Is it possible to stay positive and focused while mothering as a teen? 18 year old young mom Melissa Monk is proof that you can help others while raising a beautiful daughter!
Tell us about yourself and your family:
Hello!! my name is Melissa! I am a young, hard-working, single mother to a beautiful baby girl named Mackenzee Ryanne, 10 months old.
I fell pregnant at 18 by my boyfriend of five years and I couldn’t be more excited! Then reality set in and of course he spilt. So now it is just me and my baby girl living out our dreams. I am currently working full-time in a clothing store while I finish school to become a 911 dispatcher!!
My daughter has always been my number one priority. Mackenzee’s dad became very abusive mentally and physically after she was born and I had to make the hardest choice of my life to leave him. Though I do miss him and I wish things were different, leaving him was the best possible decision I could have ever made for myself.
I am currently involved in helping to create a teen mom support group with my church!! I really want to help teen mothers who are struggling feel like they are worth something, and that their children are always a reason to continue to fight for what’s right!! I am also trying to become an advocate to help prevent teen pregnancy!
What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?
I was really worried about my daughters father being able to let go of his horrible drug habit. He has a horrible addiction to smoking pot and drinking beer. I never noticed it as a problem until I was pregnant. I honestly handled it in the worst way possible at first. I used to nag him and yell at him and try to control him and then I realized that I cannot change him. The best decision I made was just walking away from him.
What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?
To treat myself, I take a bubble bath every night after my daughter has gone to sleep! and once a month I buy something for myself since I spend majority of my money on my daughter!
What are your favorite things about being a mom?
I know I’m not a perfect mother but I do know I’m a good one. My favorite thing would have to be the love and trust my daughter has for me shows daily when the first person she looks for when she wakes up is me. When she’s playing with her toys and abruptly stops just to make sure I’m still within sight and smiles as soon as she sees me looking at her already. When she’ll crawl over into my lap and snuggle up to me. I know I’m doing something right. And she is so oblivious (obviously) to how much happiness she brings me, how much she helps me on a daily basis and doesn’t even know it. I love her so, so much. Yes, I do get overwhelmed sometimes, but that doesn’t mean I’m a bad person. It just means I’m human.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?
In five years I see myself working hard as a 911 dispatcher, living in a house with my daughter and possibly a husband. I want to be happy, healthy, and over all just settled!
My advice to other young mothers would be to just keep fighting. It is so hard being a young mom but the ending result is so amazing! there is hope for us young mothers. If you always put your child’s needs and wants first, and you make sure to also take care of yourself, then you will be happy. Let go of all of the negative in your life and embrace this journey that you are on!! Do not let peoples rude comments and stares get you down because no other person on this planet has the right to tell you that you are not worthy of being a good mother!!!
So glad Melissa shared her inspiring young mom story with us!
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