TIOT: Home Remedies for Kids

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Do you have any home remedies for when your kids are sick?”

I know there is nothing in the world worse than having sick kiddos. It’s especially horrible when they’re so little that they can’t even tell you what’s wrong. There are tons of doctor appointments, medications, tissues, tears, and snuggles when our babies aren’t feeling well. But what else can we do? Here are some home remedies that YMC followers shared with us:

Instagram User sabaah96

 

IG User @sabaah96 says…

Nothing like a hot honey and lemon water to soothe a cold/sore throat!

 

 

 

Instagram User ambertheal

IG User @ambertheal says…

I steep ginger with lemons in hot water. Then let cool to lukewarm and add a touch of honey  and get my son to drink it. Works so well for sore throats and for upset tummies. For stuffed up noses and chest congestion, I run the hot water in the shower and sit with him in the bathroom. The hot steam helps loosen everything up.

 

 

FB User Holly Udy Patino

 

FB User Holly Udy Patiño says…

I use garlic/mullein oil for ear infections and it seriously works! I’d say it is just as effective as antibiotics without ruining your child’s gut health. I also use oregano essential oil (mixed with coconut oil) since it’s a natural antibiotic and it’s also antiviral. It’s great for just about any illness! I just mix it with coconut oil and put it at the bottom of my daughter’s feet (this way it quickly gets absorbed into the body) and then put socks on. I am amazed at how effective it is! (if my daughter has an ear infection, I use this in addition to the garlic/mullein oil in the ears)

 

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IG User @lindsayloowoo3 says…

Vicks VapoRub on the bottom of their feet with socks. Clears the nose every time!

 

 

Instagram User bronobell

 

IG User @bronobell says…

I use Echinaforce. It works like a charm for colds & flu. A couple of drops in their drinks for a day or two and they’re sorted.

 

 

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IG User @boob.e.life says…
Eucalyptus oil and sitting in a steaming bathroom with baby works wonders!

 

 

Thanks mommies! You girls had some awesome ideas and I’m sure we all learned new ways to help our little loves to feel better the next time they’re sick! If you have a home remedy that you swear by that wasn’t mentioned here, make sure to leave it in the comments below!

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TIOT: How To Tell Your Parents You Need Space

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you let your parents know you can handle being a mom and need space to learn and figure things out on your own?”

Becoming a young mom isn’t easy and at first your parents want to help you A LOT! But after a few months you finally have the ropes figured out and it can be really hard to tell your parents that it’s time for them to back off and give you some breathing room! We don’t want to hurt their feelings, but at the same time we want to have the room to parent our own kids. Here’s some advice from other young moms who have been there:

IG USER azaleas_momma

 

IG User @azaleas_momma says…

Talk to your parents. Let them know how you feel and your point of view. You are a parent now yourself. We all make mistakes but have to learn from them. Be an adult and talk to them in a respectful way, that they won’t get offended. Good luck momma!

 

IG USER mommyofkyree

 

 

IG User @mommyofkyree says…

My boyfriend’s mother is the epitome of this. We have tried so many times to respectfully ask her to let us learn but she takes it to heart and gets offended then walks around like she has an attitude. We still haven’t found a solution to this problem.

 

IG USER eli_jade

 

 

IG User @eli_jade says…

There is no way! LMAO. My boyfriend’s mom thinks I’m back talking & have attitude and threatens to kick us out. You just have to ignore it or walk away.

 

 

So, it seems like this is a very common issue AND apparently not an easy one to find a solution to! I, personally, remember dealing with this when my first daughter was younger and time did help. I think my mom just had to realize that I was capable over time.

Do you have any advice for all these young moms and the teen mom who originally asked this question? If you do, leave us a comment! I’m sure we would all LOVE to hear any other comments or expert guidance on dealing with our parents.

Also, if you need help with something or just want to get some advice with a problem in your life, make sure you fill out our form so we can post your question for next week’s Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and don’t forget… comment below!

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TIOT: Giving Birth as a Young Mom

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Do you have a birthing story to share with an expectant young mom?”

