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10 Teen Pregnancy Statistics That Will Shock You

We have 10 teen pregnancy statistics that will shock you!

Having a baby when you’re still a teenager has been exploited through reality TV.

They sometimes even glorify being a young mom and most of them don’t talk about teen pregnancy statistics or even show motherhood for the harder side of things.

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Here’s a list of not-so-happy teen pregnancy statistics you may not know about teen motherhood. (Let’s beat the numbers and inspire change!)

 

1 Fame and Misfortune: MTV’s Teen Moms make $65,000 per season while real life U.S. teen moms on average have an annual income of $23,000.

While shows like “Teen Mom” or “16 and Pregnant” have helped to contribute to society’s drive to inspire young women to reach “success” through getting famous on YouTube or becoming reality TV stars, the skewed reality that they portray is misleading. Young teenagers think that having a baby can be glamorous or somehow the path they should take to fit in with current trends, but look at the financial reality of it… these girls behaving badly or even just getting publicity for having a child as a teen are raking in about $65,000 each season. The odds of striking it rich as a young mom are slim to none and you’ll probably end up with the millions of teen moms in the U.S. that only bring home less than $25,000 on average to support themselves and their baby.

2 Unhappily Ever After: Almost 80% of teen fathers don’t end up marrying the mother of their children.

When you’re young, you fall in “love” and you plan a future…. but sometimes things happen that we don’t plan. Teen couples that get pregnant can sometimes try to see the pregnancy as a blessing. They make a plan and set goals on how they will succeed in raising their child and face all of the obstacles teen couples face, and sometimes it works out. However, whether it accidentally fails after trying or even if the father just runs from the situation out of fear or neglect, the reality is that nearly 80% of teen dads don’t marry the teenage girl they got pregnant.

3 The High-Low: Teen pregnancy in the U.S. is nearly 11 times higher than other countries in the world.

In 2013, it was estimated that 26.6 of every 1,000 teen girls became mothers in the United States alone. The top 3 states in the U.S. for teen pregnancy are Mississippi, New Mexico, and Texas. This may sound like a huge number (it is) but surprisingly, this is much lower than the 400,000 births reported in 2009. Yet even with this significant drop, we still have the highest birth rate in the world compared to countries like Canada, England, France, and even Japan.

4 Beauty School Dropout: Teen pregnancy is the #1 reason girl teenage girls drop out of school.

Less than half of the kids in high school are having sex, but there are still so many girls getting pregnant that teen pregnancy is still the #1 reason that a teen girl will drop out of school. It’s actually shown that two-thirds of teen moms will drop out of high school and will not graduate. Even after high school, moms struggle to continue their education with less than 1% earning a college degree by the time they turn 30 years old.

5 Babies and more babies: 25% of teen moms will have more than one child.

Becoming a teen mom can be scary when you didn’t plan the pregnancy. Even through all of the judgement, shock, and concern 25% of teen mothers will have another baby within 2 years of the birth of their first child. In 2010, there were 365,000 teenagers that had babies and of that number 67,000 weren’t their first child. It has been shown it’s better to wait to have your next child as a teen mom since repeat births can cause health problems in their kids and can be the reason moms struggle more with their education and finding a job.

6 What about the kids?: Having teen parents can affect children in the long run.

Families that started when a young girl became an unmarried teen mom are more likely to be poor. In fact, only 1/3 of these families are financially stable. It’s not uncommon that a lot of teen mothers end up on welfare either. Actually, of all of the moms currently on welfare, over half of them had their first child when they were a teenager. Aside from financial trouble, studies have shown that the daughters of teen moms are 3 times as likely to become teen moms themselves and sons of teen mothers are twice as likely to end up incarcerated.

7 Black or White: Hispanic and black adolescents have a higher birth rate.

We hate stereotypes about race, sex, or age. That’s the whole reason this article is being written… so that people can start to make a change to beat the statistics. However, currently it is proven that Hispanic females ages 15-19 are the highest group for becoming teen moms (46.3 births for every 1000 teenage girls) and black females are a close second (43.0 births for every 1000 teenage girls). One in 8 white teenage girls will have a baby by her 20th birthday which results in about 20.5 births for every 1000 white teen girls. Regardless of race though, there has been a decline in teen moms throughout all different ethnic backgrounds in the past few years.

8 Surprise… You’re Pregnant!: 77% of teen pregnancies are unplanned.

Teen pregnancy has dropped by over 50% in the last 10 years or so which is a huge decrease. Of the existing teen pregnancies, 77% of young moms say that they weren’t ready and didn’t plan to get pregnant. There are many ways that these pregnancies turn out in the end, including 60% of them being live births and creating new teen mommies, 30% of them resulting in abortion, and 15% ending in miscarriage. 30% still seems like a high number for the abortion rate, but in reality, it’s the lowest it’s ever been since it became legal back in 1973.

9 Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: 7 out of 10 teens have had sex by the age of 19.

On average, teenagers lose their virginity around the age of 17 but statistics show they don’t end up getting married until their mid-20s, leaving them open to a higher risk of unplanned pregnancy for almost a decade. Even though there has been an increase of the use of birth control, there is still a risk for female teens to get pregnant since 1 in 4 teen girls didn’t use any contraception when they last had sex.

10 No Regrets: Even through the challenges, being a teen mom can be a turning point.

As much as I am an advocate for preventing teen pregnancy, I was also a teen mom myself. After working for Young Mom’s Club and talking to many young women who became teen mothers, I have found that through all the struggles and obstacles we face when we have our children when we’re younger… we wouldn’t change it for the world. There are more young mothers out there that are making efforts to change society’s stigma against teen moms and accomplishing their dreams while still educating young girls about abstinence and safe sex.

