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The Spotlight is on: Brynn Jestes

Meet Brynn (and Rhyse)! This young mom is pushing the limits and has dealt with so many challenges that some of us couldn’t even imagine, but she’s kicking life’s ass everyday!

I’ll admit that when I first read her pregnancy story, I got emotional because she really had to deal with a lot of negativity and complications with her son’s health and her own. But as you read on you will be stunned with the accomplishments she’s made as a teen mom….

Teen Mom Brynn Jestes

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hello! My name is Brynn. I’m 22 and a proud mom to my 5 year old son, Rhyse. We have overcome many obstacles to get where we are now. When I was 17 and a senior in high school, my boyfriend of 4 years and I found out we were expecting. When I told him, he didn’t take it very well and told me I ruined his life, he didn’t want this and I needed to have an abortion or we were done, but I decided to keep my baby. My boyfriend and I stayed together but when my son was born I found out he cheated on me and was heavy into drugs and got very abusive. I ended up having to get a restraining order and took on caring for my son alone. When Rhyse was 5 months old he had his first seizure and a slew of health issues that wound up landing us in the hospital many times over. Through all this stress, I was also working two jobs and was a full time student while living on my own. The next year I ended up in the hospital with a tumor on my ovary and ended up having both the tumor and my ovary removed. I found out I can’t have anymore children due to complications. Some days I felt like nothing was going right,
but then I gathered my strength for my son. Now, 5 years later, we still live on our own. I now work one job and will graduate college this year then continue on to grad school majoring in psychology. My son is dealing with epilepsy but overall is a very happy, healthy little man. We are each other’s strength and best friends.Brynn Jestes Young Moms Club

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When I found out, I felt every emotion at once and all my goals and fears flashed before me, I felt like my life was over and I was scared to face my family. After the first time I heard my sons heartbeat I knew that we were in this together and I would do whatever it took to be the best mom he deserves. And here I am making my dreams come true and setting an example for Rhyse.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I really enjoy going to concerts, when I can, or reading books. I don’t get a lot of time to myself but when I do I try to enjoy it.

Brynn Jestes Teen MomWhat are your favorite things about being a mom

What isn’t my favorite thing? I would say all the small things, like the way he hugs me and tells me I’m his best friend, or the way his smile takes over his face, or when he’s sleeping the little sounds he makes. I love being his mom and it makes me so proud to see him grow up.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In 5 years I see myself done with grad school, buying my first house, owning a service dog, and working a job I’m proud of to support my son.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Life doesn’t end when you become pregnant, but it actually is just starting! It’s a lot of work to be a parent, but it’s the most rewarding job. Always put your kid first and keep working hard towards your goals. Also, stop and take time to enjoy every little laugh and every step of their life.

I can’t thank Brynn enough for sharing your story! It’s so great to hear how well this young mom has done creating her perfect life for herself and her son through all the ups and downs at only 22 years old! Great job, girl!

Were you able to relate to Brynn? Have you or your child had health issues that have challenged you in life? Comment below to tell Young Mom’s Club and Brynn more about what you thought about this article. As always, if you want to share your own story, submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form right now!

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6 Public Speaking Tips- Use these everyday to get Instant Respect!

A few months ago, I teamed up with 7 other moms here in Vegas to start a charity. We call ourselves TMIVegas aka “True Moms in Vegas.” (I will spill all the details about that soon!)

While we’re working on the business side of things and planning the future of our organization, we are spending some time helping out other organizations.

So last weekend, we all volunteered at a good friend of mine, Regina Bailey’s, event “The Someone Cares Self Esteem event and Photo Shoot”. My role was to be a “happiness coordinator” and make sure all the girls were chatting and comfortable. I also volunteered to do hair for the photo shoot.. I love doing hair.

Anyway.. there were 3 speakers lined up and a couple minutes before one speaker was set to go on, she texted Regina that she couldn’t make it. I asked Regina what she was supposed to talk about and she said “Communication”.

I’ve never spoken publicly about communication but I did give a TEDxWomen talk and had been featured in a documentary about public speaking, so I felt confident enough to share what I knew.

I told Regina that I would speak, if she liked, and about 2 minutes later, I was up at the podium, with 20 adolescent girls staring at me, waiting to see if I earned their approval or not.