Pregnancy can be scary at any age, but especially as a young, pregnant teen. One of our followers wanted to know if any of the other young moms out there have birthing stories that they could share with us. So we asked… and you answered! Here are a few of the stories:

 

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IG User @abbylockyerrr says… I was 3 days past my due date, and my mom and I had been out all day shopping, after we got home I started having mild contractions, I was already 5 cm dilated and I thought this could be it! I got to the triage and they checked me, still only 5 cm, so they had me walk around the hospital for an hour and a half. They checked me again and I was 7 1/2 cm! I was so excited. So they put me in a room and I waited.. and waited.. And guess what? Waited! Haha. Around 1 am my midwife broke my water. I started having labor around an hour later, so I got some medicine in my IV and I fell asleep for a little, then I woke up having to poop around 4 am. I bolted to the toilet and barely anything came out so the nurse had to get me off the toilet and my midwife checked me and I was 10 cm and they had me start pushing, I pushed for about 50 minutes and I had my baby in my arms ❤

 

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IG User @just.ashaa says…

I’m a 15 year old single mom. The baby’s daddy came up to the hospital when I had Jensen. He wasn’t in the delivery room because he said he was “sick to his stomach”. Jensen was born all natural, on September 8th, 2014 at 20 inches long and 7.8 pounds.

 

 

 

YMC Admin Kim N.YMC Admin Kim N. says…

I have two girls so I’ve got two different stories to tell about my very different experiences with the birthing process. My first daughter was born when I was only 17. I started to feel very early labor symptoms and small contractions at about 6 am. I had a rough night’s sleep so I was exhausted already. That day the contractions lasted throughout the whole day and I was doing everything I could to stay busy and walking around because I didn’t want to be stuck in a hospital bed until I absolutely had to. Finally just before 9 pm I was at the drugstore getting ice cream and kept having to drop to the floor because the pain was getting worse so my mom and my boyfriend at the time decided it was time to go to the hospital. I was admitted around 9 pm and was only about 4 1/2 cm dilated. After a few hours, I was told the baby’s heartbeat was dropping so they wanted me to get an IV and monitor hooked up, so they administered Nubain for the pain. Then after hours of waiting, at around 1 am, my nurse told me I was basically “stuck” at 5 cm and wasn’t going to get any further along until I slept. By then the drugs were wearing off so they insisted I get an epidural. I was so insistent that I was going to have the baby without an epidural, I argued with the doctors until they finally convinced me. Once I got the epidural hooked up, I fell asleep and when I woke up the nurse decided that it was time for them to break my water. A few hours later, they came back to administer Pitocin to move things along but, surprise! She was ready to come out by then. I had a painless delivery since I had gotten the epidural and all went so well after that.

My second daughter was born was almost 6 years later and was a totally different experience. I woke up with pretty decent labor pains around 7:30 am. Within an hour I realized that the contractions were getting much more intense and that this baby was NOT going to wait much longer to make an appearance! So we left for the hospital close to 9 am and I was admitted immediately. I knew things were moving along really quickly so I was adamant that they called the anesthesiologist right away to get my epidural. They were making me wait for what seemed like forever and all I could think about were those movies where the doctor tells the mom that it’s too late and she’s just going to have to do it naturally, so I threw a hardcore fit. I was cursing at everyone, yelling, and acting super demanding to the point where they had to close the door to my room. LOL. Finally the anesthesiologist showed up and got me all set up and before I knew it, it was early afternoon and they were telling me it was time to push. There was one little problem… I was so drugged up that I couldn’t feel any pressure or feel any muscle control so I couldn’t even push when I was told to! They even had to have people hold my legs up on either side because I was too numb to do it myself. I coughed and they said, “Wait, do that again!”. I kind of looked at them like they were crazy, but they said when I coughed my stomach muscles tensed and it was like I was pushing. I laughed at the thought of that and they said, “Oh, do that again too!” since that worked the same way coughing did. So at that point I literally had to laugh/cough my daughter out of me. It felt like the silliest thing ever!

So now that we’ve shared our stories, we hope that our YMC teen mom that asked this question has a smooth and successful delivery and a healthy, happy baby! Did you have an interesting birthing story you want to share? Comment below!

If anyone else has a subject they want help or feedback on, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below!

 

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TIOT: How to Handle People Who Think Young Moms are Incapable

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do you handle people who think you are incapable of being a mom because of your age?”

