getting over a break up

Getting over a Break Up

We all know that getting over a break up sucks.

But how you come out of it depends on how you choose to deal with it. And if you wanna deal with it in a healthy way and come out an even better, more amazing person than you already are, then watch this video.

 

Getting over a Break Up- Video Transcript

I’m Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms Club, where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives and in this video we’re talking about getting over a break up, the right way.

Now the first thing that you need to make sure to do is to exercise. Get those endorphins going. I talked a lot about his in previous videos and I’ll put one right here, but endorphins just are amazing for you to get out of depression, get out of sadness, and just get yourself in better spirits, so make sure to do something to exercise.

Now sometimes after a break up, your instincts are just to stay home and cry and listen to sad break up songs. But that is not the healthy way to do it. You wanna get out of the house, you wanna go socialize, go meet new people, and make sure to go to places that you haven’t been with with your ex at.

Next, you’ll want to start a new activity or join a new group. something that you weren’t doing, involved with or a part of while you were in that relationship. You wanna put yourself into new environments.

getting over a break upAnother thing that helps is to do something new to your appearance. Now don’t go crazy with it. a lot of girls tend to, when they want like a change, they go out and they cut off all their hair. Or they go get some crazy tattoo. Do not do this. Now, short hair and tattoos rock, but don’t make that decision because of a break up. Maybe try some new layers or new lipstick or a new style of clothes. Do something to change it up, to look and feel a little different on the outside, and just kind of freshen up your appearance.

You’ll also want to throw away, or at the very least put away any old pictures or sentimental things, anything that reminds you of him.

Lastly and most importantly, for the love of God, do not talk to him. Remove him from Facebook, remove his family or his friends, or at the very least block all of them from seeing your stuff. If he calls, don’t answer, don’t text him, just ignore him.

If you want a friendship with him, that might be possible in like, 6 months, or something. But you’re never gonna get to a place in your life where you’re completely over him, where you can open yourself to allowing another man into your life, if you are still in communication with him.

No guy wants to date a girl who is still getting over a break up.

So those are some of my tips, but now I wanna know from you  if you have used any or if you know any other ways of getting over a break up. Let me know in the comments.

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Thank you so much for watching and I’ll see you in the next video.

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Why I Vacation without my Kids

vacation with kids travelAloha! Today’s video is all about why I vacation without my kids and don’t feel bad about it AT ALL. (even though sometimes people try to make me feel guilty).

Also at the end is some footage from our trip.. I want to go back!

 

Why I Vacation without my Kids- Video Transcript

Hey so I just got back from a week in Maui Hawaii and it was amazing!

I was able to relax at the pool a lot..

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and we went to really nice dinners..

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we kayaked out in the ocean, watching humpback whales from like 30 yards away, we did sunset yoga..

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and I even surfed..

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kind of..

surfing falling ocean

Now if you already follow me on Instagram then you already know that I travel a lot. Sometimes it’s just a quick staycation here in Las Vegas, sometimes its to a new city just to explore and every single year I go with my guy to hawaii to celebrate a week for Valentines day.

I do take the kids on trips a couple times a year but for the most part, when I travel, they stay with their grandparents. And sometime people make remarks like “Oh I could never leave my kids for that long” like kinda trying to make me feel bad about it.

But do I actually feel bad? Hell no!

I’m Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms Club, where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives. I’m a single mom. The kids dad isn’t in their lives at all. I don’t have a lot of help during the week so day in and day out its just me. I take them to and from school, to all the activities they have, to birthday parties, I’m helping with their homework and projects, I have to feed them all the time, and there’s nobody to ask like “Hey, I’m in a rush, could you pick the kids up from school” or “Could you watch them for an hour while I run to the grocery store?”

Fortunately I do get help from the grandparents on weekends so that really helps and I have absolutely no problem dropping the kids off for a Friday and/or Saturday night while I hang out with my guy or some girlfriends.

Now it might seem like I’m being a bad mom just dropping the kids off with the grandparents but I’m actually being a good mom.

Moms need to take some time away from their kids, whether thats leaving them with the dad for an hour a day or with the grandparents for a weekend here or there.

We need that break to keep our sanity. Now I talked about this before in a previous video all about why you should put yourself first even in front of your kids and I got a lot of criticism for that but I stick with it. If you wanna watch that, you can watch it right here.

 

So that video talks a lot about the why you should put yourself first in front of your kids but basically I take vacations or a night off and 2 things happen from that.

1 is it makes me miss them.

Look, anyone who says that they never ever need a break from their kids is either on some really good medication or they’re lying. Every mom needs a break from her kids now and then.

And 2, it makes them miss me as well.

Now as much as kids drive their parents crazy, parents drive kids crazy, too, especially as they get older. You know, it becomes a lot of “do your chores” “do your homework” yada yada yada, “stop fighting with your brother or sister” etc. And it give those older kids really a chance to appreciate you when you’re gone. And if they’re little, and they’re still not to the point where you drive them crazy yet and they still want to be with you all the time, then it’s still good for them to be without you for a little bit to learn to be independent, learn to adapt, and learn how to go on with life a little bit without you, not too much though cause you want them to still need you but its really good for them to become a little bit self sufficient.

