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Interview with Danielle Ford on the Ed Bernstein Show

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Ed Bernstein, a Las Vegas personal injury attorney, who has had a TV show for over 25 years.teen pregnancy las vegas

In this interviewed we talked about..

  • My back story and why I started Young Moms Club

  • What YMC offers young moms

  • Challenges that most young moms face

  • How we can help to lower the rate of teen pregnancy

Here’s the full interview..

Thanks so much for having me as your guest, Ed! 🙂

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Pay off Debt- Fast! & avoid the #1 Mistake most people make

So let me tell you about how my ex-husband completely screwed me over and how I learned the fastest way to pay off debt.

When I was 15 I bought my first car (cash). I had worked under the table since I was 14 to save up for it. I was so proud.danielle ford young moms malchi pic

Fast forward a couple years to when I found myself pregnant at 17. I realized I needed an even better car than I had, one that was safer and would last but I had no savings, so my dad co-signed for me for a $4,000 personal loan. I sold my old car and used that money to buy an older, but reliable, Honda Accord.

Around this same time, I took out a $13,000 school loan.

Then I had my first pregnancy and baby. There were major complications with her and even though I had great insurance, I was left with $5,000 in medical bills.

Right after that, I married my soon-to-be ex-husband. If you’ve followed my story so far, then you know what a huge douche he turned out to be.

He got a credit card and maxed it out for $2,000 from buying all sorts of stupid stuff (video games, movies, who knows what else). My name wasn’t on the thing.

In one of his attempts to buy back my love after his affairs, he went out and got me a new car, an SUV that I loved. He started driving the Honda, that had my name on it.

Months later after trying to work out our marriage and him cheating, yet again, I took off with the kids and the SUV and started our new life.

While in the process of divorce, we mutually agreed that he would keep the Honda and we would switch the SUV into my name.

While literally waiting at a red light, on the way to the court house, someone crashed into me and totaled the SUV.

We had already paid off $5,000 of it and all of that insurance money went to him, because it was still in his name. Of course I didn’t see a penny of it.

So I had to go out and get a new car. I didn’t have any money to put down so I took out a $16,000 car loan.

THEN I find out that douchehead had never actually put my old Honda in his name, and that he had crashed it into a palm tree and left the scene. Since my name was still on the registration the cops were looking for me for a hit and run.

I immediately went down to the station, explained the situation and cleared my name but the car had been towed and sat in impound for weeks and had occurred almost $4,000 in impound fees.

If you haven’t kept up so far, I was $44,000 in debt so far at the age of 20.

After my divorce finalized, I sought advice from a credit expert and paid off almost all my debt within a couple years.

If I had just gone at it blindly, I would’ve thrown a lot of money away, like most people do.

In today’s video I’ll share with you the super easy way to pay off debt, and how to avoid the 1 mistake a lot of people make, which wastes their precious money in the process.

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If you have any questions about this system or how you should pay off your debt, let me know in the comments below. <3 Danielle

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What’s your Purpose? (Hint: it’s not your kids)

“What’s your purpose?”

That seems like a pretty simple question, right?danielle ford young mom blog

It’s usually very quickly answered by moms when they immediately announce “My kids!! My kids are my life’s purpose!”

But that’s just not true. I know you love your kids more than anything in the world but your purpose extends far beyond your offspring.

In today’s video, we’ll talk about why your purpose is not just to be a mom and if you don’t know yet what your pose is, I’ll give you some ideas to start figuring it out.

I’ll also share my purpose with you which I’ve spent years fine tuning.

Now I want to know what your purpose is.. or what you think it might be?

Let me know in the comments so I can help you figure it out.

Also, here are some of my favorite books that can help you narrow down your purpose..

The Charge: Activating the 10 Human Drives That Make You Feel Alive by Brendan Burchard

Chi-To-Be by Stacey Hall

The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms by Danielle LaPorte

 

Also, if you’ve gotten your purpose down and have any books or resources you recommend, leave them in the comments for me!

<3 Danielle

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Don’t Date This Guy!

There are tons of different types of guys out there.. Seriously tons.

..and most of them will do just fine for dating purposes.

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But there is 1 certain type that you should avoid at all costs, and for the love of God or whatever you believe in, never ever ever date them!

 

I’m sure you know some of the type I’m talking about and if you’ve dated them, then I’m sorry. (Don’t worry, I have, too) Shudder..

Watch the video below to see exactly the type I’m talking about…

And if you’ve ever dated one of these guys, I’d love to know your experience and what you learned from it.
Let’s talk about it in the comments.

(And if you now have that song in your head, I’m sorry.) #sorryimnotsorry
<3 Danielle

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How to Handle Haters

Unless you’ve been living in a bubble your whole life, I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of haters.

Being young moms in general, we tend to attract haters. It’s like there’s an invisible bullseye tattooed on our faces.

danielle ford how to handle haters teen momSo by being a young mom myself and in supporting young moms, I get a lot of criticism.

