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The Spotlight is on: Natasha Isenhower

Young mom family TashaYoung Mom Natasha Isenhower tells us about her life as a loving mom. Meet this sweet family of young parents and cute kids!

 

Tell us about yourself and your family:

We’re an average family, just a bit younger. I recently turned 20 and my fiance is 21. We’re a family of five, just trying to figure out how to keep us all together and happy. The oldest of the three boys is actually my step son, but I love him as if he were my own flesh and blood. I’m a stay at home mom and my fiance works full time to support us. We often forget how young we are, because we live such a calm and ʺboringʺ life compared to everyone else our ages.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concern was that I didn’t know if I was worthy of being someone’s mother. I was also worried about getting attached to the little baby growing inside, only to have a miscarriage. It didn’t seem real for a long time.
I handled it pretty well, actually. Before I found out I was pregnant with my first, I was going no where in my life. I didn’t care, I guess. I was failing nearly every class, I was burning every bridge with family and loved ones. But the day I saw those two lines on that pregnancy test, I turned it all around. I contacted every teacher and asked what I could do. I got a job after high school, I saved up money for a deposit to our own place, we worked together to provide everything ourselves.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I don’t really allow myself time away from them. I feel lost without my boys. I’d much rather go somewhere as a family, than alone or just with my fiance. We love bringing them to the zoo, underwater world, the park and on little adventures.
I take my time to myself and with their father at the end of the day, once they’re all asleep. We’ll cuddle up and watch a movie together, catch up on each other’s days, etc. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Natasha young mom coupleWhat are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love watching them grow and becoming their own person. I love being their first example of a friend. I just love it all! Well, minus the smelly diapers 😉

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see us settled in our own house, making it our home. I see both my fiance and I in college and working to better our lives for the three little boys who depend on us. I’m already pursuing my dream, by being their mother.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Pay no mind to whomever you feel is judging you. I was so focused on everyone else and what they thought for the longest. At the end of the day, your child, you and whoever else is involved with good intention is all that matters. Not someone who will kill to see you fail.

This is her story of being a happy young mom, what’s yours?

Leave her a comment or share how you relate 🙂

 

 

The Spotlight is On: Molly Sharp

Being a teen mother can be very difficult, but this young mom is staying positive and pursuing her future. Listen to how Molly Sharp is overcoming obstacles and raising her daughter.

Tell us about yourself and your family: I am a very young mom. Probably younger than most. I had my daughter at the age of 14. I am a single mom and have always done everything on my own. I have no idea what it feels like to have a family since my daughters father has never stuck around. My daughter will be 3 in December. Her name is Rylie Mae. She’s the biggest accomplishment of my life and she is what keeps me going. Although I am a teen mom I work my hardest to keep us happy and healthy and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

How I would graduate and how my friends and family would look at me. I lost a lot of friends which wasn’t a big deal to me because my family was very loving and supportive. I didn’t give up in school and I will be graduating in 2014 🙂

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

To treat myself I like to get my hair done but it only happens about 4 times a year. For fun I go out to eat with my friends and to stay relaxed I like to go on runs or car drives.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

Its rewarding. Seeing my daughter smile and laugh and be the smartest toddler I know makes me feel good like I’m doing something right.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years I want to be almost done with college living on my own with my daughter and just being healthy and happy. I don’t expect too much.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would advise them to always think of their child before themselves. Don’t do something you wouldn’t want your child doing. Also, if your child’s father doesn’t seem to be interested.. DO NOT give your child his last name. You will regret it in the long run!

A great story like yours is encouraging to other teen moms. Being a young mom with positivity is a great influence!

If you enjoyed this story and would like Molly to know you wish her well, please do so in the comments below! 🙂

How Paola Seminario Did It

Think that having children young means that your future is out of your hands? Think again!

Supermom, Paola Seminario, shares with us her most personal stories of raising her kids as a young mom, how she fought through the tough times and learned how to create her own reality.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I am a single mother of two amazing and beautiful children. I got pregnant with my son when I was 18 by my very abusive, demoralizing and addicted then-boyfriend. When my son was just one year old, I decided I had had enough of the lies, stealing, abusive words and physical fights, so I left him. A month later, I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I decided not to go back to him and raise my children on my own.