So that’s all for today. Now I know that not everybody has the ability to just go and travel whenever they want to and they might not have as supportive of grandparents to watch the kids on the weekends but everybody has a way to be able to take a break here and there.

So let me know in the comments what you do to re-energize, to get a break and get some me time.

If you liked this video, then please click Like, subscribe to the channel and share with your friends. And if you aren’t part of the club yet, then head over to young moms club, enter your name and email and I’m going to send you a free gift, “The 7 steps to being a kick ass young mom” and I’m gonna give you access to our secret private Facebook group. Thank you so much for watching and I will see you in the next video.

 

Did you miss last week’s video? Catch up here–> What to Look for in a Guy- these 4 things are NON-NEGOTIABLE

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What to Look for in a Guy- these 4 things are NON-NEGOTIABLE

Big news: I’m engaged!! ::happy dance::

My boyfriend fiance takes me to Hawaii for Valentine’s Day every year and this time he made it extra special.paul ryan law missoula danielle ford

It was ironic timing since I had just filmed this video about what to look for in a guy.

My guy has a million amazing qualities, in fact, I made a 3 page list of what I wanted in a guy before we even met and he fit every single one. I ended up giving him that list because I didn’t need it anymore.

Most girls get hung up on the wrong qualities when searching for a guy, they are too specific or they have a “type”. Really, there are 4 things that are non-negotiable when thinking about what to look for in a guy.

 

In this video I’m going to go over all 4 things for you and tell you why each one is important.

 

Now I want to know from you, can you think of any other factors to consider when looking for a guy? Let me know in the comments below. <3 Danielle

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How to be Popular (it’s super Easy!)

Ever wonder why some people seem to just be naturally popular? A lot of people spend their whole lives trying to find the secret formula to get people to like them.

But it’s really not that hard. If you’ve ever wanted to know how to be popular, then today’s video for is for you.

 

How to be Popular (it’s super Easy!)- Video Transcript

 

What do you think of when you think of a popular girl? Usually in high school, the girls that are popular are the ones that are kind of like in that movie mean girls. You know, they’re like really stuck up and they’re just too cool for school.

Fortunately that’s not the case for real life, once you leave high school being popular means something very different.

 

I’m Danielle Ford the founder of young moms club where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives and in today’s video we’re talking about how to be popular so keep watching.

 

“Being popular is actually really easy, it’s almost too easy. The secret is to just to be yourself.” -Click to Tweet this

 

how to be popular girlWhatever weirdness or little quirks you have, just let them show.

You see, people like people who they can tell are just being their authentic selves, even if the person that they’re being isn’t the same as they are. People have really good intuition and most of the time, people can pick up on when people are being a phony balogna and they’re just being totally fake.

Now if you feel like you’re being like that, if you feel like you have to put on an act sometimes to be a certain way to fit in with a certain group of people, it can be really hard to change that. You see, when people see you starting to change and starting to be your unique awesome authentic self, it makes them feel a little weird, it can actually be a little intimidating. And when people start to see you becoming this, they start to treat you like you’re a weirdo. But at the same time that the people that you usually hang out with start to think you’re kinda weird, you also start to attract people who are a lot like you. And then you’ll attract even more people. And before you know it, you fit in with everybody and you become super popular.

 

The actually definition of popular is: To be liked, admired or enjoyed by many people, by a particular person or by a group of people.

 

Ok, that is definitely NOT a mean girl!

 

Now I wanna know, what are some ways that you are unique? I’ll tell you a few of mine..

  • The first one is that I live in Vegas but I’m not really into clubs, I don’t really like to go out and party. And that is tough sometimes when people, friends from my past, high school that I used to hang out with, wanna go party and I’m just not into it.

 

  • I’m also a really huge dork and I have a finger mustache tattoo. It’s true.

 

  • Also I love poker. I love love love poker. And a lot of my girlfriends don’t get it. Some of them, I’ve tried to teach them poker and have girls nights and all this stuff and some of them like it and some of them are interested but the majority just do not get it and think I’m a total weirdo for liking poker. But they also think that’s cool. I’m the friend with the finger mustache that plays poker. And they respect me for it and they know that I’m being myself.

 

So there’s 3 of my unique quirks. Now I wanna know three of yours so leave them in the comments below.

If you liked this video, then please click Like, share with your friends, and subscribe to the channel and if you’re not yet connected, then head over to YoungMomsClub.com, enter your name and email, I’m gonna send you a free gift and connect with you one on one. Thank you so much for watching and I will see you in the next video.

<3 Danielle

 

P.S. Did you miss last week’s video? Check it out here —->How to Dream Big when you live in a Small World

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How to Dream Big when you live in a Small World

Do you ever feel like a goldfish, wanting to swim in open water but stuck in a tiny bowl?

