young mom 2

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concerns were how am I going to tell my parents that I’m pregnant? Are they going to be mad and kick me out? Will they make me get an abortion? If I am able to keep the baby, how will I provide for it? I had a lot of concerns and worries and I was very scared. I didn’t handle it very well and kept it a secret for a long time, not knowing that I could have hurt the baby if I didn’t see a doctor.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I treat myself by spending time with my baby. She is the joy in my life. I should treat myself by going out with friends and getting away from her for a while, but it’s so hard. I heard that you should get “away time” from the baby and relax.in

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

Being able to give my baby love and to care for her. I love holding her in my arms and listening to her soft breathing and to feel her little heartbeat. I also love seeing my baby growing up and learning new things.

tyteana young mom 3Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself with a career in Psychology, living in a nice home that I’m going to provide for my daughter. I see my baby making excellent grades in school.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

To the young girls who just found out you’re pregnant, please tell your parents or someone who has authority and let them know that you’re pregnant. Don’t risk your life or your baby’s life just because you are afraid you’re going to get in trouble. For the young moms, you’re going to love being a mother and your baby is going to fall in love with you. Also, I wouldn’t recommend you to get pregnant again because we are so young.

Telling your family about being a pregnant teen can be tough. Did you keep it a secret when you found out that you were pregnant? Tell us in the comments section how long you hid it for and how you finally broke the news!

The Spotlight is On: Molly Sharp

Being a teen mother can be very difficult, but this young mom is staying positive and pursuing her future. Listen to how Molly Sharp is overcoming obstacles and raising her daughter.

Tell us about yourself and your family: I am a very young mom. Probably younger than most. I had my daughter at the age of 14. I am a single mom and have always done everything on my own. I have no idea what it feels like to have a family since my daughters father has never stuck around. My daughter will be 3 in December. Her name is Rylie Mae. She’s the biggest accomplishment of my life and she is what keeps me going. Although I am a teen mom I work my hardest to keep us happy and healthy and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

How I would graduate and how my friends and family would look at me. I lost a lot of friends which wasn’t a big deal to me because my family was very loving and supportive. I didn’t give up in school and I will be graduating in 2014 🙂

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

To treat myself I like to get my hair done but it only happens about 4 times a year. For fun I go out to eat with my friends and to stay relaxed I like to go on runs or car drives.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

Its rewarding. Seeing my daughter smile and laugh and be the smartest toddler I know makes me feel good like I’m doing something right.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years I want to be almost done with college living on my own with my daughter and just being healthy and happy. I don’t expect too much.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would advise them to always think of their child before themselves. Don’t do something you wouldn’t want your child doing. Also, if your child’s father doesn’t seem to be interested.. DO NOT give your child his last name. You will regret it in the long run!

A great story like yours is encouraging to other teen moms. Being a young mom with positivity is a great influence!

If you enjoyed this story and would like Molly to know you wish her well, please do so in the comments below! 🙂

The Spotlight is on: Megan Berkheimer

Introducing our Young Moms Club spotlighted member: Megan Berkheimer!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m a 24 year old mommy of two. My husband Marcus and I have been married for 3 1/2 years. My monsters are Damen (almost 4) and Rylee (8 months). We are Mesa, Arizona born and raised. We are tattooed, video game playing, outdoor loving homebodies.

young couple wedding picWhat were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When we first discovered I was pregnant, my first thought was joy. I had only been dating Marcus for three months but I knew I was in love with him. My immediate next thought was how we were going to tell our parents. I called my family first and they were surprised but excited. Marcuss parents didn’t take the news so well and didn’t talk to us for four months.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

For fun we go hiking, have drinks at home, or play xbox together.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My all time favorite thing of being a mom is watching my kids grow and change everyday. The happiness their smiles and full tummies bring me is indescribable. I can’t imagine my life any other way. :]

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

If there were no obstacles, in five years we would be homeowners out in the country. We would be on our way to being completely self reliant. We would grow and prepare all of our own food.

cute little boy in hatWhat advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

To young girls that have just found out their going to become mothers I would say, it’s a long scary road that first nine months. There’s so much uncertainty and growing up crammed into a short space. No matter how crazy it is, you can do it. You can, and will be an amazing mother!