Because I was young, naive and lost, there were a great deal of mistakes and bad choices that I made along the way. My children suffered for it and I beat myself up for making bad decisions. I felt as if I was never good enough for anything. I felt like I was not educated enough. I didn’t make enough money. I didn’t deserve love and I suffered from many great depressions. Of course this took a great toll on my kids, as I self medicated and searched for my self worth.

inspiring mom storiesThrough the years, I hung on to my kids for dear life. They were the one thing that was worth fighting for; the one thing worth waking up in the morning for. I HAD to find a way to improve my life and my circumstances so that I could give them the life they deserved.

Through the years, I encountered so much hostility, rejection, and judgement as I desperately struggled to find my way in life and be the best mother I could possibly be. My kids went with me through all the pain and hardships. However, there was one thing that I did so right, and no one will ever take that away from me. Every day I told my kids I loved them 1,000 times a day. Every day, I showed my kids I loved them, and I smothered them with hugs and kisses so they would feel how much I loved them. No matter how much we struggled or how many obstacles we faced, they have always known they were loved.

As time went by, I learned how to change myself from the inside out in order to be a better person and, more importantly, the best mother I could possibly be.

My children are now in their late teenage years. They know more about life than I would have liked for them to know at their age. However, they have grown to become intelligent, independent-thinking, loving, compassionate, beautiful young adults. Every day I love them more and more. Every day they make me proud to be their mother.

In spite of all of the struggles, we have made it so far as a loving imperfect family. Contrary to what the world told us, that we couldn’t make it… we did. We still make mistakes and we still make the effort to grow as individuals and as a family. I believe in my heart that we are a success story, in spite of it all.

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

There are so many challenges I faced as a single mother. For me, I struggled with destitution, depression, self medication, and self destruction, on top of being judged and put down by those that were outside looking in.

I did eventually get a handle on my life and start loving myself.

I learned to listen to myself, not what other people told me I should be doing as a mother.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?

I wish I had known that I didn’t need a bunch of (toxic) people in my life. In fact, what I really needed was to surround myself with people that were loving and kind and supportive. (I had far too many toxic people in my life and by allowing them to stay in my life it was really hard for me to be the best mother possible). mom and daughter pics

I wish I had known that it was ok to make mistakes and I really didn’t need to beat myself up for them. Instead, I could use them as learning tools and make better decisions the next time around.

Finally, I wish I knew the that boundaries and discipline were ways to show my kids that I loved them. All too often I would cave, when I looked into their eyes, and let them off the hook when they broke the rules. That made it much harder when they were older.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

Write them down and look at them everyday. Create a vision board .

Make decisions based on your goals and dreams. If something is aligned with your goals and dreams, go for it. If not, then toss it. This goes with friends, boyfriends, jobs, and pretty much anything you can think of.

Believe in yourself. When you have big goals, big dreams and big ambitions, and someone tells you to be a bit more “realistic”, say screw it and CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY. Surround yourself with others that also believe in you. Remember that the most inspirational people in the world also had a great deal of people that never believed in them and they chose to believe in themselves and surround themselves by others who believed in them. If you don’t believe me, check out Oprah’s story.

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I check off bucket list items every chance I get, especially when I can do them with my kids. Some of the things we’ve done include swimming with sting rays, visit the Grand Canyon, jump off a cliff. It’s so powerful and invigorating when you do something outrageous.

I also love to engage in outdoor activities: hiking, surfing, you name it.

I love to read – mostly psychology, personal development and inspirational books.

Volunteering and doing pay it forwards – this keeps me humble and compassionate.

Finally – just pamper yourself, workout and eat healthy 80% of the time. You need it. it is so important for you to take care of you. If you are not at your best, you can’t give the best of you to your kids.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that I know what unconditional love is. I love waking up each day and looking at my kids and really truly falling in love with them every single day. I love seeing them grow and evolve. I love reminiscing about when they were little. I love when they do something completely selfless, compassionate and kind and knowing that I had a part in that.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

In five years I will be a successful, professional inspirational speaker and social media catalyst for positive change, with a global impact. I will be married to a wonderful man that loves me unconditionally and supports my vision of making a positive impact on the world. I will be enjoying the fruits of my labor with my family. <3

Thank you, Paola, for sharing your story and advice so openly with us!

Do you have any questions for Paola or want to thank her for being an inspiration to the rest of us young moms? Let her know in the comments below.