A recent study actually showed interviews with teen moms who attended a teen parent school were mostly successful educationally and in other aspects of their lives which are valued in our society, such as careers and home ownership. As long as there is good education and support to meet the needs young families have, teen pregnancy statistics show that being a young mom can be an opportunity for young women to turn a new leaf and reach success in life. We all share the same goals and that is for younger generations to succeed, no matter what!

We can all use these harsh realities to work with each other to overcome the struggles of being a teen mom and educate young girls to make sure they succeed in life.

What advice can you give to teen girls who aren’t pregnant yet but are sexually active? Better yet, what are you personally doing to help to beat the teen pregnancy statistics and to overcome obstacles you face from having a baby when you were a teen? Comment below! We want to hear your feedback and ideas.

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The Spotlight is on: Olivia Lightfoot

Hello, Beautiful! Meet Olivia and baby Emma Elizabeth on their new adventures!

This teen mom is telling the world about her brand new journey as a young mother. Even with having to struggle to get her family to support her pregnancy, she has stayed strong and is loving being a mommy! Read more about her great advice for teen girls who are pregnant…

teen mom with babyTell us about yourself and your family:

Close to the end of my junior year I became pregnant with my boyfriend (at the time) at 16. I puked every single day and was 100 lbs the majority of my pregnancy. And at 37 weeks and 3 days on December 28, 2013 after 28 hours of labor, I gave birth to my beautiful Emma Elizabeth at 8:28 p.m. She is the light of my life and the best thing that has ever happened. I would not be alive if she wasn’t here. As soon as I looked into those beautiful blue eyes my depression and other issues completely disappeared. Her father and I broke up around 4 months after because he would refuse to help take care of her, let alone hold her. Even if I needed to take a shower or simply go to the bathroom she had to come with me, so I couldn’t be with someone like that. My mom and dad and sister help me out sometimes but I provide for her 100%.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concerns were mainly my dad. We were fighting previously and didn’t talk for a year and when he found out I was pregnant it continued until we talked when I was around 16/17 weeks along. What made us really get back on track was at my 19 week 2 day ultrasound when I found out my baby was a girl and that I was naming her Emma. That made his heart melt. I’m still not his little girl and our relationship still gets rocky but he is a softie when it comes to his granddaughter.teen mom

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

Honestly, what makes me completely relaxed is when I’m with my daughter. She really is my life and I’m not ashamed of it. When I’m away with friends or with my current boyfriend I’m always slightly on edge and always checking on her to whoever has her.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

Watching my little one grow and learn (even though I do have the occasional teared up moments realizing that she’s going to be 1 soon). Also connecting with her and listening to her laugh or breathe. How she feels my face or plays with my lips and gives me kisses. And how I see how much more and more beautiful she gets everyday.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself in my own place, graduated, my own car and license. Maybe in a long term relationship oralone. Either I would be fine with. But I definitely want to make a stable living environment for Emma. Which I should have accomplished at least 2 years but whatever; goals.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

teen mom babyTake a breath. Or two. Or ten. But, just know that you can do this. If you are positive and think about what’s best for you AND your child, you will do just great! Realize you have to grow up faster than your friends and give up a lot (or not much, depending on who you are). But, being a mom is the most rewarding thing you can ever do in your life. There’s more to a pregnancy than morning sickness and crampy feelings or pain. There’s the first ultrasound where you can see that little bean and possibly the heart just fluttering away! And hearing the heartbeat for the first time is just… WOW. A feeling I won’t forget. And seeing the little bugger move or wiggle or even wave! Then the gender scan! It seems like forever but you get to think of names and imagine what your little one looks like. And the hours and hours of labor and pain but I would relive those 28 hours. Nothing can be compared to seeing your baby for the first time. Everything is so worth it. Your baby is SO worth it. I promise.

What awesome advice for young moms everywhere! I can think of a time or two I’ve had to take a few breaths myself, but Olivia is totally right… it’s ALL worth every moment! Do you have any advice for Olivia or any other Young Mom’s Club member? Comment below!

Don’t forget, you could be the next featured Spotlight Young Mom, so submit your photos and fill out the Spotlight Young Mom form for a chance to share your story with young moms all over the world!

 

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From High school to Motherhood: 6 Things to remember during your Teen Pregnancy

We came across a fantastic new blogger, Alyssa, and were so inspired by the positive spin she is putting around her teen pregnancy.

high school motherhoodThis girl is what Young Moms Club is all about and we’re so grateful that she offered to be a guest blogger and honestly and vulnerably share her story and advice.

Whether you’ve experienced high school motherhood or not, her story will inspire you and I’m sure you’ll fall as much in love with her as we did….

 

Sometimes life does not go the way you planned. I’m not talking about being late for work one day, or not passing your drivers ed test, or Victoria Secret running out of that super cute pair of underwear in your size. Sometimes life takes you down roads you never thought would exist for you. But often you’ll find if life leads you there, it’s where you’re meant to be.

In high school I had a pretty great experience. I had lots of friends, an amazing boyfriend, some wonderful opportunities to participate in musical productions, and so on and on. Life was amazing and everything seemed to be going the way I wanted. Until my life changed, literally for the rest of my life, my senior year.

The year had just started; my senior year in high school. The year you look forward to and cannot WAIT to experience. I was about 3 months into my Senior Year when I began to feel different. Something was definitely not right. I was tired out of no where and all the energy I was so used to having felt like it had been sucked from my body. It was a nearly IMPOSSIBLE task for me to get up and I had to force myself out of bed everyday. I was so confused. What is wrong with me? I started to think I had come down with some kind of flu or illness because in the days that followed I lost my appetite and felt nauseous almost daily. I had never been this sick or tired in my life. A week or so after, the nausea left, but the exhaustion did not. I would go to bed so early and still woke up feeling like I’d slept on a bed of nails. Eventually though the tiredness subsided as well, so I figured it was over and done with.