It can be really tough when you want to learn how to dream big but people or circumstances are trying to keep you small.

Watch today’s video to find out what you can do right now to start outgrowing your little bowl and make your place out in the great big ocean.

How to Dream Big when you live in a Small World- Video Transcript

 

Do you ever feel like you have really big dreams, like you think big and you just want to grow but you feel like you’re trapped in this small world? If that sounds like you, then keep watching this video.

I’m Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms club where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives.

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And I want to talk to you for a minute about goldfish which is totally random but you’ll figure out in a second why. Goldfish are really special creatures, they’re actually able to grow depending on the size of their environment. But unfortunately sometimes they’re kept in a very small fish bowl and they’re only able to grow so much. But if you allow a common gold fish to swim wherever it wants to, like in open water, it could grow to be a foot long. And that’s really sad, even the little gold fish thats stuck in the little bowl might think it’s happy but it has no idea what kind of potential it has and how big it can be.

And that same concept actually applies to humans. And I’m not talking about your size, I’m talking about your goals, your dreams, the way you think, all of these things will stay small if you stay in a small environment.

Not everybody wants to play big and dream big and think big and that’s ok but if you do, and you think you might be stuck in a fish bowl, then you need to get your ass out in the ocean, pronto.

Now let me just clarify something. Your fish bowl isn’t where you live necessarily. You could live in a tiny apartment, tiny house, wherever and not let that stop you from thinking and dreaming really big.

Your fish bowl could actually be your family. You know its really hard to be a big dreamer and be a big thinker when everyone around you is just very small minded. Your fish bowl could be someone else.

It could be someone else who thinks of you in this way and they’re portraying their thoughts onto you and its really hard to have a belief in yourself when they see you as small.

Your fish bowl could also be a belief system, some people get so into their belief system that they become really small minded and short sighted and they’re kind of unable to get out of that little fish bowl of their belief system and become a bigger fish.

And your fish bowl could actually be you.

If you allow yourself to give into fear, to let negative emotions control your life, then you could be your own worst enemy and you could be the one who is keeping you from being the biggest fish that you can.

So now lets talk about some ways that you can grow bigger.

  • The first one that pops to mind is travel. If you can experience different cultures, see the way people live, see how big the world is, realize that it makes you feel so small when you tale somewhere and you’re away from everything that you know. Now I know that many people don’t have the option to travel and that’s ok, you can still learn about other cultures and all sorts of places. But really just getting out of your house and your neighborhood, just driving to a different city, and just seeing how big things actually are.

 

  • Another way is the internet and a lot of people are on the internet, everyone’s on the internet, but many people get sucked into their little circles on the internet and they’re in silly groups and they’re surfing for things that don’t matter and they’re just reevaluating everything that they know. But you can use the internet to do so many awesome things. You can join groups that are actually beneficial. You can find things to learn. You can connect with people from across the globe. there’s so many things that you can use the internet for and that’s gonna help you see the world differently, think bigger, dream bigger, become bigger.

 

  • Another way that you can start to get bigger is by reading books. There are lots of books that make you think bigger, there’s tons of books that are amazing to just inspire you and get you going. One book in particular that I love, I read it a few years ago is called  “The Think Big Manifesto”
    by Michael Port and that book is fantastic and as soon as you read it, it makes you want to go and do everything. That’s a great book, check it out.

 

  • You can also search out people, no matter how small your city is, search out other people who are desperate to think bigger. Start a group. Start a mastermind group. Start a club. Anything, and just talk to each other and learn from each other. Connect with people like you.

 

  • And the last thing that I can think of right now for you to expand your mind and dream bigger and think bigger is to interact with people from all different walks of life. You know we tend to hang out with people who are just like us, who are the same age as us and the same nationality and the same social status and all this stuff. Hang out with other people. Go try to meet the richest person you can. Go have conversation with the poorest person you can. Make friends with people from other cultures, any culture that you’ve never been friends with, younger people, you probably have kids but teenagers, older kids, they all have different perspective. Older people, people in their 40s, the elderly, all of these people have different perspectives on life, they all have amazing stories, they have ideas, they have insights, and just talking to them, making connections with them is going to make you think bigger and dream bigger.

 

Well, that’s pretty much it for today but I want to know from you, I wanna know, are you a big fish or a little little fish? How big do you wanna get? What kind of fish bowls are holding you back? And what kinds of things are you going to do to start to dream bigger? Let me know in the comments and we will chat about it.

And if you liked this video, then please click like and subscribe and if you’re not yet part of the club then head over to YoungMomsClub.com and enter your name and email, I’m gonna send you a little ebook I wrote and also connect with you one on one. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll see you next week.

<3 Danielle

P.S. Did you miss last week’s video? Watch it here—>Never get Offended again! (if you remember these 2 things)

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Never get Offended again! (if you remember these 2 things)

Here’s a fact about me: I like, never get offended.

