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10 Myths about being a Young Mom

Here’s the video of the Live hangout where we talk about 10 myths about being a young mom.

 

We’d love to know if there’s anything you would add to this conversation? Let us know in the comments and be sure to join the clubso that you don’t miss out on any future events like this!

Thanks again so much Roxanne Ford for educating and entertaining us 🙂 Be sure to check out Babymamas.com.au!

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The Spotlight is on: Lexi Mooney

Meet a young couple in Ireland who is showing us how it’s done!

Through all the struggles of being teen parents, this couple has had support from one another and his family to help them through. Read more to find out Lexi’s favorite things about being mommy to Bentley and what she does when she needs to take 5….

Tell us about yourself and your flexi mooneyamily:

I’m Lexi. I live in Ireland. I’m 19 years old and I’m with my wonderful partner Gary. We live together and are parents to the most amazing little boy, Bentley.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

It was very hard finding out that I was pregnant as it came as a big shock. When I found out I was pregnant, I was in the middle of my final exams in school. Obviously I found it really hard to concentrate as none of my family knew and I was really scared. And I ended up not doing as well as I’d hoped (but I still passed). What made it even harder was that when I did finally tell my family, I ended up having a big falling out with my mom and sister and I had tolexi mooney young mom leave the family home! It was really hard moving around when I was pregnant, carrying all my stuff around in a bag and trying to find places to leave the baby stuff that we were buying. Luckily enough, Gary’s family was really supportive and his mom put us up for a few months. It was still hard though, having to live in a small cramped house with a lot of people and having to share a single bed with a huge bump. With all that taken into consideration though, even though it was a really stressful time for me, I think I handled being pregnant really well and just couldn’t wait to meet my little pea.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I think I am a pretty relaxed person anyways. But playing with Bentley really makes my day. He has the biggest smile in the world (and at nearly 8 months has finally got his first tooth). The usual thing to treat myself is to get my nails done and a tan. I love to look glamorous!

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What are your favorite things about being a mom?

One of the best things, I find, is the first smile of the day. When I get Bentley up in the morning he has the biggest smile I’ve ever seen and it just makes my day. I love spending every minute with him and I won’t leave him with anyone. He’s just so amazing, I don’t know how I would live without him. I wouldn’t.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years I would definitely love to have a little brother or sister for Bentley. I also plan to go to college to study business & law, so I would love to be a bit further forward in that and hopefully have a better house then what we’re in now.

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What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

It’s all gonna be OK. No matter HOW scared, worried or upset you are. No matter how much you think you can’t do it. You can. Any scary or negative feelings you get will all disappear when you see that first scan or feel that first kick. And OMG when you first see your little baba in your arms, you’ll forget how you ever felt and will realize this is the most important and amazing thing in your life!

 

Thank you for sending your story all the way from Ireland to share with our young moms around the world, Lexi! Best of luck with your goals and expanding your family.

Is Lexi the kind of young mom that you can relate to? If you have comments or questions for Lexi or anyone here at Young Mom’s Club, leave a comment below!

Don’t forget, we always want to have other young moms share their stories, so submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form and you could be next!

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The Spotlight is on: Hannah Whisman

Wonder what it’s like to be pregnant at only 14 years old? Hannah knows and now that she’s a mom, she wants to share her story!

There are so many teen moms out there who find out that they are pregnant and aren’t sure what to do next. Being a pregnant teen can be scary, but Hannah stayed strong and is doing an amazing job at being a young mom. Read on to find out all about what it’s like being Gabriel’s mama…

hannah whisman young momTell us about yourself and your family:

My name is Hannah Whisman. I am 15 years old and have a beautiful son Gabriel Alexander. He was born August, 1, 2014 weighing 9 lbs. 5 oz. I have an amazing boyfriend, Victor, who has been here for me through everything and is an amazing father to our son.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When I first found out I was pregnant, I was already 18 1/2 weeks . My only concern was how my family was going to take it since I was only 14 at the time. I handled finding out I was pregnant very well. I was scared and worried but I wasn’t going to give my baby boy up. I love my son more than anything in this entire world!hannah whisman teen mom

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I just take a nice long nap with my son when I need time to relax.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

My favorite thing about being a mom is just being able to have my baby boy finally in my arms and watching him grow and learn new things everyday.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself in 5 years graduated, starting my own bakery, and moving somewhere in the city with my boyfriend and son to start a bigger family.