It can be really hard to feel adequate when you are a young mom. So many people will put doubt into your mind about if you’re really capable of being the best mom since you’re a teenager or a very young adult. So we shared the question of a YMC follower and got some positive reinforcement! Check it out:

 

IG User misskioiIG User @misskioi says…

There is no difference between a thirty year old first time mom & a 16-year old one. Well, any significant difference. The only difference I see is that when you’re a bit older, you probably have a decent job and can provide for your child without that much of a grand hustle. But see, a child is not raised by the material things you provide. A child is raised by love. Your ability to love is what determines whether or not you will be a good mother. With love, you will strive to be the best you can in order to provide for your baby, you will spend every minute you can with your baby, creating a strong motherly bond. The capacity of love and the ability to love & care for your child knows no age, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. You can do it. You will make mistakes, yes. But each day is a new day, to learn new things, love your child more, to provide better, and to being a better mom than the day before.  🙂

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IG User @augustxorae says…

I’m 19 and a lot of people thought I was too young and immature to have a child. I am 19 with a 7 month old, I’m my 5th month of nursing school… I have 7 months left and I’ll be able to support me and my son. I am proving EVERYONE wrong. Teen moms are amazing!

 

 

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IG User @yohelisa_ says…

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first daughter. I didn’t know it all, but everyday I learned something new. And of course loving my daughter and taking care of her everyday (she is now 8 years old) made me a great mom. Just don’t pay attention to what people think or say. You are the mom and you know what you do better than them…

 

 

 

IG User ChristinamayhemIG User @christinamayhem says…

Remember that their opinions don’t matter and that what they think does not mean that you are a bad mother or will be! Let their comments be your ammunition! Prove them wrong, not just to show them that teen moms do not mean ‘bad moms’, but for yourself as well! When I got pregnant, a lot of people put me down and discouraged me, but when my daughter was born several of them told me how surprised that they were of how great of a mom I am and how much I do for my baby. It really makes you feel good and proud of yourself! 🙂  I used to be embarrassed or think twice about going out in public because of the looks and comments I would get from people. Now I am much more confident and don’t pay attention to them. I know what I am capable of, and no one is going to make me second guess myself!!! We are women, we are strong!!

Despite all the judgement, our young moms have proven that they can do anything just as well as anybody else! You ladies kick ass! Have you faced people who thought you were going to be a bad mother or just incapable of caring for your child? Did people try to to knock you down when you were pregnant or even after you had your baby? Let us know in the comments.

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to share this article and leave a comment below if you have a story about how you proved yourself as a teen mother or if these girls helped you!

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TIOT: How to Tell Your Parents You’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How do I tell my parents that I’m pregnant?”

This is one of the harder questions that teen moms-to-be have and we thought we should help this pregnant teen so she didn’t feel alone. Here is what our followers had to say to help her to prepare for one of the hardest conversations of her life…

IG User mylife_ft.baileyabigailIG User @mylife_ft.baileyabigail:

My dad lived 19 hours away and was at summer camp for the National Guard when I told him. I definitely should have picked a different way to tell him, I texted him, and I regret it. I lived with my mom so I told her face to face and she cried for days. My mom was 19 when she got pregnant with me. I was 17 when I got pregnant. She just kept telling me she didn’t want me to go through what she went through because she knew how hard it was. If I could go back and change how I told them, I would. No parent wants to see their teenager pregnant and struggling with that, so there is no EASY way to tell them. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just sit them down and just straight up tell them.

 

IG User raisingzofia

IG User @raisingzofia says…

My mom knew because I was NOT acting like my usual self. My dad lived 15 hours away and my mom texted him and told him. My husband’s mom already knew because she heard me vomiting in the mornings. LOL.  His dad got a text from us because his dad lived 7 hours away.

 

 

 

 

IGIG User hunterlitt3 User @hunterlitt3 says…
My boyfriend at the time and I told all four of our parents at the same time. We went out to dinner at one of our favorite places and we told them. My parents were unhappy and so were my ex’s. My dad got so mad he made a huge scene at the restaurant, broke a few things, and left. He had my uncle come and get him. My mom started crying and so did my ex’s. My ex’s dad was just like, “cool, whatever, Carmen is just going to raise it on her own I already know.” I was really mad about that because I knew it wouldn’t be true so I told him to leave and I didn’t want to see him again, ever. The moms were crying with both madness and happiness. My dad kicked me out of my house and didn’t talk to me until the baby was born. Eventually me and my ex did break up and he wasn’t there for any of it. If I could go back and change the way I told them, I would in a snap!