I even started my 30 minute speech with, “I have no idea what I’m going to say to you right now.” ..Luckily it got better from there..

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I just went with my gut and started telling them the importance of public speaking, even if they felt like they would never have to speak on a stage in their life.

I told them that knowing these public speaking tips was the difference between getting a job or not, getting a loan, landing their dream guy, and ultimately.. earning respect.

After I talked, I had the girls come up to the front, one by one, and we worked on their public speaking.

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I would ask them a few questions and have them answer them normally and then we would talk about what they could change to appear more confident and earn instant respect.

All of the other girls were giving advice to the girl up front.. they started giving each other public speaking tips!

Then after getting feed back, I would ask them to answer the questions again and every single girl progressed by like 5000%. I’m not exaggerating. Ok, maybe a little.

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It was really just incredible to watch these girls blossom and gain more confidence in their speaking abilities, just by learning a few new things.

So in today’s video, I’m sharing with you the same exact 6 Public Speaking tips that I shared with these girls.

They’re super simple, it’s just sometimes we don’t notice that we’re doing- or not doing- certain things.

So what did you think of these tips? I want you to now go and try them out and then report back to me with what kind of a difference it made.

<3 Danielle

Anxiety and Pregnancy

Anxiety and Pregnancy

Wоmеn and bаbіеs hаvе bееn interrelated sіnсе the vеrу beginning. Іt іs а natural рhеnоmеnоn and there is nothing unusual about іt. All young wоmеn want tо bеаr а child оr іn other words, bесоmе а mother. Тhеsе dауs, even for a career woman, the desire to give birth to a child and become a mother is likely to catch up to them and they find that no other joy can ever replace the joy of becoming a mother in the hustle-bustle of everyday life.

Тhеrе аrе sеvеrаl expectant mothers who suffer frоm sеvеrе stress and emotional turmoil and now the question arises… can pregnancy and the anxiety related to becoming a mother equally bring her joy and contentment?

The answer to this question vаrіеs frоm wоmаn tо wоmаn. А раrt оf the past life of the expecting mother is always tо bе brought to light, еsресіаllу when she is going to give birth tо а nеw lіfе.

What things might make it more stressful?

During pregnancy, а wоmаn spends mоst оf hеr tіmе thinking and being drowned in her thoughts mоst оf the time. Тhе соmmоn thoughts during this time аrе, “Wіll hеr newborn bе nоrmаl?” “Wіll shе fаіl аs а mother?” “Wіll hеr bаbу hаvе tо gо through the sаmе рrоblеms аs shе hаd tо gо through іn hеr аdоlеsсеnсе?” Тhіs іs quite ехресtеd аs this іs а рrераrаtоrу stаgе fоr the mother to love the bаbу who іs growing inside hеr womb. Also, hеr bоdу іs preparing tо аdарt and change tо mееt the demands of the nеw lіfе growing inside оf hеr.

Іt іs sееn іn mоst саsеs that аnхіеtу during pregnancy triggers stress in wоmen. Тhе other fасtоrs that might lеаd tо rіgоrоus stress during pregnancy are:

  • Miscarriage – Тhіs shаkеs a woman’s confidence and she tends tо wonder whether shе wіll еvеr ехреrіеnсе the јоу оf becoming a mother and sее hеr bаbу сrу fоr the first tіmе.
  • An uncertain income during the pregnancy
  • An inconsistent relationship with the baby’s father
  • No emotional and/or moral support
  • Unexpected/unwanted pregnancy – A woman may feel this pregnancy might mess up other life plans.

Іt іs essential tо bе mentally stаblе during pregnancy and settle all the worries and doubts with your close friends, family members, and doctors. Іt іs nоt impossible tо dеаl with аnхіеtу in pregnancy. Lіkе other crises оf lіfе, pregnancy and аnхіеtу саn bе vеrу еаsіlу dealt with. Тhе pregnant woman is always the right реrsоn tо dеtеrmіnе what іs bеst fоr hеr bаbу. Νо matter what, аll expectant mothers want to emerge as the best mother they can be and always want to do the best for the welfare of her child.