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What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Never give up, no matter what you’re going through. You’re doing this for your baby. You can do it! I did at only 14. Now I’m 15 and I’m still staying strong because whenever life tells me to give up, I tell myself: Don’t give up! You’re doing this for your son.

 

Hannah, thank you for being such a strong teen and sharing your story with other young moms and pregnant teens. You are such an inspiration and we are proud to have you as part of the Young Mom’s Club! Are you a pregnant teen who felt like Hannah’s story helped you? Leave a comment below.

You could share your story and be the next featured Spotlight Young Mom on our website. Stop by, fill out the application form and send pics so you can reach out to other young moms. Don’t forget to subscribe to our emails so you don’t miss a thing and get your FREE gift!

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The Spotlight is on: Rickelle C.

When Rickelle shared her story with me on Instagram in response to a Talk it out Tuesday question, I felt like her experiences should be shared with other young moms.

Pregnant at only 14 years old, this teen mom had to grow up more quickly than she expected. But she is doing a great job as a mommy and still holds her goals and dream within reach. Read on to hear more about how Jensen changed her life.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m 15 years old. I was raised to be moved around a lot but right now I live in Joplin, MO. My son, Jensen was born all natural on September 8th, 2014 at 20 inches long and 7.8 pounds. I’m now a sophomore and still do online schooling. Jensen’s daddy isn’t really in the picture so I’m a 15 year old single mom. It’s very hard, but I enjoy every minute! <3

rickelle c pregnant teenWhat were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

I was a freshman in high school and I was with a guy for about 3 months. Well, when I ended up getting home-schooled (the bullying was bad) that January, we broke up because I  wouldn’t get to see him. He was 17 and nobody supported our relationship because of our age difference. We had our “first time” in December (protection was used, but it failed) right before Christmas. I missed my period, but I thought it was from all of the stress. In February, I started craving pickles… a lot! My sister said she thought I was pregnant from my weight gain and cravings, so she bought me a pregnancy test when I was staying the night with her. It said positive almost instantly! I was scared to death to tell my mom and dad… they didn’t even know I lost my virginity! I called the guy I was with in December and said I needed to talk. He said he had a girlfriend and he wouldn’t even hold a conversation. I talked to his brother and we ended up all sitting down together but the guy denied the baby was his. After an hour of arguing, he went home and talked to his mom. He hardly had any contact with me the whole pregnancy. He even blocked me from Instagram, messaging, calling… all of it!  The baby’s daddy came to the hospital when I had Jensen. He wasn’t in the delivery room because he said he was “sick to his stomach”.

When I got home, I actually waited till my birthday (March 16th) to tell my parents. I went to Walmart and bought a “Congratulations! You’re a Grandparent!” card and some baby bibs. I sat them down on my birthday and handed them the stuff and said, “I love you”. They didn’t say anything so I started walking away. My dad walked away from the table and went outside. My mom sat me down and said, “It’s just gonna take some time for him to cope” and she hugged me. Later in my pregnancy, my dad started getting involved picking out baby stuff. My mom and sister took me to all of my ultrasounds.  I did have a job and live with my parents still. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to support he/she. I was 14 years old, I thought I could barely take care of myself. I learned to basically buck up and handle it and I don’t regret one minute of it. My son is my entire world!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

While Jensen is asleep, that’s when I usually go and take my shower/paint my nails/dye my hair, etc. When Jensen was first born, my mom usually took him while I went and laid down. Now? He’s attached to my hip!