 

IG User ryliehall

IG User @ryliehall says…

I actually told my mom the adult way, I went to her house and told her. I even asked what she think I should do (not abortion! But I didn’t know if I could raise a baby….) She told me that my baby was for me and I would choose correctly for their life. She always told me, “if you get pregnant I’ll kill you!” but when it came down to it, she was, and is, there for me every step of the way <3

 

 

IG User __leexxiii____

 

IG User @__leexxiii____ says…

I told my mom on the phone too actually… and I should have done it face to face, but I was scared of her reaction and afraid to see disappointment. Turns out she was happier than I could have imagined. I would definitely sit both parents down (probably in public at lunch or something just in case someone doesn’t take it well) and say, “I’m pregnant, happy, and this is a blessing. Hope you’re happy for me” and hopefully they will all be there for you guys and the baby. Everyone needs the support!

 

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IG User @ah_rel_ee says…

Well for me, when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I first talked it out. We set up a schedule if we had the baby. Once we were set on keeping the baby no matter what, we sent in for a counselor conference at my school. I was mostly concerned for his parents’ reaction, but I knew my mom would be supportive because I saw how that was with my older sister. They all caught my boyfriend and I by surprise. They were happy to see a new life begin and offered any of help we needed, and the counselors even told us that it’s the best reaction they have seen from any parents whose teen told them that a baby is on the way. I’m actually happy how I told both the parents. We needed everyone’s support to do it.

 IG User carradefuchiee

 

IG User @carradefuchiee says…

I honestly wish I knew ahead of time. My mom noticed I was prego before I did. She got me a dollar test and said, “Pee on it. You’ve been eating stuff you don’t like”. LOL. I took it thinking I wasn’t, but two minutes passed and I read the box 3 times and was shocked and came out and said I’m pregnant. She said, “OMG”! She was a little disappointed ’cause I had to do it alone because my baby’s dad was cheating on me, but it was the best experience.

 

 

IG User jasminef80

IG User @jasminef80 says…

I waited until I was 6 months along. I was scared and selfish. The uncertainty scared me the most. When I told my parents I waited until my dad was out of town and just told my mom one on one and let her tell him. Looking back it might have been better to tell them together face to face but it allowed my dad time to get the right words before we spoke and he was very gentle and forgiving when we did speak by phone. The fears began to melt away when I knew they were there to help me through every step of the way. It’s a very hard conversation but it’s one of the first grown-up things you will have to do of many when entering into parenthood.

 

 

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IG User @abbylockyerrr says…

Well, I missed my period for 2 months or so when my now ex-boyfriend noticed my stomach was a little bit bigger than usual. I knew right then that I was pregnant and we kept it between us. Then I ate some cottage cheese with a pickle for the spoon, (it was so good) and out of nowhere I threw up! So I went and told my mom that I threw up and that I thought I was sick, and she said “well maybe you’re pregnant” and I was just like, no way. So then she went to work and me and my dad talked and he asked me if I had unprotected sex in the last month. I said yeah and he was like well, there you go! I sat in my room for a while and the next day I woke up and went to my mom’s room and she was like “I got you a pregnancy test, it’s in the bathroom”. I had to pee soooo bad, but I pretended like I didn’t to avoid taking the test because I was so terrified about the fact that she was going to find out I was having sex, and not the sole fact that I was pregnant! But it came out positive and I BOLTED out of the bathroom. She looked at the test and then we went out to eat and didn’t talk, but then we got in the car and we discussed my options. I decided immediately that I was going to keep the baby, and now almost 13 months later I have my beautiful 3 month old daughter Fiona Mae. I am not ashamed or regretful in any way #NOTEENSHAME❤

 

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IG User @christinamayhem says…

I remember feeling like my period was going to start (sore boobs, cramps, etc.) but it just never came. I decided to tell my mom I thought I could be pregnant and she bought me two tests and I took them in the bathroom early morning and showed her. She immediately told me I had to get an abortion and was furious when I refused. I didn’t end up telling me stepfather until I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant (my mom told him) and he made me clean every day and do chores, telling me that if I decided to have an abortion I could stop and things would go back to normal. He made my life a living hell my whole pregnancy but I already loved my baby so much, there was no giving up. I didn’t tell my dad until I was 7 months pregnant (we don’t talk a lot). After my baby was born, I moved in with her father’s family and later on ended up leaving him because he cheated on/abused me. Now I have a new boyfriend and I work hard for a good life for myself and my daughter Cloudy Bell 🙂  #noregrets #thestruggleisworthit My advice would be to sit your family down and tell them with your boyfriend (if he’s around), firmly state that you are keeping your baby and that you would appreciate their support. Being straight up with them is the best way! #staystrong

 

