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Why you need to have a Threesome to be Successful

Who do you think is “successful”?

…please don’t say Snooki…. omg please..

If you’re thinking about a successful person right now (who isn’t Snooki), you’re probably picturing only them.

What you aren’t seeing are the people that they had a 3 some with…successful young mom

And if you want to be successful, you need to have a threesome, too.

Here are the people you need for a successful threesome: a Mentor, a Role Model and a Cheerleader.

Wait a minute.. what did you think I was talking about?

::crickets::

The Mentor

Even the best singers and athletes in the world have mentors- they just call them “coaches”. This coach isn’t necessarily someone who’s great at the sport themselves.

The mentor is someone who is able to look at the person from a distance and see the flaws, the strengths and be able to give constructive, unbiased feedback to the athlete with the goal being to help them to get better.

Your mentor shouldn’t be someone who is close to you in your personal life because that person would be too emotionally connected and unable to really see the big picture. Even if someone close to you wants to be your mentor and has good intentions, it’s just not a good choice.

Your mentor should be someone who has BIG LOVE for you- but from a healthy distance.

 

The Role Model

Your role model needs to be someone who has done what you want to do. You can go as big as you want when choosing this person but what’s important is that their ideas and messages align with yours.

You don’t want to emulate someone you don’t like and trust just because they’re “successful”.

Sometimes your mentor and your role model can be the same person, only if it isn’t someone you are super close to.

When you choose a role model, you should start watching what they do and try to figure out what they did to get there.

Lots of people will give you their opinions about what you should do but emulating the steps your role model has taken (without being a copy cat and with the guidance of your mentor) is the quickest path to your success.

 

The Cheerleader

This person should be someone close to you who really always has the best intentions for you. It could be a family member, a friend or co worker. This person shouldn’t have any hidden jealousies or resentments towards you. Use your intuition with this one.

The role of the cheerleader is to offer support and love. The role is not to offer opinions or guidance. That is for your mentor to do only.

This gets tricky with the cheerleader because they’ll want to give you their advice to help. But it probably won’t be the best advice. Keep this is mind when choosing a parent (the ultimate unwanted advice givers) as your cheerleader.

Important: You can’t just assume you have a cheerleader, you need to ask them to be this for you.

When you talk to someone about being your cheerleader, the conversation should go something like this, “I’m trying to do “X” with my life and am seeking or getting guidance from (your mentor). What I really need from you is to be a support system for me when things get hard and I start to doubt myself. Can you be that for me?”

I can’t stress enough the importance of having a really good threesome!! 😉

But seriously.. take a minute to really think about which of these you’re missing..

Who is your mentor?

Who is your role model?

Who is your cheerleader?

If you don’t have them in place yet, it’s OK!

Let me know in the comments which you have set in place and which you still need to find. What do you think your next steps are? I’ll help you figure it out!