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I would say… when you get to wake up every morning and see that beautiful, innocent smile on his face and know that I made that. When he starts school, yes I’m going to get looks because a 19 year old is taking her son to school… but he’s gonna cry and not going to want me to leave because we are so close!  When he’s older on prom night, I will get to be the one to dress him up and say, “That’s my son”. Jensen is my pride, my joy, my everything! I wouldn’t trade being a mom for anything in this world.rickelle c young mom

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I will be 20 in 5 years. I want to be able to finish high school and then continue with my dream of going to college to get my Master’s Degree in law/criminal justice to become an attorney. Yes, I do realize I have a baby and yes, I realize it will be hard. But everything I do now isn’t for me. It’s for him and his future.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Honestly? I love being a mom. It’s extremely difficult so I strongly advise if your going to have sex, use all the protection you can or avoid having sex. If you know you’re pregnant and you’re young, get ready for rumors to spread and hateful things to be said about you. Don’t take it to heart though! They judge us because we’re young, they don’t think we can’t handle it or we aren’t mature enough. All I did was prove them wrong. When it comes to me and my son, he comes first. You know that new iPhone that just came out? It’s gonna be hard to get that when your not-even-one-month-old son needs diapers. He always comes first. Your baby becomes your main priority. He/she will be that one thing you strive for. They become your everything. I don’t regret Jensen. I wish I was a little older before I had him… but I was going down a bad path and hanging around the wrong crowd. He’s my savior baby and I’m a very lucky mommy!

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The Spotlight is on: Kim Negri

It’s time to meet… me! Wanna get into the life of a YMC admin? Here’s your sneak peek into my crazy life raising two beautiful daughters.

Being an admin for Young Mom’s Club has been one of the most humbling experiences of my life. I am amazed every day by the stories that come in from all of our inspiring young moms, so I felt that it was time for me to share my story. I can tell you my road has NOT been an easy one, but I wouldn’t change a thing. My life story will definitely not fit into a spotlight article, but here are the highlights….

Tell us about yourself and your family:kim and matt

My name is Kim. I live in Orange County, CA where I am raising my two daughters with my awesome boyfriend, Matt. My oldest daughter, Krystal, is going to be 12 this month and is a 7th grader (gulp!) while my “baby” Mia is only 6 and just started first grade this year. Matt is actually my best friend of 16 years and he is so supportive and loving that you would never know he isn’t the girls’ dad. I have had my share of challenges in my life, especially having Krystal in high school when I was only 17, but my kids have changed my life and really helped me grow up into the person I’m supposed to be.

Krystal’s dad seemed to want to be involved at first, but then was withdrawn for years and denied her. He eventually came around after getting a DNA test and definitely did his best as a father with his fiancee. Unfortunately, that bond was broken when both he and his fiancee passed away, all within a year of each other. I was married to Mia’s dad, but we divorced because he had alcohol issues and got another girl pregnant and ended up being unfaithful. He is around and sees Mia regularly, but we have a lot of struggles on having similar parenting values.

kim and the girlsI’ve been working since I was 15 1/2 and just recently got laid off, so this is the first time I get to be a SAHM. My boyfriend insists that I take the time to focus on school and being able to spend more time with the kids since I’ve always had to put those things on the back burner to make a living to provide for my girls. I run our Etsy store part time for fun and couldn’t be more grateful that I have the opportunity to try new things right now. Plus I love being able to contribute to YMC and spend so much time getting to know so many young moms who have been through hardships too.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

kim at 17I was all over the place when I was younger, getting kicked out of high schools, hanging out with lots of drug addicts, partying, and just not really caring about my future at all. I actually found out I was pregnant when I went to juvenile hall for assault and it was one of the most terrifying moments in my life. I actually told the nurse she was wrong… until she showed me the test. At that point, I was so worried about what I was going to do with a kid at 17 and I had to call my mom and explain to her why I was in jail AND that I was going to have a baby. I wasn’t even the type to babysit so I was worried I wouldn’t know how to be a mom.