IG User mariah_emmys_mommyIG User @mariah_emmys_mommy says…

I didn’t end up telling my mom until I was 3 and 1/2 months along, and the only reason she even knew was because she had found the test. She was very angry with me and she wanted me to give it up for adoption. After fighting with her for about an hour, she promised me she would not tell my dad about the baby until I wanted to. Somehow my younger brother Mike found out and told my dad. I came home from baby shopping with my girlfriends one day and he was furious. He started hitting and yelling and he told me if I didn’t get an abortion he would kick me out. I told him if he was going to act this way he better not expect to be any part of this baby’s life. He ordered me in the car and we drove to my boyfriends house. After my boyfriend found out he promised he would help out with the baby. But just before I was actually going to give birth, he broke up with me and completely denied that she was his child. I didn’t need a DNA test. I knew she was his because I had never in my life slept with anyone else but him. If you’re pregnant, the best way to tell your parents is to sit down with them and be honest. Tell them you want to keep the baby.

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IG User @ashleybellab says…

I was very athletic so it wasn’t uncommon for me to miss multiple periods in a row, I was 5 months pregnant when I passed out twice in one day so my mom took me to the doctor and that pee test in a cup came out positive.

 

These young moms have opened our eyes to so many different experiences when it comes to sharing the news of pregnancies with their families. We appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share with our pregnant young mommy-to-be!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you want to share your story about how you broke the news to your family!

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TIOT: Advice for Young Girls who Just Found out They’re Pregnant

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“What advice would you give to young girls who just found out they’re pregnant?”

When we received this question, we were so stoked on the amount of responses we got AND what amazing advice our young moms had to share! Some of these teen moms really had great things to say and I think a lot of us will appreciate or relate to this advice. Read on to see what we’re talking about…

 

bliss cruz fb userFB Fan Bliss Cruz says:

1) Try not to get overwhelmed. God won’t give you anything you can’t handle. 
2) Don’t rush it. ENJOY IT. Believe it or not, once the morning sickness passes, you will miss being pregnant & having the baby all to yourself. 
3) DONT GOOGLE YOUR SYMPTOMS & AILMENTS. It’s a horrible idea & you will end up diagnosing yourself with malaria or a calcium deficiency. Talk to your doctor. 
4) Do not watch “A Baby Story” or “I didn’t know I was pregnant” — doing so is a very poor choice. You will psych yourself out & imagine each thing that could go wrong. 
5) Talk to your baby, talk to your significant other, talk to God, talk to your friends, talk to your doctor. YOU ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE. You are literally making a miracle happen. Take some time to realize that before your miracle is complete. You have been hand picked to love & carry this beautiful little human. Be proud & be gracious. There are so many women who would give anything & everything they have to be in your shoes. Keep that in mind. 

YOU ARE GOING TO BE FINE.  it will all be ok— better than ok. It’s going to be wonderful. You are going to be a mom. Congrats!!!!

 

FB Fan Autumn Wake says…autumn wake fb user

I think Miss Bliss above here said it all! I never thought I would miss my belly, but when baby was sick in the NICU after she was born that’s all I thought. Def don’t google stuff… Ask your doctor! I was feeling a lot of hiccups when I was in the last month. Some dumb person posted something in a forum about how she had hiccups right before she had a stillborn… Wtf?!?! Even though I knew it was ridiculous I was still paranoid. Get ready for everyone to tell you 100 different things when you have the baby! One person tells you one thing and the next contradicts it. Find one person you trust and stick with their guidance… As well as your own gut!

My favorite thing about being a new parent is the secret club that parents have that everyone told me “you don’t get it until you have one.” Everyone gets so excited for you to experience this new parent thing… It’s just like everyone who is a parent gets so excited and bonds with you like you never expected.

 

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IG User @christinamayhem says…

Keep holding on and stay strong! Your life is not over!!! You, and only you, know what your capable of, and that is anything you put your mind to. Don’t be discouraged by anyone. You can make a great life for you and your child! Finish high school and do something after too.

 

 

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IG User @mommyandbraxton says…

Just be honest and don’t give up. Tell your parents no matter how much you think they will hate you, more than likely they won’t. Stay focused on schooling.

 

 

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IG User @___kearstinleighhh says…

I am a young mom. It’s not easy. Never will be. But being a mother is the most rewarding thing a woman can do. It’s so amazing. Just keep your head held high and stay strong and NEVER give up.

 

 

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FB Fan Stephanie McCoy says…

Nobody is ready for a baby no matter what… so take it one day at a time. It will all work out somehow. 
And take all advice with a grain of salt… nothing works one hundred percent of the time. Do what makes you happy!