The Spotlight is on: Megan Berkheimer

Introducing our Young Moms Club spotlighted member: Megan Berkheimer!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m a 24 year old mommy of two. My husband Marcus and I have been married for 3 1/2 years. My monsters are Damen (almost 4) and Rylee (8 months). We are Mesa, Arizona born and raised. We are tattooed, video game playing, outdoor loving homebodies.

young couple wedding picWhat were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When we first discovered I was pregnant, my first thought was joy. I had only been dating Marcus for three months but I knew I was in love with him. My immediate next thought was how we were going to tell our parents. I called my family first and they were surprised but excited. Marcuss parents didn’t take the news so well and didn’t talk to us for four months.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

For fun we go hiking, have drinks at home, or play xbox together.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My all time favorite thing of being a mom is watching my kids grow and change everyday. The happiness their smiles and full tummies bring me is indescribable. I can’t imagine my life any other way. :]

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

If there were no obstacles, in five years we would be homeowners out in the country. We would be on our way to being completely self reliant. We would grow and prepare all of our own food.

cute little boy in hatWhat advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

To young girls that have just found out their going to become mothers I would say, it’s a long scary road that first nine months. There’s so much uncertainty and growing up crammed into a short space. No matter how crazy it is, you can do it. You can, and will be an amazing mother!

 

 

The Spotlight is on: Megan Berkheimer

5 Tips to make Losing Weight after Giving Birth Super Easy

So, you want your pre-baby body back and to fit into your clothes again but you’re having trouble losing weight after giving birth?

I know the feeling.

When you have a new baby you feel as though you can only spend quality time on them.

There just isn’t enough time in the day,” I have heard myself say so many times. Especially when you feel so tired, you feel as though you will never slim back down. We, as women know how it can make you feel so stuck and unable to improve your image. It’s no fun being in that place of dissatisfaction in ourselves. You may be having a hard time knowing who this person is that you are looking at in the mirror.

losing weight after giving birthDon’t make the mistake that most of us make, consider yourself  “too mommy” to be physically fit. Never give up on improving because mothers can be hot too!

And successful..

..and just as totally awesome as anyone else.

We women are diverse. This may be hard to believe right now, because of your dirty hair, spit up stained lounge wear and no makeup, but you can be glamourous! This is all about your mindset and seeing yourself how you want to be. The can do, positive attitude is what will make your goals a reality.

Taking care of a new baby is one of the most rewarding, but challenging, life-changing experiences that you will ever face.  At the beginning, you should take your time and connect with your newborn. Exercising with your newborn can help with postpartum depression. Be sure to wait at least six weeks after delivery and talk to your doctor before beginning your workout regimen.

There is a way to reshape your figure. With a few small steps each day, you can slowly regain your body strength and fitness. You can do it! If you have the desire, I will show you why it’s not so hard losing weight after giving birth. We will take it one step at a time. Now is the time to focus on your plan of action.

Your well-being is just as important as your baby’s. I know it seems as though there is absolutely no time for you, but you will start losing waist inches with these tips for losing weight after giving birth.

Make sure you know your “Why” for getting healthy. That’s what you should focus on. These reasons could include: having more energy, being more calm, a good example for your children and getting the confidence you deserve.

Hang this “Why” on a wall or somewhere you will see it everyday!

The 5 tips to losing weight after giving birth are….

1. Take 15 minutes for yourself each day, preferably in the morning, to stretch and relax, yoga is a way to do just that.
Tip: Try green tea to soothe and use an obtainable goal and plan to get fit slowly.
2. Drink lots of water

Tip: about 8(8oz.)  glasses or more a day

3. Eat healthy meals throughout the day as well as snacks.

Tip: stock your fridge with easy to grab items, Nutrition goes a long way.Cut out sugar and processed foods. This is anything packaged and soda drinks. Try fruit instead of sweets. Eat veggies with low-fat dressing instead of chips.

4. Get moving! Take baby for a walk, climb stairs, do 10-15 minute workouts at a time, because with your new baby that’s all you will have time for. It will work and you can gradually add more.

Tip: use household items to do your own workouts at home.

5. Get enough sleep!

Tip: you may need help to make this happen. Ask a friend or loved one to watch your baby so you can get rest. Hopefully, the child can be put on some sort of schedule. Try sleeping when baby is.

Stick to your plan, write a schedule, pin notes and don’t give up!