My mom ended up wanting me to have an abortion or consider adoption. When she knew that wasn’t something I’d consider, she assumed I would stay with Krystal’s dad, but I knew that he wasn’t ready to grow up. She was super supportive of my decisions and helped me raise Krystal every step of the way. I am so grateful for her support and unconditional love for me and both of my kids. At one point, when I was living in my car and married to a drug addict, she even took Krystal to live with her briefly so I could feel secure that my baby would be safe until I could get back on my feet and break away from my ex.kims robots

Despite all of my fears and all of the ups and downs that have happened in the last 12 years (too much to write), I am so glad that I have two incredible daughters who teach me things everyday. I know I’m not perfect but I can hold my head up high and know that I am setting an example for my girls that I can be proud of.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

Honestly, I am a workaholic so I don’t know how to relax! When I have time away from homework, school, running errands, driving the kids around to karate, gymnastics, Girl Scouts, piano lessons, and band practice… I love to do NOTHING!  🙂  Aside from just relaxing at home, I like taking the kids thrift shopping and to estate sales (we’re girls, we love to shop!), we go to carnivals, get our nails done, and try to find offbeat places to try new things as much as possible.

kim family movie nightMy boyfriend and I do our best to go on date nights. We love to cook together when we can’t get out of the house and we try to catch a movie out when we can. If not, we usually end up glued to a show we’re addicted to on Netflix or Call of Duty Black Ops on Xbox! We like to nerd out… what can I say?

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love watching my kids accomplish their goals, big and small. Whenever they do something they are proud of, the looks on their faces makes me so much prouder than I ever thought I could be. Seeing them when they get along and aren’t arguing (like sisters do) is the most heartwarming feeling ever. I can’t help but smile every time I catch them being adorable when they think nobody is looking. I can’t wait to be a part of all of my kids’ life experiences, the good and the bad… and I love knowing that I did something right in life to make kim and girls ice skatingtwo beautiful, smart, and amazing daughters.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In 5 years, I see myself getting married to my boyfriend and living in a house. I’ll be working in my dream career as a Substance Abuse Counselor after getting my B.S.W. and getting ready to decide if I’ll go for my Master’s Degree. Maybe I’ll even own my own business by then! I see myself helping Krystal get ready to apply for scholarships and choosing a college and helping Mia prepare for middle school and crying because my babies aren’t babies anymore… LOL

I don’t feel that ANY obstacles in my past, present, or future will ever cause me to have to not pursue my dreams. Once I finish school and work for a while in my dream career and the kids are grown and away at college, I plan to retire with my boyfriend, buy an RV and hit the road! All I want to do in life is travel around the country with no limits on time and then venture out to experience life in parts of Europe, like Italy, France, and Spain. Life is too short to miss out on all the world has to offer!

family photo kim nWhat advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Don’t get anything get you down! There are always going to be critics in life but you can’t change them, so all you can do is keep your focus and make sure that you keep your head held high. If they’re passing judgement on you and you know their opinions are based on rumors and stuff that isn’t true, then don’t get it get to you!

The most important things you can do for yourself and your children is to follow your dreams, have a good work ethic, always care about other people, and remember to be open-minded and compassionate. The best way to raise children who will be successful in life is to lead by example. Even though we make mistakes in life, don’t let yourself be defined by them.

 I hope that my story will help teen moms and other young moms who are doubting themselves or worried about being a good mom to their kids. Leave a comment below if something in my story was easy to relate to or if you have anything else to say!

Don’t forget, we always want to have other young moms share their stories, so submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form and you could be next!

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The Spotlight is on: Brynn Jestes

Meet Brynn (and Rhyse)! This young mom is pushing the limits and has dealt with so many challenges that some of us couldn’t even imagine, but she’s kicking life’s ass everyday!

I’ll admit that when I first read her pregnancy story, I got emotional because she really had to deal with a lot of negativity and complications with her son’s health and her own. But as you read on you will be stunned with the accomplishments she’s made as a teen mom….