 

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IG User @blondebeauty92 says…

Don’t listen to anyones rude comments, keep your head up, and keep moving forward. Life is going to be harder now, but in the end it’ll be well worth it.

 

 

 

Jessica Tripod fb userFB Fan Jessica Tripod says…

1) Your life is not over once you become a mom.

2) Take care of yourself. You’ll thank yourself later.

3) Block out all negativity. Don’t allow others to sentence you to their misery. Just because someone else had a bad experience or is unhappy with themselves doesn’t mean that you have to go down the same path.

 

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IG User @_mother_of _2boys says…

Always think positive and keep your head up. Don’t pay any attention to the rude comments and mean things your family and friends might say. Just prove them wrong and then they will keep their mouths shut. Its not gonna be easy, but it will all be worth it at the end. Remember think positive.

 

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IG User @joshuamomma_proud says…

It’s a very hard time in life. You’ll get scared and you won’t have all the answers, you’ll feel like you’re not prepared and that’s all okay. You just have to have faith in yourself, keep your head high and don’t listen to what everyone keeps telling you. Just hold on and stay strong and remember that at the end of those long nine months you’ll be holding the most precious person in your life.

 

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IG User @alliebear714 says…

Make sure anything you do and or decide to do for you and your baby is the best choice for you and your baby. Nobody else can tell you what you are feeling or what you are going to do. Always think positive! 🙂 Nothing will come out of being negative and if you are surrounded with negativity then find your way of shutting it out and keep your head high. Always remember, it will never be easy being a young mom. The sooner you realize that, then the less stressed you will be come when those words ring true. That is what helped me overcome all of the obstacles everybody said I wouldn’t get over.

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IG User @marissaallier says…

I know I’m a little late to the party… But the best advice I can give is stay positive. This is the beginning of a long journey. There’s gonna be ups & downs but it’s gonna be the best time of your life. Just know that you can do it, & when you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it.

 

 

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IG User @krsmari says…

Be honest with your parents you need their support -try to complete as much education as possible before and after pregnancy

 

 

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IG User @kitti_in_wonderland says…

Don’t ever let anyone call you stupid. It has nothing to do with your level of intelligence, it was a thing that happened that could happen to someone with a 4.0 GPA or someone with a 1.0 GPA. You are NOT stupid, you just made a mistake… everyone does. I’m 17 and 5 months pregnant and people call me stupid all the time because I have a baby. I don’t let it bother me because God gave me this baby for a reason and girls remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that is so true. #proudyoungmom

Wow! After all that awesome advice, we’re sure the young mom who asked the question is feeling so supported right now! You guys freakin’ rock! Thanks to everyone who contributed and we hope that this helped lots of young pregnant teens everywhere! You are never alone, ladies!

If anyone else has questions or life issues that they might need some support with, make sure you fill out our form to be anonymously featured on the next Talk it out Tuesday here. Also, as always, feel free to comment below if you have any additional advice for young moms-to-be or if this advice helped you!

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TIOT: Natural Birth v.s. C-Section

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“Those of you who have experienced natural birth and a C-section which one did you prefer and why?”

One of our Facebook fans sent this question in and we were super interested to see what everyone would have to say. With every mom having a different experience with childbirth, we just had to share the answers with you! Read about our YMC followers’ answers to this week’s question…

 

Twitter User mommaliving (inked momma)

 

Twitter Follower @mommyliving (Inked Momma) says…

Had a natural birth & it was hell. Had to use forceps & he swallowed muconium, couldn’t hold him til next day. Terrifying.

 

 

IG User rosiemonterroza

IG user @rosiemonterroza says…

I had a C-Section. I had a good experience, I didn’t feel any pain at all. Although I was going for a natural drug free birth, my daughter had the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck so she wasn’t going down to the birth canal. I’d prefer to have my next child naturally, but if I had to go through a C-Section again it wouldn’t bother me. I had a smooth and pain free experience.

 

IG User xosabinalovee

 

IG user @xosabinalovee says…

I had a natural delivery with an epidural. I didn’t feel any contractions after I got the shot but I got it early so during delivery it had worn off by then. But it sure is true you forget all the pain after holding your baby in your arms afterwards!  🙂  …until postpartum! That kicked my butt!!