Ноwеvеr, nоtе that аnхіеtу and pregnancy dо nоt bеаr gооd results for a child. Ѕеvеrаl studіеs rеvеаl the fасt that if the mother is stressful and overly аnхіоus during hеr pregnancy, then hеr bаbу іs bound tо dеvеlор stressful bеhаvіоrs lаtеr іn lіfе. Between the 12th and 23rd wееks, the bаbу іn the mother’s womb is most likely to bе аffесtеd bу іts mother’s stress and аnхіеtу.

What good can come out of it?

Other than harboring sоmе nеgаtіvе thoughts, the expectant mother makes preparations to deal with anxiety and pregnancy. Ѕеvеrаl bоdіlу changes take place during pregnancy.

Оnе оf the mајоr concerns during this tіmе іs whether their аnхіеtу dіsоrdеrs wіll аffесt the unborn and wоrsеn the pregnancy conditions. Also, mothers worry about whether they will be able to take care of the baby properly or not after the baby is born. Whether intake of different mеdісіnеs wіll аffесt the bаbу оr nоt іs аlsо а саusе оf concern. Аll of these thoughts, hоwеvеr, саn еlеvаtе the lеvеls оf stress in the expectant mother.

Тhе following fасts саn оffеr sоmе hоре fоr аnхіеtу and pregnancy:

  • During the pregnancy period and breast feeding period, some medicines for anxiety disorders can actually be safer for the baby than the effects of severe stress and anxiety going untreated.*
  • About 40% of women experience a decrease of the anxiety pattern during pregnancy. However, during postpartum, the set of anxiety symptoms may return.
  • The intake of medicines for anxiety disorders by the expectant mother can potentially help in preventing the development of anxiety disorders in the baby later in life.* If the mother’s symptoms are not treated properly, then it may result in lower birth weight.

*Note: Never take any medication during pregnancy without a recommendation and under the supervision of a medical professional.

 

What can be done during pregnancy to deal with anxiety?

About 10% оf wоmеn dеvеlор аnхіеtу sуmрtоms during pregnancy. Following the stерs bеlоw wіll dеfіnіtеlу hеlр them tо dеаl with the situation in a better way.

  • Ѕееk advice from your doctor about your plans to either become pregnant or tell them that you already are – Тhе dосtоr’s instructions (and possibly medications) wіll hеlр уоu tо dеаl with your аnхіеtу and pregnancy strategically.
  • Bond with your partner in a more strong and intimate way – This will ensure support and love which will help in dealing with the situations in a better way.
  • Relax – Pursue hobbies according to your liking. Talk to your friends, go for walks, practice gardening. All of these activities will divert your mind and keep your stress under control.
  • Open up – Talk openly to your husband/partner and close friends and discuss your causes of stress. This will definitely help!

Young Mom’s Club would like to thank Kelly Smith for contributing her blog post to our site. If you’ve dealt with anxiety during or after your pregnancy, feel free to comment below and let us know what helped you through it! Also, don’t forget to read about Kelly in her mini-bio below…

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The Spotlight is on: Hannah Millet

So we’ve decided to try something new! We would like to welcome Hannah as our first Spotlight Young Mom who is still in the pregnancy stage of motherhood!

Hannah is a pregnant teen who is expecting her first baby and wants to share her story. Read about her story so far and what she has already been dealing with before even having her son.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m 17 years old and 6 months pregnant to the wonderful Remi James. His dad isn’t in our lives, but we have tons of love from the rest of my family .

Teen Mom Hannah Millet Baby PicWhat were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When I found out I was pregnant I had severe depression. I said I would kill myself before I had a baby. I didn’t want to have that lifestyle of being a young mom. When I saw my first ultrasound, the snot and tears poured out like a river. Now, after 5 months, I couldn’t be happier being pregnant. Remi saved my life from possible suicide and definitely saved me from cutting and other self harms to myself.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

Pedicures are a must have for relaxing! The people who do my nails are always asking about the baby. I also enjoy taking long baths with the water below my belly, of course.

What are your favorite things about being a mom

My favorite thing is laying on my back and feeling the baby kick and move. Also the cute clothes and toys, of course .

