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How Kristen Marie Leimann Did It

Getting ready to help her daughter with through her pregnancy and motherhood, find out how Kristen Marie was able to write her success story as a young mom herself.

Find out how a teen mom coming from a broken home made sure to do everything she could to make sure her daughter had a better life and was able to turn her own life into a wonderful story with a happy ending!

Family Pic Kristen LeimannTell us about yourself and your family:

Happily married, my husband and I have raised my daughter together since she was 6 years old. We recently purchased our first home together in Hesperia California. My daughter, Alicia, who is turning 18 next month, will start Victor Valley College in the Fall. Alicia and her boyfriend are expecting a baby in December. It’s amazing how quickly life changes. A few months ago, all I had on my mind was purchasing her a car and her going to college. Now we are focusing on baby proofing our home!

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

Teen Mom Kristen Leimann Age 17As a teen mom, which feels like many moons ago, it was a completely different life for me then. I do not even know who that person was, to tell you the truth. I have three phases in which my life made positive turns. A little back ground: I was not raised in a stable, guided home. I lived with my mom and stepdad in a very violent, drug-induced home. At 14 years old, I was free to do how I pleased and didn’t think twice about my future. My whole life was centered around my boyfriend (Alicia’s dad) so after having a baby at 15, her dad, who was 18, ended up in prison for drugs and probation violations. When I delivered, luckily I was able to go live with his mother who would end up being the person and the first phase that changed my life. She showed me a strong, educated woman and that there was more to life than what I had known. However, after 2 years of supporting us she was unable to continue and I had to move back home with my mom, which is where the next turning point in my life came.

Young mom and daughter picI had attempted to sign up for high school but I had dropped back out because I did not have someone to care for Alicia when I was going to school. I was later contacted by the Riverside school district and introduced to a teen parent program. Up until that point, I was a 17 year old with a 2 year old and barely 15 high school credits. At Abraham Lincoln High School I would be able to bring my daughter with me. It was such a positive experience. All of the teachers pushed me so hard and they truly encouraged and guided me, showing me that being educated would be the only way for me to change our lives. It was then that I was truly motivated to set goals and accomplish something great. I was able to complete four years of school in merely two years. I graduated only a year later than my original graduation date and, to top it off, I was able to receive a few (small) scholarships and go to Riverside Community College. I knew that I was showing my daughter something special.

Fast forward a few years and I met my husband and found my job which would be the financial and third turning point in my life (around 2002). My husband showed me that I could be loved, even with a child, and he showed me how to be responsible, pay my bills, and build my credit up so that we could one day buy a home. My work was something I was good at and showed me that I could work hard and get somewhere. I have been with my company for 12 years now, starting as order entry and working up to an Operations Manager. I love going to work and I love problem solving. I went from having ZERO dreams to having accomplished the lifestyle that I never knew existed. I am truly fortunate to have found myself through all of the emptiness and to find a support system, meeting all of the encouraging people that would change my life.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?Nana Rose Alicia and Myself

Many girls end up raising their baby on their own. They either do it alone or with the support of their family. But some girls go into it thinking they will have him by their side and then are devastated when it doesn’t happen the way they intended. Structure is the best tool you can provide.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

You will always run into negative people. Surround yourself with positive people, educate yourself, stay in school , push yourself hard for your baby, and when you think you have given it all you could, push and give more!

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I love working out and going to the gym, that is my ME time. I enjoy getting pedicures and shopping. I love seeing a glowing pregnant girl who looks happy. I did not have a “pretty” pregnancy so when I see those girls it makes me happy. It’s so important to embrace your pregnancy and dress cute. I already spoil my daughter with pretty clothes so she can look her best.

Kristen Leimann Thanksgiving FamilyWhat are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that despite my upbringing and being such a young mom, I was able to provide my daughter with a loving, stable, positive life. I love that my daughter knows she can always depend on me and that I will always be there for her. I love knowing I showed her something positive. She is my only child and I always thought of having another one but didn’t. But now I get to have a little one to spoil! <3

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

I continue to be a part of the company I work for, but I am looking forward to a home business with my husband. I am really just embracing the thought of helping my daughter and her boyfriend raise a beautiful baby girl.