 

 

The Spotlight is on: Megan Berkheimer

The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders

How do you defy the odds and create a beautiful family and positive home after getting married and having children young?

Lacricia Sanders explains with her story below:

Tell us about yourself and your family:young marriage pic

Hi I’m Lacricia, the spunky red head that lives in a tiny town with all the people I grew up with. I had dreams of being a famous singer or Hollywood star when I was younger, but that all changed the day I met my prince charming, Jason. He swept me off my feet and took me off the dating market 12 years ago when I was just 15 and he was 19. Seems crazy to some that we got married so young, but we wanted to bring up our daughter in a stable home filled with love. Now, 31 years old he works very hard to take care of his 4 girls, his lovely wife who keeps the household running well and his three beautiful daughters Jaylynn 11, Leah 6, and Lilyanna 3.

I am now 27 and very much still in Love with my husband and our life is great. I believe that God has supplied us with every need and even a little room to spoil. I always say I am “spoiled” but it’s not because I don’t do any work or we have lots of extra money to spend. I say that because I have a wonderful husband that does all he can to pay the mortgage and utilities and still have some strength left to talk to me and enjoy our family. I have been fighting the whole stay at home mom thing for awhile now because I feel I dont get the outside social interaction or career stimulation I need, but I am so thankful that I have been at home enjoying every important moment with my kids while they grow. Now I am a work at home mom and I proudly promote health and fitness body by vi challenge pic lacricia sandersfrom home with Visalus and the BodybyVi Challenge. I am always researching nutrition and exercise so I can help my clients. I love my job and now my goal is to become a fitness trainer and my ultimate dream is to own a gym with aerobic exercise, yoga, weight training, kick boxing and martial arts. I love natural healing remedies and believe that what you put into your body is what determines what will come out, including positivity. I am also working very hard to be a good mother and find new ways to feed and care for my children. I want to make sure I do creative things with the whole family. Remember that no one and nothing is perfect, so make the best of each day!

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concern when I first found out I was pregnant would have to be how my life would turn out. I was determined to finish school and go to college, which I did! My oldest daughter was three when I started college and work. I feel i missed out a little on her, but I am glad I can say I did do it. I was afraid we wouldn’t have what we needed, but I prayed and it all worked out!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I Love to exercise! I do a lot of running and home exercises. I love to read and I am a decent singer! I intend on going back to school for music.


What are your favorite things about being a mom?lacricia sanders young family

When I feel that I haven’t done anything worth mentioning, my children remind me how great of a job I do with them. We have a positive home and I can see how much influence I have in their lives and it reminds me to do the best I can to keep smiling!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself in five years owning my own business place where people can come to workout and buy supplements. I also want to go back to school for music. I will be making enough money that I can volunteer and give back to the community, afford fun activities with my daughters, take some cool classes myself, and give my husband a fun break from working so hard.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would like to tell other moms to not be so rigid when it comes to raising their kids. Have fun, enjoy each moment, and don’t forget to discipline! You don’t have to do anything like other people do, parent in your own way. Don’t get so mad at people, but stand your ground when it comes to advice, just say, “Thanks” and do it your way. Listen to your heart, that’s where a true loving relationship with your kids comes from!

The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders

The Spotlight is on: Alexandra Marie Street

Take a minute to meet the Inspiring

Alexandra Marie Street from Allendale, MI, USA!!!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hello =)
I am a 23 year old wife, sister, daughter and mama! My husband and I met in 6th grade and have been together since! We had our son at 17. His name is Zane and he is now six years old! He is our little ray of sunshine with the biggest heart of gold!
My husband is in the Marine Corps and is a professional painter/carpenter.

I just recently graduated with my undergrads in Behavioral Science with a Sociology emphasis. I work as lifestyle/fitness coach with Beachbody and also work part time at a local salon and spa =). Life has been crazy, but we’ve always supported each other’s goals and dreams and have had a lot of fun along the way!cute pic of young couple

