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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls

We all have those days when sh*t hits the fan and we don’t feel like getting out of bed and instead we decide to throw ourselves a pity party.

Here is a list of 16 Don’t Forgets to review on the bad days.. and the good days, too.

1. Someone always has it worse than you.
Always.

2. Right now is the youngest you’re ever going to be.
Take advantage of it. Don’t get caught up in the small things. Stop to take comfort in the littlest details.

3. When you get angry at someone, you give them your power.
The more you practice letting things go, the more control you gain over yourself and your life.

4. You can’t rationalize with an irrational person.
Doing so only turns you psycho and puts you on their level.

5. Do the things that frighten you.
This is the only way to force yourself out of your comfort zone and into a space where big things can come to you.

6. The sexiest thing you can wear is your expression.
Nothing is more unattractive than a girl all dressed up- with a sour face. Showing happiness unconsciously makes others around you happy and makes people like you more.

7. The most valuable thing you can give your child is your time and attention.
It’s the only thing that can’t be bought at a store and it’s what they will remember and love you for the most.

8. Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t think you’re awesome.
You are awesome- imperfections and all.

9. Every sh*tty thing that happens to you will either make you weaker or stronger.dont forgets
You decide which by how you react to it.

10. You don’t have to keep everyone as your friend.
Don’t give up attention to your good friends for ones that aren’t so good.

11. Optimistic people go way farther in life than pessimists.
Pessimism is contagious. Avoid negative people like they have chicken pox.

12. You don’t have to know exactly how everything will turn out.
As long as you’re taking steps- even small ones- in the right direction, you’ll get there.

13. Take lots of pictures.
Even if you think an event isn’t that important, you’ll realize later that it was.

14. Always have a plan written down.
A goal that isn’t written down is just a wish. Remember: it’s OK to change plans, you just always have to have one.

15. Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins create happiness.
Even a walk around the block can make a big difference.

16. Spend more time looking to the future than the past.
You don’t own your past, you have every right to release it as history. The future is the only thing you can control.

Write these Don’t Forgets down, print them out.. whatever you have to do to remind yourself.

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Don’t Forgets – 16 Things to Remember when Life Sucks Balls

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4 Ways to Explain to Friends without Kids that you can’t go out Every Night

Having a baby doesn’t have to mean that “The Party is Over”..

But a lot of the time friends without kids don’t understand that you can’t just drop everything and go out whenever you feel like it.

Here’s how Brenda, Stevie, Jessica and Amanda handle peer pressure to go party from other friends without kids.

 

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Brenda Todd

Being a young mom means more than likely you are the only person in your circle of friends with a child or children. It’s hard for friends without kids to understand that you just can’t drop everything you are doing to put on your dance shoes at 10 pm and stagger through the door at 7 am.

The easiest way I found to explain this to my single friends was just straight forward, “Look I really want to hang-out and have fun just like anyone else but I need advance notice so I can make arrangements for somebody to care for my child.”

Maybe you can set the same day of every month to go out, for example the first Saturday of each month. If they are a true friend they will understand. -Brenda Todd

 

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Stevie Degenero

 

My problem was friends doing things spur of the moment and expecting me to get a babysitter at the drop of a dime. So I just told them, “Hey, I won’t be coming to anything ever, if u don’t give me notice.” -Stevie Degenero

 

 

 

 

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Jessica Hetzel

It is very hard to explain to friends without kids that we cannot go out all the time. My response is, “I can either be a good mom or a good friend and my first choice is being a good mom”.
Also if they were your true friends they would understand that being a mom always comes first. Maybe invite them to hang out with you and the kids so they can get a taste of what your life is like, then maybe they would stop asking so much. -Jessica Hetzel

 

 

 

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Amanda Ferrell

 

Most of my friends all have children but for they few that don’t, I just explain that “Being a mommy comes first and that as much as I would like to go out my son needs me more at home.” -Amanda Ferrell

 

 

 

What about you? Have you felt awkward or guilty when your friends without kids are giving you crap for not being able to hang out with them?

Leave a comment sharing how you handle this situation..

4 Ways to Explain to Friends without Kids that you can’t go out Every Night

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5 Steps to Get Your Mom to Stop making Decisions for your Child

A few weeks ago, my mother had the kids at her house while I had a “Staycation” in Las Vegas with my boyfriend. We spent the weekend hanging by the pool, going to great dinners, playing poker.. (I fricken love those weekends!) By Sunday night, I was in total relaxation mode.. but then I got the call.