How exciting to go from being a successful young mom to being able to support your daughter having a child of her own! What a great job Kristen has done and good luck with your new grandbaby! 🙂

Can you relate to Kristen’s story? You can be a successful and happy young mom too, just like her! If you have feedback for her, make sure you let her know in the comments below. And don’t forget if you have a story like hers, you could be the next featured “How She Did It” mama! Sign up HERE and don’t forget to SIGN UP for the Young Mom’s Club!

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How Ramonita Falcon Did It

Supermom to three and married to her high school sweetheart, Ramonita has always put her kids first.

Read on to see how she did it, raising three kids with her wonderful husband while making sure they worked together to conquer life’s hardships and give their kids the great life that they deserve.

ramonita falcon how she did it familyTell us about yourself and your family:

I’m a 39 year old mom of 3 great kids and also a wife to my high school sweetheart of 23 years. I had my first daughter, Bianca, ten days before my 18th birthday. It was also my senior year in high school! My husband, Rene, was 17 years old and also a senior in high school. We decided being pregnant was a blessing and we were excited to become parents because we were so in love. My mom was a great help and she babysat so I could graduate with my class of 1993. I decided while I was pregnant to give my daughter a better life than I had. Rene and I grew up in the projects both to single moms. Our moms didn’t work and struggled! I didn’t want to raise Bianca that way! It was my decision to work and support my daughter together with her Dad without any assistance. Thank God we were successful. When Bianca was 3 years old, Rene and I were married. Then we had our second child Vanessa. I was 22 years old and I wanted Bianca to have a sibling. Many years later, Rene wanted a son and after some marriage struggles we agreed to try one more time. I had my son Joshua when I was 28 years old. Since we began so young, our kids have 4 and 5 years between each other. I love them all so much that I would definitely do it the same way all over again.

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

As a young mom, financial responsibilities are always a challenge. I wanted Bianca to only have the best so Rene and I moved out of the projects and rented an apartment in a better area of town. So, with the financial responsibilities of having a child, we now also had to pay rent. Also, going to college was put on the back burner so I could take care of my little girl and I had to work full time to pay bills.ramonita falcon how she did it mom

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?

The amount of work that it takes to care for a baby. First of all, the pain of childbirth and how hard my body had to work to give birth to a baby. The nighttime feedings, the bathing, washing baby clothes, the crying, the fevers, and the overall responsibilities of being a good mom!

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

I decided to give my daughter a better life and I thought about it day and night. I had to train my mind to want and work towards working hard to give Bianca everything I never had! Today she is a senior in college and I still have goals that I tell myself everyday that we work on together.

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

falcon young mom how she did itI would, and still do, take a daily nap once the kids have eaten and they are also relaxing. I exercise everyday and I have the kids exercise with me. For fun, my family and I go out to eat, we go to the beach a lot, we ride bikes together, we go for walks, and we go shopping together. I take my kids everywhere with me. Once a year during spring break my family has made a tradition of going to Disney World and enjoying the Florida sunshine.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love making my kids feel special and taking care of them everyday. I love it when they appreciate all I do for them and they are so protective of me. I enjoy the hugs and kisses and we tell each other we love each other everyday. I adore seeing my babies happy and that truly makes me happy!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

I wish I could go back to school and finish my Bachelor’s degree. I will be approaching 20 years at my current job so I will be close to retirement. I would love to start a hobby and go to beauty school to learn to cut hair. I’m working on getting out of debt and being able to travel more with my husband once all the kids are older. Seeing the world is a dream of mine!

Wow, this woman is awe-inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing your story and inspiring other young moms to never give up and to strive to give their kids everything that they didn’t have growing up.

Did Ramonita’s story give you motivation to accomplish your goals? Tell her in the comments section below! And don’t forget if you have a story like hers, you could be the next featured “How She Did It” mama! Sign up HERE and don’t forget to SIGN UP for the Young Mom’s Club!

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How Stacie Frazier Did It

Ever feel like being a young mom is tough? Keep your chin up!

This Supermom, Stacie Frazier, wants to share with teen moms her story about overcoming struggles with loneliness and challenges with low self-esteem after becoming a young mother. Read this amazing advice she has for all of us young moms!

