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TIOT: How to Tell Your Parents You’re Pregnant

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“How do I tell my parents that I’m pregnant?”

This is one of the harder questions that teen moms-to-be have and we thought we should help this pregnant teen so she didn’t feel alone. Here is what our followers had to say to help her to prepare for one of the hardest conversations of her life…

IG User mylife_ft.baileyabigailIG User @mylife_ft.baileyabigail:

My dad lived 19 hours away and was at summer camp for the National Guard when I told him. I definitely should have picked a different way to tell him, I texted him, and I regret it. I lived with my mom so I told her face to face and she cried for days. My mom was 19 when she got pregnant with me. I was 17 when I got pregnant. She just kept telling me she didn’t want me to go through what she went through because she knew how hard it was. If I could go back and change how I told them, I would. No parent wants to see their teenager pregnant and struggling with that, so there is no EASY way to tell them. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just sit them down and just straight up tell them.

 

IG User raisingzofia

IG User @raisingzofia says…

My mom knew because I was NOT acting like my usual self. My dad lived 15 hours away and my mom texted him and told him. My husband’s mom already knew because she heard me vomiting in the mornings. LOL.  His dad got a text from us because his dad lived 7 hours away.

 

 

 

 

IGIG User hunterlitt3 User @hunterlitt3 says…
My boyfriend at the time and I told all four of our parents at the same time. We went out to dinner at one of our favorite places and we told them. My parents were unhappy and so were my ex’s. My dad got so mad he made a huge scene at the restaurant, broke a few things, and left. He had my uncle come and get him. My mom started crying and so did my ex’s. My ex’s dad was just like, “cool, whatever, Carmen is just going to raise it on her own I already know.” I was really mad about that because I knew it wouldn’t be true so I told him to leave and I didn’t want to see him again, ever. The moms were crying with both madness and happiness. My dad kicked me out of my house and didn’t talk to me until the baby was born. Eventually me and my ex did break up and he wasn’t there for any of it. If I could go back and change the way I told them, I would in a snap!

 

IG User ryliehall

IG User @ryliehall says…

I actually told my mom the adult way, I went to her house and told her. I even asked what she think I should do (not abortion! But I didn’t know if I could raise a baby….) She told me that my baby was for me and I would choose correctly for their life. She always told me, “if you get pregnant I’ll kill you!” but when it came down to it, she was, and is, there for me every step of the way <3

 

 

IG User __leexxiii____

 

IG User @__leexxiii____ says…

I told my mom on the phone too actually… and I should have done it face to face, but I was scared of her reaction and afraid to see disappointment. Turns out she was happier than I could have imagined. I would definitely sit both parents down (probably in public at lunch or something just in case someone doesn’t take it well) and say, “I’m pregnant, happy, and this is a blessing. Hope you’re happy for me” and hopefully they will all be there for you guys and the baby. Everyone needs the support!

 

IG User ah_rel_ee

IG User @ah_rel_ee says…

Well for me, when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I first talked it out. We set up a schedule if we had the baby. Once we were set on keeping the baby no matter what, we sent in for a counselor conference at my school. I was mostly concerned for his parents’ reaction, but I knew my mom would be supportive because I saw how that was with my older sister. They all caught my boyfriend and I by surprise. They were happy to see a new life begin and offered any of help we needed, and the counselors even told us that it’s the best reaction they have seen from any parents whose teen told them that a baby is on the way. I’m actually happy how I told both the parents. We needed everyone’s support to do it.

 IG User carradefuchiee

 

IG User @carradefuchiee says…

I honestly wish I knew ahead of time. My mom noticed I was prego before I did. She got me a dollar test and said, “Pee on it. You’ve been eating stuff you don’t like”. LOL. I took it thinking I wasn’t, but two minutes passed and I read the box 3 times and was shocked and came out and said I’m pregnant. She said, “OMG”! She was a little disappointed ’cause I had to do it alone because my baby’s dad was cheating on me, but it was the best experience.