“Hi Mommy! Guess what? Grandma put purple streaks in my hair!” -Angelina Ford, age 8.

My mood went from “totally chilled” to “positively pissed” in about 0.5 seconds. get your mom to stop making decisions for your child

“Why the f*ck would my mom do that?” “Who the hell does she think she is?” “I don’t care if she’s her grandmother, she has no right to dye my kid’s hair!” “That’s it, I’m gonna cuss her out…” -These are a few of the thoughts that jumped right in my head.

Luckily, because of years of practicing how to react when I get angry (It’s been a long road), I was able to refrain from calling her back immediately and giving her a piece of my mind. Instead, I decided to think about it for a little while and think through what I would say to express my feelings about the incident and also make it clear that I didn’t want another similar situation coming up again.

I had the conversation, my mom understood and luckily purple is a color that fades out pretty quickly, so it’s all good now.

I shared this story because a lot of girls have written to me that a big issue for them is their mom trying to raise their kid. It’s even worse when you live at your mom’s house and she’s helping you out financially.

How are you supposed to tell your mom that you don’t approve of something when she’s helping to support you and you’d be lost without her?

Here are 5 things to remember when you want to tell your mom off:

1) JUST ZIP IT!

I know how hard this one is. When you’re so pissed about something that you can literally feel yourself getting hot and start to shake, there is no way that anything helpful is going to come out of your mouth.. so just shut it. Put your hands over it, walk out of the room; whatever you have to do to NOT say exactly what’s on your mind in that moment.

Even if you know you’re right about the issue and you want them to know that you’re pissed, sometimes not saying anything gets the point across better than yelling. When you yell at somebody, you give away your power. You especially don’t want to do that in this situation where your argument is about power to begin with. Criminals have said that they love getting cops to yell at them because then they know that they have the power.. it’s weird, but it’s true. So just zip those lips and throw away the key.. for at least a few minutes.

2) WEAR YOUR MOM’S SHOES

Not literally of course, unless you happen to wear the same size and she has a decent fashion sense.. but stop to think about her side of things for a minute and ask yourself a few questions..

Does she know that what she’s doing bothers you? Have you actually talked to her about it? You can’t just assume she knows what’s in your head. What a great world we would live in if everyone just knew what our expectations were and then followed through.

Are her intentions good or bad? Is she deliberately trying to piss you off or show you who’s in charge? Or is she maybe just not putting herself in your shoes and hasn’t thought about how you would feel about it? More often than not, she just hasn’t these steps to see your view point.

3) DECIDE IF SHE’S HARMING YOUR CHILD OR YOUR EGO

Is she making bad decisions for your kid that are definitely wrong like driving without a car seat (or dying her hair)? Or is she making decisions that are just not her place to make like deciding on a theme for a nursery or birthday party?

It’s OK to be mad at your mom for either, you just first need to be clear on if this is a genuine safety or health issue or if your mom is just crossing her boundaries.

4) CREATE A SCRIPT

When it comes to explaining your frustrations with someone, less is more. People have short attention spans (even your mom) so giving a 15 minutes speech or writing a novel telling her all of the issues you have will actually be a lot less effective than a short paragraph that is concise and well written.

Here is a sample speech to use:

“Mom, I want you to know I’m trying to be the best mom that I can right now. But it’s very hard for me to do that when I feel like I’m not in control of (insert child’s name). I know you have the best interest at heart but when you take it upon yourself to make a decision like (insert decision here) then that’s 1 less decision I get to make and those kind of decisions are part of being a mom. I understand you’re trying to help and I totally appreciate all that you do for me but can you please, from now on, run things like that by me first?”

5) HUG IT OUT

You’d be nowhere without your mom and even though she’s a pain in the ass sometimes, you gotta make sure she knows how much you appreciate her.

Now you tell me! What kinds of things does your mom decide to take it upon herself to do? How do you usually handle these kind of situations?

Leave your story in the comments below…

5 Steps to Get Your Mom to Stop making Decisions for your Child

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The Spotlight is on: Brittany Layman

Meet Young Moms Club’s Spotlighted Member: Brittany Layman!!!

Tell us about yourself and your family:

My name is Brittany Layman. I am 19 years old. I am married with two children. I have an almost two year old little boy named Blaine and a 6 month old little girl named Brooklynn. happy young family

My husband, Taylor, is an amazing guy. I got pregnant with my son at 17 and Taylor was 16. He was more optimistic than I was. Not a lot of teen boys stick around. I had my son when I was 18 years old. At first, I was so scared of having a little baby to take care of and now I would not have it any other way. I did have some post partum after I had him.