Tell us about yourself and your family:young mom stacie frazier

I became a single mom to the most beautiful baby boy at a very young age. While that was certainly the biggest challenge of my life, it was also the greatest reward imaginable. There were many lessons I needed to learn that only being a single, young mother could teach me. I screwed up a LOT. But I learned from every single one of my mistakes and they helped make my son and me into the people we are today. We were growing up together, after all. So, it was a lesson for both of us. But, through the many struggles, we finally found the light at the end of the tunnel.

Today, we are both doing incredibly well. He is all grown up and living in Texas with a daughter of his own and a son on the way – and doing a much better job than I did at raising them! I’m so proud of him! And, I finally found success in my own journey with my business, Haute Shots.

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

Loneliness was one of the biggest challenges I had to overcome, along with the mere struggle for survival, financially speaking. I remember feeling so deeply alone as a new mother, for many years after too. It was incredibly painful not having anyone to talk to or hang out with. After having my son, I had no friends anymore that I could relate to and it was hard to make new friends while just trying to keep food on the table and a roof over our heads. And the shame that went along with being a young Mom back then really did a number on my self esteem. Needless to say, I was quite a mess emotionally. LOL

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?

I wish I would have focused more on my owhow stacie frazier did itn education in an effort to make a better life for my son and I. It only takes a few years to gain the knowledge and skills you need to get you through the rest of your life. I just wish I would have pursued it sooner, rather than later, so my financial struggle wouldn’t have been so difficult for so long.

But, maybe more importantly, I wish I would have been more confident. I wish I wouldn’t have let the dirty looks, the whispers, and the lack of support get to me. Having better self esteem would have carried me through so many of the situations that arose for me as a young mom, from avoiding bad relationships, to pursuing my dreams, to trusting that everything would eventually work out for the better.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

  • Believe in yourself.
  • Make your child the number one priority.
  • Don’t worry about what other people think. Their opinion doesn’t matter.
  • Own up to the responsibility you created.
  • Get an education and be a life-long learner.
  • There are no easy paths. Avoid taking the ones with the least resistance.
  • Focus on your family, and not outside distractions like bad relationships.
  • Find a good support system. Even better, look for a mentor who can help show you the way!
  • Do not settle for less with anything….especially when it comes to dating!
  • Never lose hope! Know that things will get easier!
  • Nobody can save you except you. And once you save yourself you will find other people rallying by your side to help you.

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I love to read, watch movies, learning more about my interests, lunch dates with friends, travel, etc. Basically, I enjoy doing anything stacie frazier how she did itthat fills me with inspiration.

Taking care of myself was one of the biggest things I neglected while raising my son. Big mistake. But, this was because I lacked the self esteem necessary to even realize that I mattered. If I had it all to do over again that is one thing I would change for sure. I would have a weekly DIY spa night just for me! I think yoga would have helped me a lot back then too!

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

What isn’t great about being a Mom? When it’s all said and done, it is the single most important thing you can do as a human being. But some of my favorite things are:

Knowing that even though I wasn’t a perfect Mother, my son loves me anyway.
It forces you to be selfless and it gives your life meaning.
Watching my little baby grow into a man. It’s crazy!!!
I love that children teach you so many lessons about life and yourself, if you’re open to it.
I love that being a Mom lets you be silly and child-like every once in awhile too!
Being a Mom completely expands you heart. That’s an amazing thing!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

Still shooting up a storm! I adore my job as a photographer, so I don’t see that changing any. I have a feeling I will be teaching more then though too.

Stacie, thanks again for sharing your incredible insight. You are truly an inspiration!

Can you relate to Stacie or did you find some of her advice to be super helpful to your situation as a young mom? Feel free to tell her in the comments below.

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How Paola Seminario Did It

Think that having children young means that your future is out of your hands? Think again!

Supermom, Paola Seminario, shares with us her most personal stories of raising her kids as a young mom, how she fought through the tough times and learned how to create her own reality.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I am a single mother of two amazing and beautiful children. I got pregnant with my son when I was 18 by my very abusive, demoralizing and addicted then-boyfriend. When my son was just one year old, I decided I had had enough of the lies, stealing, abusive words and physical fights, so I left him. A month later, I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I decided not to go back to him and raise my children on my own.