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concern was honestly that I didn’t like kids! Haha! No one had ever asked me to babysit, and kids just irritated me. I had no idea how I was going to be able to have my own!
On top of that, I was the child that you could say was on the fast track to success. I maintained honor roll/principle’s list status, was involved with many extra curricular activities and within the school and community. I had plans to go to college and was planning on pursuing a “normal” young adulthood. I was really scared that I wouldn’t be able to do that anymore, and was scared what my life would turn into without those things.
We at first considered abortion. Now I cringe when I say it, but I’d be lying if I said that I never considered it. I was never for it, but it’s funny how fast your views change once you’re faced with a teenage pregnancy. I didn’t necessarily want to terminate a pregnancy, but at sixteen I just wanted to be like my peers. I didn’t want to worry about morning sickness, I wanted to make all conference or state for the varsity cheer team and I wanted to go prom dress shopping. I didn’t want the responsibility and I wanted to pretend like it never happened. Most of all, I was terrified of my parents finding out.
Months passed, and if we didn’t talk about it, it wasn’t real. I really felt great, had no problems. So other than a little bump, it was easy to ignore. We kept looking and looking for abortion clinics that we could a) afford, and b) go through without parent’s consent. Eventually the months passed and options ran slim. We continued to hide it from everyone. We knew we had to do something – make a decision. The only options were out of state and at 6-7months pregnant, the only way was really surgery. This was soo out of our budget and we knew we couldn’t hide it. That’s when we decided to tell our parents and consider adoption.
Our parents were supportive but scared. Supportive doesn’t mean happy! There were many tears and worries, lots of phone calls. The main concern of everyone was as to how we were going to finish high school and still be able to go to school and pursue other dreams. After talking, we decided there was absolutely NO way that we could go through with adoption. If we had gotten this far, we could do it. We figured that just because it wasn’t “convenient” didn’t mean that we couldn’t do it. We would just make all the adjustments needed, whatever it takes. To make a long story short, everyone was very flexible and supportive in any way they could be. My parents and his parents babysat, we lived at home for a few years while we saved our money. We both worked full time and I went to school full time. Eventually we moved out on our own and continued to work, go to school and communicate to make things work.
The biggest help was support. Surround yourself with only those who are there to help lift you higher, ignore your old friends if they don’t respect your new lifestyle. You’ll make new ones. Don’t be afraid of change but embrace it.

 

“Surround yourself with only those who are there to help lift you higher” -Alexanda Marie Street –Click to Tweet this out!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I firmly believe in taking care of yourself before you can take care of anyone! Definitely don’t take this as negligence, but when appropriate, it’s MORE than okay to reward yourself!! I like to go shopping, out to lunch/dinner or have a glass of wine with mom and sister to treat myself! We also love to travel, so we try to do as much of that as we can!
For fun, I love to work out and cook! I love to read, play piano, check out local bands and new restaurants. My husband and I enjoy watching movies together, being outside (skiing and camping) and entertaining. I LOVE to meet new people, my mom and I host a free fit club two mornings a week for other moms.
For me to stay relaxed, I have to stay organized in a few different areas. First, I can’t miss my work outs lol! They are my stress relievers and where I sort out my life and finalize my goals and dreams! I also love to read for personal development. Some of my favorites are The Magic of Thinking Big (can’t remember the author!) and How To Win Friends and Influence People. These will burst any stereotypes and stigmatisms that we as young mothers face and it’s a great confidence boost! It helps so much in relationships and helps me feel like I have control over my life. This helps me stay relaxed!!
little boy in tuxSecondly, I like to stay organized with my husband. We both have crazy schedules and sometimes it’s easy to forget that you’re a couple first and foremost. We like to take minimum five minutes to ourselves, no cell phones, kids, tv, internet – just us to reconnect.
Third – I like an ORGANIZED house. Not necessarily super clean, just uncluttered. We currently struggle with procrastination – especially on school mornings so having little things in line; like the lunches ready or the dishes loaded in the sink keep me in a good mood! Haha, dirty dishes in the sink put me in a bad mood!

Fourth – COFFEE. Need I say more?

