This is one strong mama! Read about how Sabina overcame so many obstacles as a young mom. She is such an inspiration!
Tell us about yourself and your family:
Hi! My name is Sabina I am 18 years old. I started my family when I was 17. Aubrie, my daughter, is 17 months old and it’s just me and her. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
So let me just start this off my saying that because me and Aubrie’s biological father are not on good terms, I do not want to focus on the negative but I also know that everything he did to me and everything I’ve been through has made me the person I am today. So here it goes, this is my story.
I first met Adam Jackson through a friend in high school. Of course he was Mr. Prince Charming. I was a cheerleader and he was a football player. How perfect, right? It was the end of my sophomore year and the end of his senior year of high school. We really hit it off. You all know how that goes we were young, dumb, and in love. Our relationship was great. Or so I thought. Here I am, an insecure 16 year old girl that was so shy and naive, who was trying to find herself. He was hilarious and we always had a great time together. He stood up for me and I felt so safe with him.
He became very jealous of me. He was graduated from high school and I was a junior. He had his friends watch every move I made in high school and text him if I did anything like talk to a guy and I had a lot of guy friends. He would wait outside in the parking lot almost every day when I got out of school. At first I was like “how sweet” but I later realized it was his way to make sure every guy at that school knew I was his. So time went on and became even more outrageously jealous. He found out that I said I liked a guy. You know how that high school girl talk goes “He’s so cute”, “I like him”, or “He’s so sweet”. And he instantly changed. He threw all my stuff on the floor while he was screaming at me calling me everything under the sun. He made me feel so low, like dirt. I said to myself that night that I would do whatever it took to stay with him. He made me feel not good enough and that I was so lucky to have him. I continued to be in a terrible relationship that began to get emotionally and physically abusive, all the while thinking it was my fault he acted the way he was. Wrong!
When we found out I was pregnant I took the test at his house. He held me in complete silence as I cried. I was terrified at first but became happy as the time went on. He promised me and this baby the world. I believed him. I was raised in a Christian home, so this really caused a lot of chaos in my family. My dad pretty much disowned me.
Months went on and our relationship grew toxic. He said things the hinted the fact that he didn’t want to be with me anymore and I was crazy and just made me feel so unwanted. He said I was the one that was tearing us apart. I was pregnant and in high school! Can you say hormone over load? I couldn’t help it. Being pregnant is supposed to be such a wonderful experience while you anxiously await the arrival of your baby. I didn’t know what to do. I later found out he was cheating on me the entire time. I felt so stupid and hurt. And he got mad at me because I said I liked a guy to my friends? Hello! Red flag!!
My water broke at 6:30 in the morning and I was in labor for 11 hours. Aubrie Nicole Waldrop was born October 14th at 5:50 p.m. weighing 8 lb and 14 oz and 21 inches tall. She was so beautiful. I didn’t want to put her down.
I went on home school for 6 weeks while i was trying to get use to being a new mom. My parents tried to be Aubrie’s parents. They would scream at me every time she cried “What did you do to her?”, “Why is she crying?” as they would try to take her away from me. I became depressed and had bad anxiety. Every time Aubrie cried i would freak out waiting for someone to try to take her from me. I felt like a terrible mother. I lost a bunch of weight and began to get sever acne from all the stress I was under. After those 6 I went back to school. It was so hard to leave her at the babysitters every morning but I had to look at the bigger picture and set an example for my daughter. I was so lucky to still be able to go to Homecoming, prom, and graduate with my class. My parents continued to act the same way, making me feel not good enough for my own child.
After I had Aubrie I completely changed. I stopped putting up with people and things that brought me down or got in my way. I was so blind and oblivious to the way that Adam treated me but I saw the way he was with Aubrie crystal clear. I told him I was not going to chase him around and make sure he did what he was supposed to because it was so exhausting. And of course after I stopped doing that he stopped seeing her or getting anything for her. He blamed it on me because I didn’t tell him to come see her, to get her diapers, ect. I felt like he should have asked me and if he was around her the way he should have been he would have known when she was almost out of something. I felt like I was a single mom. I was buying everything for her out of my graduation money. I was the only one putting any effort in raising and taking care of her. So I made it official, I broke up with him. And I haven’t heard from him since.
Now I am currently living in NC. I moved away from everyone in high hopes to start a great life for the both of us. I am going to school to become an RN, I work at Sally Beauty Supply and Aubrie is enrolled in a great daycare. Even though things aren’t 100% perfect still, I truly am happy. I am glad that I’ve been through everything that I have because I wouldn’t be where I am today. I am no longer depressed like I used to be my face has cleared up and I’m back to a normal, healthy weight. Me and my parents have a better realationship now. This change was good on the both of us. I think we have a closer mother daughter relationship because I don’t have all my focus on the negative stuff anymore. We are just taking life one day at a time and enjoying the ride and each other.
What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?
I knew that Aubrie’s biological father was not a great person. Not even that he wasn’t a great person but not even a decent person at that. You have all these expectations that you want for your children and if your anything like me everything HAS to be perfect. So you could only imagine all the worries and concerns I had. I was so frustrated because he would always say “We have 9 months to get everything ready, Sabina. That is more than enough time.” He never helped me get things ready. I was still living with my parents at the time and I painted and set up her nursery all by myself with some help from my mom.
What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?
I am such on a busy schedule right now I don’t have time to relax. But when I do have a little extra time I like to catch up on my favorite shows while I get things ready for the next day. I bought some nail polish, foot soak, foot scrub, and some lotion to help treat myself for always being on the go and always being on my feet. I hope to use it real soon!
What are your favorite things about being a mom?
I like dressing her up and putting bows in her hair. I like taking her outside and just seeing that sweet smile she gets when she’s exploring something new. Her laugh is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard. I love watching her grow and see the beautiful little girl she is becoming. I absolutely love hearing that sweet little voice that I created call me momma. All my troubles melt away.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?
I see myself working as an RN in a hospital somewhere. I would love to be a traveling nurse and just take my baby to see the world with me. And then when we find the perfect place just settle down and start our lives. I want to give her the life I’ve never had. I want her life to be filled with adventure, love and happiness. I want to teach her to be independent and confident in herself that she could do anything she wants to. I will be her biggest fan.
What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?
I would just say hang in there. I strongly believe Aubrie was my miracle. I believe she was put in my life to become a stronger person and stop putting up with people walking all over me. I needed her to be where I am now. And I think that goes for anyone. They were put in our lives for a reason. I dont know where I’d be with out her. I know for a fact I wouldn’t be where I am right now. God wouldn’t give you more than you could handle. This is just part of a bigger, better plan he has in store. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Always know you are good enough no matter what. You are only one person and you will make mistakes. But just keep moving forward and don’t let this break you.
We love how Sabina was able to overcome so many obstacles. We are so proud of you for sharing your story with other young moms.
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