 

 

IG User jasminef80

IG User @jasminef80 says…

I waited until I was 6 months along. I was scared and selfish. The uncertainty scared me the most. When I told my parents I waited until my dad was out of town and just told my mom one on one and let her tell him. Looking back it might have been better to tell them together face to face but it allowed my dad time to get the right words before we spoke and he was very gentle and forgiving when we did speak by phone. The fears began to melt away when I knew they were there to help me through every step of the way. It’s a very hard conversation but it’s one of the first grown-up things you will have to do of many when entering into parenthood.

 

 

IG User abbylockyerrr

IG User @abbylockyerrr says…

Well, I missed my period for 2 months or so when my now ex-boyfriend noticed my stomach was a little bit bigger than usual. I knew right then that I was pregnant and we kept it between us. Then I ate some cottage cheese with a pickle for the spoon, (it was so good) and out of nowhere I threw up! So I went and told my mom that I threw up and that I thought I was sick, and she said “well maybe you’re pregnant” and I was just like, no way. So then she went to work and me and my dad talked and he asked me if I had unprotected sex in the last month. I said yeah and he was like well, there you go! I sat in my room for a while and the next day I woke up and went to my mom’s room and she was like “I got you a pregnancy test, it’s in the bathroom”. I had to pee soooo bad, but I pretended like I didn’t to avoid taking the test because I was so terrified about the fact that she was going to find out I was having sex, and not the sole fact that I was pregnant! But it came out positive and I BOLTED out of the bathroom. She looked at the test and then we went out to eat and didn’t talk, but then we got in the car and we discussed my options. I decided immediately that I was going to keep the baby, and now almost 13 months later I have my beautiful 3 month old daughter Fiona Mae. I am not ashamed or regretful in any way #NOTEENSHAME❤

 

IG User christinamayhem

IG User @christinamayhem says…

I remember feeling like my period was going to start (sore boobs, cramps, etc.) but it just never came. I decided to tell my mom I thought I could be pregnant and she bought me two tests and I took them in the bathroom early morning and showed her. She immediately told me I had to get an abortion and was furious when I refused. I didn’t end up telling me stepfather until I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant (my mom told him) and he made me clean every day and do chores, telling me that if I decided to have an abortion I could stop and things would go back to normal. He made my life a living hell my whole pregnancy but I already loved my baby so much, there was no giving up. I didn’t tell my dad until I was 7 months pregnant (we don’t talk a lot). After my baby was born, I moved in with her father’s family and later on ended up leaving him because he cheated on/abused me. Now I have a new boyfriend and I work hard for a good life for myself and my daughter Cloudy Bell 🙂  #noregrets #thestruggleisworthit My advice would be to sit your family down and tell them with your boyfriend (if he’s around), firmly state that you are keeping your baby and that you would appreciate their support. Being straight up with them is the best way! #staystrong

 

IG User mariah_emmys_mommyIG User @mariah_emmys_mommy says…

I didn’t end up telling my mom until I was 3 and 1/2 months along, and the only reason she even knew was because she had found the test. She was very angry with me and she wanted me to give it up for adoption. After fighting with her for about an hour, she promised me she would not tell my dad about the baby until I wanted to. Somehow my younger brother Mike found out and told my dad. I came home from baby shopping with my girlfriends one day and he was furious. He started hitting and yelling and he told me if I didn’t get an abortion he would kick me out. I told him if he was going to act this way he better not expect to be any part of this baby’s life. He ordered me in the car and we drove to my boyfriends house. After my boyfriend found out he promised he would help out with the baby. But just before I was actually going to give birth, he broke up with me and completely denied that she was his child. I didn’t need a DNA test. I knew she was his because I had never in my life slept with anyone else but him. If you’re pregnant, the best way to tell your parents is to sit down with them and be honest. Tell them you want to keep the baby.

IG User ashleybellab

 

IG User @ashleybellab says…

I was very athletic so it wasn’t uncommon for me to miss multiple periods in a row, I was 5 months pregnant when I passed out twice in one day so my mom took me to the doctor and that pee test in a cup came out positive.

 

These young moms have opened our eyes to so many different experiences when it comes to sharing the news of pregnancies with their families. We appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share with our pregnant young mommy-to-be!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you want to share your story about how you broke the news to your family!

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