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love the innocence of it and the unconditional love. Kids have such a fantastic view of the world. They don’t hate, they don’t judge. Everyone is their friend immediately and they take you for who you are. They don’t care about your past or where you’re going, as long as you love them and treat them with kindness and respect. I can’t push this viewpoint enough, I feel like the world is missing this.
I love the little things, like a surprise trip to the park and how it makes their entire day. They tell EVERYONE about it and it makes you feel like the best mom ever. I love the giggles and finding out their little personalities. The sense of humor is adorable, and so genuine. The belly laughs are the best!!
I also love how we get to be big kids again!! The holidays are awesome. It’s totally acceptable to carve the BIGGEST pumpkin you can find, go trick or treating, build snowmen and put a million lights on the Christmas tree. It’s fun to believe in Santa again, and to “Ooh” and “Ahh” at all the fireworks on the 4th. Birthday parties are so exciting!
It really is all of the little things! Kids take us back to what really matters, and that’s the best part about being a mama!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years, I see my husband and I building our home, maybe with another baby. We will probably still have our two cats and dog. I’d like to be home with our kids, and able to travel. I’m not sure if my husband will still be in the Corps, if he is I don’t think we’ll be moving. I’d like to travel as much as we can!
I really don’t like to think that I have any obstacles. I realize this sounds arrogant, and I TOTALLY do NOT mean for it to be! However, I just really believe that everything happens for a reason and children, money – WHATEVER, there’s nothing hold you back. As long as you aren’t afraid to dream big and go for it, you can achieve anything. I plan to pursue my dream of helping as many people as I can. I want to be a go-to girl for young mom and men and women everywhere for whatever they need. My experiences have made me a better person and if I can do it, ANYONE can do it. I’d love to help people realize and achieve their highest potential and beyond =)getting married at a young age

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

If you recently became pregnant, the advice that I would give would be:
1. It’s okay to be scared, mad, happy, cry, worried… all of it. No one can tell you how to feel and you’re entitled to experience it in your own way. Don’t feel bad for any of it.
2. Rid negativity in your life – even if it’s people. If you wouldn’t want to be like them, don’t hang around them. Sometimes this means the dad, don’t be afraid of that. Put yourself first and take care of yourself and your baby will always be taken care of.
3. Don’t be afraid of the stereotypes – just break them. Don’t let other people’s comments get to you. Again, read number 2.
4. Smile! Pregnancy is freaking crazy and some people love or hate it. Either way, you’ll be sharing stories your whole life so have fun!

If you recently became a mom:
1. It’s okay to feel ANY emotion too. I wasn’t immediately attached to my son. I felt like a bad mom, but this is completely normal. The bond shows up really soon! I promise!
2. It’s okay to miss your old life. It’s a huge change and you can’t expect to bury that part of you over night.
3. Don’t get mad at the little things because there will be a lot. Have a great support system and think logically, plan ahead.
4. Don’t think that you’re being held back in any way. Children are a blessing no matter how old YOU are when they show up! I believe that young moms have a baby so soon because that child is just too special to come any later. These children do amazing things and are very influential and such a gift. Embrace them and build them up, you’ll be happy you did.
5. Don’t sweat the small stuff! Have fun! You’re going to have dark circles under your eyes, you might not shower for days at a time. Your sleep will be messed up and your friends may not call as much. But embrace this time! You are your baby’s WORLD and they think you look so pretty and are so funny even in your frumpy jammies =)
6. Take a million pictures!

 

The Spotlight is on: Alexandra Marie Street

The Spotlight is on: Stevie Degenero

Meet Young Moms Club’s Spotlighted Member: Stevie Degenero!!!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hi, I am Stevie Degenero. I live in Ohio with a family of 5. I am wife to Jason, mother of Travis 5, Owen 4, and Kyle 3. There are less than 3 yrs between my first and 3rd son. Having 3 little boys is a lot of work but it is also so wonderful! They are best buddies and worst enemies hahaha luckily worst enemies don’t last long 🙂

When I got pregnant with Travis I was 19 and I was in between jobs but luckily Jason had a full time job. I got a part time job as a cashier when I was about 3 months pregnant and we were doing pretty good. We had our first son in Nov of 2006 and shortly after my husband was laid off, due to the business going under. He searched for a job non stop. We flew to Vegas (where our families are) in July 2007 with our son and got married 😀 When we got back home Jason got a fantastic job at Worthington Cylinders where he still works and in 4yrs he has moved up to an assistant group leader. I am very proud of him, he has stepped up for us and taken care of us. family of five