The funny thing is, after thinking about it, most of my criticism doesn’t come from other young moms very much. You guys are great!

The people that usually have something to say about me are either older moms or women who don’t have kids.

People have told me that I’m not “sending the right message”. I’ve heard that I should’nt use any bad language. (I’m pretty sure that if a girl is old enough to have sex, get pregnant and squeeze another person out of her vagina, she’s old enough to hear the word “Fuck”.

..fuck fuck fuck fuck fucking fuckity fuck.

And I’ve also heard worse things than that, which I spill in today’s video.

I’ll also tell you the 2 questions I ask myself when considering comments from haters.

There’s an actual art form of how to handle haters.

So now please tell me what you’ve done in the past. How do you handle your haters? What are some things you’ve heard?

Let me know in the comments and feel free to send to a friend who you think might benefit by learning how to handle haters.

<3 Danielle

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Putting Yourself First (Even in front of your Kids)

Here’s the truth: I always put myself first.. even in front of my kids.

  • I make myself a big green juice or salad (and finish it) before I feed them dinner.

  • I drop them off at school as early as possible- sometimes even having to wait for the gates to open- so that I can make it to my hot Pilates class early enough to get a good spot.

  • Their bedtime often becomes 30 minutes earlier because I feel like taking a long, relaxing bubble bath and I don’t want to wait another half hour.

  • On a Friday or Saturday, I’ll happily drop them off with their grandma for the night so I can go meet girlfriends for margaritas. (Strawberry. On the rocks. No salt. And yes, I’ll make it a double.)

putting yourself firstThink I feel guilty about any of that?

Nope! I sure don’t.

I’m actually super proud of myself for making myself a priority because it’s really easy not to.

I get comments from other moms all the time like:

“I can’t afford to buy a juicer and organic food is so expensive.”

“I wish I had the time to work out.”

“I’m lucky to even get a 5 minute shower in, let alone an entire bath!”

“I don’t want to be one of those moms who passes her kids off to someone else so she can go out.”

I can totally understand where these moms are coming from because I used to have the same kinds of thoughts.

I used to feel guilty if I wanted to do anything for myself, like I was being a bad mom if I didn’t give every dollar and ounce of energy and extra minute I had to the kids. I thought that that’s just what moms were supposed to do.

But then I realized that putting myself first, even in front of my kids, was actually making me a better mom.

Watch the video below to learn why you should be putting yourself first.. and then I’ll tell you the things I do that could seem selfish but are actually making me a better mom.


Ok so, here are some ways that I put myself first.

  • I drink at least 1 or 2 green juices a day because they give me energy and keep me from getting sick.

This is non-negotiable because there’s no dad around to help me with the kids. Me being too tired to do something is not an option. If I get sick, there is no one to get them to and from school, take them to activities, do the bedtime routine, etc. The cost of the juicer and the produce is nothing compared to the cost of my energy and health.

I always make sure to get my juice or salad in before I give them dinner because I know if I feed them first, my willpower will give in and I’ll end up eating meat and potatoes or spaghetti and I won’t be hungry for my greens and then I’ll be pissed at myself and have low energy the next morning.

  • I do hot Yoga or Pilates 3-5 times a week for the same reasons that I juice- and also to keep my sanity.

I learned about the importance of creating endorphins years ago. When I found out about all of my ex-husbands affairs and was living 1000 miles away from all my friends and family, I would leave the house every night after the kids were asleep because I didn’t want to be under the same roof as him. Problem was I wasn’t 21 yet so the only place open that I was legally allowed at was the gym. After only a few nights of working out, I noticed that my mood had dramatically changed and I was starting to gain a new outlook on life.

Yoga and Pilates are not luxuries that I hope to fit in my schedule.. if I can. I work my schedule around the classes because I’ve made them a priority. They put me in a much better mood and I don’t want to rip my hair out so much when my kids are fighting or not understanding the homework assignment that we’ve been over 50 times already.

  • I am a hot bubble bath addict and like to end my night with them as often as I can.

There’s not a lot to explain here. Turn the water up as hot as possible so that when I get out, my body is beet red. Throw in some epson salts, some essential oils, some apple cider vinegar- whatever I’m in the mood for. Head phones on. Sipping chamomile tea. The occasional glass of red wine. Boom. I’ll sleep like a baby.

I would resent my kids- and the entire world- if I couldn’t take my hot baths. If they have to go to bed early so I can soak, then so be it.

  • I not only enjoy, but also NEED, nights away from the kids here and there.

Of course, I would never drop them off with someone I didn’t know or a place where they wouldn’t be comfortable- they’re always with their grandparents. Sometimes I spend a night alone at home reading or writing, sometimes I get dressed up and go out with girlfriends, sometimes I have a stay-cation with my boyfriend.

Having time for myself and time with other grown-ups makes me a more well-rounded person and also helps with my sanity levels. It also gives me enough time to really start to miss the kids and there’s no better feeling than when I pick them up the next day and they’re just bursting with excitement to see me.

 Those are just some of the ways that I make myself a priority.

I would LOVE to know what kinds of things you do to put yourself first.. or if this concept is a little strange to you?

Let me know in the comments! <3 Danielle

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You Look too Young to be a Mom- 3 Scripts you can use to respond {Video}

You Look Too Young to be a Mom!!!you look too young to be a mom

Anyone else ever hear this before?

I’ve been dealing with this for 9 1/2 years. Even now, although I’m “Old enough” to be a mom, people still think my kids are my little brother and sister. It drives me nuts!

In today’s episode of “Figure it Out Friday”, I give 3 word-for-word scripts that you can use to respond, the next time you’re told that you “Look too young to be a mom.”

Enjoy!!

Be sure to let me know in the comments what your favorite of the 3 options is…

How did you respond to this in the past?

Are you more of an awkward conversationalist, a creeper or a mature person?

Can’t wait to hear from you! <3 Danielle

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Feeling like a Bad Mom: Here’s how to Change that {Video}

Question: What’s something that adds a lot of value and happiness to your life, but also has the ability to make you feel really bad about yourself?

Answer: Social media. feeling like a bad mom danielle ford

For our new video series, “Figure It Out Friday”, I asked all of you to send me some questions and issues that you’re dealing with at the moment.

So many questions and topics came in and I’ll be getting to them all, one at a time.

I chose this question because I think it’s something that we’ve all dealt with, living in an internet based world where you can see on your laptop, iPad or smartphone EVERY SINGLE THING OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING.

Real Life Scenario:

It’s Sunday morning and you’re freaking tired from the week. You and the kids slept in, so now you’re wiping crusties out of your eyes and making “breakfast” which is really some burnt scrambled eggs and jelly toast. While your eggs are burning.. I mean cooking.. you check Facebook to see what’s going on in your little online world.

And then there SHE is.. Supermom.

Supermom has already been up for 3 hours. You know she’s finished her daily 5 mile run because she posted 18 pictures of the sun rise and her running shoes.

She’s just updated that “Church was SOOO AWESOME!” and now her and her perfect husband and her immaculately dressed 5 children under 5 are off to the farmers market to get organic produce for this week’s meal plan.

You finish cooking breakfast and scrape off the burnt part off the eggs before giving them to the kids. You look at yourself in the mirror and wonder how long it’s been since you brushed your hair.. and the last time you did brush it.. did you, in fact, brush it with an egg beater?

Supermom would never have egg-beater-brushed hair.

Watch the video below to hear the question that Rachel sent in to me, asking about what to do when you feel like a bad mom after seeing all these Supermoms online.

Disclaimer: You may-or may not- see what I look like first thing in the morning. Hint: It’s not pretty.

 

Never compare your ‘behind the scenes’ to somebody else’s ‘highlight reel’. -via @youngmomsclub

Now it’s time fot you to fess up.. Have you ever felt the way Rachel did? How did you handle it? Let me know in the comments below.

Thanks so much for reading, watching and sharing with other moms you know that can relate.

<3 Danielle

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How to get over Fear and go after your BIG dream

I have a dare for you.

I DARE YOU to tell me what your biggest, scariest, most seemingly-impossible dream is..

Does that already sound scary to you?

Sometimes admitting what your dream is is EVEN SCARIER than actually going after the dream itself.

Why is it so scary?

Because it opens up that part of your brain that wants you fail.

It’s easy to be ordinary.

People don’t criticize others for doing ordinary things. People criticize others for dreaming of BIG things.

They criticize because they’re scared, too.

It’s scary to take risks.

It’s scary to just jump.

But without the jump, you’ll never know the excitement of falling.

Without falling, you’ll never know how good it feels to finally land right where you want to be.

Once you’ve landed right into your BIG dream, you won’t care what anyone else thinks about where you are.

The biggest fear almost every human has is Fear of Criticism.

That’s why more people are afraid of public speaking than of dying.

The secret that everyone going after their big dreams has learned is that you don’t “get over fear”.

You just act in spite of it.

You know the fear is there and you do it anyway.

You push through it until one day you realize that the fear is gone.

And then you think about your next BIG dream.

And it seems scary.

And then you jump again.

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Cute Personalized Greeting Cards

I just thought I’d share these super cute personalized greeting cards that I ordered. The message to my boyfriend is kinda nerdy but that’s just us.. 🙂

I came across the company, Punchstreet.com when I was searching for stuff that I thought would appeal to young moms- or a younger crowd in general- and all of their personalized greeting cards are really hip.

Here’s a preview of their site…
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Check out my video review of Punchstreet’s personalized greeting cards..

 

Just don’t laugh at my cheesy love message 😉

What do you think? Pretty cute right?

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