Teen Mom Brynn Jestes

Tell us about yourself and your family:

Hello! My name is Brynn. I’m 22 and a proud mom to my 5 year old son, Rhyse. We have overcome many obstacles to get where we are now. When I was 17 and a senior in high school, my boyfriend of 4 years and I found out we were expecting. When I told him, he didn’t take it very well and told me I ruined his life, he didn’t want this and I needed to have an abortion or we were done, but I decided to keep my baby. My boyfriend and I stayed together but when my son was born I found out he cheated on me and was heavy into drugs and got very abusive. I ended up having to get a restraining order and took on caring for my son alone. When Rhyse was 5 months old he had his first seizure and a slew of health issues that wound up landing us in the hospital many times over. Through all this stress, I was also working two jobs and was a full time student while living on my own. The next year I ended up in the hospital with a tumor on my ovary and ended up having both the tumor and my ovary removed. I found out I can’t have anymore children due to complications. Some days I felt like nothing was going right,
but then I gathered my strength for my son. Now, 5 years later, we still live on our own. I now work one job and will graduate college this year then continue on to grad school majoring in psychology. My son is dealing with epilepsy but overall is a very happy, healthy little man. We are each other’s strength and best friends.Brynn Jestes Young Moms Club

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When I found out, I felt every emotion at once and all my goals and fears flashed before me, I felt like my life was over and I was scared to face my family. After the first time I heard my sons heartbeat I knew that we were in this together and I would do whatever it took to be the best mom he deserves. And here I am making my dreams come true and setting an example for Rhyse.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I really enjoy going to concerts, when I can, or reading books. I don’t get a lot of time to myself but when I do I try to enjoy it.

Brynn Jestes Teen MomWhat are your favorite things about being a mom

What isn’t my favorite thing? I would say all the small things, like the way he hugs me and tells me I’m his best friend, or the way his smile takes over his face, or when he’s sleeping the little sounds he makes. I love being his mom and it makes me so proud to see him grow up.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In 5 years I see myself done with grad school, buying my first house, owning a service dog, and working a job I’m proud of to support my son.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Life doesn’t end when you become pregnant, but it actually is just starting! It’s a lot of work to be a parent, but it’s the most rewarding job. Always put your kid first and keep working hard towards your goals. Also, stop and take time to enjoy every little laugh and every step of their life.

I can’t thank Brynn enough for sharing your story! It’s so great to hear how well this young mom has done creating her perfect life for herself and her son through all the ups and downs at only 22 years old! Great job, girl!

Were you able to relate to Brynn? Have you or your child had health issues that have challenged you in life? Comment below to tell Young Mom’s Club and Brynn more about what you thought about this article. As always, if you want to share your own story, submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form right now!

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How Kristen Marie Leimann Did It

Getting ready to help her daughter with through her pregnancy and motherhood, find out how Kristen Marie was able to write her success story as a young mom herself.

Find out how a teen mom coming from a broken home made sure to do everything she could to make sure her daughter had a better life and was able to turn her own life into a wonderful story with a happy ending!

Family Pic Kristen LeimannTell us about yourself and your family:

Happily married, my husband and I have raised my daughter together since she was 6 years old. We recently purchased our first home together in Hesperia California. My daughter, Alicia, who is turning 18 next month, will start Victor Valley College in the Fall. Alicia and her boyfriend are expecting a baby in December. It’s amazing how quickly life changes. A few months ago, all I had on my mind was purchasing her a car and her going to college. Now we are focusing on baby proofing our home!

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

Teen Mom Kristen Leimann Age 17As a teen mom, which feels like many moons ago, it was a completely different life for me then. I do not even know who that person was, to tell you the truth. I have three phases in which my life made positive turns. A little back ground: I was not raised in a stable, guided home. I lived with my mom and stepdad in a very violent, drug-induced home. At 14 years old, I was free to do how I pleased and didn’t think twice about my future. My whole life was centered around my boyfriend (Alicia’s dad) so after having a baby at 15, her dad, who was 18, ended up in prison for drugs and probation violations. When I delivered, luckily I was able to go live with his mother who would end up being the person and the first phase that changed my life. She showed me a strong, educated woman and that there was more to life than what I had known. However, after 2 years of supporting us she was unable to continue and I had to move back home with my mom, which is where the next turning point in my life came.

Young mom and daughter picI had attempted to sign up for high school but I had dropped back out because I did not have someone to care for Alicia when I was going to school. I was later contacted by the Riverside school district and introduced to a teen parent program. Up until that point, I was a 17 year old with a 2 year old and barely 15 high school credits. At Abraham Lincoln High School I would be able to bring my daughter with me. It was such a positive experience. All of the teachers pushed me so hard and they truly encouraged and guided me, showing me that being educated would be the only way for me to change our lives. It was then that I was truly motivated to set goals and accomplish something great. I was able to complete four years of school in merely two years. I graduated only a year later than my original graduation date and, to top it off, I was able to receive a few (small) scholarships and go to Riverside Community College. I knew that I was showing my daughter something special.

Fast forward a few years and I met my husband and found my job which would be the financial and third turning point in my life (around 2002). My husband showed me that I could be loved, even with a child, and he showed me how to be responsible, pay my bills, and build my credit up so that we could one day buy a home. My work was something I was good at and showed me that I could work hard and get somewhere. I have been with my company for 12 years now, starting as order entry and working up to an Operations Manager. I love going to work and I love problem solving. I went from having ZERO dreams to having accomplished the lifestyle that I never knew existed. I am truly fortunate to have found myself through all of the emptiness and to find a support system, meeting all of the encouraging people that would change my life.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?Nana Rose Alicia and Myself

Many girls end up raising their baby on their own. They either do it alone or with the support of their family. But some girls go into it thinking they will have him by their side and then are devastated when it doesn’t happen the way they intended. Structure is the best tool you can provide.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

You will always run into negative people. Surround yourself with positive people, educate yourself, stay in school , push yourself hard for your baby, and when you think you have given it all you could, push and give more!

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I love working out and going to the gym, that is my ME time. I enjoy getting pedicures and shopping. I love seeing a glowing pregnant girl who looks happy. I did not have a “pretty” pregnancy so when I see those girls it makes me happy. It’s so important to embrace your pregnancy and dress cute. I already spoil my daughter with pretty clothes so she can look her best.

Kristen Leimann Thanksgiving FamilyWhat are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that despite my upbringing and being such a young mom, I was able to provide my daughter with a loving, stable, positive life. I love that my daughter knows she can always depend on me and that I will always be there for her. I love knowing I showed her something positive. She is my only child and I always thought of having another one but didn’t. But now I get to have a little one to spoil! <3

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

I continue to be a part of the company I work for, but I am looking forward to a home business with my husband. I am really just embracing the thought of helping my daughter and her boyfriend raise a beautiful baby girl.

How exciting to go from being a successful young mom to being able to support your daughter having a child of her own! What a great job Kristen has done and good luck with your new grandbaby! 🙂

Can you relate to Kristen’s story? You can be a successful and happy young mom too, just like her! If you have feedback for her, make sure you let her know in the comments below. And don’t forget if you have a story like hers, you could be the next featured “How She Did It” mama! Sign up HERE and don’t forget to SIGN UP for the Young Mom’s Club!

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Most of your Thoughts are WRONG!

I don’t know about you, but my mind goes a mile a minute. If I would ever go to a doctor, she’d probably diagnose me with severe ADHD.

law of attraction danielle fordI just can’t help it, though. I try to calm the monkey in my mind. I meditate. It helps. But still, I’m constantly being bombarded with random thoughts.. and this is bad for 2 reasons.

1) It can make it tough for me to focus.

and..