I got a new job at Jenny Craig I worked there for 3 yrs and was laid off in 2009 when I was 6 months pregnant with my last baby. I have been a stay at home mom ever since and my husband just works all the time to make up for us having one income. It would cost about $400 a week for childcare and Jason work 12 hr shifts with alternating days it is too hard to be on opposite schedules. So, I started a little In home baking business called “Sweets by Stevie”. I make cake pops and cupcakes and sell them at the flea market/swap meet on weekends. I also do personalized birthday cakes. I am still figuring out the marketing and selling part but right now I’m just working my ass off trying to get my name out there! I love doing it and I am hoping to make some income to benefit my family 🙂

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

Well, I was worried that I was too young and even though Jason and I had been together for 4 yrs, I was worried we wouldn’t stay together because we weren’t married and we wouldn’t be able to afford having a baby. Also when we went to close family we were told not to expect any help at all and actually encouraged us to have an abortion but Jason and I could never do that, we already loved our little baby 🙂

After all the heart to hearts that me and Jason had, I was reassured that he was going to be there and that we were very much in love. No, we didn’t get help and we still rarely have a sitter but we get by. I would never trade my kids or husband for anything!!!

three boysWhat kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

To relax every once in awhile I hang out with friends with no kids and no hubby. To relax I get my kids to bed early and take a couple hours to myself to sit and watch some TV or hang and talk to the hubby. I enjoy those hours without the sound of children. I also have a membership to the YMCA where I can put my kids in daycare for up to 2 and a half hours a day and workout, swim or just hang out in the spa 🙂

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My favorite thing about being a mom is seeing my handsome, happy, healthy boys everyday. I love spending time with them and acting like a big kid 🙂 I love how much they love me and how they light up when I just smile at them.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?sweets by stevie cake pops

In 5 yrs I hope to own a home and have a full time job. Without any obstacles, I would love to own a bakery that serves gourmet sweets by me and people come from all over to line up and get some 😀

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Moms to be and new moms: Take all the help you can get. If someone says, “I will watch the baby, take a nap.” DO IT! All people are scared when they get pregnant no matter how old, young, prepared or unprepared. Motherly instincts kick in and you will know what is best for your child. Hard times come and go, and being a mother is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. Read up as much as you can so that you have researched and professional advice. It makes you feel good when you know what’s going on with your children.

 

 The Spotlight is on: Stevie Degenero

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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls

We all have those days when sh*t hits the fan and we don’t feel like getting out of bed and instead we decide to throw ourselves a pity party.

Here is a list of 16 Don’t Forgets to review on the bad days.. and the good days, too.

1. Someone always has it worse than you.
Always.

2. Right now is the youngest you’re ever going to be.
Take advantage of it. Don’t get caught up in the small things. Stop to take comfort in the littlest details.

3. When you get angry at someone, you give them your power.
The more you practice letting things go, the more control you gain over yourself and your life.

4. You can’t rationalize with an irrational person.
Doing so only turns you psycho and puts you on their level.

5. Do the things that frighten you.
This is the only way to force yourself out of your comfort zone and into a space where big things can come to you.

6. The sexiest thing you can wear is your expression.
Nothing is more unattractive than a girl all dressed up- with a sour face. Showing happiness unconsciously makes others around you happy and makes people like you more.

7. The most valuable thing you can give your child is your time and attention.
It’s the only thing that can’t be bought at a store and it’s what they will remember and love you for the most.

8. Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t think you’re awesome.
You are awesome- imperfections and all.

9. Every sh*tty thing that happens to you will either make you weaker or stronger.dont forgets
You decide which by how you react to it.

10. You don’t have to keep everyone as your friend.
Don’t give up attention to your good friends for ones that aren’t so good.

11. Optimistic people go way farther in life than pessimists.
Pessimism is contagious. Avoid negative people like they have chicken pox.

12. You don’t have to know exactly how everything will turn out.
As long as you’re taking steps- even small ones- in the right direction, you’ll get there.

13. Take lots of pictures.
Even if you think an event isn’t that important, you’ll realize later that it was.

14. Always have a plan written down.
A goal that isn’t written down is just a wish. Remember: it’s OK to change plans, you just always have to have one.

15. Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins create happiness.
Even a walk around the block can make a big difference.

16. Spend more time looking to the future than the past.
You don’t own your past, you have every right to release it as history. The future is the only thing you can control.

Write these Don’t Forgets down, print them out.. whatever you have to do to remind yourself.

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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls