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TIOT: How to Handle People Who Think Young Moms are Incapable

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you handle people who think you are incapable of being a mom because of your age?”

It can be really hard to feel adequate when you are a young mom. So many people will put doubt into your mind about if you’re really capable of being the best mom since you’re a teenager or a very young adult. So we shared the question of a YMC follower and got some positive reinforcement! Check it out:

 

IG User misskioiIG User @misskioi says…

There is no difference between a thirty year old first time mom & a 16-year old one. Well, any significant difference. The only difference I see is that when you’re a bit older, you probably have a decent job and can provide for your child without that much of a grand hustle. But see, a child is not raised by the material things you provide. A child is raised by love. Your ability to love is what determines whether or not you will be a good mother. With love, you will strive to be the best you can in order to provide for your baby, you will spend every minute you can with your baby, creating a strong motherly bond. The capacity of love and the ability to love & care for your child knows no age, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. You can do it. You will make mistakes, yes. But each day is a new day, to learn new things, love your child more, to provide better, and to being a better mom than the day before.  🙂

IG User augustxorae

 

 

IG User @augustxorae says…

I’m 19 and a lot of people thought I was too young and immature to have a child. I am 19 with a 7 month old, I’m my 5th month of nursing school… I have 7 months left and I’ll be able to support me and my son. I am proving EVERYONE wrong. Teen moms are amazing!

 

 

IG User yohelisa_

 

IG User @yohelisa_ says…

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first daughter. I didn’t know it all, but everyday I learned something new. And of course loving my daughter and taking care of her everyday (she is now 8 years old) made me a great mom. Just don’t pay attention to what people think or say. You are the mom and you know what you do better than them…

 

 

 

IG User ChristinamayhemIG User @christinamayhem says…

Remember that their opinions don’t matter and that what they think does not mean that you are a bad mother or will be! Let their comments be your ammunition! Prove them wrong, not just to show them that teen moms do not mean ‘bad moms’, but for yourself as well! When I got pregnant, a lot of people put me down and discouraged me, but when my daughter was born several of them told me how surprised that they were of how great of a mom I am and how much I do for my baby. It really makes you feel good and proud of yourself! 🙂  I used to be embarrassed or think twice about going out in public because of the looks and comments I would get from people. Now I am much more confident and don’t pay attention to them. I know what I am capable of, and no one is going to make me second guess myself!!! We are women, we are strong!!

Despite all the judgement, our young moms have proven that they can do anything just as well as anybody else! You ladies kick ass! Have you faced people who thought you were going to be a bad mother or just incapable of caring for your child? Did people try to to knock you down when you were pregnant or even after you had your baby? Let us know in the comments.

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below if you have a story about how you proved yourself as a teen mother or if these girls helped you!

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