Even if people are mean to me, talk behind my back or say horrible things to my face. I just don’t take offense to it. Even if it’s true.

It wasn’t always like this, though.. I spent most of my childhood, teen years and early twenties being offended when people were mean to me, which was a lot.

But then one day I noticed that I hadn’t been offended in long time, like years. At first I thought that maybe I had just built up a tolerance. But after really thinking about it, it dawned on me that nothing had really changed except my thinking about 2 things in particular.

So if you ever get your feelings hurt about things people say to you or about you, if you take it personally that certain people are trying to hurt your feelings or if you are trying to figure out why people are such rude assholes sometimes, then you’ll want to watch today’s Figure it Out Friday video..

Never get Offended again! (if you remember these 2 things)- Video Transcript

Hey, Whats up, it’s Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms Club where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives.

I’ve encountered a lot, a lot , a lot, a lot.. of offensive women in my life and I also had a really offensive husband, so I am no stranger to being offended.

And it’s probably because of those people, it’s kind of one of those “glass is half full” kinds of things but it’s probably because of them that I don’t really get offended, it takes a lot for me to get offended by something.

I still encounter people who say rude things or who don’t like me (if you can believe that) , it still happens to me but I can’t even remember for the life of me the last time I actually got offend by somebody.

So in today’s video I’m going to tell you the realizations I’ve had that assured that I never get offended by anyone ever again, so keep watching.

There are 2 things that you need to have in place to make sure that you never ever get offended again.

never get offended againNumber one is: You need to accept yourself the way you are. Now you don’t necessarily have to like it, but you have to accept it.

And number two is: You have to fully accept the fact that you don’t have any control over any other people. The absolute only person you have any control over whatsoever is yourself.

And If you fully understand and accept those two things then you’re never going to be offended again and the reason for that is really simple.

When someone says something that is offensive, then their opinion is either one of 2 things. It’s either wrong or its right, right?

So if their opinion is wrong, like if somebody says something that is wrong, well then, who really cares? Like  what if somebody says like “You’re a bad mom”.. If you know that you’re not a bad mom then why do you care what they think? Even if they give an example tof something you did that they think is and like “You picked your kids up late, or you’re too protective, or you’re not protective enough, or you’re this or you’re that”. Even if they’re right about that, maybe, but you know that you’re not a bad mom, then who cares? Why should you care about that? They’re completely wrong. Fuck em.

And that applies to everything, your appearance, your skills, your smarts, whatever. If someones giving you their opinion, it’s negative and they’re wrong, there’s no reason to take offense to it.

Now there is a second element to that can make you offended if you choose to, and its when someone says something offensive and you know you’re wrong like we just talked about- or you know they’re wrong- like we just talked about but then you take offenses to the fact  that they said it. You’re like “well why would you say that! You know how hard I try to work be a good mom. I’m so offended that you said that to me” well that’s where the second part comes in

Because If you fully realize that you don’t have control over other people, you do not need to understand them, you do not need to agree with them whatsoever, then there’s no reason to be offended.

So if like your best friend out of nowhere is like “You’re a shitty mom” instead of being like “oh my god, she thinks I’m a shitty mom” you would be like “hmm well that’s not true”, you know? and then, instead of being like “why would she say that? why is she trying to hurt me?” you know you can be like “well I don’t have control over her and I wonder why she’s doing that did something happen? why is she being a bitch? is she posing, you know, whats going on?” and so you know it’s not personal, you don’t take offense to it. And then you can then choose to go deeper into it, or not, it’s your choice, but there’s no reason to get offended by it because it’s not true and you cant control her.

Now what if someone says something to offend you and they’re right? Well that is where fully accepting yourself  comes in. And I’m not saying that it’s easy, it’s something that everybody struggles with, but you have to do it, you have to really work on fully accepting yourself.

You have to fully accept that you are in the right spot, the way you look, where you are, financially, whatever else is going on, your family, your career, all that stuff, you are right now, where you need to be.

And that doesn’t mean that you need to be 100% happy with it and you can be wanting to change your appearance somehow or wanting to work on your education or grow in your career or change where you live, or whatever, but you have to fully accept and love the way that you are right now, that’s so important, just love yourself, imperfections and all.

So then if someone offends you and they’re right, then you’re just like “Ok tell me something I don’t know.”

And then we’re back to that other topic of like “Why would they say that, to me, you know, why would they want to hurt me and offend me in that way.” and then we go back to the fact that we can’t control other people, we have no control over other people, we have no understanding of why they do the things they do, we don’t need to understand it, and we don’t need to validate  like why they’re such an asshole.

So lets say that maybe you’ve had a baby and maybe you have some weight to lose. And you’re not happy with it and you look at your body and you’re like “Oh man I really wanna lose some weight, maybe I should diet, exercise, yada yada”. But in the mean time, you’re like, “This is my body, I had a child, this is what happens, I love myself,” and just be happy with the way you are.