A month or so had passed and I was counting down the days until my 18th birthday. But I was also counting up the days my period had been late. At this point it had only been a week or so behind, which happened often since my period was usually irregular. But by the time two more weeks had passed and my birthday was around the corner, I began to worry. The daunting thought had passed my mind several times, but I wouldn’t bring myself to entertain the crazy idea that I could be pregnant, and not even 18 yet. I pushed the thought from my mind and promised myself if I turned 18 and still hadn’t gotten my period, I would discuss it with Steven and we would figure it out together.

Let me talk about Steven for a minute. You want a man who is unwavering and loyal, amazing and compassionate, supportive and loving, that’s him. Of all the fears I had with the possibility of a teen pregnancy, not once did I fear he would leave or refuse to help me, no matter my decision. He has been there for me since we were kids in Jr. High. A good friend, great listener, and always my secret admirer.

When most girls would be excited for their huge 18th birthday, I dreaded it. As the days crept closer, so did the horrific realization that I had been worried about the past 2 and half months. On the day of my birthday, Steven came over to my house and picked me up for a surprise Disneyland Day. He bought me a pair of jeans that I loved the second I saw. He knew exactly what I liked. They were the right color, fit, and size. I went upstairs to try them on and sure enough they were pretty snug, almost to the point of not buttoning. My heart jumped to my throat and my heart started to pound. What is happening? How can this be? I wiggled into the pants and changed into a looser top so no one would see just how tight these were around my mid section. The whole ride to Disneyland I was silent. I knew eventually Steven and I would need to find out once and for all, though deep down I knew what was coming.

After a day of fun at Disneyland, reality sank in. My 18th birthday had come and gone and sure enough I had yet to receive that long awaited visitor. We decided that night we would go buy a test. I waited in the car while Steven bought it. I couldn’t bear the thought of someone we knew seeing us both there purchasing a pregnancy test. After what felt like an eternity, Steven hurried into the car with a bag in hand. I couldn’t believe we were at this point. Right now in the beginning of high school and the prime of our lives. We went back to my house and I went straight upstairs to the bathroom. I will never forget that feeling of sitting and waiting for a couple measly lines to appear on a plastic stick to determine the rest of your life. Three minutes is an awfully long time to sit and contemplate exactly what you’re doing and what might change the minute I stepped out of my bathroom.

I grabbed the stick and took one glance. Did I really think it would be anything other than what we dreaded? I shoved it into my purse, along with the box and instructions and stepped outside the bathroom onto the hall banister. I gave Steven a look that only he could understand and we headed for the front door. The minute we stepped outside I began to cry. How could this be? We were always so careful. Steven never moved from that spot until I stopped crying. I pulled myself together and we walked down the street a long ways away from my house. We threw away any evidence in a trash can outside of a stranger’s house.

The walk back took an hour? Two hours? I’m not even sure. The amazing thing about Steven is he was my boyfriend and best friend all in one. We could talk about literally anything.  We talked about our options, the pros, the cons, our family’s, etc. What would everyone say? How would I still go to school and have this baby? We eventually decided on an appointment to Planned Parenthood. I needed to find out how far along I was and talk to someone other than family.

Planned Parenthood is a scary place to say the least. All the workers are curt and make you feel uneasy. Everything is barred and locked and requires codes. The nurses are rude and to the point. I wanted to leave the second we got there, but I needed answers. When they called my name I asked if Steven could come back with me. A rude short nurse told me “No. No men. Put your stuff in the locker and come with me.” I did as I was told and reluctantly followed. I was taken to a cold, dimmed room and was told to strip and change into a cloth nightgown. I waited anxiously for what seemed like hours before a nurse came back with my urine test results. I was definitely pregnant. A little while later a different nurse came in, this one was licensed to perform an ultrasound. She asked if I wanted to know if it was twins or just one. Some women go in for abortions and don’t want any information. Of course I wanted to know, I was curious. She told me it was just one and I looked about 11 weeks. Then she looked at me very seriously and asked me “Do you want to see your baby?” This took me by complete surprise. It was the first time I had heard someone else say it. Baby. My Baby. Up until this point I hadn’t looked at it as a baby, but a nuisance and something I had been stressed about for weeks. I didn’t know what I wanted. I did manage to say that I DID want to see. This was it. She turned the screen to face me and there it was. This little alien that looked no bigger than a banana maybe. I could see it’s head, some little things that looked like fingers and toes. She let me look for a minute or two and turned off the screen. She left the room and told me someone would be in to talk about my options and I could get back in my street clothes.

Those couple minutes of waiting gave me a lot to think about. I had just seen my baby. This real living thing growing inside of me. I hadn’t intended for it to be there, but it was. Happy, and thriving, and absolutely beautiful. I cried to myself and managed to compose myself before the knock on the door. She discussed my options quickly and gave me her card in case I wanted to come back. You can guess for what. I walked right into the waiting room and straight to Steven as my eyes began to water. “I saw it.” I managed to choke out. “It’s 11 weeks and it’s beautiful”.