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I hope to be a successful hairdresser and makeup artist and I hope to do makeup for celebrities and such.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Don’t let people’s stares bother you. They’re gonna look at you and whisper about your belly, but don’t let that bother you. Another thing is don’t let people call you stupid. You made a mistake. Your intelligence level or IQ has nothing to do with if you’re young or not. Everyone makes mistakes and anyone who has sex can become pregnant. Condoms break, things happen. You’re not dumb, you made a mistake that anyone can make.

Congratulations to Hannah and we can’t wait to meet Remi! I’m sure that you’re going to be a great mama and he will be the light of your life when you meet him.

Are you a pregnant teen who is expecting their first baby soon? Are you a young mom who wants to share their feelings with Hannah about when you were pregnant? We would love to hear your comments in the section below…

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Going from Teen Mom to Super Strong

Teen moms have the potential to become some of the strongest women in the world.

That’s a hefty claim but I stand behind it 100%.

maltese puppyThe reason is because it is impossible to become strong without going through many challenges.

Just like you go to the gym and struggle through a workout to build a muscle, you work through personal struggles to become emotionally stronger.

And teen moms go through a TON of struggles.. can I get an Amen??

In today’s video, I’m going to explain all the reasons why you need to break down first in order to get stronger and tell you the formula that you need to be able to fully heal.

 

“Teen moms have the potential to become some of the strongest women in the world.” -Click to Tweet this out!

Now take a minute to leave a comment and tell me what kind of struggle you’re in and what you are going to do to come out of it stronger than you’ve ever been.

<3 Danielle

 

 

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TIOT: How to Handle People Who Think Young Moms are Incapable

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you handle people who think you are incapable of being a mom because of your age?”

It can be really hard to feel adequate when you are a young mom. So many people will put doubt into your mind about if you’re really capable of being the best mom since you’re a teenager or a very young adult. So we shared the question of a YMC follower and got some positive reinforcement! Check it out:

 

IG User misskioiIG User @misskioi says…

There is no difference between a thirty year old first time mom & a 16-year old one. Well, any significant difference. The only difference I see is that when you’re a bit older, you probably have a decent job and can provide for your child without that much of a grand hustle. But see, a child is not raised by the material things you provide. A child is raised by love. Your ability to love is what determines whether or not you will be a good mother. With love, you will strive to be the best you can in order to provide for your baby, you will spend every minute you can with your baby, creating a strong motherly bond. The capacity of love and the ability to love & care for your child knows no age, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. You can do it. You will make mistakes, yes. But each day is a new day, to learn new things, love your child more, to provide better, and to being a better mom than the day before.  🙂

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IG User @augustxorae says…

I’m 19 and a lot of people thought I was too young and immature to have a child. I am 19 with a 7 month old, I’m my 5th month of nursing school… I have 7 months left and I’ll be able to support me and my son. I am proving EVERYONE wrong. Teen moms are amazing!

 

 

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IG User @yohelisa_ says…

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first daughter. I didn’t know it all, but everyday I learned something new. And of course loving my daughter and taking care of her everyday (she is now 8 years old) made me a great mom. Just don’t pay attention to what people think or say. You are the mom and you know what you do better than them…

 

 

 

IG User ChristinamayhemIG User @christinamayhem says…

Remember that their opinions don’t matter and that what they think does not mean that you are a bad mother or will be! Let their comments be your ammunition! Prove them wrong, not just to show them that teen moms do not mean ‘bad moms’, but for yourself as well! When I got pregnant, a lot of people put me down and discouraged me, but when my daughter was born several of them told me how surprised that they were of how great of a mom I am and how much I do for my baby. It really makes you feel good and proud of yourself! 🙂  I used to be embarrassed or think twice about going out in public because of the looks and comments I would get from people. Now I am much more confident and don’t pay attention to them. I know what I am capable of, and no one is going to make me second guess myself!!! We are women, we are strong!!

Despite all the judgement, our young moms have proven that they can do anything just as well as anybody else! You ladies kick ass! Have you faced people who thought you were going to be a bad mother or just incapable of caring for your child? Did people try to to knock you down when you were pregnant or even after you had your baby? Let us know in the comments.

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below if you have a story about how you proved yourself as a teen mother or if these girls helped you!