I have personally had to schedule my phone to tell me to wake up and do my workout! If you have to change your schedule to fit the kids, that’s ok. Just make sure you follow this through and get help with the baby. In fact, you can include your little one and she/he will be grateful that you did because you will be a happy, fit, more serene mom!

Baby benefits from exercise time, too.

Imagine the bond baby is developing with mom through interaction,” Maltbie says in this BabyZone article. “You are building confidence, self-awareness, human connection, love. Babies need these intimate interactions to adjust, to develop and grow. Also, the activities are exercise for Baby too, so he/she is developing cognitive and physical abilities.Click to Tweet this wisdom out!

Also, don’t forget that breastfeeding can also help you get back in shape!  Don’t go on a reduced calorie diet, this will hurt the nutrients in your supply.

Be sure to tell yourself everyday that you will achieve your goals. Surround yourself with positive people and recite daily affirmations.

You are a work in progress, but love yourself along the way. Treat yourself when possible, like mani/pedi or shopping. Just remember that weight loss doesn’t take tons of money or lots of skill, just commitment and it takes time. Be confident in yourself and love your body! Confidence is sexy and you will get addicted to improving that sexiness. Soon, this will all be habit and you will have formed long-lasting lifestyle changes.

Start today by writing your schedule and lists. To find out more details how to make your goals a reality, follow this series and fill in your email address to get updated when new material is added.

I hope this article about losing weight after giving birth was beneficial to you and would like for you to share what struggles you faced, in the comments below.

Share with your friends who can relate!

Coming soon: Part 2: Taking mom fitness to the next level.

About the Author: Lacricia Sanders is a 27 years old young mom of Jaylynn (12), Leah (7) and Lilyanna (4). She has been happily married to Jason for 12 ½ years. She loves to be with her family, help with local charity events, and enjoying social interaction.

She is a budding entrepreneur with health, fitness and anything else that catches her fancy. When she isn’t enjoying time with her family, she can be found working out, shopping, singing or helping people with fitness.

Read more about Lacricia and get more health and fitness tips here.

5 Tips to make Losing Weight after Giving Birth Super Easy

The Spotlight is on: Anyssa Marie Ruiz

She’s not your average 19 year old Cali girl- Anyssa is also a young mom, figuring it out day by day, with her baby girl, Mia.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m a young mom at 19. I’m struggling but holding on. Making my little girl happy is my priority.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?teenage mom and baby

I thought that I wouldn’t have enough money. My boyfriend got a second job to handle it and then my mom and his mom started to help out.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I never treat myself on anything. For fun I dance because its what I do and to stay relaxed I just watch TV.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My favorite thing would be making her laugh, watching her grow and learning how to do this right.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself as a professional dancer, it’s my wish since i was little, with maybe 2 kids a husband and a life that makes me and everyone else happy.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Take care of yourself. Don’t let others let you down. Stay positive. Things will be okay. Good luck.

 

Do you have any love or words of wisdom for Anyssa? Share them in the comments!

The Spotlight is on: Anyssa Marie Ruiz

4 reasons why New Years Resolutions don’t work

Having trouble sticking to your new years resolution? You aren’t alone.

In October of 2009, I decided that I wanted to learn Spanish for a few reasons.danielle ford new years eve

1) I’ve always been kind of ashamed of being a Mexican who doesn’t know how to speak Spanish. A lot of the time, after I meet someone new, during that initial slew of awkward questions we exchange to break the ice, I get asked, “What nationality are you?” I answer with “English and Mexican.” The next question is always “Oh! Do you speak Spanish?” And that’s when I lower my head a tad, drop my eyes to floor and shamefully respond with “No, I don’t.” I feel like, being Mexican, I should know Spanish.

2) I really hate being out of the loop. When I’m at a restaurant or shopping or anywhere and people around me are speaking Spanish, it drives me crazy because I want to know what they’re saying! It’s not that I want to listen in on other people’s conversations. (Ok, maybe I want to a little.) But it’s mostly that I don’t know if they’re talking about ME. Or if they’re discussing something that I might want to know or something that could be of importance, like maybe they’re sharing the cure for Cancer. (That’s totally possible.) I really just like to always know what’s going on.

3) I’ve dreamed up these highly-unlikely-to-ever-happen situations in my head where I would NEED to know how to speak Spanish. For instance, I could be driving on a dark, lonely highway in the middle of the night and my car could just stall out of nowhere and I would have to wait and hope that someone comes by soon to help me. Well, what if that person only spoke Spanish? They could be talking to me and motioning for me to get in their car and I wouldn’t know if they were saying, “Please get in my car so I can drive you to safety” or “Please get in my car so I can murder you and dismantle your body.” Or what if I was visiting Mexico with my family and we got arrested by the Mexican government because someone tipped them off that we were American drug lords. They could be questioning us about our involvement in the war on drugs and if I knew how to speak Spanish, I could tell them, “We aren’t American drug lords.” And save the day.

(I’ve played out another “save the day” story in my head: I’m on an airplane and mid-flight, the pilot has a seizure or heart attack and a stewardess shouts frantically, “Does anyone know how to fly this plane?!” – And that’s why “Learn how to fly a plane” is on my bucket list.)

Anyway, I had decided that I wanted to learn how to speak Spanish.

I went Barnes and Noble and bought this huge box set with 20+ CDs to listen to. I could have started the 1st CD in October, when I got it, but I started thinking that the holidays were coming and I might not have enough time and then *LIGHTBULB* I realized that I could make “Learn Spanish” my New Years resolution. Brilliant!

On January 1st, I followed through and popped the CD in. It started off OK. I began listening to and repeating about 10 simple, common phrases like “Nice to meet you.” “Where is the bathroom?” “What is your name?” By the end of that session, I had those phrases down perfect and I was thinking that at the rate I was going, I’d know Spanish within a month. The next day, there was a new set of phrases. “I’m happy to meet you as well.” “The girl’s bathroom is there.” “My name is Danielle.”  I memorized them all and was feeling like a Mexican Rock Star. The third day, the CD explained that I was supposed to match the phrases from the first day with the phrases from the 2nd and that’s when I realized that I couldn’t remember anything at all from the first day!

So, I got really pissed off and QUIT.

That was the end of my Spanish education. After looking forward to cracking open my Spanish course for almost 3 months, I was over it in 3 days.

And that’s why I don’t like New Years resolutions and will never make one again.

Looking back, I realized that I made 4 mistakes on my quest to learn Spanish.

1) I shouldn’t have waited until the New Year to start. If I wanted to do something, I should’ve just done it. Waiting for a significant date to start is just fancy procrastination.

2) I shouldn’t have been in such a hurry. If I had taken a week to consume each segment, instead of just 1 day, the information would’ve soaked in better.

3) I didn’t tell anyone about it. I wanted to keep it a secret until I was totally fluent and then, at the right moment- perhaps at a family gathering- I would shock and impress everyone with my mad Spanish skills. That was dumb, though. If I had told others about my goals, they could’ve helped to hold me accountable.

4) I didn’t allow for failure. Of course I never plan to fail, but I hadn’t even considered that I might have some trouble learning Spanish so when I failed at first, there was no plan B. If I had been logical and anticipated it being difficult, I wouldn’t have been so discouraged when I didn’t remember all the information on the third day.

The reason why New Years resolutions don’t work is that they’re usually not attainable.

Change takes time. It takes about 21 days to change a habit. And you have to change it little by little so that you get used to it.

So, if your goal is to lose weight and you’ve been pretty unhealthy in the past, you shouldn’t make your New Years Resolution to eat healthy and go to the gym every single day. Instead, you should change 1 thing at a time. For instance, you could say for the 1st week, you are going to change what you eat for breakfast. Then spend that week trying different healthy breakfast options until you have enough that you are used to making and that you like. Then another week, you change your lunch, and so on..

If your goal is to get your whole house organized, you don’t want to just jump in and spend 5 days straight cleaning out your garage and organizing your closets and junk drawers because you will get burnt out, put off other responsibilities, not be able to keep up with the regular housework and then you’ll get discouraged. Instead, you should write a list of every area in your home that needs to be organized, then put 1 area from your list into each week of your yearly calendar. And stick to it!

The only way to accomplish a goal is to break it down into the smallest possible tasks and do them 1 by 1 at a steady pace. <—Click to tweet this quote!

I’ve personally given up on New Years resolutions. I always create 30, 60 or 90 day goals for myself. I focus on things I want to change or get better at and at the end of the year, I didn’t accomplish just one thing, I accomplished many and it doesn’t feel like it was very hard because I allowed myself to take it all step by step and not be too hard on myself if I sucked at something.

So tell me in the comments below.. What is your New Years resolution? How are you doing with it so far?

If you’d like help breaking it into segments and specific tasks, leave a little more detail and I’ll help you make a plan.

4 reasons why New Years Resolutions don’t work

The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders

How do you defy the odds and create a beautiful family and positive home after getting married and having children young?

Lacricia Sanders explains with her story below:

Tell us about yourself and your family:young marriage pic

Hi I’m Lacricia, the spunky red head that lives in a tiny town with all the people I grew up with. I had dreams of being a famous singer or Hollywood star when I was younger, but that all changed the day I met my prince charming, Jason. He swept me off my feet and took me off the dating market 12 years ago when I was just 15 and he was 19. Seems crazy to some that we got married so young, but we wanted to bring up our daughter in a stable home filled with love. Now, 31 years old he works very hard to take care of his 4 girls, his lovely wife who keeps the household running well and his three beautiful daughters Jaylynn 11, Leah 6, and Lilyanna 3.

I am now 27 and very much still in Love with my husband and our life is great. I believe that God has supplied us with every need and even a little room to spoil. I always say I am “spoiled” but it’s not because I don’t do any work or we have lots of extra money to spend. I say that because I have a wonderful husband that does all he can to pay the mortgage and utilities and still have some strength left to talk to me and enjoy our family. I have been fighting the whole stay at home mom thing for awhile now because I feel I dont get the outside social interaction or career stimulation I need, but I am so thankful that I have been at home enjoying every important moment with my kids while they grow. Now I am a work at home mom and I proudly promote health and fitness body by vi challenge pic lacricia sandersfrom home with Visalus and the BodybyVi Challenge. I am always researching nutrition and exercise so I can help my clients. I love my job and now my goal is to become a fitness trainer and my ultimate dream is to own a gym with aerobic exercise, yoga, weight training, kick boxing and martial arts. I love natural healing remedies and believe that what you put into your body is what determines what will come out, including positivity. I am also working very hard to be a good mother and find new ways to feed and care for my children. I want to make sure I do creative things with the whole family. Remember that no one and nothing is perfect, so make the best of each day!

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concern when I first found out I was pregnant would have to be how my life would turn out. I was determined to finish school and go to college, which I did! My oldest daughter was three when I started college and work. I feel i missed out a little on her, but I am glad I can say I did do it. I was afraid we wouldn’t have what we needed, but I prayed and it all worked out!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I Love to exercise! I do a lot of running and home exercises. I love to read and I am a decent singer! I intend on going back to school for music.


What are your favorite things about being a mom?lacricia sanders young family

When I feel that I haven’t done anything worth mentioning, my children remind me how great of a job I do with them. We have a positive home and I can see how much influence I have in their lives and it reminds me to do the best I can to keep smiling!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself in five years owning my own business place where people can come to workout and buy supplements. I also want to go back to school for music. I will be making enough money that I can volunteer and give back to the community, afford fun activities with my daughters, take some cool classes myself, and give my husband a fun break from working so hard.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would like to tell other moms to not be so rigid when it comes to raising their kids. Have fun, enjoy each moment, and don’t forget to discipline! You don’t have to do anything like other people do, parent in your own way. Don’t get so mad at people, but stand your ground when it comes to advice, just say, “Thanks” and do it your way. Listen to your heart, that’s where a true loving relationship with your kids comes from!

The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders

The Spotlight is on: Stevie Degenero

Meet Young Moms Club’s Spotlighted Member: Stevie Degenero!!!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hi, I am Stevie Degenero. I live in Ohio with a family of 5. I am wife to Jason, mother of Travis 5, Owen 4, and Kyle 3. There are less than 3 yrs between my first and 3rd son. Having 3 little boys is a lot of work but it is also so wonderful! They are best buddies and worst enemies hahaha luckily worst enemies don’t last long 🙂

When I got pregnant with Travis I was 19 and I was in between jobs but luckily Jason had a full time job. I got a part time job as a cashier when I was about 3 months pregnant and we were doing pretty good. We had our first son in Nov of 2006 and shortly after my husband was laid off, due to the business going under. He searched for a job non stop. We flew to Vegas (where our families are) in July 2007 with our son and got married 😀 When we got back home Jason got a fantastic job at Worthington Cylinders where he still works and in 4yrs he has moved up to an assistant group leader. I am very proud of him, he has stepped up for us and taken care of us. family of five