As we pulled out of the parking lot of Planned Parenthood we saw a small building not far from us. The banner above said “Pregnancy Resource Center”. We decided to stop by and see what it was about. We walked in to see the two smiling faces of older women secretaries. I told them I didn’t have an appointment, but I was curious what they offered. They had us wait for only a few minutes before an older woman called me back. She explained she was a sort of therapist and I could tell her anything I wanted about my situation. After I talked to her she explained that they offered free ultrasounds and prenatal vitamins if I was interested. I told her I would talk it over with my boyfriend and sure enough we went back a few weeks later. I had an ultrasound and they told me they had a good idea of the gender. I requested Steven to come in and they were more than happy to allow it. Steven held my hand as the nurse explained we would be having a beautiful baby boy who appeared to be growing and developing perfectly. The tears were no longer worry or fear, but happiness. They gave us a HUGE gift basket of little boy things. Blue teddy bears, diapers, a blanket that Jackson still has to this day, and several other little trinkets. For the first time this felt okay. I felt like it was going to be okay. Every thing I was afraid of melted away in that moment. I was carrying my child. My beautiful son. OUR son.

We kept it a secret for a long time. Mostly because we were afraid of what our families would say. NONE of them would see this one coming. I didn’t show for awhile. I got away with loose tops and sweaters since it was Winter and still chilly, but when February rolled around bringing the warmth and my fifth month, I began to grow. My stomach looked like a perfectly round basketball. Rumors had begun to spread around the school. “Alyssa looks bigger, just in her stomach” or “Alyssa is always sick and they’re never at school”. Obviously it spread like wildfire. As dreadful as it was, it was time to tell the truth. It couldn’t be just our secret anymore. We told my younger sister first. I was close to her then and I knew of everyone we would eventually HAVE to tell, we may as well have the first reaction be one of happiness and excitement. She was thrilled when we told her and she managed to keep it from our family and friends for a few days. This was the jump start we needed. As we told each of our families, I wish I could say it got easier. Our families were shocked. I was pregnant, almost seven months along by then! Not only was I telling them “Hey we’re having a baby.” it was also “And it’s a boy and he’ll be here in 3 months”.

young pregnant coupleAfter our families accepted our decision and this new member, it was easier to take on. We posted it on Face Book for all the world to see. Friends and students knew and were happy for us. I continued going to school, sickness, swollen feet, big belly, and all. I went to prom 7 months pregnant and Steven rubbed my swollen feet for hours afterward. I graduated 8 months pregnant, with Steven by my side. We planned a huge baby shower the week after graduation. So many of our friends and family came. Our boy was already so loved and spoiled, which made everything seem right. Almost a month to the day we graduated, our Jackson was born.

July 4th, 2012 was an amazing day for us. I gave birth to the most amazing gift and our lives began to shape from that moment on. We went from Steven and Alyssa to Mommy and Daddy to this new little stranger everyone had already fallen in love with. He was perfect. Long and healthy, and cuddly to boot.

It’s remarkable to me, to look back at all the choices I’ve made. All the things I did or didn’t do. The roads I did or did not take. Every one of those triumphs and obstacles eventually led me to Jackson. I’m convinced he was meant to be here. He is the light of my life, and Steven’s too. He didn’t make life easier, but he did make it better. He gave me something to wake up to, something to better myself for. This was not something I planned, but it’s not something I would ever change. He’s been with us for two years now and I’ve been the happiest I’ve ever been. Being a mother is such an amazing experience and it’s made me grow and become such a different person. He is not an easy responsibility and he gave Steven and I a lot to think about. We grew up earlier than most, but I can’t say it’s not worth it all. Because it is. When he holds my hand to show me something he’s proud of, when he sings with me in the car, when he wants me to kiss a cut he gets from the park. To watch him and Steven together is the greatest thing of all time. Their bond is inseparable and like nothing I ever dreamed of being a part of.

I mostly wanted to share my story because I know from my own experiences and others, it’s easy to make a choice that may take you down a path you’re not ready for. For girls my age, younger, older, or even boys, you are not alone.

 

Do not automatically choose the easiest path to break out of a difficult situation.mom mickey mouse ears

Consider your options and consider the weight you will carry with each decision. There are some amazing places like the San Bernardino Pregnancy Resource Center. They will make you feel at ease and comfortable with your situations because everyone’s teen pregnancy is different. In the end, make the best choice for you. I know I did.

Here are six very important things to remind yourself while you’re taking part in one of the most terrifying, painful, amazing, unbelievable, and indescribable adventures of your life- Teen Pregnancy.

Whether you’re a teen mom, a married mom, a single mom, a cool mom, or even one of the moms who swear they’ve got it all figured out… teen pregnancy is terrifying to say the least.

You’re suddenly responsible for more than yourself, and it begins even before they’ve left your womb. You’re going to get a flood of advice (sometimes- actually…. most times unwanted advice) but none the less you are more than likely to be bombarded.

Always Remember:

