worst reasons to stay in relationship

Top 5 Worst Reasons to stay in a Relationship

Many times when I talk to a young mom about her relationship, she’s very unhappy.

When I ask her why she is staying in the relationship, I get an array of excuses. I’ve seriously heard them all.

worst reasons to staySo in today’s video, I’m going to tell you what I think are the top 5 Worst Reasons to stay in a Relationship.

(some of these might surprise you..)


So now I want to know.. Have you ever stayed in an unhealthy relationship because of any of these reasons?

Do you have any other worst reasons to stay in a relationship to add to the list?

Let me know in the comments..

To recap, here are my top 5 worst reasons to stay in a relationship:

  1.  Time- Whether you’ve been together 7 days, 7 months or 7 years, the amount of time served is never a good enough reason to stay.
  2. Guilt- You might feel bad about ending a relationship either because you think the other person “needs you” or you “owe them” but these are not good enough reasons. The only person you owe anything to is yourself and you deserve happiness. I talk more about putting yourself first in this video.
  3. Loneliness- It can be scary to think about being alone, especially if you’ve been in a relationship a long time, but it’s actually really empowering to be single and spend time alone. You get to really know yourself and see how strong you actually are.
  4. Stuff- Thinking about having to figure out and fight over everything you own can seem overwhelming and seem like more trouble than to just stay together, but really, it’s just stuff. Staying because of material possessions is just dumb.
  5. The Kids- This is definitely the #1 reason I hear. Sooo many people stay in unhappy relationships “for the kids”, but trust me, you’re not doing them any favors by staying together. It’s way better for kids to grow up seeing a happy mom and a happy dad, living separately, than to grow up only having an unhealthy relationship as their only example.

So that’s it for today! If you liked this post be sure to share it 🙂 and let’s continue this conversation in the comments…

<3 Danielle

 

make people like you

Make People like You with 1 Simple Trick!

Wanna know the 1 thing you can do to make people like you instantly??

danielle ford malchi dog It has nothing to do with what you look like, what you wear, who people think you are.. or any of that nonsense.

It’s actually really super easy and it’s just that not a lot of people do it.

You know when you meet a person and you just know right away whether you like them or not? You probably don’t actually realize what it is they’re doing that makes you want to get to know them better and be their friend.

In today’s video, I’ll tell you the one simple trick you can do to be that person that people instantly like.

After you watch be sure to participate in the challenge I give you at the end and report back!

 


Ready.. set… Make people like you! 🙂

<3 Danielle

TIOT: Home Remedies for Kids

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Do you have any home remedies for when your kids are sick?”

I know there is nothing in the world worse than having sick kiddos. It’s especially horrible when they’re so little that they can’t even tell you what’s wrong. There are tons of doctor appointments, medications, tissues, tears, and snuggles when our babies aren’t feeling well. But what else can we do? Here are some home remedies that YMC followers shared with us:

Instagram User sabaah96

 

IG User @sabaah96 says…

Nothing like a hot honey and lemon water to soothe a cold/sore throat!

 

 

 

Instagram User ambertheal

IG User @ambertheal says…

I steep ginger with lemons in hot water. Then let cool to lukewarm and add a touch of honey  and get my son to drink it. Works so well for sore throats and for upset tummies. For stuffed up noses and chest congestion, I run the hot water in the shower and sit with him in the bathroom. The hot steam helps loosen everything up.

 

 

FB User Holly Udy Patino

 

FB User Holly Udy Patiño says…

I use garlic/mullein oil for ear infections and it seriously works! I’d say it is just as effective as antibiotics without ruining your child’s gut health. I also use oregano essential oil (mixed with coconut oil) since it’s a natural antibiotic and it’s also antiviral. It’s great for just about any illness! I just mix it with coconut oil and put it at the bottom of my daughter’s feet (this way it quickly gets absorbed into the body) and then put socks on. I am amazed at how effective it is! (if my daughter has an ear infection, I use this in addition to the garlic/mullein oil in the ears)

 

Instagram User lindsayloowoo3

IG User @lindsayloowoo3 says…

Vicks VapoRub on the bottom of their feet with socks. Clears the nose every time!

 

 

Instagram User bronobell

 

IG User @bronobell says…

I use Echinaforce. It works like a charm for colds & flu. A couple of drops in their drinks for a day or two and they’re sorted.

 

 

Instagram User boob.e.life

 

IG User @boob.e.life says…
Eucalyptus oil and sitting in a steaming bathroom with baby works wonders!

 

 

Thanks mommies! You girls had some awesome ideas and I’m sure we all learned new ways to help our little loves to feel better the next time they’re sick! If you have a home remedy that you swear by that wasn’t mentioned here, make sure to leave it in the comments below!

Don’t forget to share this post AND if you’re a young mom or a teen mom with mama drama in your life… TALK IT OUT! Submit your question or problem anonymously HERE and we’ll feature it on an upcoming Talk it out Tuesday.

What do Single Fathers Look for in a Girl-

What do Single Fathers Look For in a Girl?

We all know dating and finding the right guy can be a challenge when you’re a single mom. But what about when you’re a single dad?

We don’t spend a lot of time focusing on single dads here at Young Mom’s Club, but we know it can be difficult to find the right kind of woman that you want to date and to feel comfortable introducing to your kids. We wanted to know what qualities guys are looking for in a partner when they’re on the dating scene and this is what they had to say:

 

nick single dad

Nick Brannigan believes his perfect woman should have these qualities:

 If they have children they kids are as polite, respectful and well behaved as mine.
Respects her body. Workouts out on a regular basis and has good dietary habits.
Genuinely sweet person.
Likes kids (duh!)
Consciouspreneur mindset


Evan Louie looks for these things in a partner:

Has strong family values (if she is single) and bonds well with children.
Kind, compassionate, caring, and nurturing.
Intelligent, responsible, and ambitious (my own personal traits I look for).
Knows how to have fun and a sense of humor. It takes a playful sense to be around children.
Is open minded and sees a broader sense of the world. She can pass that ideology to my child.

evan single dad


brian single dad

Brian Burge believes that his ideal woman should be:

Down to earth
Open minded
Kind-hearted
Adventurous
Trustworthy



Rory Byrne believes that the most important thing in a partner is:

Someone with similar goals and lifestyle.
A person that appreciates my child.
Someone who isn’t afraid to have the family expansion talk (this should take place sooner than later).
I have found the love part is temporarily the most important. Its after that you find if you can be good business partners.
To find someone that loves me for me.

rory byrne single dad


adam boaz single dad

Adam Boaz has become more guarded after he separated from his son’s mother so he looks for:

Someone who will love my son because he comes first.
Has to have a strong, loving character.
Must have a lot of patience.
A “motherly” instinct or quality (but doesn’t necessarily have to already be a mother).
No more girls who are still in their “partying” phase!

 

So, ladies, do you think that you have what it takes to date a single dad? Thanks so much to the guys who shared with us and gave us an inside look at what single fathers are really looking for! If you’re a single guy with kids who is reading this and you have something to add that might be on your list, comment below and let us know. We would love to hear what other dads have to say on the subject! 🙂

getting things done

Getting Things Done (How to do it ALL!)

Do you ever wonder how other moms seem to always be getting things done?

People ask me all the time “How do you do it all?” or “Do you ever sleep?

danielle ford getting things doneBesides having Young Moms Club and SocialLights Video, I also am a Cub Scout Leader, I’m on the school PTO, I have a long distance boyfriend, I’m starting a charity with 7 other moms called TMIVegas, I have a weekly mastermind group, my kids have soccer and gymnastics, my dog has obedience school. And on top of all that, there’s no dad around to help. I’m the only person who takes the kids to and from school and all their activities.

OK after typing it all out, it does seem like a lot.

But when I really think about it, I do have time for it all. Besides a few scheduling conflicts here and there, I make it all work. And I do sleep. I sleep like a baby at night and take naps when I feel like it.

So what’s my secret to getting things done? I’ll tell you all about it in today’s video.

After watching be sure to let me know what you can change to start getting things done 🙂

<3 Danielle

TIOT: How To Tell Your Parents You Need Space

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you let your parents know you can handle being a mom and need space to learn and figure things out on your own?”

Becoming a young mom isn’t easy and at first your parents want to help you A LOT! But after a few months you finally have the ropes figured out and it can be really hard to tell your parents that it’s time for them to back off and give you some breathing room! We don’t want to hurt their feelings, but at the same time we want to have the room to parent our own kids. Here’s some advice from other young moms who have been there:

IG USER azaleas_momma

 

IG User @azaleas_momma says…

Talk to your parents. Let them know how you feel and your point of view. You are a parent now yourself. We all make mistakes but have to learn from them. Be an adult and talk to them in a respectful way, that they won’t get offended. Good luck momma!

 

IG USER mommyofkyree

 

 

IG User @mommyofkyree says…

My boyfriend’s mother is the epitome of this. We have tried so many times to respectfully ask her to let us learn but she takes it to heart and gets offended then walks around like she has an attitude. We still haven’t found a solution to this problem.

 

IG USER eli_jade

 

 

IG User @eli_jade says…

There is no way! LMAO. My boyfriend’s mom thinks I’m back talking & have attitude and threatens to kick us out. You just have to ignore it or walk away.

 

 

So, it seems like this is a very common issue AND apparently not an easy one to find a solution to! I, personally, remember dealing with this when my first daughter was younger and time did help. I think my mom just had to realize that I was capable over time.

Do you have any advice for all these young moms and the teen mom who originally asked this question? If you do, leave us a comment! I’m sure we would all LOVE to hear any other comments or expert guidance on dealing with our parents.

Also, if you need help with something or just want to get some advice with a problem in your life, make sure you fill out our form so we can post your question for next week’s Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and don’t forget… comment below!

kim negri

The Spotlight is on: Kim Negri

It’s time to meet… me! Wanna get into the life of a YMC admin? Here’s your sneak peek into my crazy life raising two beautiful daughters.

Being an admin for Young Mom’s Club has been one of the most humbling experiences of my life. I am amazed every day by the stories that come in from all of our inspiring young moms, so I felt that it was time for me to share my story. I can tell you my road has NOT been an easy one, but I wouldn’t change a thing. My life story will definitely not fit into a spotlight article, but here are the highlights….

Tell us about yourself and your family:kim and matt

My name is Kim. I live in Orange County, CA where I am raising my two daughters with my awesome boyfriend, Matt. My oldest daughter, Krystal, is going to be 12 this month and is a 7th grader (gulp!) while my “baby” Mia is only 6 and just started first grade this year. Matt is actually my best friend of 16 years and he is so supportive and loving that you would never know he isn’t the girls’ dad. I have had my share of challenges in my life, especially having Krystal in high school when I was only 17, but my kids have changed my life and really helped me grow up into the person I’m supposed to be.

Krystal’s dad seemed to want to be involved at first, but then was withdrawn for years and denied her. He eventually came around after getting a DNA test and definitely did his best as a father with his fiancee. Unfortunately, that bond was broken when both he and his fiancee passed away, all within a year of each other. I was married to Mia’s dad, but we divorced because he had alcohol issues and got another girl pregnant and ended up being unfaithful. He is around and sees Mia regularly, but we have a lot of struggles on having similar parenting values.

kim and the girlsI’ve been working since I was 15 1/2 and just recently got laid off, so this is the first time I get to be a SAHM. My boyfriend insists that I take the time to focus on school and being able to spend more time with the kids since I’ve always had to put those things on the back burner to make a living to provide for my girls. I run our Etsy store part time for fun and couldn’t be more grateful that I have the opportunity to try new things right now. Plus I love being able to contribute to YMC and spend so much time getting to know so many young moms who have been through hardships too.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

kim at 17I was all over the place when I was younger, getting kicked out of high schools, hanging out with lots of drug addicts, partying, and just not really caring about my future at all. I actually found out I was pregnant when I went to juvenile hall for assault and it was one of the most terrifying moments in my life. I actually told the nurse she was wrong… until she showed me the test. At that point, I was so worried about what I was going to do with a kid at 17 and I had to call my mom and explain to her why I was in jail AND that I was going to have a baby. I wasn’t even the type to babysit so I was worried I wouldn’t know how to be a mom.

My mom ended up wanting me to have an abortion or consider adoption. When she knew that wasn’t something I’d consider, she assumed I would stay with Krystal’s dad, but I knew that he wasn’t ready to grow up. She was super supportive of my decisions and helped me raise Krystal every step of the way. I am so grateful for her support and unconditional love for me and both of my kids. At one point, when I was living in my car and married to a drug addict, she even took Krystal to live with her briefly so I could feel secure that my baby would be safe until I could get back on my feet and break away from my ex.kims robots

Despite all of my fears and all of the ups and downs that have happened in the last 12 years (too much to write), I am so glad that I have two incredible daughters who teach me things everyday. I know I’m not perfect but I can hold my head up high and know that I am setting an example for my girls that I can be proud of.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

Honestly, I am a workaholic so I don’t know how to relax! When I have time away from homework, school, running errands, driving the kids around to karate, gymnastics, Girl Scouts, piano lessons, and band practice… I love to do NOTHING!  🙂  Aside from just relaxing at home, I like taking the kids thrift shopping and to estate sales (we’re girls, we love to shop!), we go to carnivals, get our nails done, and try to find offbeat places to try new things as much as possible.

kim family movie nightMy boyfriend and I do our best to go on date nights. We love to cook together when we can’t get out of the house and we try to catch a movie out when we can. If not, we usually end up glued to a show we’re addicted to on Netflix or Call of Duty Black Ops on Xbox! We like to nerd out… what can I say?

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love watching my kids accomplish their goals, big and small. Whenever they do something they are proud of, the looks on their faces makes me so much prouder than I ever thought I could be. Seeing them when they get along and aren’t arguing (like sisters do) is the most heartwarming feeling ever. I can’t help but smile every time I catch them being adorable when they think nobody is looking. I can’t wait to be a part of all of my kids’ life experiences, the good and the bad… and I love knowing that I did something right in life to make kim and girls ice skatingtwo beautiful, smart, and amazing daughters.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In 5 years, I see myself getting married to my boyfriend and living in a house. I’ll be working in my dream career as a Substance Abuse Counselor after getting my B.S.W. and getting ready to decide if I’ll go for my Master’s Degree. Maybe I’ll even own my own business by then! I see myself helping Krystal get ready to apply for scholarships and choosing a college and helping Mia prepare for middle school and crying because my babies aren’t babies anymore… LOL

I don’t feel that ANY obstacles in my past, present, or future will ever cause me to have to not pursue my dreams. Once I finish school and work for a while in my dream career and the kids are grown and away at college, I plan to retire with my boyfriend, buy an RV and hit the road! All I want to do in life is travel around the country with no limits on time and then venture out to experience life in parts of Europe, like Italy, France, and Spain. Life is too short to miss out on all the world has to offer!

family photo kim nWhat advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Don’t get anything get you down! There are always going to be critics in life but you can’t change them, so all you can do is keep your focus and make sure that you keep your head held high. If they’re passing judgement on you and you know their opinions are based on rumors and stuff that isn’t true, then don’t get it get to you!

The most important things you can do for yourself and your children is to follow your dreams, have a good work ethic, always care about other people, and remember to be open-minded and compassionate. The best way to raise children who will be successful in life is to lead by example. Even though we make mistakes in life, don’t let yourself be defined by them.

 I hope that my story will help teen moms and other young moms who are doubting themselves or worried about being a good mom to their kids. Leave a comment below if something in my story was easy to relate to or if you have anything else to say!

Don’t forget, we always want to have other young moms share their stories, so submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form and you could be next!

fathers last name

Should you always use the Father’s Last Name?

In today’s Figure it Out Friday video, I’m answering a question that a viewer named Sarah asked.

She asked if I thought she should give her son the father’s last name or hers?

danielle ford video picShe was married but she’s divorcing and she didn’t want to have to deal with her ex the rest of her life.

So in the video I tell my own thoughts on the matter. I give my personal opinion, as well as some definite rules to follow regardless of personal opinion.

I also talk about what it was like growing up with 2 different last names. (My mom and my dad BOTH insisted on me having their last name and I didn’t have a very strong identity because of it).

You can imagine how easy it was for me to drop both of them when I got married and take his last name, FORD. Only 4 letters. Perfect.

Watch the video and then let me know what you think.. should it always be the father’s last name? What are the exceptions?

<3 Danielle

 

 

TIOT Blog Post- Birthing Stories

TIOT: Giving Birth as a Young Mom

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Do you have a birthing story to share with an expectant young mom?”

Pregnancy can be scary at any age, but especially as a young, pregnant teen. One of our followers wanted to know if any of the other young moms out there have birthing stories that they could share with us. So we asked… and you answered! Here are a few of the stories:

 

abbylockyerrr IG User

IG User @abbylockyerrr says… I was 3 days past my due date, and my mom and I had been out all day shopping, after we got home I started having mild contractions, I was already 5 cm dilated and I thought this could be it! I got to the triage and they checked me, still only 5 cm, so they had me walk around the hospital for an hour and a half. They checked me again and I was 7 1/2 cm! I was so excited. So they put me in a room and I waited.. and waited.. And guess what? Waited! Haha. Around 1 am my midwife broke my water. I started having labor around an hour later, so I got some medicine in my IV and I fell asleep for a little, then I woke up having to poop around 4 am. I bolted to the toilet and barely anything came out so the nurse had to get me off the toilet and my midwife checked me and I was 10 cm and they had me start pushing, I pushed for about 50 minutes and I had my baby in my arms ❤

 

just.ashaa IG User

 

IG User @just.ashaa says…

I’m a 15 year old single mom. The baby’s daddy came up to the hospital when I had Jensen. He wasn’t in the delivery room because he said he was “sick to his stomach”. Jensen was born all natural, on September 8th, 2014 at 20 inches long and 7.8 pounds.

 

 

 

YMC Admin Kim N.YMC Admin Kim N. says…

I have two girls so I’ve got two different stories to tell about my very different experiences with the birthing process. My first daughter was born when I was only 17. I started to feel very early labor symptoms and small contractions at about 6 am. I had a rough night’s sleep so I was exhausted already. That day the contractions lasted throughout the whole day and I was doing everything I could to stay busy and walking around because I didn’t want to be stuck in a hospital bed until I absolutely had to. Finally just before 9 pm I was at the drugstore getting ice cream and kept having to drop to the floor because the pain was getting worse so my mom and my boyfriend at the time decided it was time to go to the hospital. I was admitted around 9 pm and was only about 4 1/2 cm dilated. After a few hours, I was told the baby’s heartbeat was dropping so they wanted me to get an IV and monitor hooked up, so they administered Nubain for the pain. Then after hours of waiting, at around 1 am, my nurse told me I was basically “stuck” at 5 cm and wasn’t going to get any further along until I slept. By then the drugs were wearing off so they insisted I get an epidural. I was so insistent that I was going to have the baby without an epidural, I argued with the doctors until they finally convinced me. Once I got the epidural hooked up, I fell asleep and when I woke up the nurse decided that it was time for them to break my water. A few hours later, they came back to administer Pitocin to move things along but, surprise! She was ready to come out by then. I had a painless delivery since I had gotten the epidural and all went so well after that.

My second daughter was born was almost 6 years later and was a totally different experience. I woke up with pretty decent labor pains around 7:30 am. Within an hour I realized that the contractions were getting much more intense and that this baby was NOT going to wait much longer to make an appearance! So we left for the hospital close to 9 am and I was admitted immediately. I knew things were moving along really quickly so I was adamant that they called the anesthesiologist right away to get my epidural. They were making me wait for what seemed like forever and all I could think about were those movies where the doctor tells the mom that it’s too late and she’s just going to have to do it naturally, so I threw a hardcore fit. I was cursing at everyone, yelling, and acting super demanding to the point where they had to close the door to my room. LOL. Finally the anesthesiologist showed up and got me all set up and before I knew it, it was early afternoon and they were telling me it was time to push. There was one little problem… I was so drugged up that I couldn’t feel any pressure or feel any muscle control so I couldn’t even push when I was told to! They even had to have people hold my legs up on either side because I was too numb to do it myself. I coughed and they said, “Wait, do that again!”. I kind of looked at them like they were crazy, but they said when I coughed my stomach muscles tensed and it was like I was pushing. I laughed at the thought of that and they said, “Oh, do that again too!” since that worked the same way coughing did. So at that point I literally had to laugh/cough my daughter out of me. It felt like the silliest thing ever!

So now that we’ve shared our stories, we hope that our YMC teen mom that asked this question has a smooth and successful delivery and a healthy, happy baby! Did you have an interesting birthing story you want to share? Comment below!

If anyone else has a subject they want help or feedback on, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below!

 

Paying it Forward

Pay it Forward

We have another awesome post from our guest blogger, Melissa Monk! This out really spoke to me because I am a huge believer in karma and I love to take advantage of paying it forward as often as possible. Read on to find out more ways you can help others (and yes, there are ways that don’t involve money)!

So I know you’ve all heard of that saying “pay it forward” meaning just doing nice things for people for no reason. Kindness sparks kindness… it’s a chain reaction. Another way to look at it is, KARMA. I’m such a strong believer in karma!!

Because I’m a young mother and I’m not able to necessarily donate to “pay it forward” I have come up with my own way of helping others. You see, I have hundreds of young women, moms or not, come to me asking for advice, asking for a shoulder to lean on, asking for someone to just listen while they pour their heart out. I love being that person for someone… I was put on this planet for a purpose and I truly believe that reason was to help people. Eventually I want to go back to school so I can become a victims’ advocate for abused women and children, as well as an advocate for teen mothers. I want people to be inspired by me to do good with their lives.

I think my favorite part about helping people is because I’ve been through so much hurt myself, sharing my stories and my journey and listening to other people has helped me heal. It’s helped me grow a lot. I found myself through helping other people. Ultimately, I want Mackenzee to look back and be proud of me and know that I have a huge heart for people in need.

Honestly, I am one of the nicest, most loving people you will meet or ever talk to. I am willing to help anyone who comes to me in any way I can. And nothing angers me more than when someone tries to make me out to be someone that I’m not. I’m not a mean person, but nor am I perfect. We all have days when we say things we don’t mean. Or we do something intentionally to hurt someone for our own selfish purposes, but I have been trying so hard this past 6 months not to be that way. It’s a learning process though because again, no one is perfect or “nice” 100% of the time. But a few months ago, someone “payed it forward” to me and I kid you not it changed my life. 

I was at Stater Brothers with Mackenzee trying to pick up her prescription and there was a problem with her insurance. They weren’t covering her medicine and they wanted me to pay like $60 for her prescription. She was really sick so it was necessary for me to get it that day. Well, it just so happened that I just paid bills that morning and I had maybe $20 to my name until 2 days later (when I would get paid). At the time, I couldn’t ask Kyle for money because he would barely even speak to me and my parents don’t give me money so I literally had no way to pay and I didn’t know what to do. I was standing in the corner of the pharmacy, on the phone with insurance basically being told that all insurance was being cut off, trying my hardest not to break down into tears, holding my sick baby who at that moment had a 102 degree fever and was clearly miserable. Once I got off the phone I literally couldn’t fight back the tears. I just held Mackenzee in one hand and my head in the other. I took a second to breathe and try to think of what I was going to do and when I finally looked up like 5 seconds later, I felt a woman’s arm wrap around me and she whispered in my ear, “Don’t worry sweetie, it’s on me”. Apparently this older woman had overheard what was going on and she had paid for Mackenzee’s prescription. Literally, my heart melted. I couldn’t have been more moved by this woman and her kindness. She then explained to me how she was also a single mother and that she understood that pain I felt when I hung up the phone. She explained to me that her son passed away when he was 6 years old from a rare type of cancer and that her insurance hassled her for months before they would approve her son’s treatment and that a kind man who she had met at the hospital actually helped her pay off most of her son’s medical bills after he had passed. I literally can not even begin to explain to you the way it felt to hear her story. She then told me one day that she hopes I will be able to help pay it forward as well… every heart has a story to tell.

So do you want to pay it forward?? Here are some tips and tricks and ways to pay forward!!! They don’t always have to invoke literally “paying” money out of your pocket. Honestly, try a few of these out one day. I promise the reaction is amazing!

  • When you’re in the drive through at Starbucks, pay for the persons behind you
  • Smile at a random stranger
  • Help someone who needs it carry their bags to their car from the grocery store
  • Make friendly conversation with a stranger while in line at the store and compliment them
  • Go to a car wash fundraiser and donate, even if you don’t need your car washed
  • Clean out your closet and donate all your old clothes and shoes to family in need or a shelter
  • Take cookies or baked goods to a police station, fire station, or church
  • Add money to someone’s parking meter as it’s about to expire
  • Say thank you to your cashier and mean it
  • Hold the door for someone walking behind you
  • Thank a solider for his/her sacrifice and service in the military
  • Bring your co-workers coffee or smoothies
  • Run/walk in a charity race or event
  • Rake or mow your neighbor’s yard
  • Share store coupons with the person standing behind you in line
  • Let someone take your seat on the bus or subway
  • Send flowers to a random person who’s sick in the hospital
  • Take crafts for the children who are in the hospital
  • Leave a quarter in the vending machine for the next person
  • Donate to someone in need… (i.e. Canned goods, clothing, household products, etc.)
  • Make a holiday plate with leftovers for a homeless person
  • Leave an encouraging note for someone in a public place

And the list literally just goes on..There are so many ways to pay it forward!!

Thank you, Melissa! I am definitely going to add some of these to my list of ways to “pay it forward”. Do you do things, big or small, to brighten peoples’ days? Tell us in the comments how you do your part in “paying it forward”. We would love to hear your ideas and let’s share stories below about how people have reacted to your random acts of kindness!

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