I got a new job at Jenny Craig I worked there for 3 yrs and was laid off in 2009 when I was 6 months pregnant with my last baby. I have been a stay at home mom ever since and my husband just works all the time to make up for us having one income. It would cost about $400 a week for childcare and Jason work 12 hr shifts with alternating days it is too hard to be on opposite schedules. So, I started a little In home baking business called “Sweets by Stevie”. I make cake pops and cupcakes and sell them at the flea market/swap meet on weekends. I also do personalized birthday cakes. I am still figuring out the marketing and selling part but right now I’m just working my ass off trying to get my name out there! I love doing it and I am hoping to make some income to benefit my family 🙂

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

Well, I was worried that I was too young and even though Jason and I had been together for 4 yrs, I was worried we wouldn’t stay together because we weren’t married and we wouldn’t be able to afford having a baby. Also when we went to close family we were told not to expect any help at all and actually encouraged us to have an abortion but Jason and I could never do that, we already loved our little baby 🙂

After all the heart to hearts that me and Jason had, I was reassured that he was going to be there and that we were very much in love. No, we didn’t get help and we still rarely have a sitter but we get by. I would never trade my kids or husband for anything!!!

three boysWhat kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

To relax every once in awhile I hang out with friends with no kids and no hubby. To relax I get my kids to bed early and take a couple hours to myself to sit and watch some TV or hang and talk to the hubby. I enjoy those hours without the sound of children. I also have a membership to the YMCA where I can put my kids in daycare for up to 2 and a half hours a day and workout, swim or just hang out in the spa 🙂

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My favorite thing about being a mom is seeing my handsome, happy, healthy boys everyday. I love spending time with them and acting like a big kid 🙂 I love how much they love me and how they light up when I just smile at them.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?sweets by stevie cake pops

In 5 yrs I hope to own a home and have a full time job. Without any obstacles, I would love to own a bakery that serves gourmet sweets by me and people come from all over to line up and get some 😀

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Moms to be and new moms: Take all the help you can get. If someone says, “I will watch the baby, take a nap.” DO IT! All people are scared when they get pregnant no matter how old, young, prepared or unprepared. Motherly instincts kick in and you will know what is best for your child. Hard times come and go, and being a mother is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. Read up as much as you can so that you have researched and professional advice. It makes you feel good when you know what’s going on with your children.

 

 The Spotlight is on: Stevie Degenero

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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls

We all have those days when sh*t hits the fan and we don’t feel like getting out of bed and instead we decide to throw ourselves a pity party.

Here is a list of 16 Don’t Forgets to review on the bad days.. and the good days, too.

1. Someone always has it worse than you.
Always.

2. Right now is the youngest you’re ever going to be.
Take advantage of it. Don’t get caught up in the small things. Stop to take comfort in the littlest details.

3. When you get angry at someone, you give them your power.
The more you practice letting things go, the more control you gain over yourself and your life.

4. You can’t rationalize with an irrational person.
Doing so only turns you psycho and puts you on their level.

5. Do the things that frighten you.
This is the only way to force yourself out of your comfort zone and into a space where big things can come to you.

6. The sexiest thing you can wear is your expression.
Nothing is more unattractive than a girl all dressed up- with a sour face. Showing happiness unconsciously makes others around you happy and makes people like you more.

7. The most valuable thing you can give your child is your time and attention.
It’s the only thing that can’t be bought at a store and it’s what they will remember and love you for the most.

8. Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t think you’re awesome.
You are awesome- imperfections and all.

9. Every sh*tty thing that happens to you will either make you weaker or stronger.dont forgets
You decide which by how you react to it.

10. You don’t have to keep everyone as your friend.
Don’t give up attention to your good friends for ones that aren’t so good.

11. Optimistic people go way farther in life than pessimists.
Pessimism is contagious. Avoid negative people like they have chicken pox.

12. You don’t have to know exactly how everything will turn out.
As long as you’re taking steps- even small ones- in the right direction, you’ll get there.

13. Take lots of pictures.
Even if you think an event isn’t that important, you’ll realize later that it was.

14. Always have a plan written down.
A goal that isn’t written down is just a wish. Remember: it’s OK to change plans, you just always have to have one.

15. Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins create happiness.
Even a walk around the block can make a big difference.

16. Spend more time looking to the future than the past.
You don’t own your past, you have every right to release it as history. The future is the only thing you can control.

Write these Don’t Forgets down, print them out.. whatever you have to do to remind yourself.

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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls