How Paola Seminario Did It

Think that having children young means that your future is out of your hands? Think again!

Supermom, Paola Seminario, shares with us her most personal stories of raising her kids as a young mom, how she fought through the tough times and learned how to create her own reality.

Tell us about yourself and your family:

I am a single mother of two amazing and beautiful children. I got pregnant with my son when I was 18 by my very abusive, demoralizing and addicted then-boyfriend. When my son was just one year old, I decided I had had enough of the lies, stealing, abusive words and physical fights, so I left him. A month later, I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I decided not to go back to him and raise my children on my own.

Because I was young, naive and lost, there were a great deal of mistakes and bad choices that I made along the way. My children suffered for it and I beat myself up for making bad decisions. I felt as if I was never good enough for anything. I felt like I was not educated enough. I didn’t make enough money. I didn’t deserve love and I suffered from many great depressions. Of course this took a great toll on my kids, as I self medicated and searched for my self worth.

inspiring mom storiesThrough the years, I hung on to my kids for dear life. They were the one thing that was worth fighting for; the one thing worth waking up in the morning for. I HAD to find a way to improve my life and my circumstances so that I could give them the life they deserved.

Through the years, I encountered so much hostility, rejection, and judgement as I desperately struggled to find my way in life and be the best mother I could possibly be. My kids went with me through all the pain and hardships. However, there was one thing that I did so right, and no one will ever take that away from me. Every day I told my kids I loved them 1,000 times a day. Every day, I showed my kids I loved them, and I smothered them with hugs and kisses so they would feel how much I loved them. No matter how much we struggled or how many obstacles we faced, they have always known they were loved.

As time went by, I learned how to change myself from the inside out in order to be a better person and, more importantly, the best mother I could possibly be.

My children are now in their late teenage years. They know more about life than I would have liked for them to know at their age. However, they have grown to become intelligent, independent-thinking, loving, compassionate, beautiful young adults. Every day I love them more and more. Every day they make me proud to be their mother.

In spite of all of the struggles, we have made it so far as a loving imperfect family. Contrary to what the world told us, that we couldn’t make it… we did. We still make mistakes and we still make the effort to grow as individuals and as a family. I believe in my heart that we are a success story, in spite of it all.

What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as a young mom?

There are so many challenges I faced as a single mother. For me, I struggled with destitution, depression, self medication, and self destruction, on top of being judged and put down by those that were outside looking in.

I did eventually get a handle on my life and start loving myself.

I learned to listen to myself, not what other people told me I should be doing as a mother.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

I learned to cut people out of my life that were toxic, so that I could be a better person and mother. I didn’t want my kids around them after all.

I learned that no matter whatever mountains were in my path, I could either move them, climb them, or go through them.

I learned that LOVE – for my children and for myself -is the single most valuable resource I could have.

What are some things you learned as a young mom, that you wish you would’ve known as soon as you got pregnant?

I wish I had known that I didn’t need a bunch of (toxic) people in my life. In fact, what I really needed was to surround myself with people that were loving and kind and supportive. (I had far too many toxic people in my life and by allowing them to stay in my life it was really hard for me to be the best mother possible). mom and daughter pics

I wish I had known that it was ok to make mistakes and I really didn’t need to beat myself up for them. Instead, I could use them as learning tools and make better decisions the next time around.

Finally, I wish I knew the that boundaries and discipline were ways to show my kids that I loved them. All too often I would cave, when I looked into their eyes, and let them off the hook when they broke the rules. That made it much harder when they were older.

Do you have any tips or advice for staying on track with your goals and dreams?

Write them down and look at them everyday. Create a vision board .

Make decisions based on your goals and dreams. If something is aligned with your goals and dreams, go for it. If not, then toss it. This goes with friends, boyfriends, jobs, and pretty much anything you can think of.

Believe in yourself. When you have big goals, big dreams and big ambitions, and someone tells you to be a bit more “realistic”, say screw it and CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY. Surround yourself with others that also believe in you. Remember that the most inspirational people in the world also had a great deal of people that never believed in them and they chose to believe in themselves and surround themselves by others who believed in them. If you don’t believe me, check out Oprah’s story.

What kinds of things do you do for fun and to stay relaxed? How important do you think it is for young moms to take care of themselves as well as their children?

I check off bucket list items every chance I get, especially when I can do them with my kids. Some of the things we’ve done include swimming with sting rays, visit the Grand Canyon, jump off a cliff. It’s so powerful and invigorating when you do something outrageous.

I also love to engage in outdoor activities: hiking, surfing, you name it.

I love to read – mostly psychology, personal development and inspirational books.

Volunteering and doing pay it forwards – this keeps me humble and compassionate.

Finally – just pamper yourself, workout and eat healthy 80% of the time. You need it. it is so important for you to take care of you. If you are not at your best, you can’t give the best of you to your kids.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I love that I know what unconditional love is. I love waking up each day and looking at my kids and really truly falling in love with them every single day. I love seeing them grow and evolve. I love reminiscing about when they were little. I love when they do something completely selfless, compassionate and kind and knowing that I had a part in that.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What goals and dreams are you currently pursuing?

In five years I will be a successful, professional inspirational speaker and social media catalyst for positive change, with a global impact. I will be married to a wonderful man that loves me unconditionally and supports my vision of making a positive impact on the world. I will be enjoying the fruits of my labor with my family. <3

Thank you, Paola, for sharing your story and advice so openly with us!

Do you have any questions for Paola or want to thank her for being an inspiration to the rest of us young moms? Let her know in the comments below.

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  1. Kaycee
    Kaycee says:

    I am chuckling out loud… and I will say it agi.i.a.parentnng is not for the fainthearted. And now from years of experience I can say it doesn't really get easier the problems just change. Just as you think you have mastered something they grow up a little bit and you need to have mastered the next parenting tool… I hope today is so much better. And the funny thing is you will mostly remember the good times (even if they are only moments), and you will be able to laugh at the bad times… We are funny that way!!!

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