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A letter to a teen who just found out she’s pregnant; one step at a time

This featured guest blog is definitely something young moms and pregnant teens can relate to. We are so happy that Melissa Monk, one of our previous “Spotlight Young Moms”, allowed us to share her blog written as a heartfelt letter directly to pregnant teenagers.

Dear teen,

PREGNANT reads the words on the test, confirming your worst fear. Take a deep breath, and let it soak in. I know you’re scared. I know that your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty. Your mind is jumping to a million places.. Just close your eyes and take another deep breath. And know that it’s okay to cry.. Its okay to be scared and not know what to doyou’re not alone in this.

The world is screaming at you, “How could you be so stupid, you’ve ruined your life. Your child is a mistake. You’re never going to amount to anything, and neither will your child.” But that’s not true, beautiful. Little does the world know this was a part of your plan all along. You were always meant to be a mother.

YOU will amount to something. YOU and your child will go places in this life, but only if you work hard enough for it. YOU are not stupid for having sex. Its a natural human instinct, and the fact that you became pregnant is NOT a mistake. Your child is NOT a “mistake” or an “accident”.

This may not be the way you’ve planned your life to go, or how you saw yourself starting a family, but what’s done is done. Your baby did not ruin your future, it gave you a new one.. A brighter one. Your age, marital status, weight, height, race, or religion does NOT determine the quality of mother that can and will be. YOU determine that.. there is no magical maturity switch that flips when you turn 20, and being young does NOT predispose you to being a “bad mother”. Do not let the world limit you by forcing you into a statistic, making you feel not good enough.

And if you’re worried about your child’s father not sticking around.. Let him leave. Let him be the one to miss out on all of the non replaceable moments with your child. It’s not your fault, or your child’s fault at all that he is not man enough to take responsibility. Do not waste your precious energy chasing after him. If he is meant to be in your life he will be. GOD will put him there. Just like he did with your baby. It’s better for your child to have no father, than to have a “half ass” father who pops in and out of its life all the time. One day he will regret walking away, but you won’t regret letting him.

As hard as it is to ask for help, please dont ever be afraid to ask for it. Its okay to admit that you need help. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you need guidance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be more knowledgeable to better not only your life, but your children’s life as well. There are so many resources in the community willing to help you whether it be government assistance, childcare resources, support groups/clubs, parenting classes, scholarships and financial aid for college or even just therapy to help you get through this life changing event. You just have to be willing to get out there and find it.

Being a teen/young mother is hard. Believe me, I had many nights where I was ready to throw in the towel and rip my hair out. But its not impossible to get through those moments. The good and happy moments that you will have with your child the rest of its life will outweight the bad by millions. A year from now, you’ll look back and be so happy and proud of how far you’ve come. As long as you always remember to fight to be the best mother you can be, you’ll make it through just fine.

Are you ready for this life long adventure through motherhood? Its okay to answer no right now because if you’re not ready right this moment, you’ve got 9 short months to prepare yourself. But you’ll get there. Motherhood is a natural human instinct. Try not to worry so much about the future right now and just take it one step at a time. Good luck and congratulations Mother, motherhood has been waiting for you!

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Wow. Melissa, this truly is an incredible insight into motherhood and a great letter to pregnant young women to tell the truth of having a child young and to remind us that we aren’t alone, even when we feel like we are. If you loved this blog post, share it and don’t forget to comment below and tell us!

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The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders

How do you defy the odds and create a beautiful family and positive home after getting married and having children young?

Lacricia Sanders explains with her story below:

Tell us about yourself and your family:young marriage pic

Hi I’m Lacricia, the spunky red head that lives in a tiny town with all the people I grew up with. I had dreams of being a famous singer or Hollywood star when I was younger, but that all changed the day I met my prince charming, Jason. He swept me off my feet and took me off the dating market 12 years ago when I was just 15 and he was 19. Seems crazy to some that we got married so young, but we wanted to bring up our daughter in a stable home filled with love. Now, 31 years old he works very hard to take care of his 4 girls, his lovely wife who keeps the household running well and his three beautiful daughters Jaylynn 11, Leah 6, and Lilyanna 3.

I am now 27 and very much still in Love with my husband and our life is great. I believe that God has supplied us with every need and even a little room to spoil. I always say I am “spoiled” but it’s not because I don’t do any work or we have lots of extra money to spend. I say that because I have a wonderful husband that does all he can to pay the mortgage and utilities and still have some strength left to talk to me and enjoy our family. I have been fighting the whole stay at home mom thing for awhile now because I feel I dont get the outside social interaction or career stimulation I need, but I am so thankful that I have been at home enjoying every important moment with my kids while they grow. Now I am a work at home mom and I proudly promote health and fitness body by vi challenge pic lacricia sandersfrom home with Visalus and the BodybyVi Challenge. I am always researching nutrition and exercise so I can help my clients. I love my job and now my goal is to become a fitness trainer and my ultimate dream is to own a gym with aerobic exercise, yoga, weight training, kick boxing and martial arts. I love natural healing remedies and believe that what you put into your body is what determines what will come out, including positivity. I am also working very hard to be a good mother and find new ways to feed and care for my children. I want to make sure I do creative things with the whole family. Remember that no one and nothing is perfect, so make the best of each day!

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concern when I first found out I was pregnant would have to be how my life would turn out. I was determined to finish school and go to college, which I did! My oldest daughter was three when I started college and work. I feel i missed out a little on her, but I am glad I can say I did do it. I was afraid we wouldn’t have what we needed, but I prayed and it all worked out!

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

I Love to exercise! I do a lot of running and home exercises. I love to read and I am a decent singer! I intend on going back to school for music.


What are your favorite things about being a mom?lacricia sanders young family

When I feel that I haven’t done anything worth mentioning, my children remind me how great of a job I do with them. We have a positive home and I can see how much influence I have in their lives and it reminds me to do the best I can to keep smiling!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

I see myself in five years owning my own business place where people can come to workout and buy supplements. I also want to go back to school for music. I will be making enough money that I can volunteer and give back to the community, afford fun activities with my daughters, take some cool classes myself, and give my husband a fun break from working so hard.

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would like to tell other moms to not be so rigid when it comes to raising their kids. Have fun, enjoy each moment, and don’t forget to discipline! You don’t have to do anything like other people do, parent in your own way. Don’t get so mad at people, but stand your ground when it comes to advice, just say, “Thanks” and do it your way. Listen to your heart, that’s where a true loving relationship with your kids comes from!

The Spotlight is on: Lacricia Sanders