1.    OPTIONS. You as a mother and pregnant woman always have options. You are never confined to just one choice. People have different beliefs and different controversial issues that they feel strongly about, but in the end it is YOUR decision and YOURS alone to make. Unless the father of your child is in the picture and making choices regarding this pregnancy with you. Then of course, you should include him in your decision making process.
2.    FIND A SUPPORTIVE FIGURE. If you don’t have a relationship with the father of your baby or someone who will give you good advice, look to a friend or a family member that you trust. Someone that you know will give you their honest and sometimes brutal feedback, but in the end no matter what you decide they will support you and be there for you. You don’t want to make a life changing decision on your own. It’s relieving to have someone behind you saying “You got this. You can do it and I’m here with you to help and guide you” whatever your choice may be.
3.    TRUST. You need to trust yourself. Trust in your choice and that you made the right one. If you fully trust yourself and your decision, and you move forward with it you will find such happiness and peace at the end of your journey. If you trust yourself and your decision, you will fully be able to say “the decision I made was right for me, my situation, and my child.”
4.    IRRELEVANCE.  This one is ESPECIALLY for teen moms. I wish I could go back and tell my pregnant high school self, “These peoples opinions of you and your decision do. not. matter.” After all is said and done, YOU are living with your decision, not them. They don’t know your situation. They don’t know what’s best for you. Only you do. These people are irrelevant and after you graduate or after you move on from seeing these people, they are not relevant to you or your life.
5.    SELFLESS. You have to remember, mothering starts the minute you conceive that child. Not when they’re born, not when they can ask you for things, not when you need to punish or reward. It starts the minute you become pregnant. You have to put yourself aside from now on and put that baby first. You have to eat right. You have to stop the drinking, the smoking, the partying. You have to grow up. It isn’t about you anymore. It isn’t about everything you want anymore. It’s about creating the best life possible for your child. The best environment. It’s about keeping them safe at all costs. This all starts with you. For those nine long, amazing months, YOU are literally the ONLY person who can feed that baby, you are it’s protector. You can’t ever forget that. Just because you can’t physically see that little human you’ve created doesn’t mean it isn’t there. It’s growing and it needs you to make responsible decisions for it to thrive.
6.    ENJOY. As scary and emotional as pregnancy can be, nine months can go by pretty quickly (until those last few months; that’s when you’re ready to pop and the bloated misery sets in) It is such a beautiful and wonderful experience. Enjoy it. Enjoy the kicks. Enjoy the foot print you see across your stretched out belly, even if it’s only a millisecond. Enjoy getting to eat as much as you want because your cravings get the best of you. Enjoy people wanting to touch your belly. Enjoy picking the names. Enjoy never feeling lonely, always having that companion right below you. Enjoy it all. Soak it all in. It won’t feel like it, but you will miss it. You’ll look at your stretch marks as your toddler tells you a wild story and you’ll remember not long ago the small space he was crammed in. How far your tiny belly once stretched because it couldn’t hold all the love and life without being stretched to it’s limits- and then stretching further. Enjoy every moment because it will not last forever. The memories of how it once felt to feel the kicks and the sway of a little body beneath you will start to fade. You may be scared, and you may not think you’re ready, but who is ever really ready? Trust me it is worth it all. Every last minute. Every last stretch mark is worth all the love you’re about to endure. Enjoy.

teen mom alyssaAlyssa is a Southern California girl born & raised with a love for all things sparkly, pink, and fun! She lives for adventure, food, and fashion and has experienced a lot in her life. She’s a mom, a wife, a self-proclaimed beauty guru, a sister, a friend, a hopeless romantic, a personal therapist, a pageant queen, and now a blogger! You can read more about her and the rest of her fantastic blogs at her website www.lifewithlyssa.weebly.com

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The Spotlight is on: Hannah Millet

So we’ve decided to try something new! We would like to welcome Hannah as our first Spotlight Young Mom who is still in the pregnancy stage of motherhood!

Hannah is a pregnant teen who is expecting her first baby and wants to share her story. Read about her story so far and what she has already been dealing with before even having her son.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I’m 17 years old and 6 months pregnant to the wonderful Remi James. His dad isn’t in our lives, but we have tons of love from the rest of my family .

Teen Mom Hannah Millet Baby PicWhat were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

When I found out I was pregnant I had severe depression. I said I would kill myself before I had a baby. I didn’t want to have that lifestyle of being a young mom. When I saw my first ultrasound, the snot and tears poured out like a river. Now, after 5 months, I couldn’t be happier being pregnant. Remi saved my life from possible suicide and definitely saved me from cutting and other self harms to myself.

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

Pedicures are a must have for relaxing! The people who do my nails are always asking about the baby. I also enjoy taking long baths with the water below my belly, of course.

What are your favorite things about being a mom

My favorite thing is laying on my back and feeling the baby kick and move. Also the cute clothes and toys, of course .

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I hope to be a successful hairdresser and makeup artist and I hope to do makeup for celebrities and such.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

Don’t let people’s stares bother you. They’re gonna look at you and whisper about your belly, but don’t let that bother you. Another thing is don’t let people call you stupid. You made a mistake. Your intelligence level or IQ has nothing to do with if you’re young or not. Everyone makes mistakes and anyone who has sex can become pregnant. Condoms break, things happen. You’re not dumb, you made a mistake that anyone can make.

Congratulations to Hannah and we can’t wait to meet Remi! I’m sure that you’re going to be a great mama and he will be the light of your life when you meet him.

Are you a pregnant teen who is expecting their first baby soon? Are you a young mom who wants to share their feelings with Hannah about when you were pregnant? We would love to hear your comments in the section below…

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TIOT: How to Tell Your Parents You’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do I tell my parents that I’m pregnant?”

This is one of the harder questions that teen moms-to-be have and we thought we should help this pregnant teen so she didn’t feel alone. Here is what our followers had to say to help her to prepare for one of the hardest conversations of her life…

IG User mylife_ft.baileyabigailIG User @mylife_ft.baileyabigail:

My dad lived 19 hours away and was at summer camp for the National Guard when I told him. I definitely should have picked a different way to tell him, I texted him, and I regret it. I lived with my mom so I told her face to face and she cried for days. My mom was 19 when she got pregnant with me. I was 17 when I got pregnant. She just kept telling me she didn’t want me to go through what she went through because she knew how hard it was. If I could go back and change how I told them, I would. No parent wants to see their teenager pregnant and struggling with that, so there is no EASY way to tell them. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just sit them down and just straight up tell them.

 

IG User raisingzofia

IG User @raisingzofia says…

My mom knew because I was NOT acting like my usual self. My dad lived 15 hours away and my mom texted him and told him. My husband’s mom already knew because she heard me vomiting in the mornings. LOL.  His dad got a text from us because his dad lived 7 hours away.

 

 

 

 

IGIG User hunterlitt3 User @hunterlitt3 says…
My boyfriend at the time and I told all four of our parents at the same time. We went out to dinner at one of our favorite places and we told them. My parents were unhappy and so were my ex’s. My dad got so mad he made a huge scene at the restaurant, broke a few things, and left. He had my uncle come and get him. My mom started crying and so did my ex’s. My ex’s dad was just like, “cool, whatever, Carmen is just going to raise it on her own I already know.” I was really mad about that because I knew it wouldn’t be true so I told him to leave and I didn’t want to see him again, ever. The moms were crying with both madness and happiness. My dad kicked me out of my house and didn’t talk to me until the baby was born. Eventually me and my ex did break up and he wasn’t there for any of it. If I could go back and change the way I told them, I would in a snap!

 

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IG User @ryliehall says…

I actually told my mom the adult way, I went to her house and told her. I even asked what she think I should do (not abortion! But I didn’t know if I could raise a baby….) She told me that my baby was for me and I would choose correctly for their life. She always told me, “if you get pregnant I’ll kill you!” but when it came down to it, she was, and is, there for me every step of the way <3

 

 

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IG User @__leexxiii____ says…

I told my mom on the phone too actually… and I should have done it face to face, but I was scared of her reaction and afraid to see disappointment. Turns out she was happier than I could have imagined. I would definitely sit both parents down (probably in public at lunch or something just in case someone doesn’t take it well) and say, “I’m pregnant, happy, and this is a blessing. Hope you’re happy for me” and hopefully they will all be there for you guys and the baby. Everyone needs the support!

 

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IG User @ah_rel_ee says…

Well for me, when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I first talked it out. We set up a schedule if we had the baby. Once we were set on keeping the baby no matter what, we sent in for a counselor conference at my school. I was mostly concerned for his parents’ reaction, but I knew my mom would be supportive because I saw how that was with my older sister. They all caught my boyfriend and I by surprise. They were happy to see a new life begin and offered any of help we needed, and the counselors even told us that it’s the best reaction they have seen from any parents whose teen told them that a baby is on the way. I’m actually happy how I told both the parents. We needed everyone’s support to do it.

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IG User @carradefuchiee says…

I honestly wish I knew ahead of time. My mom noticed I was prego before I did. She got me a dollar test and said, “Pee on it. You’ve been eating stuff you don’t like”. LOL. I took it thinking I wasn’t, but two minutes passed and I read the box 3 times and was shocked and came out and said I’m pregnant. She said, “OMG”! She was a little disappointed ’cause I had to do it alone because my baby’s dad was cheating on me, but it was the best experience.

 

 

IG User jasminef80

IG User @jasminef80 says…

I waited until I was 6 months along. I was scared and selfish. The uncertainty scared me the most. When I told my parents I waited until my dad was out of town and just told my mom one on one and let her tell him. Looking back it might have been better to tell them together face to face but it allowed my dad time to get the right words before we spoke and he was very gentle and forgiving when we did speak by phone. The fears began to melt away when I knew they were there to help me through every step of the way. It’s a very hard conversation but it’s one of the first grown-up things you will have to do of many when entering into parenthood.

 

 

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IG User @abbylockyerrr says…

Well, I missed my period for 2 months or so when my now ex-boyfriend noticed my stomach was a little bit bigger than usual. I knew right then that I was pregnant and we kept it between us. Then I ate some cottage cheese with a pickle for the spoon, (it was so good) and out of nowhere I threw up! So I went and told my mom that I threw up and that I thought I was sick, and she said “well maybe you’re pregnant” and I was just like, no way. So then she went to work and me and my dad talked and he asked me if I had unprotected sex in the last month. I said yeah and he was like well, there you go! I sat in my room for a while and the next day I woke up and went to my mom’s room and she was like “I got you a pregnancy test, it’s in the bathroom”. I had to pee soooo bad, but I pretended like I didn’t to avoid taking the test because I was so terrified about the fact that she was going to find out I was having sex, and not the sole fact that I was pregnant! But it came out positive and I BOLTED out of the bathroom. She looked at the test and then we went out to eat and didn’t talk, but then we got in the car and we discussed my options. I decided immediately that I was going to keep the baby, and now almost 13 months later I have my beautiful 3 month old daughter Fiona Mae. I am not ashamed or regretful in any way #NOTEENSHAME❤

 

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IG User @christinamayhem says…

I remember feeling like my period was going to start (sore boobs, cramps, etc.) but it just never came. I decided to tell my mom I thought I could be pregnant and she bought me two tests and I took them in the bathroom early morning and showed her. She immediately told me I had to get an abortion and was furious when I refused. I didn’t end up telling me stepfather until I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant (my mom told him) and he made me clean every day and do chores, telling me that if I decided to have an abortion I could stop and things would go back to normal. He made my life a living hell my whole pregnancy but I already loved my baby so much, there was no giving up. I didn’t tell my dad until I was 7 months pregnant (we don’t talk a lot). After my baby was born, I moved in with her father’s family and later on ended up leaving him because he cheated on/abused me. Now I have a new boyfriend and I work hard for a good life for myself and my daughter Cloudy Bell 🙂  #noregrets #thestruggleisworthit My advice would be to sit your family down and tell them with your boyfriend (if he’s around), firmly state that you are keeping your baby and that you would appreciate their support. Being straight up with them is the best way! #staystrong

 

IG User mariah_emmys_mommyIG User @mariah_emmys_mommy says…

I didn’t end up telling my mom until I was 3 and 1/2 months along, and the only reason she even knew was because she had found the test. She was very angry with me and she wanted me to give it up for adoption. After fighting with her for about an hour, she promised me she would not tell my dad about the baby until I wanted to. Somehow my younger brother Mike found out and told my dad. I came home from baby shopping with my girlfriends one day and he was furious. He started hitting and yelling and he told me if I didn’t get an abortion he would kick me out. I told him if he was going to act this way he better not expect to be any part of this baby’s life. He ordered me in the car and we drove to my boyfriends house. After my boyfriend found out he promised he would help out with the baby. But just before I was actually going to give birth, he broke up with me and completely denied that she was his child. I didn’t need a DNA test. I knew she was his because I had never in my life slept with anyone else but him. If you’re pregnant, the best way to tell your parents is to sit down with them and be honest. Tell them you want to keep the baby.

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IG User @ashleybellab says…

I was very athletic so it wasn’t uncommon for me to miss multiple periods in a row, I was 5 months pregnant when I passed out twice in one day so my mom took me to the doctor and that pee test in a cup came out positive.

 

These young moms have opened our eyes to so many different experiences when it comes to sharing the news of pregnancies with their families. We appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share with our pregnant young mommy-to-be!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you want to share your story about how you broke the news to your family!

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TIOT: Advice for Young Girls who Just Found out They’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“What advice would you give to young girls who just found out they’re pregnant?”

When we received this question, we were so stoked on the amount of responses we got AND what amazing advice our young moms had to share! Some of these teen moms really had great things to say and I think a lot of us will appreciate or relate to this advice. Read on to see what we’re talking about…

 

bliss cruz fb userFB Fan Bliss Cruz says:

1) Try not to get overwhelmed. God won’t give you anything you can’t handle. 
2) Don’t rush it. ENJOY IT. Believe it or not, once the morning sickness passes, you will miss being pregnant & having the baby all to yourself. 
3) DONT GOOGLE YOUR SYMPTOMS & AILMENTS. It’s a horrible idea & you will end up diagnosing yourself with malaria or a calcium deficiency. Talk to your doctor. 
4) Do not watch “A Baby Story” or “I didn’t know I was pregnant” — doing so is a very poor choice. You will psych yourself out & imagine each thing that could go wrong. 
5) Talk to your baby, talk to your significant other, talk to God, talk to your friends, talk to your doctor. YOU ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE. You are literally making a miracle happen. Take some time to realize that before your miracle is complete. You have been hand picked to love & carry this beautiful little human. Be proud & be gracious. There are so many women who would give anything & everything they have to be in your shoes. Keep that in mind. 

YOU ARE GOING TO BE FINE.  it will all be ok— better than ok. It’s going to be wonderful. You are going to be a mom. Congrats!!!!

 

FB Fan Autumn Wake says…autumn wake fb user

I think Miss Bliss above here said it all! I never thought I would miss my belly, but when baby was sick in the NICU after she was born that’s all I thought. Def don’t google stuff… Ask your doctor! I was feeling a lot of hiccups when I was in the last month. Some dumb person posted something in a forum about how she had hiccups right before she had a stillborn… Wtf?!?! Even though I knew it was ridiculous I was still paranoid. Get ready for everyone to tell you 100 different things when you have the baby! One person tells you one thing and the next contradicts it. Find one person you trust and stick with their guidance… As well as your own gut!

My favorite thing about being a new parent is the secret club that parents have that everyone told me “you don’t get it until you have one.” Everyone gets so excited for you to experience this new parent thing… It’s just like everyone who is a parent gets so excited and bonds with you like you never expected.

 

christinamayhem IG user

 

IG User @christinamayhem says…

Keep holding on and stay strong! Your life is not over!!! You, and only you, know what your capable of, and that is anything you put your mind to. Don’t be discouraged by anyone. You can make a great life for you and your child! Finish high school and do something after too.

 

 

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IG User @mommyandbraxton says…

Just be honest and don’t give up. Tell your parents no matter how much you think they will hate you, more than likely they won’t. Stay focused on schooling.

 

 

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IG User @___kearstinleighhh says…

I am a young mom. It’s not easy. Never will be. But being a mother is the most rewarding thing a woman can do. It’s so amazing. Just keep your head held high and stay strong and NEVER give up.

 

 

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FB Fan Stephanie McCoy says…

Nobody is ready for a baby no matter what… so take it one day at a time. It will all work out somehow. 
And take all advice with a grain of salt… nothing works one hundred percent of the time. Do what makes you happy!

 

blondebeauty92 IG user

 

 

IG User @blondebeauty92 says…

Don’t listen to anyones rude comments, keep your head up, and keep moving forward. Life is going to be harder now, but in the end it’ll be well worth it.

 

 

 

Jessica Tripod fb userFB Fan Jessica Tripod says…

1) Your life is not over once you become a mom.

2) Take care of yourself. You’ll thank yourself later.

3) Block out all negativity. Don’t allow others to sentence you to their misery. Just because someone else had a bad experience or is unhappy with themselves doesn’t mean that you have to go down the same path.

 

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IG User @_mother_of _2boys says…

Always think positive and keep your head up. Don’t pay any attention to the rude comments and mean things your family and friends might say. Just prove them wrong and then they will keep their mouths shut. Its not gonna be easy, but it will all be worth it at the end. Remember think positive.

 

joshuamomma_proud IG user

IG User @joshuamomma_proud says…

It’s a very hard time in life. You’ll get scared and you won’t have all the answers, you’ll feel like you’re not prepared and that’s all okay. You just have to have faith in yourself, keep your head high and don’t listen to what everyone keeps telling you. Just hold on and stay strong and remember that at the end of those long nine months you’ll be holding the most precious person in your life.