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A letter to a teen who just found out she’s pregnant; one step at a time

This featured guest blog is definitely something young moms and pregnant teens can relate to. We are so happy that Melissa Monk, one of our previous “Spotlight Young Moms”, allowed us to share her blog written as a heartfelt letter directly to pregnant teenagers.

Dear teen,

PREGNANT reads the words on the test, confirming your worst fear. Take a deep breath, and let it soak in. I know you’re scared. I know that your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty. Your mind is jumping to a million places.. Just close your eyes and take another deep breath. And know that it’s okay to cry.. Its okay to be scared and not know what to doyou’re not alone in this.

The world is screaming at you, “How could you be so stupid, you’ve ruined your life. Your child is a mistake. You’re never going to amount to anything, and neither will your child.” But that’s not true, beautiful. Little does the world know this was a part of your plan all along. You were always meant to be a mother.

YOU will amount to something. YOU and your child will go places in this life, but only if you work hard enough for it. YOU are not stupid for having sex. Its a natural human instinct, and the fact that you became pregnant is NOT a mistake. Your child is NOT a “mistake” or an “accident”.

This may not be the way you’ve planned your life to go, or how you saw yourself starting a family, but what’s done is done. Your baby did not ruin your future, it gave you a new one.. A brighter one. Your age, marital status, weight, height, race, or religion does NOT determine the quality of mother that can and will be. YOU determine that.. there is no magical maturity switch that flips when you turn 20, and being young does NOT predispose you to being a “bad mother”. Do not let the world limit you by forcing you into a statistic, making you feel not good enough.

And if you’re worried about your child’s father not sticking around.. Let him leave. Let him be the one to miss out on all of the non replaceable moments with your child. It’s not your fault, or your child’s fault at all that he is not man enough to take responsibility. Do not waste your precious energy chasing after him. If he is meant to be in your life he will be. GOD will put him there. Just like he did with your baby. It’s better for your child to have no father, than to have a “half ass” father who pops in and out of its life all the time. One day he will regret walking away, but you won’t regret letting him.

As hard as it is to ask for help, please dont ever be afraid to ask for it. Its okay to admit that you need help. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you need guidance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be more knowledgeable to better not only your life, but your children’s life as well. There are so many resources in the community willing to help you whether it be government assistance, childcare resources, support groups/clubs, parenting classes, scholarships and financial aid for college or even just therapy to help you get through this life changing event. You just have to be willing to get out there and find it.

Being a teen/young mother is hard. Believe me, I had many nights where I was ready to throw in the towel and rip my hair out. But its not impossible to get through those moments. The good and happy moments that you will have with your child the rest of its life will outweight the bad by millions. A year from now, you’ll look back and be so happy and proud of how far you’ve come. As long as you always remember to fight to be the best mother you can be, you’ll make it through just fine.

Are you ready for this life long adventure through motherhood? Its okay to answer no right now because if you’re not ready right this moment, you’ve got 9 short months to prepare yourself. But you’ll get there. Motherhood is a natural human instinct. Try not to worry so much about the future right now and just take it one step at a time. Good luck and congratulations Mother, motherhood has been waiting for you!

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Wow. Melissa, this truly is an incredible insight into motherhood and a great letter to pregnant young women to tell the truth of having a child young and to remind us that we aren’t alone, even when we feel like we are. If you loved this blog post, share it and don’t forget to comment below and tell us!

Also, if you like this post, check out Melissa Monk’s Spotlight and check her out online:

 

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How Kristen Marie Leimann Did It

Getting ready to help her daughter with through her pregnancy and motherhood, find out how Kristen Marie was able to write her success story as a young mom herself.

Find out how a teen mom coming from a broken home made sure to do everything she could to make sure her daughter had a better life and was able to turn her own life into a wonderful story with a happy ending!

Family Pic Kristen LeimannTell us about yourself and your family:

Happily married, my husband and I have raised my daughter together since she was 6 years old. We recently purchased our first home together in Hesperia California. My daughter, Alicia, who is turning 18 next month, will start Victor Valley College in the Fall. Alicia and her boyfriend are expecting a baby in December. It’s amazing how quickly life changes. A few months ago, all I had on my mind was purchasing her a car and her going to college. Now we are focusing on baby proofing our home!