 

 

IG User @newyorkermom says…IG User newyorkermom

Personally it was definitely natural birth. The recovery was a lot quicker. I had a C-Section the first time and then a natural birth a little over two years later. I aimed to have a natural birth both times. I had to get the C-Section because every time I pushed, my daughter’s heart rate slowed down. After several attempts to push, I was pushed to the operating room. It was tough because although I had anesthesia given to me, I could feel the pressure of the doctor maneuvering her back up and through my C-Section. I felt cold and very nervous and too shaky to even greet my baby girl. I was knocked out and woke up in the recovery room and then transferred to the After Labor room and requested my baby to be pushed to my room. It was tough to breastfeed because she was on top of my C-Section. It was also tough to walk straight because it felt really weird to have the cut. I had to really keep it clean to avoid any infection and have a good heal. Exercising felt weird and uncomfortable too.

>>>>Then with my second I wanted to make sure that by the time I would deliver, it would have been two years after my C-Section surgery because that allows the most time for the scar tissue to heal and become strong for me to try a natural birth. The OBGYN constantly warned me of a uterus eruption from my C-Section scar but I really wanted to at least try pushing than forcing my contractions and scheduling to go under the knife. So when I felt the contractions, I pushed for the natural birth and was actually dropped by my OBGYN because she didn’t believe in my choice and my file was transferred to the on-call doctor at the Labor and Delivery Dept. I did take the epidural in case things did go wrong, I wouldn’t have to wait for anesthesia to be given to me. So when I pushed, I did need to get a cut or two for a bigger hole for him to go through. Got sewn up and was able to hold him immediately. I felt normal and was able to sit up and walk. Breastfeeding was a lot easier because I felt no pain really.

Wow, these girls really gave me a new perspective on labor and delivery! Thanks so much for your stories and I hope that these experiences shared are able to help other young pregnant moms who are getting ready to discuss their delivery plans with their doctors!

Did you have a C-Section or a Natural Birth? Have you had both and you preferred one to the other? If you have a story to share, don’t forget to leave a comment below!

…and don’t forget to submit YOUR Talk it out Tuesday questions so you can be featured next and get feedback and advice from young moms just like you!

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TIOT: When Do You Tell a Guy You Have Kids?

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“When is the right time to tell a guy you have children? Is the first date too soon?”

This question was sent in by a young mom hitting the dating scene. We got lots of responses from women and even a guy’s perspective! Check out what YMC followers said about this week’s question…

FB User Aubrie Phenix

 

Facebook User Aubrie Phenix says… I’d say tell them right away, first date or sooner. They deserve to know the package deal they’d be getting. Not to mention, if they won’t give you a chance just because you have kids, chances are they wouldn’t make a very good father and it’s not someone you would want in their lives or yours anyway.

 

IG User waitingongrace

 

 

IG user @waitingongrace says… I’d tell him, but I wouldn’t bring him home to the kiddos until you’re sure he’ll stick around.

 

IG User jasminder_03


 

IG user @jasminder_03 says… Before the first date to see if they’re still interested. Why waste your time if they don’t want someone with kids? But I agree, definitely don’t introduce them to the kids.

FB User Ryan Schlotter

 

 

 

Facebook User Ryan Schlotter says… We deserve to know ASAP.

 

IG User prvncess_lyric

 

IG user @prvncess_lyric says… You should let them know soon. If he doesn’t want to stick around, don’t get pissed or upset because you should never let someone come before your child/children. If he doesn’t care about you having kids, then that’s great. But you should never introduce your kids and your date until you know for sure he’s the right guy. It’s only right.

Thanks for your opinions everyone! All of the ladies (and guy) seem to be on the same page. What do you think?

Are YOU a young mom on the dating scene who has told your dates about your kid/kids? Are you a guy who has dated young, single moms? When were you told about her children? Leave a comment below!

…and don’t forget to submit YOUR Talk it out Tuesday questions so you can be featured next and get feedback and advice from young moms just like you!

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TIOT: Should Stepmoms Have Boundaries?

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“How much communication should you have with a stepmom? And what topics are ok for her to have an opinion on?”

We got a lot of responses to this subject and here are some of the things YMC followers had to say about this week’s question…

Momma2 two boys

 

Twitter follower @Momma2 two boys says…

Stepmoms are part of the family too and shouldn’t only be allowed to have opinions on certain things. I think this question is what’s wrong with society and viewing stepmoms. They should be treated with respect as a member of the family.

 

 

momma_salmaa

IG user @mommasalmaa says…

I don’t think they should have much of an opinion on how the child is raised. I mean, if you have a stepmom because your biological mom passed or something, then obviously she’s your mother figure so any opinion is fine. If it’s because of a divorce, then I think she has no say in anything really.