So now let’s say that you get in a fight with your boyfriend and he knows all your insecurities, he knows what’s going to hurt you, and he knows that you wanna lose some weight, and that you might not be 100% comfortable with your appearance, and so you know, you get in a fight and he’s like “Well you’re fat” cause he’s really trying to hurt you.

But that’s not gonna hurt you or upset you!or offend Because you love yourself the way you are, and even if he is right, you know it doesn’t matter because you’re happy with how you are and you’re right in the exact spot that you need to be. And of course again that crosses over into the like, “Why would he say that” aspect and you have no reason to understand everything he does because that would make you crazy, it’s not your place to know why he’s being a total dick. The reasons behind why he’s being a total dick crosses into relationship advice and that’s just like a whole other video or series of videos.

But that’s all for today. So my point is really just love yourself, be happy with where you are, you don’t have to necessarily love it, you can want to change, there’s a million things that I want to change, you know, like I’m always working on stuff, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not happy with where I am right now.

And if you really get all spiritual and everything and you really believe that everything happens for a reason, then you can’t not believe that you are in the right spot, right now, and just remember not to let anyone offend you, not to let them hurt your feelings, because whether they’re right, wrong or indifferent, you are just you and no one else is.

And as far as like, caring what other people think, my dad said something one time about my ex husband. And I couldn’t understand why he was doing some of the things he was doing and saying and everything and he’s crazy but my dad said “You cannot rationalize with an irrational person”. You can’t. If you are a sane person, then you can’t understand why somebody else is saying thing that don’t make sense or they wanna hurt you or whatever. Because if you could understand them, then you’re just as damn crazy as they are. So be lucky that you can’t.

“You cannot rationalize with an irrational person.” -Click to Tweet this wisdom

 

It’s very hard but work on loving yourself in the meantime and being very happy with where you are right now.

Ok that’s all for today, if you liked this video then please click like, subscribe to the YouTube Channel, share with any friends that need to hear this, and if you’re not part of the club yet, then head over to YoungMomsClub.com, enter your name and email and I will connect with you one on one, I’m gonna send you a free e book, its an easy read with a little work book at the end, called “The 7 Steps to Being a Kick Ass Young Mom” and I will send you videos like this weekly and any other important updates that you need to see. Ok so, thank you so much for watching, and I will see you next week.

<3 Danielle

Did you miss last week’s video?? Watch it here—-> My list of Healthy Foods: 5 things I CANNOT live without

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My List of Healthy Foods- 5 things I CANNOT Live Without

I’ve been fighting the flu a cold, all week. Everyone I know, and their brother, and everyone at the kids’ school has been passing around sickness, so I guess I shouldn’t have been so surprised when I woke up with a sore throat. The first day it came on, it was progressing really fast and I was like, “I CANNOT GET SICK!”  So, I sprang into action…healthy flu shot danielle ford

I have a list of healthy foods that I take regularly and I haven’t gotten sick in years. (I’ll walk through each of them in today’s video).

So, I doubled up #1 and #4 and I also went to a favorite local juice spot here in Vegas called “The Juice Standard” every day and got a “flu shot”.

..Look, I’m gonna be honest with you.. I’m no stranger to throwing back some shots, but this was definitely the most hardcore.

That drink, along with my normal sickness-fighting routine, kept me from getting full-blown sick. My symptoms died down after the first day and I spent the rest of the week with a little bit of a weak voice and a mildly sore throat.

I’m considering that a win.

🙂

My List of Healthy Foods- 5 things I CANNOT Live Without – Video Transcription

Hello, happy Friday! I’m Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms Club, where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives.

In this video, I’m going to share with you my list of healthy foods, well the five foods that I cannot live without. Ok so just a disclaimer, I am not a health professional, I am not a health coach but I love studying about health and fitness, all that stuff and me personally, these are the 5 things that are pretty uncommon, that a lot of people don’t really know about but when I learned about them and I started using them, they all seriously changed my life and so I’ll start, I’ll explain each one individually and why I love it OK?

So first on my list of healthy foods that I cannot live without is apple cider vinegar.

benefits of apple cider vinegar

Apple cider vinegar is terrible, it’s so disgusting, I hate it, like, It’s so disgusting. But I love the effects of it. So, people use it in different ways. I just drink it pretty straight up. You can use it as a salad dressing but I just pour like a tablespoon or a little teaspoon maybe into cold water and dilute it and just chug it with my nose plugged and it’s so terrible. It smells terrible and I dropped a whole bottle one time and it went all over my kitchen and the house smelled horrible for like a week, it’s disgusting. But apple cider vinegar balances out your ph levels and if you can balance out your ph levels then there’s no way to get sick. So its awesome for that. There’s also lots of other ways you can use it. You can use it as a toner for your skin, you can put it in your bath, it smells terrible though so I don’t really do that very often but it gives you.. the biggest perk for me at least is that it gives you instant energy so before I do like a workout session or just like waking up in the morning to kinda get my system going, I drink like some water and some apple cider vinegar. And I probably have it like three times a day if I can remember to. So that is my first health food that I cannot live without.

Now, my second health food that I live by is quinoa.

benefits of qunioa

It’s pronounced keen-wah, not quin-o-uh like I used to call it, it is quinoa and this is basically a grain and it’s gluten free so its not like rice, it’s.. let me think, it’s used by, I think the Incas, you know, hundreds of years ago, whatever, they used to only give quinoa to the biggest, strongest warriors. They would save it. They only had so much and they would save it for the men that were going into battle to give them lots of energy. So in that grain, there’s tons of, actually there’s tons of antioxidants, you know like blueberries and fruits have, which are not usually found in grains like that but there’s a ton of protein, fiber, all sorts of nutrients. Again it fills you up and gives you lots of energy, so I like to cook the whole package and I’ll cook and it’s just a 2:1 ratio so if you have 2 cups of quinoa then you need 4 cups of water, boil it, it’s just like rice, it’s delicious, you can just eat it by itself, sometimes I put some butter in it, crushed red pepper, mix it, sometimes I’ll just store it in my fridge. It’ll last like a few days and then I’ll just cook up some veggies, grill them, whatever. And just like mix it all together and eat the quinoa with it. It’s so good for you and it fills you up and is a good starch without being too heavy. So that’s number 2 on my list, quinoa.

Number 3 on my list is coconut oil.

benefits of coconut oil

I love coconut oil and I actually did an entire video on coconut oil and why its my number one beauty secret, but I’m not really talking about it as a beauty product today, but as a health product. So, I use it to cook with, instead of olive oil, which I still use olive oil sometimes but instead of olive oil, definitely instead of other vegetable oils, I use it to cook with. You can use it as a spread like butter, you can just eat it itself. It’s a really healthy fat, you know, fat is good for you, it’s good for your brain and all this stuff, it’s a really healthy, healthy fat. I use it for myself for oil pulling. And I’ll put it in my mouth and swoosh it around for ten to 20 minutes and it pulls out all the toxins in your mouth, helps your gums, your teeth, everything. And then you spit it out because you don’t want to swallow after you’ve pulled all the toxins. So, if you’re going to eat it, just eat it. If you’re gonna pull, spit it out. I give it to my dog, it’s really good for animals and their hair and skin. It’s good for our hair and skin. It helps from the inside out. So, coconut oil is a huge staple, and if you want to know how to use it as a beauty product, I’ll post that right here. And it’s my favorite beauty product as well.

Now number 4 is kale and I probably shouldn’t show you this kale because it’s gross.

how to eat kale

I bought it like a week ago and I’m gonna throw it out after this but I’ve been gone from my house for a couple days and I’m leaving again in a couple hours for New Year’s Eve, but this is very wilty. Usually its much more crisp and brighter green. But this is kale and I use kale in three different ways, one is I juice it and I did a whole video on juicing and specifically how to get energy from juicing, so I’ll put that right here if you want to watch that but I just with kale. Kale is usually super, super green and the more green a vegetable is the more chlorophyll it has and chlorophyll is what gives plants life and then when you ingest it it gives you life, so it helps regenerate cells, and all that stuff and all that healthy stuff that green vegetables do. It’s full of antioxidants, nutrients, minerals, blah blah blah. Kale is a super, super food so besides juicing it, I’ll make a salad either with just kale or add it into a salad. Do some apple cider vinegar on top, some tomatoes whatever. You can just eat it straight, it’s good and then the third thing that I do, the third thing that I love it to make kale chips. They are bomb.com. So, I might do a video on that separately. Note to self: make a video on kale chips. But basically you just tear the kale leaves into little pieces, wash it first, obviously. Dry them, toss it with some coconut oil, some sea salt, toss it all together and then just bake in the oven and they come out crispy, delicious, like chips but really good for you. So if we’re watching a movie or something like that, I love to eat kale chips and you can store them for a few days. So kale is my fourth health tip.

And my fifth favorite health food is maca.

benefits of maca powder

Now this is maca powder, it’s a superfood. So maca is a root. I’m pretty sure it’s from the.. oh Peru. It’s from Peru. it’s a Peruvian root and it’s amazing. You only need a little bit. Too much of it can actually have side effects but you only need a tiny bit. A lot of people use it in different ways like sprinkling it on different food, blending it in juices and smoothies, and all that but I’m like, lazy.. so I do it like, twice a day. Once or twice a day, no more than that. But I’ll put it in with almond milk, mix it up, it kind of is a little chunky but I don’t care, I just chug the whole thing. Maca root is really good for stress. It’s really good for mood balancing, any type of depression issues, mood stability, especially when you’re on your period or any type of menopause symptoms, it really helps balance those hormones. Again, full of nutrients, vitamin b, vitamin c, all that stuff, and there’s other things, too. I can’t think of them right now but it’s mostly for energy and for mood stability. So, I love those 5 things.

That is my list of healthy foods, if you have any other questions about those, let me know.

I’ll try to add some links below on the blog to where you can find those, besides the kale, you can find kale like, anywhere. You so if you want to try those out, let me know how they work for you. I do a lot of other weird health type stuff but those are my five staples.

Ok, so that’s all for today. Thank you for watching. If you liked this video then please click Like, and Subscribe on YouTube and if you’re not part of the club, then head over to YoungMomsClub.com, enter your email and I will send you a Free ebook, connect with you one on one and send you more of these videos. Ok, thanks for watching and have a great day. See you next week! <3 Danielle

 

Did you miss last week’s video? Check it out here: 5 Goals in Life that you NEED for the New Year

5 Goals in Life that you NEED for the New Year

It’s a brand new year! (Which means you need brand new goals!)

In today’s video, I’m going to go through the 5 goals in life that you need for the New Year and share what some of mine are..

5 Goals in Life that you NEED for the New Year – Video Transcript

It’s a brand new year so I’m going to guess that you have some sort of new years resolution, maybe to lose weight, stop smoking, make more money, something like that. Am I right?

goals in life danielle fordI’m Danielle Ford, the founder of Young Moms Club, where young moms go to empower themselves and design their perfect lives, and I’m going to tell you why I’m a way bigger fan of goals than resolutions.

I’m going to tell you what the difference is, and also I’m going to explain to you the 5 different goals in life that you should have for this new year.

Ok to be honest, I’m really not  fan of resolutions, I much prefer goals, you see the thing about resolutions is it means usually that you want to create a change and the only way to change something is to create a new habit. and to create a new habit, you need to create goals that are going to help you create that habit. Also a lot of people have a new years resolution and its so big and thats really hard to stick with so even though I’m a fan of the new years thing and I usually do the new years thing around my birthday cause to me its a new year but its in January so it still kinda counts.

But I like to have some big goals in mind but if you call it a resolution, it’s too much pressure, so instead you should have a big goal and then you should break it down into smaller goals.

So every year I like to have a big goal around five different things and these are what I believe, the five goals in life that everybody needs to have.

So, the first one is business goals. There’s also health goals, family goals, relationship goals and social goals. So I like to have some biggish goals for the whole year and then I create quarterly, monthly, weekly, etc etc goals to make sure that they are accomplished. So for instance, one of my business goals is to publish my book by the end of the year and actually more like in the middle of the year so I don’t just leave it at that like my goal or my resolution is to publish my book, I then break it down into smaller goals like “write this chapter”, “meet with a publisher” , editing, front cover design, yada yada yada, all of these goals are going to help fulfill my bigger goal.

On the health side of things, my big goal is to get plates certified and that’s probably  not going to happen until around the Fall but its still my goal for the year so I’m not just gonna wait until the Fall happens and certification comes around again, I’m going to make smaller goals like “attend pilates 3 times a week, 4 times a week for an entire month or three months straight or practice whatever”.. so smaller goals to make it easier for when Fall comes around and I can accomplish that goal. And of course I have family goals, relationship goals, social goals.. and just like business and health, I’m going to break those down into smaller, actionable bites that I can accomplish much easier than the entire goal.

So now I want to hear from you, what are your five goals in life that you want to accomplish this next year?

Let me know in the comments below. If you liked this video then please click like and subscribe and if you’re not part of the club, then head over to YoungMomsClub.com, enter your name and email, I will immediately connect with you one on one, send you a free ebook and send you these videos, weekly.

Thank you so much for watching and I will see you next week. <3 Danielle

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Should I Pay my Rent or Buy Christmas Presents?

Around this time, about 7 years ago, I was asking myself “Should I pay my rent or buy Christmas presents?”

Money was really tight and there was no option for me to pay for both.

So that year, I didn’t buy any Christmas presents for my kids.

So in today’s video, I’m gonna tell you why I ended up making that tough choice, how I handled the guilt of feeling like I couldn’t provide for my kids.. and also what I probably should’ve done instead..

Video Transcript- Should I Pay Rent or Buy Christmas presents?

Hey this is Danielle Ford and RosaBelle Ford and I didn’t really plan a video for this week.

It’s just been one of those weeks that just kind of got a head of me and I just wasn’t feeling very good and kind of have a headache and just have a ton of stuff to do to get ready for Christmas and the kids are gonna be out of school soon so I’ve just been doing a lot of stuff. But it’s really funny, I actually decided to shoot this video because I’m sitting here wrapping presents and it’s late and the kids are sleeping and I’m like, kind of stressed, like “I have all these presents to wrap and I have to do all this stuff.

But the ironic part of that is that just a couple years ago I didn’t have any presents to wrap.

pay rent buy christmas presentsI was really struggling and when the kids were about 3-4, or 2-3-ish, I was working 2 jobs as an Esthetician during they day and bartender at night and I made money, I made OK money but I also didn’t get child support and had an apartment to pay for and daycare and bills and food and everything else..