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

Teen Mom Kristen Leimann Age 17As a teen mom, which feels like many moons ago, it was a completely different life for me then. I do not even know who that person was, to tell you the truth. I have three phases in which my life made positive turns. A little back ground: I was not raised in a stable, guided home. I lived with my mom and stepdad in a very violent, drug-induced home. At 14 years old, I was free to do how I pleased and didn’t think twice about my future. My whole life was centered around my boyfriend (Alicia’s dad) so after having a baby at 15, her dad, who was 18, ended up in prison for drugs and probation violations. When I delivered, luckily I was able to go live with his mother who would end up being the person and the first phase that changed my life. She showed me a strong, educated woman and that there was more to life than what I had known. However, after 2 years of supporting us she was unable to continue and I had to move back home with my mom, which is where the next turning point in my life came.

Young mom and daughter picI had attempted to sign up for high school but I had dropped back out because I did not have someone to care for Alicia when I was going to school. I was later contacted by the Riverside school district and introduced to a teen parent program. Up until that point, I was a 17 year old with a 2 year old and barely 15 high school credits. At Abraham Lincoln High School I would be able to bring my daughter with me. It was such a positive experience. All of the teachers pushed me so hard and they truly encouraged and guided me, showing me that being educated would be the only way for me to change our lives. It was then that I was truly motivated to set goals and accomplish something great. I was able to complete four years of school in merely two years. I graduated only a year later than my original graduation date and, to top it off, I was able to receive a few (small) scholarships and go to Riverside Community College. I knew that I was showing my daughter something special.

Fast forward a few years and I met my husband and found my job which would be the financial and third turning point in my life (around 2002). My husband showed me that I could be loved, even with a child, and he showed me how to be responsible, pay my bills, and build my credit up so that we could one day buy a home. My work was something I was good at and showed me that I could work hard and get somewhere. I have been with my company for 12 years now, starting as order entry and working up to an Operations Manager. I love going to work and I love problem solving. I went from having ZERO dreams to having accomplished the lifestyle that I never knew existed. I am truly fortunate to have found myself through all of the emptiness and to find a support system, meeting all of the encouraging people that would change my life.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?Nana Rose Alicia and Myself

Many girls end up raising their baby on their own. They either do it alone or with the support of their family. But some girls go into it thinking they will have him by their side and then are devastated when it doesn’t happen the way they intended. Structure is the best tool you can provide.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

You will always run into negative people. Surround yourself with positive people, educate yourself, stay in school , push yourself hard for your baby, and when you think you have given it all you could, push and give more!

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I love working out and going to the gym, that is my ME time. I enjoy getting pedicures and shopping. I love seeing a glowing pregnant girl who looks happy. I did not have a “pretty” pregnancy so when I see those girls it makes me happy. It’s so important to embrace your pregnancy and dress cute. I already spoil my daughter with pretty clothes so she can look her best.

Kristen Leimann Thanksgiving FamilyWhat are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that despite my upbringing and being such a young mom, I was able to provide my daughter with a loving, stable, positive life. I love that my daughter knows she can always depend on me and that I will always be there for her. I love knowing I showed her something positive. She is my only child and I always thought of having another one but didn’t. But now I get to have a little one to spoil! <3

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

I continue to be a part of the company I work for, but I am looking forward to a home business with my husband. I am really just embracing the thought of helping my daughter and her boyfriend raise a beautiful baby girl.

How exciting to go from being a successful young mom to being able to support your daughter having a child of her own! What a great job Kristen has done and good luck with your new grandbaby! 🙂

Can you relate to Kristen’s story? You can be a successful and happy young mom too, just like her! If you have feedback for her, make sure you let her know in the comments below. And don’t forget if you have a story like hers, you could be the next featured “How She Did It” mama! Sign up HERE and don’t forget to SIGN UP for the Young Mom’s Club!

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The Secret to Success is having a Great Threesome

secret to success picWanna know what the Secret to Success is?

It’s having an awesome threesome.

I’m serious!!

Watch today’s video to find out why I love having threesomes and how you can plan yours out, too!

OK So now if you watched the video or if you skipped ahead (cheater!) then you know that your Threesome is your Mentor, Role Model and Cheerleader.