Then when my son was 6 or 7 months old I got pregnant with my little girl. I was 18 years old and Taylor was 17. I had her when I was 19. I was so over whelmed by having two children. Before Brooklynn was born, me and Taylor got married.

I love my life. I would not change it for anything in the world.

What were your biggest concerns when you first found out you were pregnant? How did you handle it?

My biggest concerns when I found out I was pregnant with my son was; How am I going to give my child a life? How am I going to afford having a baby? I am still a child myself.

With my daughter my concerns where; Am I going to be able to handle two kids? A toddler and a newborn? Is it possible?

The way I handled it was I talked about things with my mom and I went to this place called The Pregnancy Center. They helped a lot. They had me watch video’s about raising kids and taking care of yourself and your newborn. Taylor helped me a lot too. 🙂

What kinds of things do you do to treat yourself, for fun and to stay relaxed?

teen mom with familyWhen I feel like I need to relax, I go on a walk or drive. I usually call my best friend, Niki, and talk to her about how I am feeling. For fun, I don’t really do too much. My parents help me out on the weekends sometimes by getting the kids for a few hours or to spend the night. When they do, I just spend time with my husband and we have a date night sometimes. When I treat myself I usually go get my eyebrows done or I try to go hangout with a friend for a few hours. 🙂

People say that when you have kids young that your life is over, well I will be the first one to tell you that it is NOT true. I am currently in school to be a teacher and my husband is working full time about to go get his GED.

What are your favorite things about being a mom?

I wold have to say that my favorite thing about being a mom is when my child looks up at me and has the BIGGEST smile on their face.
With Blaine, I love it when he just grabs my cheeks and is like, “I love you mommy. Love you bunches.”

With Brooklynn, I love waking up to that smiling pretty face of hers. It is just beautiful! 🙂
My children are my life. I don’t know where I would be without them.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? If you didn’t have any obstacles, what dream would you pursue?

In five years, I see myself and my family owning a home. I see me having a full-time job and Taylor as well. I see us being happy as ever:)

What advice would you give to other young girls who just found out they’re pregnant or recently became a mom?

I would have to say, keep your head up and stay strong. Your life is not over just because are pregnant. Your life is just beginning.

Yes, it can be stressful and hard sometimes but the reward is so worth it. You have someone so small looking up to you. Right now, You are in charge of someone’s life. You can do it! Yes, you do have to grow up quicker and you might lose some friends but those kids are worth it.

Also, If you feel like you are not ready to grow up and be a parent, you have the option of adoption. There is someone out there ready to be a parent to that child. Someone that can not have kids who would love to help you.

Also, when you need help or you feel you need a break, ASK FOR HELP!!! Do NOT be afraid to do so. I mean do not take advantage of that but when you feel like you can’t take it, or you might harm yourself or child, ASK FOR HELP! If you don’t know what to do, ASK FOR HELP!!!

Good Luck!

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How to Work out your Ass from Home- 4 Exercises to get it High and Tight like the Models

Do you want to learn how to work out your Ass and get a High and Tight Rear End like a Super Model?

Yeah, well so do I!

Being a young, single mommy of two, I know the struggle to find time each day to exercise. Let me just say that I have tried every possible DVD exercise program, cream, wrap, anything under the sun – I have done it. So I can honestly give you my unbiased opinion about what has really worked for me.

Every mom needs a realistic goal and quick exercise plan. And also, I know you don’t want to hear it, but you do need to eat healthy.

I’m not talking twigs and berries, but everyone can always improve their diet. Your saggy ass will not rise if all you are eating is sugar and fried foods. Trust me. I’ve tried.

So for this “How to Work out your Ass & Shape up that Butt” gig we have, lets start out with the preparation:

First, lets measure each thigh and around the widest part of your butt. This way we will know of you are making any progress or not. Write them down and put them away.

Next, lets just say 14 days we change our diet. Just something simple like:

Breakfast: 5 egg whites and wheat toast.
Snack: Sliced apple’s and cottage cheese.
Lunch: Grilled chicken with a veggie
Snack: Almonds or any nut with a fruit
Dinner: Fish or white meat and a veggie
Snack: Protein shake mixed with water, try blending it with ice so it feels like a treat.

This might seem like a lot when you have kids running around and feel like you can’t get anything done. So the key is preparation.

If you know you wont have enough time in the morning to get up and cook eggs, boil them the night before and eat them for a meal. And I know everyone would love to have grilled chicken for lunch, but realisticly, no mom on the planet has time to sit around and grill chicken everyday!

So again, prep. At the grocery store there are frozen chicken breast’s ready to cook. Pop those suckers in the oven for a few minuets seasoned lightly, and you have lunch and dinner all week. There are even some good frozen fish that take only minuets to cook. It’s all about what works for you.

Boiling your veggies is also a quick easy way to get them ready in a hurry.

Now the fun part! The exercises!

These are the absolute best exercise’s that have helped tone and shape my butt. I am still a work in progress so I want you to know exactly what helped shrink and round out my booty.

First exercise is: Cardio!

Cardio is important because it is so healthy for your heart. Your heart does all this work for your body and it wouldn’t kill you, haha, to give your body a little love back. Jump rope, jog in place, jumping jacks, run, jog, skip! Anything that will get your heart pumping and your lungs working hard. I promise your body will thank you for it.

Even a few minutes a day of cardio makes a huge difference.

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Walking Lunges

Second: Walking Lunges!

These babies burn and you will feel it! They target those saddle bags and shape your thighs.
I want you to start out by doing 100. I can already hear your complaining and excuse’s from here! I know it sounds like a lot but it really isn’t. And they are fairly quick to do. It will only take minutes if you do them properly. Do them in reps of 10 at a time, then slowly work up to 20 at a time.

If I can find time to do these with my one year old chasing me around, so can YOU!

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Squat Kicks

 

 

 

Third: Squats!
The first kind of squat I want you to do is a squat/kick.
Do 5 sets of 20 reps. Yes, that is 100! Just stay focused on your goal.

The second squat is a sumo squat. 5 sets of 20.
If you happen to have a weight/kettle bell/laundry detergent, hold it in your hands in front of you to add some weight and squat regular.

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Step Ups

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fourth: Step ups!
If you have a chair or toy box about twenty inches or higher from the ground use it, if it will support your weight.

Do 4 sets of 20 reps. If you’re moaning that there is no absolute way you can do this exercise, then try some of these: If there are stairs at a park, climb em! Make it a fun game with your kids, whoever makes it to the top 5 times can be Rocky Balboa, talk with a slur and wear a sweat band. Jog around a track at a local high school. Run up and down grass hills with your kids. Anything with an incline that will push you to try harder.

 

 

 

 

Do all these exercise’s as follows:
Cardio: 5 or 10 min- Jump rope/jumping jacks

20 walking lunges (5x)
20 Squat/lunges (5x)
20 Sumo Squats (5x)
20 Step Ups

Try doing 20 of each exercise at a time. So you are not doing all 100 of the walking lunges at once. If doing these many reps is too much for you, do what you can.

But remember, you have to push yourself. Challenge yourself.

Try doing these for 14 days and then remeasure your thighs and butt, grab the paper you wrote on the first day and then compare results. I think you’ll be very pleased.

Lord knows I’d love to wake up with a rock hard ass, but that’s not going to happen without any effort.

If there is anything that I want you to take away from this article, I want you to have a new perspective on your body. Truly love and respect your body. For what it is and what it will be. The body you are in is only temporary and can easliy change at any moment.

Even if you think these exercises are complete bullshit, the most important thing you can do for yourself and your kids is to be healthy.

As women who have had children, we have seen what miracle’s our bodies are capable of. Our bodies are truly our temples and they deserve a little love and kindness too.

You are worth it. Every BODY, is worth it.

I believe in you.

 

michelle king young mommy“Mommy-dreamer-believer-writer”

Michelle King is a single mommy of two living in Las Vegas. She works from home freelance writing and sharpening her day trading skills. She’s committed to fitness and devoted to her children. Life is big to her and she lives life to the fullest.

“I want people to love and cherish their bodies. The greatest strength comes from within. When we feel good inside, we love ourselves outside.”

 

Website: LOLatMichelle.com
Follow Michelle on Twitter at @MichelleMSK
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Email any business or writing opportunities to Michelleatlolatmichelle @ ymail.com

 

How to Work out your Ass from Home- 4 Steps to get it High and Tight like the Models

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How do you manage to get Enough Sleep? 2 Young Moms Share their Insider Secrets

I asked 2 Young Moms Club Mommies “How in the world do you get enough sleep?”

When my kids were young I was constantly tired. Their responses were very informative and made me laugh. If I could go back in time, I would definitely try some of these things. Read more

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How to Get What You Want -3 Things you probably Don’t Know that you NEED to!