2) Most of the thoughts I have (and you have.. and everyone has..) are UNTRUE.

And to be able to find your strengths, set goals, go after your dreams and all those big things you want to do, first and foremost you have to separate your untrue thoughts from your true thoughts.

I know I might sound a little coo-coo right now but I’ll explain more in today’s video and I’ll give you examples of some thoughts that pop in my head.

Don’t judge me.

OK so now that it all makes sense (I hope!), I want to know what kind of thoughts you have that aren’t true. What are you going to do to separate them?? Lemme know and let’s chat about it! <3 Danielle

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The Spotlight is on: Nyaguthii Kioi

We are super excited to feature our first Spotlight Young Mom from another continent!

Meet Nyaguthii Kioi and read all about this positive young mom and her sweet little boy from Kenya.

young mom nyaguthiiTell us about yourself and your family:

I just turned 20 and I have an amazing 5 month old baby boy who I absolutely love. My family is made of my mum, my sister & my brother. I’m also pretty close with my extended family on my mum’s side.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

How my life would change and if my mum would accept it. I gathered courage, prayed about it, and told her. She was amazing!!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?young mom spotlight kenya

I write a lot to unwind. Especially when my stress levels are high. I love hanging out with my cousins and chilling to good music.

What are your favorite things about being a mom

Oh my baby! He just lights my world. My best feeling comes from seeing his smile. I live for that smile. Also when I’m breastfeeding him and he lifts his hand to touch my face. It’s too sweet.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I’m going to be successful. I’m doing well in school and about to be employed. I’ll hopefully be able to provide for my son without depending on my mom & aunties.young mom and baby nyaguthii kioi

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Being a mom is the greatest blessing. It’s motivation to be the best you can possibly be. It’s rough, but hold your head up high. God gives you only that which you can handle. It may seem bleak, but remember, it gets rough before it’s better. Await your dawn, don’t dwell on the darkness.

This mommy is so proud of her son and we love her ambition to become financially independent!

Are there any moms out there in another country that want to send a message of support to Nyaguthii? If you loved reading her story, comment below!    🙂

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The Spotlight is on: Nicole Rodriguez

If you’re a young mom facing hard times, you should definitely read Nicole’s story.

Finding out she was pregnant in one of the hardest situations anyone could imagine,Nicole shows us all that nothing can keep a tough chick down!

nicole rodriguez young mom spotlightTell us about yourself and your family:

My son Donnie is 5 months. My boyfriend Adam is my son’s stepfather. We both work very hard in order to provide for our munchkin. My son is fun-loving and makes our little family glow.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

I knew how my son was conceived. At that time I was living with a horrible person, my ex. He was verbally abusive and would guilt me into having relations with him. He knew that my child was a product of rape and he knew that he could push me because I did not want to end up on the streets as a pregnant 18 year old girl. I was so flippin’ scared. I cried and cried and convinced myself that I would put my son with an adoptive family right after I had found out I was pregnant.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

nicole rodriguez teen momI don’t really have time to treat myself. I watch TV now and again, but I work 53 hours a week and play with my munchkin.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

The fact that I get to teach my son how to be the best man he can be. I get to steer my little man into his path and show him around. His smile reminds me everyday why I bust my butt working. My son is my inspiration.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

Hopefully returning to college and living in a nice apartment to accommodate my family, as well as myself.

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What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

You have options. There is so much support with baby care and baby supplies, even baby clothing and formula. There is WIC, there are formula checks, and even government funded daycare centers. There are so many options to help and so many different support groups that can guide you. Things will only get bad before they get better. Chin up ladies! We can bear children and we can raise them as well.

 

Thank you to Nicole for sharing her powerful story. You have certainly battled with more than most people should deal with in a lifetime and are an inspiration to young mothers everywhere.

If you have comments for Nicole or felt that her story inspired you in any way, please leave a comment below! Her helpful tips for new moms are great as well, so if you have other tips to give her in return, don’t be afraid to share here!

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