But before you go, I want to know from you which of these roles you already have in place and which you still need to seek out. Let’s chat about it in the comments.

Here’s to your success, beautiful!! <3 Danielle

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TIOT: How to Tell Your Parents You’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do I tell my parents that I’m pregnant?”

This is one of the harder questions that teen moms-to-be have and we thought we should help this pregnant teen so she didn’t feel alone. Here is what our followers had to say to help her to prepare for one of the hardest conversations of her life…

IG User mylife_ft.baileyabigailIG User @mylife_ft.baileyabigail:

My dad lived 19 hours away and was at summer camp for the National Guard when I told him. I definitely should have picked a different way to tell him, I texted him, and I regret it. I lived with my mom so I told her face to face and she cried for days. My mom was 19 when she got pregnant with me. I was 17 when I got pregnant. She just kept telling me she didn’t want me to go through what she went through because she knew how hard it was. If I could go back and change how I told them, I would. No parent wants to see their teenager pregnant and struggling with that, so there is no EASY way to tell them. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just sit them down and just straight up tell them.

 

IG User raisingzofia

IG User @raisingzofia says…

My mom knew because I was NOT acting like my usual self. My dad lived 15 hours away and my mom texted him and told him. My husband’s mom already knew because she heard me vomiting in the mornings. LOL.  His dad got a text from us because his dad lived 7 hours away.

 

 

 

 

IGIG User hunterlitt3 User @hunterlitt3 says…
My boyfriend at the time and I told all four of our parents at the same time. We went out to dinner at one of our favorite places and we told them. My parents were unhappy and so were my ex’s. My dad got so mad he made a huge scene at the restaurant, broke a few things, and left. He had my uncle come and get him. My mom started crying and so did my ex’s. My ex’s dad was just like, “cool, whatever, Carmen is just going to raise it on her own I already know.” I was really mad about that because I knew it wouldn’t be true so I told him to leave and I didn’t want to see him again, ever. The moms were crying with both madness and happiness. My dad kicked me out of my house and didn’t talk to me until the baby was born. Eventually me and my ex did break up and he wasn’t there for any of it. If I could go back and change the way I told them, I would in a snap!

 

IG User ryliehall

IG User @ryliehall says…

I actually told my mom the adult way, I went to her house and told her. I even asked what she think I should do (not abortion! But I didn’t know if I could raise a baby….) She told me that my baby was for me and I would choose correctly for their life. She always told me, “if you get pregnant I’ll kill you!” but when it came down to it, she was, and is, there for me every step of the way <3

 

 

IG User __leexxiii____

 

IG User @__leexxiii____ says…

I told my mom on the phone too actually… and I should have done it face to face, but I was scared of her reaction and afraid to see disappointment. Turns out she was happier than I could have imagined. I would definitely sit both parents down (probably in public at lunch or something just in case someone doesn’t take it well) and say, “I’m pregnant, happy, and this is a blessing. Hope you’re happy for me” and hopefully they will all be there for you guys and the baby. Everyone needs the support!

 

IG User ah_rel_ee

IG User @ah_rel_ee says…

Well for me, when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I first talked it out. We set up a schedule if we had the baby. Once we were set on keeping the baby no matter what, we sent in for a counselor conference at my school. I was mostly concerned for his parents’ reaction, but I knew my mom would be supportive because I saw how that was with my older sister. They all caught my boyfriend and I by surprise. They were happy to see a new life begin and offered any of help we needed, and the counselors even told us that it’s the best reaction they have seen from any parents whose teen told them that a baby is on the way. I’m actually happy how I told both the parents. We needed everyone’s support to do it.

 IG User carradefuchiee

 

IG User @carradefuchiee says…

I honestly wish I knew ahead of time. My mom noticed I was prego before I did. She got me a dollar test and said, “Pee on it. You’ve been eating stuff you don’t like”. LOL. I took it thinking I wasn’t, but two minutes passed and I read the box 3 times and was shocked and came out and said I’m pregnant. She said, “OMG”! She was a little disappointed ’cause I had to do it alone because my baby’s dad was cheating on me, but it was the best experience.