Whether your goal is to make more money, lose weight, have a great relationship..

If you can shift the way you think about your desires and goals, I can show you how to get what you want.

Here’s what I mean…

Before I started Young Moms Club, I knew that I wanted to have an online business that would allow me to make a living by working at home. I wanted flexibility in my schedule, the ability to pick up my computer and travel and work from anywhere. And I knew I wanted to make a difference in the world. But I didn’t know how.

I spent a lot of time jumping from project to project, trying and learning new things and working my ass off. Everything I did was done to the fullest extent but it just wasn’t coming together and honestly, I was starting to get pissed.

I realize now that it was because I didn’t have an exact clear vision of what I wanted. “I want an online business.” “I want to travel.” “I want to stay home with my kids.” -These are not clear pictures of success. Without a clear plan, all of the “I Want’s” are just Fairy Tales.

The second I got clear on exactly what my plan was, the pieces starting falling into place. People I needed started appearing in my life, Resources I didn’t have before all of a sudden became available. As I kept progressing forward on this plan, I started seeing signs from the Universe that confirmed my intuition that I was going in the right direction.

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Working at my Starbucks office as I write This

“Having a CRYSTAL CLEAR picture of what you want and then working your ass off at it every day is the secret to success.”

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Challenge!!!

In the comments below, tell me 3 SPECIFIC things you want to see happen within the next year. Be direct. Don’t say “I want to make more money.” Instead say, “I want a promotion at work to ______ job.”

Don’t say “I want to lose weight.” Say “I want to lose “X” amount of lbs in “X” amount of months.

“Only with clear intentions will you ever meet your goals and start getting all of the things that you want.” <—Click to tweet

Do this now while it’s still fresh in your head because I have another post coming with action steps to take but you need to know your 3 things first…

How to Get What You Want -3 Things you probably don’t know that you NEED to!

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The Main Reason I Created Young Moms Club that Most People Don’t Know About

I’ve always known, since I was a little girl, that I was meant to do big things in the world. Even through the lowest points in my life, that feeling never went away.big dreams danielle ford young moms

I’ve finally found that big thing: Young Moms Club.

I remember laying on the floor in my new apartment right after I left my husband (I was too broke to buy a bed) and thinking “Hmmm.. Well I’m 21, am raising 2 kids alone, don’t know how I’ll pay rent next month, I’m sleeping on the floor every night.. How is it possible that I could be meant for things much bigger than this?” It didn’t make sense at the time and I didn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel but there was still that whisper coming from inside me saying “Keep going. You’ll figure it out.”

I’d start to lose hope, want to just stay in bed, get angry when I saw people having it easier than me.. and then I would think to myself “I can’t wait till the day when I can look back and say ‘Wow, that sucked! I’m so glad to be out of that!”

Fast forward a few years: I can proudly say now, “Wow, that sucked! I’m so glad to finally be out of that!”

And then the realization hit. Yeah, I did get out of that. But there are now other girls out there that are in it. There are girls who are going to be in it. They just don’t know it yet.

So I started thinking, “What would’ve helped me IMMENSELY when I was going through that shit storm? Instead of taking years to get out of, could it have taken less time, maybe 1 year? It might’ve if I’d had the right kind of support and encouragement. What if instead of feeling bad about myself and the mistakes I’d made, I had connected with a group of girls going through the exact same thing who I could go to with any problem and not feel alone or ashamed.”

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Me and my Baby Girl <3

Then my Entrepreneur Spirit surfaced and I started thinking, “What if there was a website specifically for Young Moms that taught all the Life and Business skills that older moms usually figure out before they have kids? Belonging to a website like that would’ve been a life saver for me.”

So I decided to create it.

Now a year after the vision was born, I’m thrilled to announce that Young Moms Club is ready to Rock!

I have overwhelming gratitude for all the girls who joined the club early and have sent me messages sharing their life with me. I know it takes a lot of guts to open up and share your story and I have HUGE respect for each of you. Thank you 🙂

I am so excited to connect with all of you mommas. I have blog posts, videos, group chats, contests and lots of other cool things planned for the club. Your opinions and ideas are always encouraged so if you have any, post in a comment below or send me an email!

If you haven’t yet, download the “7 Steps to Being a Kick Ass Young Mom”.. its a quick read and it’s Free. Talk to you on the inside!


The Main Reason I Created Young Moms Club that Most People Don’t Know About