Because I was young, naive and lost, there were a great deal of mistakes and bad choices that I made along the way. My children suffered for it and I beat myself up for making bad decisions. I felt as if I was never good enough for anything. I felt like I was not educated enough. I didn’t make enough money. I didn’t deserve love and I suffered from many great depressions. Of course this took a great toll on my kids, as I self medicated and searched for my self worth.

inspiring mom storiesThrough the years, I hung on to my kids for dear life. They were the one thing that was worth fighting for; the one thing worth waking up in the morning for. I HAD to find a way to improve my life and my circumstances so that I could give them the life they deserved.

Through the years, I encountered so much hostility, rejection, and judgement as I desperately struggled to find my way in life and be the best mother I could possibly be. My kids went with me through all the pain and hardships. However, there was one thing that I did so right, and no one will ever take that away from me. Every day I told my kids I loved them 1,000 times a day. Every day, I showed my kids I loved them, and I smothered them with hugs and kisses so they would feel how much I loved them. No matter how much we struggled or how many obstacles we faced, they have always known they were loved.

As time went by, I learned how to change myself from the inside out in order to be a better person and, more importantly, the best mother I could possibly be.

My children are now in their late teenage years. They know more about life than I would have liked for them to know at their age. However, they have grown to become intelligent, independent-thinking, loving, compassionate, beautiful young adults. Every day I love them more and more. Every day they make me proud to be their mother.

In spite of all of the struggles, we have made it so far as a loving imperfect family. Contrary to what the world told us, that we couldn’t make it… we did. We still make mistakes and we still make the effort to grow as individuals and as a family. I believe in my heart that we are a success story, in spite of it all.

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

There are so many challenges I faced as a single mother. For me, I struggled with destitution, depression, self medication, and self destruction, on top of being judged and put down by those that were outside looking in.

I did eventually get a handle on my life and start loving myself.

I learned to listen to myself, not what other people told me I should be doing as a mother.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?

I wish I had known that I didn’t need a bunch of (toxic) people in my life. In fact, what I really needed was to surround myself with people that were loving and kind and supportive. (I had far too many toxic people in my life and by allowing them to stay in my life it was really hard for me to be the best mother possible). mom and daughter pics

I wish I had known that it was ok to make mistakes and I really didn’t need to beat myself up for them. Instead, I could use them as learning tools and make better decisions the next time around.

Finally, I wish I knew the that boundaries and discipline were ways to show my kids that I loved them. All too often I would cave, when I looked into their eyes, and let them off the hook when they broke the rules. That made it much harder when they were older.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

Write them down and look at them everyday. Create a vision board .

Make decisions based on your goals and dreams. If something is aligned with your goals and dreams, go for it. If not, then toss it. This goes with friends, boyfriends, jobs, and pretty much anything you can think of.

Believe in yourself. When you have big goals, big dreams and big ambitions, and someone tells you to be a bit more “realistic”, say screw it and CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY. Surround yourself with others that also believe in you. Remember that the most inspirational people in the world also had a great deal of people that never believed in them and they chose to believe in themselves and surround themselves by others who believed in them. If you don’t believe me, check out Oprah’s story.

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I check off bucket list items every chance I get, especially when I can do them with my kids. Some of the things we’ve done include swimming with sting rays, visit the Grand Canyon, jump off a cliff. It’s so powerful and invigorating when you do something outrageous.

I also love to engage in outdoor activities: hiking, surfing, you name it.

I love to read – mostly psychology, personal development and inspirational books.

Volunteering and doing pay it forwards – this keeps me humble and compassionate.

Finally – just pamper yourself, workout and eat healthy 80% of the time. You need it. it is so important for you to take care of you. If you are not at your best, you can’t give the best of you to your kids.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that I know what unconditional love is. I love waking up each day and looking at my kids and really truly falling in love with them every single day. I love seeing them grow and evolve. I love reminiscing about when they were little. I love when they do something completely selfless, compassionate and kind and knowing that I had a part in that.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

In five years I will be a successful, professional inspirational speaker and social media catalyst for positive change, with a global impact. I will be married to a wonderful man that loves me unconditionally and supports my vision of making a positive impact on the world. I will be enjoying the fruits of my labor with my family. <3

Thank you, Paola, for sharing your story and advice so openly with us!

Do you have any questions for Paola or want to thank her for being an inspiration to the rest of us young moms? Let her know in the comments below.