people bring you down

Are other people bringing you down? Here’s how to deal with them

Right now I’m sitting in Starbucks with my lap desk, my computer and about 13 notebooks full of stuff spread every where on the coffee table I’ve taken over.

This is actually what I do everyday. Customers come in here and look at me like I’m a weirdo and the employees have pretty much accepted me as a permanent fixture and aren’t surprised anymore when I come in and move all the furniture around to create my perfect “office space”.

I have head phones on and a pink hoodie and am trying my best to not make eye contact with anyone because I don’t like conversation when I’m working.

If I allow someone to start talking to me or asking me questions about the books I’m reading or the work I do, I’ll get distracted and I’ll be unfocused when I go back to it and then I’ll be mad at myself for letting another person take my energy that I had planned on putting into the task I was working on.

people bringing you downMaybe it’s kinda bitchy that I (politely) blow people off when they’re interrupting me, but I don’t really care. Unless their presence is going to bring me up at the moment, I’m not interested.

If I feel like someone’s presence will bring me up, though, I’ll happily welcome the break.

Now, I hope you’re not thinking that I sit here all day in my bubble and hope to make connections and get business advice from big time executives who are taking a coffee break, while ignoring anyone else who I don’t really need at the moment.

It’s actually really the opposite. Yesterday, I had some fancy pants business man comment that I had a Macbook, an iPad and an iPhone right next to me and there’s no way I could be using them all. I do use them all but I wasn’t about to explain to this random dude how I use them all because I don’t need him to understand my process in order for me to get my stuff done and I didn’t feel that having that conversation would benefit me at the moment.

I just smiled and said, “I”m a multi-tasker” and then turned my head and continued typing away.

About an hour later, a mom and her wild-child 3 year old boy took the seat next to me. He was asking her a million questions, “Is that the sun? Why is it only outside? Can we go to the sun? How far away is it from the moon?” He was bouncing up and down and making noises that doesn’t exist anywhere in nature, except from 3 year old boys.

He was a little cutie, though, and reminded me of Logan when he was a 3 year old spaz and I was that mom, taking my kid to Starbucks to get 15 minutes around actual adults and guzzling a latte to keep a little bit of sanity.

By this time, I was totally distracted and couldn’t focus on my writing anymore. I decided it was probably a good time to take a break anyway and felt that a little human interaction could benefit me at the moment.

So I started talking to him and answering his questions about the sun and the moon. I pulled out my iPad and showed him some of Logan’s games and he played quietly while me and his mom chatted. We had a nice conversation.

When they left, I knew the mom was more energized, I was more energized and I happily got back to work, totally focused and re-inspired.

The reason I told you about the way I am at Starbucks is because it’s exactly how I am in all aspects of my life.

I only allow people into my life who are going to bring me up and cut out anyone who brings me down.

Just like how I can’t get work done at Starbucks if people are interrupting me.. I can’t get my life goals done if people are distracting me or draining me.

In today’s video, we’re diving deeper into the tough stuff like:

*How to decide if people are bringing you up or down

*What kinds of things count as “bringing you up”

*How to get people that are bringing you down out of your life (even if they’re close to you)

It’s not a fun topic but it’s uber important if you want to better yourself and your life.

Watch the video here and be sure to answer the question I ask at the end either to yourself or in the comments..

“You’re either IN or you’re IN THE WAY.” – Tweet this out! 🙂

Have you ever had to cut someone out of your like because they were bringing you down?

Let me know in the comments below. Oh and, if you haven’t yet, come find us on Facebook!

Lots of Love, Danielle <3

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