 

 

arielle_rose86

 

IG user @arielle_rose86 says…

If the stepmom plays a bigger role in the child’s life, they should have just as much say.

 

 

 

kelsey_trevor_luis

 IG user @kelsey_trevor_luis says…

I am both a stepmom and a biological mom and let me tell ya, stepmoms can really get the crap end of the stick. No matter how much you do for your step children, society in general will act like you should have no opinion and that nothing is your business. But, no matter what, all you can do is love your step children and try to be peaceful with their biological mom.

 

 

sandoval_loveIG user @sandoval_love says…

So, I’m a stepmother and have had a stepmother in my son’s life at one point. In regards to being the step mother, I used to have great communication with my daughter’s mother! Unfortunately, circumstances have changed and now we have almost zero communication and it’s really hard. I think each situation is unique and I’m not going to go into detail of ours, but it’s 100% a priority , no matter what, to keep the best interest of my “stepdaughter” (I hate calling her that) on the front lines. I think it’s beyond important to remove our personal feelings from the situation as much as possible even though it’s a huge challenge at times, especially when we have teenagers!

I also understand being on the other side of it too. At one time my son had a stepmother in his life because I was absent for the majority of the first 3 years of his life and I was honestly thankful for her. Our communication was minimal because when we did communicate she felt it was necessary to push her weight around which always led to an argument because I was insecure about my position. I had a lot to prove and did so. She did have a say so and I had to accept that but unfortunately she is no longer in the picture. When she left we were on good terms but I’m thankful for her position in my son’s life in light of my absence.

I’ve learned a lot over the past 6 years being on both sides of the fence so although I understand it’s so easy to think of a stepmother as a nuisance, it’s also important to look at our position for what it is and make the environment we provide for our children as pleasant as possible. It’s definitely challenging but can be so rewarding. I love my “stepdaughter” like she’s mine and it’s not a competition. I’ve always done my best to make it clear her mother cannot be replaced and even though things are hard and I may not agree with the lifestyle, I always have respect and do my best to be a helper instead of a road block. And I continue to pray for things to turn around! This is a great topic!

We thought this was a great topic too! Thank you to all who contributed and gave such incredible feedback from so many different viewpoints! We hope that your advice was helpful to our young mom.

Do YOU have any experience as a stepmom? Do your children have a stepmom in their lives? What is your opinion on placing boundaries on stepmoms and their involvement in their stepchild’s life? Leave a comment below!

…and don’t forget to submit YOUR Talk it out Tuesday questions so you can be featured next and get feedback and advice from young moms just like you!

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TIOT: Gender Reveal Party Ideas!

It’s Talk It Out Tuesday!

“I need some original ideas for a gender reveal party… help!”

Read to see what our YMC followers suggested for the young mom that sent in this week’s question…

missy whitlock-ghormley FB young mom

FB user @Missy Whitlock-Ghormley says…

I decorated my house in pink and blue, had everyone who thought it was a girl eat off of pink plates drink out of pink cups use pink forks etc and blue for those who thought it was a boy. Then after dinner I handed out cupcakes with pink filling on the inside. It was a lot of fun especially since I have 2 boys. I’ll definitely do a gender reveal with future children!

kelseybri93 IG young mom

 

IG user @kelseybri93 says…

I did balloons in a box and the color of the balloons revealed the gender!

 

mommy2014x2 IG young mom

 

IG user @mommy2014x2 says…

You could put the frosting color in the middle of the cake. That way when you cut the cake it reveals the gender.

 

ashbertone IG young mom

 

IG user @ashbertone says…

We did two separate boxes one decorated in girl and one boy. My boyfriend opened the girl and I did the boy…. Well, it was a GIRL! We had pink and blue candy everywhere, big pitchers filled with blue Gatorade and pink Gatorade, we had a girl and boy cake, and we told everyone to wear either pink or blue for voting! 🙂

 

vegaslove89 IG young mom

 

IG user @vegaslove89 says…

Do a balloon drop… that’s what I did for mine. It turned out really well! 🙂 Just another variation of the balloon box, I guess. The video is on my (IG) page.

We LOVED all of these ideas and hope that this helps out the Mom-To-Be with her gender reveal party!

What did YOU do for your gender reveal party? Didn’t have one? What ideas have you seen that you thought were adorable? Comment below and let us know!

…and don’t forget to submit YOUR Talk it out Tuesday questions so you can be featured next and get feedback and advice from young moms just like you!