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The Spotlight is on: Tyteana Milton

Tell us about yourself and your family

I’m 15 years old. I had my baby September 2013. She weighed 8 lbs 9 oz and that was the best day of my life. My baby girl is now 8 months. She can crawl and is on her way to walking. She knows how to sit up by herself, she can say ma-ma and da-da, and she’s growing two teeth at the bottom.tyteana young mom 2

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concerns were how am I going to tell my parents that I’m pregnant? Are they going to be mad and kick me out? Will they make me get an abortion? If I am able to keep the baby, how will I provide for it? I had a lot of concerns and worries and I was very scared. I didn’t handle it very well and kept it a secret for a long time, not knowing that I could have hurt the baby if I didn’t see a doctor.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I treat myself by spending time with my baby. She is the joy in my life. I should treat myself by going out with friends and getting away from her for a while, but it’s so hard. I heard that you should get “away time” from the baby and relax.in

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

Being able to give my baby love and to care for her. I love holding her in my arms and listening to her soft breathing and to feel her little heartbeat. I also love seeing my baby growing up and learning new things.

tyteana young mom 3Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself with a career in Psychology, living in a nice home that I’m going to provide for my daughter. I see my baby making excellent grades in school.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

To the young girls who just found out you’re pregnant, please tell your parents or someone who has authority and let them know that you’re pregnant. Don’t risk your life or your baby’s life just because you are afraid you’re going to get in trouble. For the young moms, you’re going to love being a mother and your baby is going to fall in love with you. Also, I wouldn’t recommend you to get pregnant again because we are so young.

Telling your family about being a pregnant teen can be tough. Did you keep it a secret when you found out that you were pregnant? Tell us in the comments section how long you hid it for and how you finally broke the news!

10 Things I wish I could tell my 15 year old self

Now that I am older (27), I have learned so much. Of course, like everyone else, there are things I wish I could redo or change.

But we learn from our mistakes right?

It’s so true- but maybe I can help you with a few pointers, so that you can heed my advice 🙂

These are the 10 things that I would tell my 15 year old self, if I could go back in time..

1. Don’t try so hard to please others. In the end, you are on your own in your feelings so do what you feel is right and don’t get so bent out of shape when people tell you what to do, just say “Ok” and go about your business. Sometimes its good to listen to others, and other times you just need to trust your own instincts.

2. Stay calm and carry on. Just take what you learn and catalog it to return to it when needed. Don’t dwell on mistakes just learn from them. No one is perfect. Other people are so focused on themselves they probably won’t take as much notice as what you think. Don’t worry about what other people are doing, just go after what you want.

3. Follow your dreams. This one is so important because you are going to look back at your life and say “Why didn’t I?” I would much rather work harder at accomplishing goals instead of saying “I wish.” Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it! If you want something bad enough, you will find a way and no one is going to be able to stop you.  Be passionate and you will succeed.

4. There will always be haters. There will always be someone a little better at things than you. Just push forward and maybe one day you will be ahead of them. Hey, it can happen if you believe in yourself! You can do anything you set your mind to. It sounds cliche’ but its so true! Don’t waste your time worrying, but bettering yourself.

5. Focus. If you want to learn something, teach yourself, don’t wait. Do it now! You want to do something? Then go for it! Take one skill at a time and perfect it, then choose something else to master. Trust me, you don’t want to go after it all at once.

6. Take your time in life. Don’t rush into extreme life decisions, especially intimacy because this is an event that could change your life forever. You have plenty of time to experience things and you aren’t missing out on anything if its stupid. Just because  “everyone” is doing it, doesn’t make it cool. Be young and enjoy it, but make wise choices that you know you won’t regret.

7. Say what you mean and mean what you say. This is a learned skill that will take some time because you learn new things everyday and your opinion changes so much, that its best to just not say anything unless you are completely educated on the subject matter.

8. You are an awesome individual. We are all different and you have unique qualities to offer the world. Don’t let what you see from other people make you think you are any less. You don’t know what other people are thinking or doing to get what you are seeing. You may desire what others are doing are have, but just be happy for them and remember to focus on daily bettering yourself. You have value that you can share with others, it takes time to find.

9. Be yourself. Your appearance, attitude and style are all your own, so own it! We are all a little weird and that’s OK, because there is no such thing as “normal”. Don’t be afraid to stand out. If you like something, then that makes it cool in your eyes. You don’t need validation from anyone else, because you already confirmed it in your own opinion. Trust me, there is someone else out there that also thinks so. Don’t try to be like everyone else. You don’t have to shop at the same places or like the same things. You have so much to offer the world, help them see it through your eyes.

10. Don’t assume you “Can’t”. Remove this word from your vocabulary. Take chances and step out of your comfort zone. You just might surprise yourself! You are ultimately in charge of your destiny. Make your life what you want it to be. There is only one you and you only have one life to live, so make it fantastically memorable.

note to self pic young momsSo those are mine.. what about you? Is there something you wish you could tell your 15 year old self? Let me know in the comments below…