 

alliebear714 IG user
IG User @alliebear714 says…

Make sure anything you do and or decide to do for you and your baby is the best choice for you and your baby. Nobody else can tell you what you are feeling or what you are going to do. Always think positive! 🙂 Nothing will come out of being negative and if you are surrounded with negativity then find your way of shutting it out and keep your head high. Always remember, it will never be easy being a young mom. The sooner you realize that, then the less stressed you will be come when those words ring true. That is what helped me overcome all of the obstacles everybody said I wouldn’t get over.

marissaallier IG user

 

IG User @marissaallier says…

I know I’m a little late to the party… But the best advice I can give is stay positive. This is the beginning of a long journey. There’s gonna be ups & downs but it’s gonna be the best time of your life. Just know that you can do it, & when you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it.

 

 

krsmari IG user

 

IG User @krsmari says…

Be honest with your parents you need their support -try to complete as much education as possible before and after pregnancy

 

 

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IG User @kitti_in_wonderland says…

Don’t ever let anyone call you stupid. It has nothing to do with your level of intelligence, it was a thing that happened that could happen to someone with a 4.0 GPA or someone with a 1.0 GPA. You are NOT stupid, you just made a mistake… everyone does. I’m 17 and 5 months pregnant and people call me stupid all the time because I have a baby. I don’t let it bother me because God gave me this baby for a reason and girls remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that is so true. #proudyoungmom

Wow! After all that awesome advice, we’re sure the young mom who asked the question is feeling so supported right now! You guys freakin’ rock! Thanks to everyone who contributed and we hope that this helped lots of young pregnant teens everywhere! You are never alone, ladies!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you have any additional advice for young moms-to-be or if this advice helped you!

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Interview with Danielle Ford on the Ed Bernstein Show

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Ed Bernstein, a Las Vegas personal injury attorney, who has had a TV show for over 25 years.teen pregnancy las vegas

In this interviewed we talked about..

  • My back story and why I started Young Moms Club

  • What YMC offers young moms

  • Challenges that most young moms face

  • How we can help to lower the rate of teen pregnancy

Here’s the full interview..

Thanks so much for having me as your guest, Ed! 🙂

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The best foods to eat while pregnant

Dear new mom, I know that you want to give your baby and yourself the best nutrients that you can, right?

It’s a good thing to start eating a variety of nutrient rich foods now because your child will be more willing to eat certain things that you consumed while they were in the womb.

You will also need the best of foods to have energy and strength to take care of your newborn.  Many mothers (including myself) are interested, but don’t really come up with a meal plan for pregnancy.

I will help you to discover the best foods to eat while pregnant.

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I know it’s hard not to eat everything in sight while pregnant! You don’t want to do that- but you can afford some extra calories.

Pregnancy takes a lot out of you to give to the baby, so you should consume about 300 more calories per day than you did before you became pregnant.

Here is an example of a day of meals and snacks:

Breakfast: an orange, 2 scrambled eggs with ¼ bell pepper and ¼ cup of mushrooms, wheat toast and a glass of low fat milk

Snack: ½ cup grapes and ¼ cup nuts or seeds

Lunch: strawberry, spinach salad! (This looks so good, I may go on a “I’m not pregnant but this is a great diet” meal plan!)

Dinner: Vegetable soup is great way to get full of what you and baby need!

Dinners should consist of lots of vegetables. You could try pre-washed veggies like broccoli, cauliflower and snap peas for a stir-fry.

Tip: Sneak in vegetables like grated carrots or diced squash into your tomato sauce!

(Here are some more great ideas for dinners!)

Snack: have a sweet tooth? Try a fruit salad with greek yogurt for part of your calcium requirement.

Some easy and healthy snack choices are:

Fruits like: apples, oranges, bananas, cantaloupe, really any favorite are perfect for a snack. Raisins have fiber, iron and potassium. The recommended amount of fruits is 2 whole servings.

Veggies like: spinach, carrots, tomatoes, cucumbers, and other dark leafy greens.

Tip: Try using some veggies like grated carrots in a sandwich, or avocado and tomato. 3 or more servings a day is ideal.

Whole grains and nuts are a perfect fast food for soon to be moms, as well as iron-fortified cereals. Its recommended that you have 6-8 servings a day.

Calcium is important as well and it is recommended that you have 3-4 glasses of milk a day and/or dairy products.

Meat and beans are important for your baby to get enough iron and protein. It is recommended that you have 5 ½  to 6 ½ ounces a day.

As always, I believe that packaged foods are a no-go and what you drink is important as well.

Don’t consume too much caffeine and just say no to soda all together. Your drink of choice should be water.

When you are in your third trimester, snacks can really save the day. Try packing small things to take with you, because you won’t have much room for big meals.

“Ziplock bags with walnuts, sunflower seeds, raisins, and dried apricots — a powerful combo of iron-rich foods that’ll nourish baby with a much-needed third trimester nutrient).” Dried fruit is perfect for when you are out and about.

Eating nutrient filled meals and snacks during pregnancy can keep you and your baby be healthy and potentially get you back to feeling yourself faster after delivery.

Proper diet is a great way to avoid things like low birth weight, anemia and other pregnancy issues. Eating small, frequent meals throughout the day will help with heartburn and nausea.

Here is a nutrient chart I think will help.

I wish you and your baby the best pregnancy and early childhood health possible! Truly take the time to enjoy and nurture this experience, because it doesn’t last. The good habits you start now, will last a lifetime!

Share if this was helpful! Please comment, I would love to hear from you!

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