overcome overwhelm

Feeling OVERWHELMED? Overcome overwhelm with these 3 Steps..

Last week I was having sushi with a girl friend and she was telling me that she has so much to do for her new business venture and she just doesn’t know what to start with.

overcome overwhelmShe just gets super overwhelmed and then she gets nothing done.

Honestly, this happens to me a lot, too.

I have tons of things going on, from Young Moms Club, to SocialLights Video, Cub Scouts, PTO, etc.. (I actually talk about how I get all of these things done in this video) but it’s very easy for me to get overwhelmed and then be like “OMG! I have so much to do! I don’t know where to start.. Screw it!” and then be unproductive.

So in today’s video, I’m going to share with you “The 3 S’s” that I use to overcome overwhelm and make sure that I stay on task.

 

After you’ve watched, let me know if you have any tips to share to help overcome overwhelm!

<3 Danielle

 

gratitude

Gratitude.. Use it to get more of the Good Stuff!

Get on the Gratitude band wagon!

I’ve just started to prepare for Thanksgiving next week. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I have to cook or host anyone at my house, thank God.. But I do make a mean green bean casserole and me and the kids enjoy making Thanksgiving themed projects to give as gifts to all the houses that we visit.

gratitudeYou never really know what’s gonna go down at my family’s house, though. after everyone’s in a food coma and a little tipsy drunk.

If it’s a good year, we all end up playing Cards Against Humanity and laughing until we’re crying. Have you played CAH? Seriously, so fun. There’s nothing better than watching the grown ups get super embarrassed when they pick up cards like “the clitoris” and “sharing needles”. The best is when they don’t know what a word means. I’ll never forget having to publicly explain to my mom, in detail, with drawings, what the word “taint” is. That’s just something no daughter should EVER have to do.

Thanksgiving definitely has the ability to turn real bad, real fast, though. For instance, if you bring home a boy that your mother doesn’t approve of. Just ask my sister, she’ll never get over that Thanksgiving.

But family drama aside, I just LOVE Thanksgiving because everybody and their brother jumps on the Gratitude band wagon. All of a sudden, in the same week, everyone is grateful and happy.

But it’s no coincidence that the happiness soon follows the gratitude, there’s a big reason for it and THAT is exactly what I’m talking about in today’s video.

So check it out and tell me what ya think!

 

Also, I want to know what YOUR family does for Thanksgiving.. Are they as crazy as mine? Have you ever played Cards Against Humanity? If not, you NEED it!

Let me know in the comments below 🙂

 

With gratitude, <3 Danielle

Think you’re Not Good Enough to go after Your Dreams? Think again!

We’ve covered a lot of topics about how to go after your dreams in these Figure it out Friday videos.

not good enoughWe’ve talked about things like goal setting, visualizing, getting over your fear, etc..

But sometimes what stops people from going after their big dreams is the feeling that they’re just not good enough.

Do you ever feel like that? Do you ever feel like you’re too dumb? Or too scared? You’re not a leader? You don’t have very much experience?

Do you ever feel like you’re just not good enough to go after your dreams?

To tell you the truth, I’ve felt like that many times.

In today’s video, I’m spilling the things that I absolutely SUCK at. (Brace yourself, there are a lot of them) And I’m going to tell you why I don’t let that stop me… and neither should you!

“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole live believing it is stupid.” -Click to Tweet!

albert einstein genius quote

Now I wanna know about you! What’s your big dream? When did you feel not good enough in the past? What are you gonna do now? Let’s chat about it in the comments. <3 Danielle

dealing with emotions

Dealing with Negative Emotions: Proof that Anger, Sadness, Jealousy & Fear aren’t Bad..

Do you have a hard time dealing with negative emotions?

Do people ever tell you that you’re too emotional?

Do you feel like you need to hide your anger, sadness, jealousy, fear, etc?

dealing with negaive emotionsWell, today’s video explains why those emotions are actually GOOD and why you should not be ashamed of them.

 

Side note: I am a pretty emotional person. I feel things really strongly and when I was younger, before I got good at dealing with negative emotions, there would always be chaos.

Thankfully, I grew up a little and realized that my negative emotions, weren’t “Bad”.  They weren’t something to hide, having them didn’t mean that something was wrong with me. They were basically just sensors in my brain, telling me when something was wrong, much like when your car makes a funny noise.

 

I’ll explain the whole “car analogy” in the video…

 

 

Now before you go, let me know if this helped…

Are you dealing with negative emotions right now?? What do you think they mean?

Let’s chat about it in the comments.  <3 Danielle

You’re Magical (just like Harry Potter!)

Here’s a not-so-secret secret… I am a huge Harry Potter nerd.

magical harry potter pic(People make fun of me all the time.. whatever. I don’t care.)

That’s why I got super excited when I realized that Halloween fell on a Friday and I was able to relate a topic to it that allowed me to wear my Harry Potter costume.

Score!

So in today’s video, I’m going to tell you something that me, you and everyone else in the world has in common with Harry Potter.

(as silly as it sounds, this is one of the most important topics we’ve ever covered so make sure to watch)

 

So to recap: Your magic power is: Intuition.

..Those times when you just know that something is right or wrong..

..When you can tell someone is either lying or telling the truth..

..When you instantly jump when you see a spider..

That’s your intuition, love.

There are many times when I didn’t follow my intuition and I lived to regret it. Don’t let the same happen to you.

 

Have an amazing Friday and a Happy Halloween with your family!  <3 Danielle

P.S. If you’re as interested in intuition as I am, you’ll want to check out the book “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell. It dives way deeper into exactly how the brain works and has lots of fascinating case studies. Here’s the book–> Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

 

worst reasons to stay in relationship

Top 5 Worst Reasons to stay in a Relationship

Many times when I talk to a young mom about her relationship, she’s very unhappy.

When I ask her why she is staying in the relationship, I get an array of excuses. I’ve seriously heard them all.

worst reasons to staySo in today’s video, I’m going to tell you what I think are the top 5 Worst Reasons to stay in a Relationship.

(some of these might surprise you..)


So now I want to know.. Have you ever stayed in an unhealthy relationship because of any of these reasons?

Do you have any other worst reasons to stay in a relationship to add to the list?

Let me know in the comments..

To recap, here are my top 5 worst reasons to stay in a relationship:

  1.  Time- Whether you’ve been together 7 days, 7 months or 7 years, the amount of time served is never a good enough reason to stay.
  2. Guilt- You might feel bad about ending a relationship either because you think the other person “needs you” or you “owe them” but these are not good enough reasons. The only person you owe anything to is yourself and you deserve happiness. I talk more about putting yourself first in this video.
  3. Loneliness- It can be scary to think about being alone, especially if you’ve been in a relationship a long time, but it’s actually really empowering to be single and spend time alone. You get to really know yourself and see how strong you actually are.
  4. Stuff- Thinking about having to figure out and fight over everything you own can seem overwhelming and seem like more trouble than to just stay together, but really, it’s just stuff. Staying because of material possessions is just dumb.
  5. The Kids- This is definitely the #1 reason I hear. Sooo many people stay in unhappy relationships “for the kids”, but trust me, you’re not doing them any favors by staying together. It’s way better for kids to grow up seeing a happy mom and a happy dad, living separately, than to grow up only having an unhealthy relationship as their only example.

So that’s it for today! If you liked this post be sure to share it 🙂 and let’s continue this conversation in the comments…

<3 Danielle

 

make people like you

Make People like You with 1 Simple Trick!

Wanna know the 1 thing you can do to make people like you instantly??

danielle ford malchi dog It has nothing to do with what you look like, what you wear, who people think you are.. or any of that nonsense.

It’s actually really super easy and it’s just that not a lot of people do it.

You know when you meet a person and you just know right away whether you like them or not? You probably don’t actually realize what it is they’re doing that makes you want to get to know them better and be their friend.

In today’s video, I’ll tell you the one simple trick you can do to be that person that people instantly like.

After you watch be sure to participate in the challenge I give you at the end and report back!

 


Ready.. set… Make people like you! 🙂

<3 Danielle

getting things done

Getting Things Done (How to do it ALL!)

Do you ever wonder how other moms seem to always be getting things done?

People ask me all the time “How do you do it all?” or “Do you ever sleep?

danielle ford getting things doneBesides having Young Moms Club and SocialLights Video, I also am a Cub Scout Leader, I’m on the school PTO, I have a long distance boyfriend, I’m starting a charity with 7 other moms called TMIVegas, I have a weekly mastermind group, my kids have soccer and gymnastics, my dog has obedience school. And on top of all that, there’s no dad around to help. I’m the only person who takes the kids to and from school and all their activities.

OK after typing it all out, it does seem like a lot.

But when I really think about it, I do have time for it all. Besides a few scheduling conflicts here and there, I make it all work. And I do sleep. I sleep like a baby at night and take naps when I feel like it.

So what’s my secret to getting things done? I’ll tell you all about it in today’s video.

After watching be sure to let me know what you can change to start getting things done 🙂

<3 Danielle

fathers last name

Should you always use the Father’s Last Name?

In today’s Figure it Out Friday video, I’m answering a question that a viewer named Sarah asked.

She asked if I thought she should give her son the father’s last name or hers?

danielle ford video picShe was married but she’s divorcing and she didn’t want to have to deal with her ex the rest of her life.

So in the video I tell my own thoughts on the matter. I give my personal opinion, as well as some definite rules to follow regardless of personal opinion.

I also talk about what it was like growing up with 2 different last names. (My mom and my dad BOTH insisted on me having their last name and I didn’t have a very strong identity because of it).

You can imagine how easy it was for me to drop both of them when I got married and take his last name, FORD. Only 4 letters. Perfect.

Watch the video and then let me know what you think.. should it always be the father’s last name? What are the exceptions?

<3 Danielle

 

 

public speaking tips get respect

6 Public Speaking Tips- Use these everyday to get Instant Respect!

A few months ago, I teamed up with 7 other moms here in Vegas to start a charity. We call ourselves TMIVegas aka “True Moms in Vegas.” (I will spill all the details about that soon!)

While we’re working on the business side of things and planning the future of our organization, we are spending some time helping out other organizations.

So last weekend, we all volunteered at a good friend of mine, Regina Bailey’s, event “The Someone Cares Self Esteem event and Photo Shoot”. My role was to be a “happiness coordinator” and make sure all the girls were chatting and comfortable. I also volunteered to do hair for the photo shoot.. I love doing hair.

Anyway.. there were 3 speakers lined up and a couple minutes before one speaker was set to go on, she texted Regina that she couldn’t make it. I asked Regina what she was supposed to talk about and she said “Communication”.

I’ve never spoken publicly about communication but I did give a TEDxWomen talk and had been featured in a documentary about public speaking, so I felt confident enough to share what I knew.

I told Regina that I would speak, if she liked, and about 2 minutes later, I was up at the podium, with 20 adolescent girls staring at me, waiting to see if I earned their approval or not.

I even started my 30 minute speech with, “I have no idea what I’m going to say to you right now.” ..Luckily it got better from there..

public speaking

I just went with my gut and started telling them the importance of public speaking, even if they felt like they would never have to speak on a stage in their life.

I told them that knowing these public speaking tips was the difference between getting a job or not, getting a loan, landing their dream guy, and ultimately.. earning respect.

After I talked, I had the girls come up to the front, one by one, and we worked on their public speaking.

public speaking tips

I would ask them a few questions and have them answer them normally and then we would talk about what they could change to appear more confident and earn instant respect.

All of the other girls were giving advice to the girl up front.. they started giving each other public speaking tips!

Then after getting feed back, I would ask them to answer the questions again and every single girl progressed by like 5000%. I’m not exaggerating. Ok, maybe a little.

public speaking advice

It was really just incredible to watch these girls blossom and gain more confidence in their speaking abilities, just by learning a few new things.

So in today’s video, I’m sharing with you the same exact 6 Public Speaking tips that I shared with these girls.

They’re super simple, it’s just sometimes we don’t notice that we’re doing- or not doing- certain things.

So what did you think of these tips? I want you to now go and try them out and then report back to me with what kind of a difference it made.

<3 Danielle