So that’s where all my money went and I remember that I felt really bad and guilty that I wasn’t able to get the kids gifts, and I was really thinking, “Should I pay my rent or buy presents?”

And I thought ultimately, we’re not gonna have a place to have Christmas if the bills don’t get paid, so I didn’t buy them a single present.

Luckily, my mom bought them some things so it wasn’t like they didn’t have anything, But at that time, I felt like because I wasn’t destitute, or homeless.. you know how you always hear about feeding and helping the homeless? I had too much pride to tell anyone that I couldn’t afford presents.

And I just remember feeling really shitty that I wasn’t able to get presents for the kids.

And the next year, I actually went ape shit and bought way too much stuff which was dumb but I felt like I was making up for it.

But my whole point of this is to say that I’m sure there are a lot of people watching this that are in that situation now that I was in and it really sucks. When you have to ultimately make the decision to buy something frivolous for your kids like presents or be responsible and pay the bills, the bills come first, obviously.

And looking back, there was no reason for me to feel guilty. For one, the were taken care of by my mom and if they hadn’t been, I would’ve totally been in a perfect place to go ask for presents. There’s so many people and organizations and people just waiting to help a single mom, and people just waiting to donate, especially around this time of year. So, I probably should’ve done that, but I had way too much pride and that was stupid.

Another thing that’s really important to remember is that quote that: “Children want your PRESENCE, not your PRESENTS.” -Click to Tweet this!

So, it doesn’t matter what they get, they ultimately want to do something with you, so if you can take some old stuff you have and re-gift it, create a little game, do a little scavenger hunt, or whatever, there’s always fun things that you can do with your kids on Christmas.

That’s kind of just what I was thinking about because I just want to let you know that it gets better, it does, I promise. And you don’t know how or when, but it does. And one day, you’ll look back at the tough times and you’ll be like, “Oh my gosh, I can’t believe I got through that. But I did. So that’s good.”

So, I’m gonna wrap this video up because I have presents to wrap and a puppy to play with. So let me know if you’re in that situation, don’t feel guilty if you can’t provide much for your kids because you’re doing the best you can and one day, one day you’ll be able to look back and be like, “I’m so glad I’m out of that situation” and you’ll actually be able to help other people that are in that situation.

It sucks when you’re in it but you get through it. That’s my story.

Sorry this video is kind of all over the place, I didn’t even plan it, I just put the camera up and started talking, which doesn’t really work out very good because I just kind of go on little random tangents and talk everywhere and I don’t know what I’m talking about and then my dog attacks me and I love her.

So if you have any comments, questions, concerns, opinions, wanna tell me I’m dumb, or not, leave them in the comments and if this is your first video you’re watching, I make better videos, I promise, so go to YoungMomsClub.com and join the club.

I also have a free e book that I wrote called “The 7 Steps to Being a Kick ass Young Mom” that I’d love to share with you. A lot of girls write me back and tell me that it’s really inspiring, and it really came from my heart, so go there and sign up and I will connect with you after that. Ok?

If you liked this video, then like it and if you know somebody who might need to hear this message, that they are enough as a mom, with no presents, or little presents, or even a feeling of guilt because somebody else has to buy presents for their kids, share this video with them, ok? Alright, I will see you next week.

<3 Danielle

Did you miss last week’s video? Check it out here: Are you Brainwashed by the Media? 3 questions to ask yourself..

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Are you Brainwashed by the Media? 3 questions to ask yourself..

Could you be brainwashed by the media?

Maybe.. in the same way that a crazy person doesn’t know that they’re crazy, a brainwashed person doesn’t know that they’re brainwashed.

This might seem like a kinda random topic to discuss for a Figure it out Friday video, but it’s actually one of the most important because if you are allowing yourself to be brainwashed, none of the rest of it matters. All of the goal setting and self-improvement and being a great young mom.. none of that will be as effective if your mind isn’t in the right place.

So here are some questions to ask yourself and if you answer “yes” to any of them, then you might be moderately to severely brainwashed by the media and I suggest you watch this video..

brainwashed media1. Do you ever find yourself idolizing or admiring celebrities who are famous but they actually don’t have any real accomplishments?

2. Do you judge the attractiveness of the opposite sex based on the popular standard of attractiveness, meaning that girls: you only find tall, dark and muscle-y attractive and men: you only seem to like women who have Barbie doll-shaped bodies.

3. Do you ever find yourself trying hard to be that standard of beauty?

There are a lot more questions I could ask but I think those are the 3 most common indicators.

I’ll explain more about how you become brainwashed by the media and what you can do about it in the video..

(Be sure to watch to the end because you’ll see a side of me you’ve NEVER seen before… Don’t judge me..)

As usual, after you watch, I’d looovvee to hear back from you, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments..

<3 Danielle