 

 

IG User jasminef80

IG User @jasminef80 says…

I waited until I was 6 months along. I was scared and selfish. The uncertainty scared me the most. When I told my parents I waited until my dad was out of town and just told my mom one on one and let her tell him. Looking back it might have been better to tell them together face to face but it allowed my dad time to get the right words before we spoke and he was very gentle and forgiving when we did speak by phone. The fears began to melt away when I knew they were there to help me through every step of the way. It’s a very hard conversation but it’s one of the first grown-up things you will have to do of many when entering into parenthood.

 

 

IG User abbylockyerrr

IG User @abbylockyerrr says…

Well, I missed my period for 2 months or so when my now ex-boyfriend noticed my stomach was a little bit bigger than usual. I knew right then that I was pregnant and we kept it between us. Then I ate some cottage cheese with a pickle for the spoon, (it was so good) and out of nowhere I threw up! So I went and told my mom that I threw up and that I thought I was sick, and she said “well maybe you’re pregnant” and I was just like, no way. So then she went to work and me and my dad talked and he asked me if I had unprotected sex in the last month. I said yeah and he was like well, there you go! I sat in my room for a while and the next day I woke up and went to my mom’s room and she was like “I got you a pregnancy test, it’s in the bathroom”. I had to pee soooo bad, but I pretended like I didn’t to avoid taking the test because I was so terrified about the fact that she was going to find out I was having sex, and not the sole fact that I was pregnant! But it came out positive and I BOLTED out of the bathroom. She looked at the test and then we went out to eat and didn’t talk, but then we got in the car and we discussed my options. I decided immediately that I was going to keep the baby, and now almost 13 months later I have my beautiful 3 month old daughter Fiona Mae. I am not ashamed or regretful in any way #NOTEENSHAME❤

 

IG User christinamayhem

IG User @christinamayhem says…

I remember feeling like my period was going to start (sore boobs, cramps, etc.) but it just never came. I decided to tell my mom I thought I could be pregnant and she bought me two tests and I took them in the bathroom early morning and showed her. She immediately told me I had to get an abortion and was furious when I refused. I didn’t end up telling me stepfather until I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant (my mom told him) and he made me clean every day and do chores, telling me that if I decided to have an abortion I could stop and things would go back to normal. He made my life a living hell my whole pregnancy but I already loved my baby so much, there was no giving up. I didn’t tell my dad until I was 7 months pregnant (we don’t talk a lot). After my baby was born, I moved in with her father’s family and later on ended up leaving him because he cheated on/abused me. Now I have a new boyfriend and I work hard for a good life for myself and my daughter Cloudy Bell 🙂  #noregrets #thestruggleisworthit My advice would be to sit your family down and tell them with your boyfriend (if he’s around), firmly state that you are keeping your baby and that you would appreciate their support. Being straight up with them is the best way! #staystrong

 

IG User mariah_emmys_mommyIG User @mariah_emmys_mommy says…

I didn’t end up telling my mom until I was 3 and 1/2 months along, and the only reason she even knew was because she had found the test. She was very angry with me and she wanted me to give it up for adoption. After fighting with her for about an hour, she promised me she would not tell my dad about the baby until I wanted to. Somehow my younger brother Mike found out and told my dad. I came home from baby shopping with my girlfriends one day and he was furious. He started hitting and yelling and he told me if I didn’t get an abortion he would kick me out. I told him if he was going to act this way he better not expect to be any part of this baby’s life. He ordered me in the car and we drove to my boyfriends house. After my boyfriend found out he promised he would help out with the baby. But just before I was actually going to give birth, he broke up with me and completely denied that she was his child. I didn’t need a DNA test. I knew she was his because I had never in my life slept with anyone else but him. If you’re pregnant, the best way to tell your parents is to sit down with them and be honest. Tell them you want to keep the baby.

IG User ashleybellab

 

IG User @ashleybellab says…

I was very athletic so it wasn’t uncommon for me to miss multiple periods in a row, I was 5 months pregnant when I passed out twice in one day so my mom took me to the doctor and that pee test in a cup came out positive.

 

These young moms have opened our eyes to so many different experiences when it comes to sharing the news of pregnancies with their families. We appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share with our pregnant young mommy-to-be!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you want to share your story about how you broke the news to your family!